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SUNDAY AFFIRMATIONS OVERLOAD

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Hey Beautiful,

I was brainstorming and praying for guidance for this Sunday’s topic and was curious of when and how I started posting the Sunday Affirmations.  I looked back over the history of blog posts and found that I started them last June.  There are several new blog subscribers so I thought I would explain what it’s all about and why I chose Sunday to post affirmations. 

Last year, I started noticing a few of my girlfriends– who have small children– venting every Sunday night at how exhausted they were and they hated to start the week totally frazzled and depleted.  We should be refueled and raring to go on Monday morning, right?!  With a few small adjustments, I think we can all feel energized and at peace as we approach the end of the weekend and get prepared for the week.  By setting boundaries, taking “me time”, declining social invitations (and not feeling guilty about it), make a ‘must do’ list and saying positive affirmations– we set our mind and attitude toward having a successful week instead of dreading Monday.  I had fun reading through some of the old affirmations and decided to create a long inspiring list of ones that I need to REAFFIRM and thought you might as well!

THIS WEEK I WILL……

  • Follow my bliss.
  • Smile more.
  • Love + Laugh harder.
  • Embrace my own unique beauty + style.
  • Celebrate my life instead of complain about it.
  • Read a spiritually rich book.
  • Count my blessings every single day.
  • Put my shoulders back, walk tall + shine my light!
  • Drink plenty of water.
  • Pamper myself.
  • Walk in Grace + Peace, no matter what grouch crosses my path.
  • Love my body by getting enough exercise.
  • Shut up my Negative Nellie.
  • Wear my invisible crown because I am a Queen!
  • Try something new…new food, new route to work, new bold accessory.
  • Honor the healthy boundaries I’ve set.
  • Not leave the house w/o my best accessory….my beautiful smile.
  • Be courageous no matter how “wimpy” I may feel.
  • Eat foods rich in antioxidants because my body is a temple.
  • Practice more patience.
  • Help others without expecting anything in return.
  • See myself as healthy, whole, happy and HOT.
  • Send a “just because” hand written note to a dear friend.
  • Take time to decompress.
  • Compliment myself once a day.
  • Embrace that quirk about myself that I’ve always hated.
  • Remove “I’m worried that_” from my vocab.
  • Make more time for girltime.
  • Ignore catty women.  They’re just insecure…poor things.
  • Snack on blueberries + almonds instead of cheese nips + skittles.
  • CELEBRATE ME!
  • Turn my back on mediocrity.
  • Be fabulous not frazzled.
  • Not base my identity on how I look, what I wear or own. I am a Child of God!
  • Book a spa day + massage because I deserve it.
  • Check something fun off my bucketlist.
  • Focus on being healthy instead of the number on the scale.
  • Surround myself with other women of excellence.
  • Listen to a friend in need w/o having to “one up” her story.
  • Be integrity driven, not emotionally driven.
  • Believe in myself more than ever.
  • Choose the side salad instead of the fries.
  • Listen to my gut + stop ignoring it.
  • Start + end each day with a prayer of gratitude.
  • Have more fun w/ fashion + wear a flirty dress.
  • Walk in L-O-V-E not fear.
  • Surrender, take a deep breath and then exhale.
  • NEVER GIVE UP!
  • Step into my greatness…even if it’s one baby step in that direction.
  • Give myself a pat on the back instead of beating myself up.
  • Attend a movie, concert or seminar that inspires me.
  • Lift light weights regularly. It helps my bone density!
  • Go big + stop playing rinky-dink.
  • RADIATE!

I don’t know about you, but I’m totally amped up for the week ahead after reading that list! WooHoo!

Please tweet, pin, like + share this post with your peeps if you found it inspiring.  I appreciate it!

Go kick some serious bootie this week my sistas!

Love, Tiff

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P.S.  Several SOS Sistas + new YouTube subbies were asking me to get back on Instagram for my style pics + inspirational quotes.  I’m a wanna-be-photographer so I’m officially back on and loving it. 

Follow me @tiffanyhendra.

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{Heidi in Santa Monica}

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{Faux leather leggings + top from H&M, bracelet by Steele Jewel, vintage belt, earrings from Forever 21}

LOVE YA LIKE A SIS: Women Need Women

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Hey Sisters,

As women, we thrive and function at our best when we have a supportive sisterhood of like-minded friends.  This all began for me when I was very little.  Whether it was playing with my cousins (who were all girls except for one) or my sports teams or cheerleading squads, I was always blessed to have a great group of girlfriends.  Back then, we loved throwing slumber parties and giggling about boys and dancing around my parents living room.  Not much has really changed.  If you catch a group of my girlfriends at my BFF’s house in Dallas….before the end of the night– the furniture is moved and the living room is turned into a dance floor!   When women connect, it does something differently to our spirit than connecting with our boyfriends/husbands or children does for us.  If we go too long without “girltime” or hashing out life over a cup of coffee with a dear friend, our spirit suffers a bit.  Don’t you notice how your spirit is lifted after a good dose of fun with a great group of girlfriends?  You have a pep in your step and that warm & fuzzy feeling resonates with your for a few days after.   Encouraging and supportive female energy is a mighty force that we all need in our lives. 

When I began healing and growing in my late 20′s, I went through a dark and lonely time.  I began to “outgrow” friends and was too emotionally raw to get out there and make new ones.  Of course, I am so grateful for this period in my life because that’s when I got to know God.  He truly is the greatest Positive Force, Friend and Father.  I also starting watching “The Oprah Winfrey Show” much more and noticed it gave me that “lift” I was missing.  I felt connected and that hour episode on TV had become my “girltime”.   I kept this in mind as I began to create my talk show ideas and figuring out how I could use the power of video to help women.  I knew if I felt lonely then there had to be so many women around the world who felt disconnected like I did.  One of the best comments I receive about my webseries, this blog, and the Facebook community is how it gives you Mom’s a sense of girltime once the kids are in bed and you have some time alone on the computer.  MISSION ACCOMPLISHED!

Over time, I was blessed to connect with new, like-minded, spiritually conscious girlfriends and have created deeper friendships than I’ve ever had before. Whether it is online with social media or offline in real life, I encourage you to connect and reach out if you are in that lonely space.  Ask about groups in your community or church.  If you can’t find one, start one of your own.  My girlfriends and I here in LA did just that and it has made a huge difference in all of our lives.  LA can be a very disconnected place because there is not the same sense of community as in more family-friendly cities.  We have done a great job of creating our own surrogate LA family/sisterhood.  We can get a brief shot of connection and friendship on Facebook, but nothing can take the place of feeling a friends hug, sharing a laugh (or cry) and making eye contact.  A sisterhood gives you a sense of belonging and a knowing in your spirit that “I am not alone”.  I swear, it has to help with your immune system and overall health & wellness too!

  • CONNECT
  • REACH OUT
  • MAKE THAT CALL
  • JOIN A GROUP
  • START A GROUP
  • SCHEDULE WEEKLY COFFEE/LUNCH DATES

I’m filled with gratitude today for all the amazing women in my life including this SOS Sisterhood.

Love Ya Like A Sis,

Tiff

YOU ARE A WORK OF ART…. so stop the comparison!

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Hi Lovelies,

I just have a quick love note today reminding you how special, unique, blessed and marvelous you are.  If we all truly owned that fact, we would STOP the madness of comparing ourselves to others.  Do you compare yourself to your friends or models or celebrities?  Comparison will suck the joy right out of you and leave you with a constant feeling of being “less than”.  If you are always looking at how everyone else looks, what they are achieving or what car they are driving– you will stay distracted and stuck.  STOP THE MADNESS NOW!  You are a Child of God.  Yes, YOU!  You were designed– from the way your lip turns up when you smile, the way your hugs make people feel loved, the way your laugh is a tad too loud, the way you have the ability to balance a budget with your eyes closed, the way your broad shoulders make you look strong– and on and on!  Everything about you makes up one pretty amazing work of art.  You have gifts, talents and characteristics that are yours and yours alone.  There is no one on earth exactly like you…….so you know what that means?  Comparison goes right out the window.  

Are you comfortable in your own skin?  Do you constantly seek approval and feed off of others complimenting you and when they don’t you, you feel deflated.   I know all about it!  I was that to a “T”.  I never felt happy with myself.  Plus, I worked in the very industry where the judging of your appearance determines whether or not you get the job.  Can you imagine 15 years of auditions and castings where you are basically sized up and compared to whatever “image” the client needed for their project.  You may not be tall enough, skinny enough,  young enough, etc.  No wonder I almost became a drug addict until I realized my worth lies in the truth that I am a precious Child of God. Period.

If you battle with comparison and competition, please free yourself girlfriend.  Life is too short to live another day not appreciating yourself and OWNING your uniqueness.  Also, appreciate others for their beauty, originality and brilliance instead of wanting to be like them. 

This past week, I was a guest speaker at the Willow Tree Women’s Circle for a discussion titled “Fabulous Not Frumpy”.   I was asked the question, “how do we stop comparing ourselves to the images we see in the media”?  One thing I mentioned and I wanted to remind you all today since the Oscars are coming up this weekend….. all of those gorgeous celebrities you will see on the red carpet look perfect because they have a massive team of people helping them.   They have hairstylists, makeup artists, wardrobe stylist, fitness trainers, botox injectors, estheticians, nutritionists and who knows what else I’m leaving out.  They have been starving themselves for the past month.  Getting spray tanned.  Having their dress altered to fit them perfectly.  So, remember when they go home after it’s all over– they will be just like you and me in their sweats, with their hair on top of their head with a zit on their face having to change a dirty diaper if they are a new mom.  Many of them are because I remember last award season there were several preggars celebrities on the red carpet.  We can “celebrate” their beauty and talent, but remember they are just people complete with cellulite and issues, too.  Don’t compare yourself to them in their expensive couture gown when you are sitting there watching from the couch in your sweats and not a stitch of makeup on.  Ya hear!   Ok- so this post ended up not being all that quick. LOL!

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I would love to hear your thoughts on this topic.

Leave a comment and let me know your 2-cents.

Happy Humpday!  Step out today and turn up your wattage. 

SHINE ON! 

Rock your confidence today.  It’s a must-have accessory!

Love, Tiff

ETERNALLY MOTIVATED {Sunday Affirmations + New Year’s Wish}

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Hey Rockstar!

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Who is ready to kick some serious bootie in 2013?  I SURE AM!  Don’t you love the sense of clarity, focus, drive and motivation that comes with the clean slate we’re all given on Jan 1st?  How do YOU keep your level of drive and motivation high all the way through the following Dec?  Do you seem to putter out and give up by the end of Feb?  Several of you have written in lately and asked for my tips on staying MOTIVATED with working out and eating right so I taped a new video with a few suggestions for changing your mindset.  This is the perfect topic as we begin the New Year…..

WATCH THIS:

 

THIS YEAR I WILL….

  1. Believe in myself MORE than ever.

  2. Go make things happen instead of WHINING about it.

  3. Hang motivational AFFIRMATIONS on my mirror + fridge.

  4. Create a vision board + watch my goals/dreams MANIFEST.

  5. Create a playlist of music that makes me want to MOVE.

  6. Embrace my flaws. They’re what make me UNIQUE!

  7. Stay motivated for LIFE…not just through Feb.

  8. TREAT myself to a new pair of fancy tennis shoes + workout clothes.

  9. Eat protein + vitamin rich ORGANIC FOODS.

  10. Love, nurture, cherish + adore ME!

  11. JUST DO IT!

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My wish for all of you is to find more peace and happiness in 2013 than you ever thought possible.  It all starts with YOU!  Making the choice to love yourself will keep you motivated FOR LIFE!  Look ahead with excitement and let the adventure begin.  Make yourself proud sista!

Thank you for being part of this Sisterhood.  I plan to bring you even more tips, insight, inspiration and encouragement to help strengthen and empower you in 2013.  Please make a comment and share any topics you are interested in discussing.  I want to hear from you!

Lastly, I cannot stress enough the importance of goal setting and visualizing for the year ahead.  Take some quiet time, search your heart and write out your goals and dreams.  Take a few days to do this if need be!  Don’t rush it.  I make it a fun, childlike and creative process and pull out my markers.

A great idea is to list your goals in sections as well.  For example, list them by Personal and Career/Business or take it a step further and list them by 1. Spirit 2. Family 3. Body 4. Career.  I just looked over my 2012 goals and it’s fun to see what has transpired!  If you’re a Pinterest fanatic, create a board of your new year’s goals.  Hmmm, I think I may have to do that myself!

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Remain in harmony with God’s will and plan for your life.

Happy New Year! 

With Love + Gratitude,

Tiff

BEAUTY TIPS FOR HOLIDAY FATIGUE {Plus Inspirational Vlog}

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Hi Pretty Poinsettia!

Is the holiday overindulging leaving you with red, puffy eyes and an overall fatigued look?

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Because I work in front of the camera and have to look bright-eyed at a moments notice, I have found the following tips give me an instant well rested look even after a night of little sleep, high sodium meals, sugary treats and one glass of wine too many!  On top of that, I have hereditary dark circles and puffy eyes (Thanks Daddy).  Plus, the use of heaters and all the nasal issues we deal with during the winter can add to the puffy eye problem.  The combination of all these tips will give you the appearance of being bright-eyed and bushy-tailed and as if you slept a full 8 hours, I promise!

1. HYDRATE: Drink a large glass of water with juice from half a lemon. This helps with relieving a puffy face and cleanses the body of toxins. I actually down a big glass of lemon water first thing EVERY a.m.

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2. NATURAL DIURETIC: Puffiness is due to a build up of fluid under the eye.  Eat a bowl a strawberries to flush out water retention.  They are loaded with calcium, potassium and arginine which have diuretic properties.

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3. TEA BAGS: Chill used tea bags in the fridge and apply to eyes for 10 minutes to reduce swelling. Cold spoons work as well, but aren’t as comfortable.

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4. UNDER EYE CREAM WITH CAFFEINE:  Look for eye creams and serums with caffeine which shrinks fluid buildup under the eye. I use Garnier anti-dark circle rollerball with tint on days my eyes are extra dark and puffy. The caffeine plus the rollerball help de-puff the under eye area super quick.   **I will be giving this tinted rollerball in this week’s stocking stuffer!

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5. EGG WHITE MASK: Using approximately 1 teaspoon of an egg white as a facial mask will tighten the skin and shrink swelling and pore size. Wakes up your skin and gives you an instant glow.
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6. HIGHLIGHTER IN CORNER OF EYES: Adding a brightening white, beige or peach eyeshadow to the inner corner of the eye adds a youthful look and widens the appearance of the eyes giving a more rested look.

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7. VISINE: A ‘must do’ to whitens the eyes.

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8. RAISE YOUR HEART RATE: Doing 50 jumping jacks or taking a brisk 15-20 minute walk instantly increases the circulation in the body which adds a flush to the cheeks helping you look more awake.

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Plus, if you can get in a few 15 minute power naps here and there during the holidays it will help you get through all the parties and activities and try to stay away from sodium rich foods too.

CANDID VLOG: I share my thoughts on prayer.  I would love to hear your comments on the topic!

We’ve only got a few more days left until the final stocking stuffer winner is announced!  See you on the Facebook Page.

Love, Tiff

A Little Love Note

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Good Morning Gorgeous!

When I was a little girl, my mom did the most wonderful thing….about once a week she would put a sweet note in my lunch box or by the sink in the bathroom before I woke up.  She always wrote something encouraging and told me how much she loved me.  Right now, I can visualize her handwriting.   Those little love notes made such an impact on me.  Thanks Mama!  When I decided to start a blog, that was also my intention.   To make an impact through expressing love + encouragement and sharing ideas, tips + experiences. 

Here’s a little love for your day ahead…. 

You are full of potential, possibility, beauty,  light,  gifts + talents.  Own the fact that you are a gloriously gorgeous child of God.  (take a beat and really think about that)

As you step out your door today–with your shoulders back and head held high– realize you are full of power not weakness!   Shed that wimpy persona.  It’s not you girlfriend!

YOU ARE WORTHY OF ALL YOUR HEART’S DESIRES!

Go for it.  Don’t hold back. Rock on with your bad self!

I Love You,

Tiff

STRIVE FOR EXCELLENCE {Plus Sunday Eve Affirmations}

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Hey Style + Spirit Sisters!

How was your week?  Are you gearing up for Halloween costumes and Trick or Treating with your lil monsters?  I am sending lots of love from my home state of  Texas.  I was a lucky duck and got to take a MUCH needed last minute vacay due to a delay in my hubby’s tour.  Getting some QT with my BFF’s complete with– a spa day, girlie lunches, shopping , speaking to a group of lovely pageant contestants, seeing Madonna in concert and cuddling with the most presh 2 year old triplets you’ve ever seen– was just what the doc ordered and the yummy TexMex is a major added bonus!   My love tank is full (so is my belly) and I have been truly blessed by all the  Southern hospitality!

Speaking of Southern hospitality, can I just say how refreshing it is!  The women here take the time to chat and acknowledge others whether it’s in pilates class, in the check out line at the grocery store or at the hair salon.  People in LA are so rushed and in their own little bubbles, that you rarely have a chat in the grocery line.  I make it a point to speak to people and usually get a raised eyebrow like I’m some foreign weirdo.  I am proud to be a TEXAS GIRL,  so if that means I’m a bit weird in other parts of the world- so be it.  Mama raised me right!  It also brought to my attention how special you can make someone feel just by asking the three little words, “How are you?”    Think about it, how often do you walk away from a convo and realize that the other person was so busy telling you all about themselves (usually without even taking a breath) that they never asked how YOU were doing?  Can we say NARCISSIST?  Not a fan!   Women of Excellence are the opposite.  They slow down and take the time to genuinely show interest in others and their lives.  I think a woman is at her most beautiful when she is striving to live a life of excellence and  showers love + compassion on others.  Don’t get me wrong, we are all a work-in-progress and the demands of life can have us leaning towards mediocrity more than excellence somedays.  The key is to always STRIVE!   Let’s go into the week ahead with this in mind!

THIS WEEK I WILL…..

  1. Turn my back on mediocrity.
  2. Be fabulous not frazzled.
  3. Slow down and sit to enjoy my meals and not eat over the sink.
  4. Call (not email) an old friend and ask “How are you? How have you been?”
  5. Not base my identity on how I look, what I wear or what I own. I am a Child of God!
  6. Book a spa day + massage because I deserve it.
  7. Check something fun off my bucketlist.
  8. Rock a leopard shoe, scarf, handbag or hat.
  9. Focus on being healthy instead of the number on the scale.
  10. Surround myself with other women of excellence.
  11. STRIVE FOR EXCELLENCE IN ALL THAT I DO + SAY!

HOWDY FROM TX….

A FEW PICS FROM MY TRIP…..

{Rock Leopard}

{Girls Night Out at Marquee}

{Dinner with LeeAnne}

{Madonna in Concert- check it off the bucketlist}

{Spa Day}

{Shoe Shopping with Heidi }

Is there an area in your life where you tend to be more mediocre?  Cheers to coming up higher + striving this week.  I would love to hear your thoughts on this week’s topic.

Comment, share, tweet and like it!  I really appreciate it.

Remember what you put out into the world comes back to you a hundred fold.

Love, Tiff

P.S. To all you mamas out there…YOU ROCK SISTAS!    I typed up this post while three toddlers were running around giggling and playing along with four adults and a doggie.  I have a whole new respect for the multi-tasking mothers of the world.  God Bless You Wonder Women!  May you all get a good catnap or two this week.

I also want to wish Mila Grace, Liam + Blake Leigh a very Happy 2nd Birthday today!  Auntie TT loves you!

STYLE Q&A

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Hey Style Sisters!

There were several great questions submitted here on the blog and on the Facebook Page and {woohoo} it makes my job a whole lot easier knowing exactly the issues you girls are dealing with in your closets!  In today’s webisode, I tackle 3 great topics:

  1. What to pair with navy?
  2. How to layer without looking like you added 10 lbs?
  3. What’s a cute outfit to wear to my kids games instead of my typical yoga pants?

 

 

{Navy is for the fashionista not just the corporate biz man}

{Key to layering= wear thin fabrics}

{No yoga pants except to yoga class}

Wishing you plenty of blue skies, leopard print, red lipstick and bouncin’ & behavin’ hair to make you happy the rest of the week!

Share, comment, tweet and like this post if you found it helpful. Thanks for sharing the beauty, style + inspiration!

Love, Tiff

FLICKER TO A FLAME {Sunday Eve Affirmations}

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One of my favorite things in the world to witness is women stepping into their DESTINY + SHINING as they should!  It’s exactly the reason I do what I do.  Too often women shrink and play the martyr or victim.  WHY?  What purpose does it serve to live a life below what God has destined for you?  NONE!  ZILCH! ZERO!  Why live life giving out a tiny flicker of your light when there is a MASSIVE FLAME inside you.  We are like the sun and meant to shine our warmth on the world.  You honor God when you step into your greatness.  That’s what you were created to do!  Stop playing so small and rinky-dink!  Ignite the flame, fan it and show the world what you got, baby!  

{You were made to shine + be hugely fabulous}

Can you OWN IT this week?  Do you have only brief moments when you feel yourself radiating with love and light and it quickly fades because of some negative circumstance that gets your head spinning or wallowing in your own fear or you allow a toxic relationship to control you?  This week I want you to focus on keeping that flame lit.  FIGHT FOR IT!  My wish is that you all experience more powerful moments than weak ones, more moments when you feel yourself radiating like a flame rather than just a flicker, more moments of clarity rather than confusion that you are right where you are meant to be.   Are you ready?

THIS WEEK I WILL:

  1. Step into my greatness…even if it’s one baby step in that direction.
  2. Stop abusing my body with poor sleep + a poor diet.
  3. Clean out my closet + give things to people who need it. (especially coats + shoes for winter)
  4. Read more + watch TV less.
  5. Set goals to make the final 2 1/2 months of 2012 totally ROCK.
  6. Buy the boots I’ve been drooling over.
  7. Give myself a pat on the back instead of beating myself up.
  8. Attend a movie, concert or seminar that inspires me.
  9. Lift light weights regularly. It helps my bone density!
  10. Not play rinky-dink.
  11. Fight for my flame + RADIATE!

I want to congratulate you for taking a stand for yourself this week.  This is true empowerment!  The definition of em·pow·er is “give power or authority to; to authorize”.  You are authorizing yourself to soar, live the life of your dreams and become ALL (not just a little), but all that you are destined to be!  I salute you girlfriend!

Please make a comment, like, tweet and share these affirmations if you found them inspiring!  Share the love + light with your friends!  Much thanks!

WALK TALL!

Love, Tiff