Category Archives: Women’s Empowerment

GIRL TIME vs. GYM TIME {Sunday Affirmations}

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{Spiritual Sisters Group}

{LtoR: Laurie, Laura, Julianna, Patricia, Amy, Brooke, Me, Marcy, Cortney.  Thank you for opening your hearts, ears + arms to me.  Grateful for my LA sisterhood. Love ya’ll}

Hey Gorgeous Gang!

A few days ago I received one of those mass emails that I not only stopped and read, but it made me stop and think.  Then, I sat there a moment and gave gratitude for all the amazing women who have been part of my journey in life.  Some are still on the journey and some were only there for a reason or a season, but regardless– they made an impact on my life.  I really cherish the long friendships I have. You know those girlfriends who immediately take you back to your authentic self in the first 30 seconds you see them.  They knew you before you took on the title of mom or wife and have you feeling like your free-spirited 18 year old self again.  I’m also excited to be sassy and silver-headed with these girlfriends in 20 years! 

Since childhood, I have always thrived most when I had a tight posse of girlfriends. Being in a group atmosphere was where I felt at home, whether it was on a cheerleading squad, youth group or even amongst the group of models I traveled with when I was a beer girl. (yes, I was a Tecate poster model)  I can hear you laughing!  Hey, if you’re a young eager model in Texas– you started out as a beer girl and we all have to start somewhere, right?!  I was always part of a group, but went through a period right after I got married where I felt isolated here in LA and had a difficult time reaching out. Depression hit me hard and my health suffered tremendously with everything from migraines, anxiety, acne and ulcers.  I didn’t realize it then, but my lack of connection was a big part of the problem. Plus, I was in the midst of a serious spiritual healing on top of adjusting to marriage.  I WAS ONE….BIG….HOT….MESS!

Ok, back to that email.  One of the main reasons I opened the email was because it was sent from a dear friend (love you Amy) I’ve known since I was a teenager and she never, ever forwards mass emails. You know those emails your mom  forwards that has cute pictures of dogs napping or it’s a superstition stating if you forward this email to 10 people you will have a financial breakthrough or someone will call you with good news in the next 24 hours. Yes, we have all gotten them and yes, I admit to forwarding mass emails and in fact, I forwarded a prayer recently that I will be sharing with you all next week because it’s just THAT GOOD!  Several friends replied telling me that it was exactly what they needed that day so always go with your gut and pass along the encouraging ones. You never know who needs the lift that day!

Ok, again– back to the email Amy sent me.  The subject title was “Girlfriend Time” and since that is one of my all time fave things… I opened it immediately.   Due to that period I dealt with depression as a newlywed, I am now a firm believer in the importance of women connecting and knew I had to share this email with my SOS sistas.  I researched the email chain and found out that it was a legitimate lecture given at Stanford, but there is no online source stating who the author was.

Without the unconditional love, support, laughs, prayers, pats on the back and slaps upside the head– I’m not sure where I would be without my girlfriends. Plus, the sacred space I share twice a month with my spiritual group has created the sense of belonging I was missing for years here in LA. This is a topic I discuss often and may sound like a broken record, but it’s because CONNECTION is so vital to our well being and now we have proof it helps our health as well–maybe even more than hitting the gym! Whew, this is a long post, but please read on…..

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Here’s the email….

“I just finished taking an evening class at Stanford. The last lecture was on the mind-body connection – the relationship between stress and disease. The speaker (head of psychiatry at Stanford) said, among other things, that one of the best things that a man could do for his health is to be married to a woman, whereas for a woman, one of the best things she could do for her health was to nurture her relationships with her girlfriends.

Women connect with each other differently and provide support systems that help each other to deal with stress and difficult life experiences. Physically this quality “girlfriend time” helps us to create more serotonin – a neurotransmitter that helps combat depression and can create a general feeling of well being. Women share feelings whereas men often form relationships around activities. They rarely sit down with a buddy and talk about how they feel about certain things or how their personal lives are going. Jobs? Yes. Sports? Yes. Cars? Yes. Fishing, hunting, golf? Yes. But their feelings? Rarely.

Women do it all of the time. We share from our souls with our sisters/mothers, and evidently that is very good for our health. He said that spending time with a friend is just as important to our general health as jogging or working out at a gym. (HOLLA!!!)

There’s a tendency to think that when we are “exercising” we are doing something good for our bodies, but when we are hanging out with friends, we are wasting our time and should be more productively engaged—not true. In fact, he said that failure to create and maintain quality personal relationships with other humans is as dangerous to our physical health as smoking! (SAY WHAT???)

So every time you hang out to schmooze with a gal pal, just pat yourself on the back and congratulate yourself for doing something good for your health! We are indeed very, very lucky. Sooooo let’s toast to our friendship with our girlfriends!  Evidently it’s very good for our health.”

 

This week I will….

  1. Schedule girlfriend time.
  2. Give gratitude for all the amazing women in my life.
  3. Be a better friend.
  4. Open up to a trusting friend + share my soul. (It could add yrs to my life)
  5. Release any toxic friendships once and for all.
  6. Pray for my girlfriends.
  7. Nurture all the women in my life no matter their age. (even your 9 yr old niece)
  8. Listen without “one-upping” (thanks Brene Brown)
  9. Reach out the minute I feel lonely. (stop the wallowing before it starts)
  10. Not take my genuine friendships for granted.
  11. Toast to the fabulous friends in my life!

FORWARD THIS POST TO ALL YOUR GIRLFRIENDS.

Share/Tweet/Pin the SOS love!

I close my eyes, bow my head and pray for you ALL to be richly blessed in the coming week.

Love, Tiff

 

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Thank God for Girl Time

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Hello Gorgeous!

Happy Friday!  How was your week?  Any fun plans for this weekend? I just feel like a lil ‘girl talk’ this morning.  No style tip or beauty secret to offer today.  I’m sitting here in my robe sipping coffee, sorting through a zillion emails and getting life organized after my amazing trip.  Don’t you love that refueled feeling after a vacay?  Always, always take a good vacay every year or at least a few mini ones.  We all deserve a break now and then!  HOLLA!

Over the past few months, we have had so much stress and pressure with our other business that I was about to implode if I didn’t remove myself from it for a sec.  WHO FEELS ME?  I’m happy to report that I did not implode or totally go into freak out mode…almost, but not quite!  I’m so grateful to have dear girlfriends I can run to for solace in these times.  They don’t judge me for feeling weak.  They don’t judge me for needing a break from trying to be the West Coast Wonder Woman.  They don’t judge me, period.  They focus on my strengths and help me to see them when it all seems blurry.  I am tearing up right now thinking back over the years of fun, pain, growth, success, trials, heartbreak, wins and losses that my girlfriends experienced with me.  If you have even one girlfriend like that, consider yourself extremely blessed.  Women need to feel connected and when our real-life girlfriends may be unavailable, this community fills that void and provides support for many.  I thank God for giving it to us.  Girl time is vital- never deny yourself a good dose of it on a reg basis!

I have an excitement in my belly about the next few months and what’s to come in 2013.  SOS is my baby, my priority, my passion and I envision awesome things for us in the new year.  Daily, I receive heartfelt comments, questions, concerns and lots of encouragement from you ladies and this is what fuels me to keep going, keep building, keep growing this Sisterhood.  Thank you for taking the time to connect on a regular basis either here on the blog or on the Facebook Community.  Thank you for subscribing.  I know I really have to enjoy a blog or newsletter to actually take the time to subscribe and enter my email address.  Again, thank you.

Remember there are many ways to stay in the SOS loop:

FACEBOOK:
https://www.facebook.com/sanctuaryofstyle

YOUTUBE:
http://www.youtube.com/user/tiffanybolton11

PINTEREST:
http://pinterest.com/sanctuarystyle

TWITTER:
https://twitter.com/#!/SanctuaryStyle

INSTAGRAM: @tiffanyhendra

Take the time this weekend to think about how you want the end of 2012 to look.   We’ve got 8 weeks left.  Let’s finish out the year STRONG!  Dig a little deeper, reach a little higher.  Also, start imagining how awesome 2013 is going to be!  Speak and act as if you have already arrived and attained your dreams!

CALL THINGS THAT BE NOT….AS THOUGH THEY ALREADY ARE!

Love, Tiff

JUST BE.

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Here’s your Sunday Eve Affirmations Sista’s!

We all wear so many hats throughout the week that it’s easy to forget who YOU are.  The real you, stripped down, authentic and pure!  This week, let’s take some time to remove the hats and spend some quality time just BEING YOU.   Do you even remember what she looks like because you are so busy being Mom, Wife, Daughter, Girlfriend, Boss, Caretaker, Coworker, Sister, Volunteer Worker, etc?  Don’t get me wrong being all those things is a wonderful blessing, but taking time every week to just “BE” will allow you to be more present, happy and fulfilled when you are wearing all those additional hats.  When do you feel the most like yourself?  Sometimes I feel most like my authentic Tiff when I have no makeup on, hair in a ponytail, early in the morning while sitting quietly in thought and prayer with a cup of coffee.  I love moments like that and cherish them!  My hope is that you find beautiful moments like that during the week too.

THIS WEEK, I WILL….

  1. Live with a prosperity mindset.
  2. Add ‘super greens’ to my protein shakes.
  3. Think before I speak.
  4. See everyone that crosses my path as a Child of God.
  5. Wear a pretty bra.
  6. Believe that anything is possible.
  7. Allow myself a ‘cheat day’ and not feel guilty about it.
  8. Stop making excuses for skipping workouts.
  9. Make peace with my cellulite- everybody has a bit of it!
  10. Take myself on a playdate.
  11. JUST BE.

What are the top 3 that stand out to you the most? Comment and let us know!

{Go confidently into the week}

Love, Tiff

Be Healthy. Be Beautiful. Be Sane.

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Hi Beautiful Girl,

Happy Friday! What do you have planned for the weekend?  I know I sound like a broken record, but I hope you find some time to decompress, recharge and calm your Spirit.  I won’t keep you from getting on with it so here’s just a few tips to help you feel healthier, more beautiful and hold on to your sanity!  I believe our inner beauty, health and wellness is much more important than the latest style and makeup tips.  If we don’t feel good on the inside, ultimately- we will not look good on the outside. 

The popularity of Green Tea has increased tremendously over the last 10 years. Have you incorporated it into your lifestyle yet? I encourage you to do so. There is a long list of health benefits including:

  • Increases metabolism (woohoo),
  • Lowers blood pressure,
  • Regulates glucose + insulin levels so it helps prevent diabetes,
  • Anti-viral,
  • Lowers cholesterol,
  • Reduces risks of cancer + alzheimers,
  • +PLUS+ the antioxidants help preserve the elasticity in the skin meaning LESS WRINKLES!

LATEST Q + A WEBISODE: No you aren’t crazy!

An important supplement I forgot to mention in the webisode (Brain Fart) is a great Vitamin B-Complex. I love it in sublingual form!  Helps with anxiety, depression, all symptons of PMS, fatigue, heart disease and more. 

FINAL TIP:  Enjoy nature. Take a walk. Stop + smell….

SOS TO THE RESCUE!

Giving you the tools…
to be free,
confident,
secure with yourself,
to embrace your quirks,
to own your unique beauty & style,
to walk tall in your fabulous-ness,
to be unapologetic,
to live life without restraints,
to realize your self-worth,
to truly take care of yourself, nurture your spirit and
to watch every single one of your dreams come to pass!

Love You Sister,

Tiff

Send me a TWEET and let me know how your weekend is going!

 

SENSATIONAL, SMART + SASSY SWAG BAG SPONSORS

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Hello Gorgeous!

Thank you all for posting + playing in the Summer Swag Bag Giveaways!  There’s only a few weeks left and I would like to give a BIG shout out to our fabulous sponsors! I really enjoy sharing and supporting great products and companies that I love– especially that are owned by women!  Most of the companies participating this summer are owned and/or managed by women who had a dream, stepped out, took a risk and made it happen! They all have an amazing story and I believe when we join together to help promote and build up our businesses– GREATNESS HAPPENS! I’m thrilled to introduce you to these amazing women:

Kelly Phillipson:

Owner of the fabulous boutique LUSCIOUS SOUL

LUSCIOUS (adj) highly pleasing to the taste or smell, sweet to the senses or the mind, richly adorned, luxurious, extremely attractive.

SOUL (n) the principle of life, feeling thought and action…the spirit within.

“These two words simply define everything I strive to find within myself and my surroundings of the people and things that I love most. With that in mind Luscious Soul has been created to bring my favorite things to one place. You will find my love of travel, distinctive home decor, clothing, jewelry, products for your skin and body and so many things in between….Eclectik is a State of Mind. Most of the lines I carry are in the family of eco friendly: re-used, re-shaped, and/or recycled in some way, shape or form.”

Monica Blanco:

Owner of COLOUR COUTURE SUNLESS TANNING

Monica Blanco is Hollywoodʼs “it” girl in the world of sunless tanning. Known for her signature application, Blanco and her team at Colour Couture are the most sought afterairbrush tanners in Southern California. Whether itʼs a weekend in Vegas or a wedding in Napa, Blanco and her team specialize in shading to help the client look thinner, more sculpted and healthier. Her trademark process gives clients a tan thatʼs safer and more flattering than what you get at the beach.

A teen mother turned entrepreneur, Blanco prides herself on giving her team at Colour Couture the opportunity to make money doing something they love. Each member goes through the most rigorous training in the market before they are certified to practice the Colour Couture method in cities all over the United States. This allows women to open their own tanning businesses and thrive because the Colour Couture method is so popular.

Alexandra Howard:

Creator + Owner of BEAUTY SPRINKLES

“With over 17 years experience assisting a world-famous Beverly Hills plastic surgeon, I have learned what can be done to care for skin without the help of surgery. One of my specialties has been Facial Mesotherapy Vitamin Injections. This not-yet-well-known procedure is the skincare secret weapon of movie stars and models for youthful, glowing skin, and I have performed thousands of these treatments over the years. Also known as Mesolift or Mesoglow, the treatment consists of multiple micro-injections of vitamins, minerals, anti-oxidants and amino acids directly into the skin to nourish and rejuvenate, promote collagen production and stimulate the skin’s metabolism. And it works really, really well. But I know that many of the ‘luxury’ treatments available to us are unaffordable — lasers, fillers, peels, expensive vitamin injection treatments. So what could we all use? I always knew there was a better way…Being a cancer survivor, I also became concerned about the chemicals I was exposed to, and my skin was commanding attention at an accelerated rate. Through my health challenges, I was motivated to create something for myself that was totally natural, healthy, and effective. Something that combined my medical experience with my Greek heritage of using herbs and natural ingredients. My mother, who is from Greece, always used natural remedies when I was a child. Her favorite ‘cure-all’ was chamomile. From her, I learned the natural vitamin-packed powers of fruits, vegetables and herbs. So after years of research, self experimentation, testing with others (thank you) and numerous natural concoctions later, “ta, da, ta tah!” Beauty Sprinkles was born!”

SIA BOTANICS

“We are a small group of committed individuals producing skincare from a botanical perspective. We believe our products, our actions and our business practices will make a difference. We continually seek improvement through innovation and creativity. We love natural skincare, a good joke, a very dirty martini, a great pair of shoes, a buns burning hike, and figuring out ways to do things better. We think confidence is sexy, we think intelligence is sexy, we think great skin is sexy and we think that happiness is better than all of these. We think loving what you do is essential.”

MICHELLE COLON-JOHNSON:

Director of Marketing + PR for SOUND WISDOM

Sound Wisdom books, audios, and videos assist speakers in spreading the wealth of knowledge to a much broader audience than those speakers can reach individually.

Michelle Colon-Johnson is a Model, Author, Speaker and Director of Marketing + PR for Sound Wisdom Publishing. Michelle loves sharing her journey with others who are looking to make their dreams come true. Michelle is a Mother to an Autistic teenage Daughter, a five time stage four cancer survivor and like many of us has been through relationships that leave us emotionally bankrupt. What do you do when you file bankruptcy? You start all over again with more knowledge and a thirst for a better life. Where do you start? Michelle says we all start with ourselves. With every failure a success is created.You can have the life you want by Attracting the life you dream about.

I say “ditto” to this quote by Rachel Ray…

Thank you all for joining me in celebrating these strong and courageous women today!

High five + a Hip Bump,

Tiff

CHILLAX: Stress Management

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Hey Junebugs!

Question- What’s your stress level on a regular basis?  You are probably wondering, “Tiff, what does that have to do with beauty, style or inspiration?”…well, it has a lot to do with how healthy, vibrant, aware, sharp, peaceful and powerful you feel.  Constant stress is carried on your face and will dull your light not to mention over time it can cause serious dis-ease in your body. So let’s discuss this because I am personally “checking myself” and my own stress levels more than normal lately and I find everywhere I turn people are just out-of-their-mind STRESSED OUT!  This is no way to live ladies. LIFE IS SHORT!

I’m about to keep it very real here…

I use to live stressed out all the time with high anxiety because I had not healed through my past and like many people I numbed myself with drugs and alcohol to begin with. Then a friend convinced me to see a doctor and of course, they put me on anti-depressants, anti-anxiety pills and ambien to sleep because I would be so amped up for the other pills.  WHEW! It’s a vicious cycle with this stuff and I couldn’t function long on all these RX’s.  For me, the only thing that worked to calm the nerves was to red flag my stressors and begin a serious spiritual practice of prayer and journaling plus there’s nothing like a good old fashioned long walk to clear your head. Learning to manage your stress will change your life and the lives of those around you!  It really effects every area of our lives:

  • Sleep Difficulties
  • Loss of Appetite or Over-eating
  • Lack of Concentration
  • Sloppy performance on the job
  • Anti-social Behavior
  • Abusing Alcohol or Drugs
  • Nervous Habits
  • Short Temper
  • Poor Memory

Does that sound about right? Make it a priority to check in with yourself on a regular basis and deal with the stress so it doesn’t grow into an unmanageable beast.

Here’s 20 tips I have found to help:

  1. Do not keep things bottled up! Talk to someone you trust to help you work through it.
  2. Spend time daily doing an activity you love. (I hike or powerwalk)
  3. Improve your diet! Eating vitamin rich foods and avoiding junk with preservatives will keep your nervous system functioning properly. Add a B complex supplement too!
  4. Simplify! This is so important but very difficult for “busy bodies”. Stop taking on too many activities at once. You know the popular saying, “my plate is so full”. Well, change that!
  5. Stop rushing! When you feel panicked or rushed, STOP- sit quietly, take a deep breath and regain your composure.
  6. Keep a zen-like peaceful environment at work and at home.
  7. Be present! Don’t put too much thought into the future or the past. Enjoy the NOW!
  8. Avoid unrealistic expectations on yourself and others! Whew- this will alleviate a ton of stress.
  9. Get enough sleep!
  10. Exercise  more! It produces “feel good” chemicals.
  11. Take note of your moods! Ladies, we have those pesky hormones to deal with so be aware of how you’re feeling emotionally and cut yourself a break when you need to.
  12. Explore relaxation methods: Yoga, walking, journaling, listening to soothing music, hiking, etc.
  13. Express yourself! If you feel sad, allow yourself a good cry. If you’re angry, express it constructively. (Breaking plates not allowed)
  14. Love people and use things! Not the other way around. Walking in love is a huge stress reducer. Drop the ego.
  15. Take a techno break! Unplug the phone, stay off the computer, don’t watch TV. Often these things bring major stress into our life and we don’t even realize it.
  16. Learn the power of saying “NO”.  This brings tons of stress on many woman. Being a ‘people pleaser’ will ultimately stress you out and build resentment!
  17. Do not use crutches! Food, cigarettes, drugs or alcohol will also ultimately add to your stress instead of the temporary relief of it.
  18. Avoid boredom! Period.
  19. Surround yourself with positive peeps!  Stress and negativity are contagious so hang out with positive, uplifting friends.
  20. Get in touch with the little kid inside you on a regular basis!  Try to have more fun and find things that give you a good belly laugh every once in a while.

Most important thing of all – GRACE!  It gives you the strength and power to get done what you need to even when you think you can’t. Tap into it.

Let’s not be one of those women who constantly whines and complains about how stressed out she is.  You know that gal!  They talk about it all the time, but do nothing to change it.  Make it a priority.  Make your peace + joy a priority.  I promise it will keep away the lines between your eyes and help you to shine your light as you should, my sista! 

REMEMBER: Fun giveaways every week this summer! I’m excited to share my fave self-tanner products with you from Colour Couture and fun unique items from Luscious Soul, a fun eclectic boutique in Thousand Oaks, CA and much more! To participate, you must be a subscriber to this blog (you can enter your email at the top right of the page) and a follower on the Facebook Page. Check in and join the conversation, make comments and each week one “commenter” will be chosen to win. This week is a fun one- I’ve asked “What was the first “fashionable” item you remember loving as a kid?” The responses so far have been so fun. Everything from jellies to patent leather Go-Go boots to Jordache Jeans and Vans!

If you have a friend who you know this post could help, please share it with her! Follow the links below. You can post it to Google+ or even email it.

I’m grateful you are part of this Style Sisterhood!

With love + gratitude,

Tiff

My Ingredients for a Happy, Meaningful & Successful Life

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Hey Gorgeous Girls!

Today’s message is short, sweet and to the point!  Please share an ‘ingredient’ that you have found to add happiness to your life..comment below!

Tiff’s Ingredients for a Happy, Meaningful & Successful Life:

  • Don’t let the Negative Nellie inside you strangle the Positive Polly in you! 
  • Treat others with respect & kindness…you get what you give.
  • Helping others is like a natural anti-depressant!  Feeling down?  Go find someone to help!
  • Work hard at everything you do. Laziness sucks!
  • Make learning a lifetime pursuit!
  • Laugh more & stop taking everything so serious.
  • Be present! The past is over.
  • Be flexible & open-minded!
  • Prioritize & use your time well. (and I do appreciate you taking the time to read this blog)
  • Eat right & exercise!  DUH!
  • Words are powerful…be mindful of what you say.
  • Always keep believing in yourself no matter the circumstance!
  • Take the high road!
  • Do not compare yourself to others…success to one person can be something totally different for another.
  • Be grateful for what you have…and you’ll get more of it! WooHoo!
  • Codependent relationships do not serve your highest good. You be you and let them, be them. Got it?  Good!
  • Your self-worth is not validated on anything external.  You are worthy of greatness simply because God put you on this Earth.
  • Fake it till ya make it! If you do it long enough, eventually it becomes the real thing!
  • Live with purpose & NEVER GIVE UP!

…add a dash of cayenne and your life will rock!

I lived too many years of my life with low self-worth, self-loathing and to put it plainly- I didn’t love myself.   I see many women today walking around zombie-like with their heads hanging down which tells the world “I’m not worthy”.   I want this epidemic to STOP!

Don’t forget: The “Thank You Giveaway” ends Friday, May 18th. Winner will be announced Saturday.  Who wants to see this agate bracelet on their arm?  To enter, simply:

  1. SHARE the “Rock the Red Jeans” video on your Facebook page or Tweet it.
  2. POST the following sentence on the SOS Facebook page, “I am bold and walk tall in my power”

Are you a social butterfly?

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Go out there and receive the greatness you are deserving of!

Love, Tiff

Coming Soon- Summer Beauty Tips! Stay Tuned!

Make May A {{may}}zing!

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Hello Precious Peacocks!

Join me in welcoming the month of May!  Woohoo!  Summer is around the corner.  I trust you all had a beautiful April.  I’ve been busy setting up the new studio, did my very first speaking engagements, took the most fabulous girls trip and started a new volunteer program teaching a small group of homeless pregnant women!  I swear, the minute I wrote that blog about getting out of your CZ (comfort zone) last month- opportunities opened up for me to take my own advice.  Funny how that works!   Getting out of your CZ awakens so many different emotions ranging from excitement to anxiety to pure bliss.  Your spirit is truly IGNITED!  Don’t get me wrong–  I have been to the point several times this month where I wanted to literally “crap my pants” and had to just face the fear, put on my imaginary Depends Underwear and GO FOR IT!   It’s very liberating and I highly recommend it! 

Join me for the month of May- I challenge us all to START making the necessary tweaks to our life to make it a whole lot more AMAZING!  My dear girlfriend Julianna Geldien shared a fantastic “to-do” list of 31 positive things we can all do to IGNITE THAT SPARK and I had to pass it along to you!   Are you ready…..

  1. Start spending time with the right people. (stop hanging with the negative Nelly’s)
  2. Start facing your problems head on.
  3. Start being honest with yourself about everything.
  4. Start making your own happiness a priority. (being a martyr is not pretty)
  5. Start being yourself- genuinely. (stop caring what other people think about you)
  6. Start noticing and living in the present.
  7. Start valuing the lessons your mistakes teach you.
  8. Start being more polite to yourself.
  9. Start enjoying the things you already have. (you’ll get more of it)
  10. Start creating your own happiness. (happiness is inside of all of us- we just need to unleash it)
  11. Start giving your ideas and dreams a chance. (you are preggars with possibilities- don’t abort your dreams before their you give them a chance to grow)
  12. Start believing that you’re ready for the next step. (just step out and go for it..even if it’s a baby step)
  13. Start entering new relationships for the right reasons.
  14. Start giving new people you meet a chance.
  15. Start learning from others and appreciating others gifts. (let go of pride + ego)
  16. Start cheering for others victories.
  17. Start looking for the silver lining in tough situations. (there’s a lesson in every circumstance)
  18. Start forgiving yourself and others.
  19. Start helping others and get your mind off yourself. ( this is the best natural anti-depressant)
  20. Start listening to your inner voice. (it will always take care of you)
  21. Start being attentive to your stress level and take short breaks.
  22. Start noticing the beauty of small moments. (when you get a grin from a baby)
  23. Start accepting things when they are less than perfect.
  24. Start working toward your goals and dreams every single day.
  25. Start being more open about how you feel. (remove the mask and keep it real)
  26. Start taking full accountability for your own life. (stop the blame game)
  27. Start actively nurturing your most important relationships.
  28. Start investing your energy in the things you can control. (stop wasting time on things beyond your control)
  29. Start focusing on the possibility of positive outcomes.
  30. Start realizing your unique gifts + talents. (stop comparing yourself to others and what they can do)
  31. Start noticing how wealthy you are RIGHT NOW. (you are so blessed)

Let’s all focus on one thing per day and regroup on May 31st to assess any changes, blocks or shifts that happened. So exciting!

Get ready for your light to shine brighter than ever! 

I am BEYOND excited to start shooting webisodes again and thank you for hanging in there with me during this transition!  I sense everything is going to a new level and I look forward to this next chapter with you all.  Don’t hesitate to share any topics you want to see!  I love getting ideas and feedback.

Remember, I’m all about giving you the tips to help you look good on the outside as well as “inner beauty” tips to help you feel good on the inside !  True, genuine and lasting beauty requires the dual-approach.  We can’t focus only on our outer appearance and neglect our spirit! Cheers to keeping it balanced and I have made it my mission to help you do so.

{{Shine On}}

With tons of love, Tiff

P.S.  Do your girlfriends a favor and invite them to join you on making the month of May simply AMAZING!  Share it, Follow it, Tweet it, Comment on it!

P.S.S. Are you on Pinterest?  How much fun is that thing!?!  It’s such a visually stimulating creative outlet.  Follow me:
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Be Your Own Biggest Cheerleader- SHOW SOME SPIRIT! Woohoo!

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Hey My Fab Cheerleading Squad!

Was anyone a cheerleader growing up?  I was and one of the things I loved about it the most was the camaraderie and sisterhood among the squad.  We are all building such a great community and sisterhood here and I want to thank you all for being…Give me a Y, Give me an O, Give me a U…what’s that spell? YOU!  Ok, that sounds kind of corny, but it’s the truth.   So, today I want to remind you to affirm (and give yourself a cheer while doing a toe touch- OUCH! The thought of that hurts!) yourself the way you do your BFF!  Today- it is time to stop beating yourself up.  Ya hear me!  I am so guilty of it lately and that’s why I’m sharing this message today:

I appreciate your patience and will have the new SOS dressing room up in no time!   This recent transition my hubby and I went through is a great learning lesson to “let go” and allow yourself to grow, change, embrace the new and be OK with stepping back for a second.  It may piss some people off in your life, but hey- they’ll get over it!   It will allow you to soar to new heights!  Go for it and I will see you on the next webisode very soon!

SPEAKING OF NEW HEIGHTS:  I do have a fabulous spring shoe to share with you (thanks to my gal pal Cortney) by Nine West!  Holy Super Sexy Wedge!

Sharing the love, beauty + inspiration,

Tiff   (sisk-boom-bah)

BEYOND YOUR COMFORT ZONE

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Hey Butterflies,

I’m sending some hippie love from the road!  After an insanely busy and exciting 8 months, my hubby and I packed up the Jeep and decided to take a road trip. Wide open spaces refuel my soul and unlock any stagnant creativity!  When my creativity is stifled,  it feels like my life is airing in black & white instead of vivid color.  This alerts me that it’s time to STEP OUT!  Do something different!  Shake things up!  What helps unlock your creativity? Walking on the beach, singing, dancing, scuba diving, horseback riding?   You may not realize it, but a healthy flow of creativity is something we all need in many areas of our lives…on a daily basis!  We may need it on our jobs (web designer, makeup artist, stylist, florist, writer, etc) and to create yummy meals for our families every night and as a way of expressing ourselves with our fashion sense.  It is imperative that we  all keep our creative juices flowing by  GETTING OUT OF OUR COMFORT ZONE ON A REGULAR BASIS! 

Do you have difficulty getting out of your CZ?  Does it make you feel anxious?  Do you truly desire to live beyond your CZ, but just as you are about to step out, you shrink back?  Do you have one voice in your head saying “GO FOR IT GIRL” and another voice saying “IT’S TOO HARD”?  It’s a funny thing, that old comfort zone-- because in the long run, it’s really not that comfortable at all.  It becomes a painful and depressing, self-imposed prison!   Staying in your CZ will rob you of amazing opportunities, potential relationships, seeing the world and unlocking new passions you may never knew you had! 

TAKE THE LIMITS OFF + STEP BEYOND YOUR CZ!   Spring, a time of rebirth, is the perfect time to try new things!  Here’s a few strategies I remind myself of when I feel like it’s time to make some changes and GO BEYOND!

    • THINK BIGGER!  If you think small, you achieve little.  Huge risk, Huge reward!
    • EXPAND YOUR VISION!  Look beyond what’s right in front of your face everyday!
    • TAKE ON NEW CHALLENGES! This builds confidence and forces you to grow!
    • PUSH THE BOUNDARIES! Your CZ isn’t the Great Wall of China. It’s just in your mind and you can do anything you set your mind to!
    • KARATE KICK YOUR FEARS!  Be like a warrior and kick the crap out of your fears instead of the other way around!
    • DON’T LET ANYTHING OR ANYONE STOP YOU!  Nuff said.
    • TAKE BABY STEPS!  This helps you stay grounded.  Stepping out can cause you to feel off kilter. Taking it slow will keep you balanced.
    • GET OFF THE HAMSTER WHEEL!  Being in your CZ can make you feel like you’re going in circles and getting nowhere!
    • STOP MAKING EXCUSES!  Excuses are useless!
    • JUST DO IT!  Once you make up your mind to do something, just get out there and do it already!
Our thoughts are powerful.  We can talk ourselves into, doing or NOT doing, anything. You may say, “I don’t have the money to do this or that or I just don’t have the time”, trust me- I have used these exact excuses– and remember, excuses are useless!   They serve no purpose except for keeping you from truly enjoying ALL that life has to offer!   I have learned to actually feel comfortable living outside my CZ.  It’s uncomfortable for me to stay in the same old, same old. 
BUST A MOVE, STEP OUT, CLIMB OVER, CUT THE CHORD and get out there and rock it!

I would love to hear your 2- cents on this subject!

Do you have specific strategies to help get you out of your CZ?  

Please share!

I loved this!  Had to share from Oprah Winfrey: “As you walk into what you fear, know that you already have the enduring power you’re asking for—then say “Thank you,” because you understand your deepest struggle will produce your greatest strength”.

Read more: 
http://www.oprah.com/omagazine/What-Oprah-Knows-for-Sure-About-Inner-Strength#ixzz1p1ECjzOz

Sharing the beauty+style+inspiration,

Tiff

P.S.  Ok, I’m officially addicted to Pinterest!  Wow, talk about an activity to keep the creativity flowing.  Follow me: 
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