Happy Friday Fab One!
You know me, I stumble across something that inspires me and must share it here with you. I’ve read most of Brene Brown’s books and love her nuggets of wisdom. Here’s a great video with her top 10 nuggets:
1. Show up!
2. Cultivate authenticity
3. Set boundaries
4. Actively practice gratitude
5. Embrace vulnerability
6. Let go of perfectionism
7. Explore your emotions
8. Build shame resilience
9. Risk failure
10. Don’t have any regrets
BONUS * Let yourself be seen.
I’m probably the last one to become obsessed with beauty gadgets, but better late than never. Slowly but surely I am building my gadget arsenal and have become totally addicted to these 5 babies:
Because of the recent disaster in my hometown of Houston, I’ve been receiving messages on my social media daily asking how I deal with anxiety. I also get messages regularly asking how to get started with praying so I thought I would repost the video below from this spring. I admit I was filled with a rush of panic the day of the gas shortage in Dallas last week. The long lines at the gas stations, horrible traffic, people were frantic, my phone was blowing up and as an empath I feel the collective energy around me. Thank God a girlfriend gave me a heads up the night before about the gas sitch and I was able to get to the gas station early that morning, but still sat in quite a line. Instead of staying glued to the news, I tried to stay off social media last weekend and plug in to God even deeper.
Prayer is powerful and if you feel the nudge to begin praying, I would say now is a great time to start. It’s never to late! One thing I didn’t mention in the video is that prayer does not have to be complicated. When I start an entry in my prayer journal, I treat it like a letter to God with “Dear Heavenly Father,…”. Just talk to God as you would a dear friend or the ultimate daddy. Before I give Him my laundry list of needs/wants, I thank Him for all my blessings and answers to prayer no matter how small. You don’t have to be overly eloquent or religious. Just think of it as your most importance chat of the day.
Praying is one of the best things you can do to nix anxiety. When I start giving God a list of gratitude, I immediately feel the anxiety drain from my body and peace rush over me. I do this all throughout the day!! Sometimes I wonder if God laughs because I’m constantly chatting with Him throughout the day. He’s probably thinking, “Girl, you are one Chatty Cathy!” hahaha! If your anxiety is heightened like so many people around the world, I encourage you to begin praying and if you already pray a little bit– AMP IT UP.
After a year of stripping back my skincare routine and on the hunt for the right products, I am happy to share I have struck gold. I met the Laurie Nicoll, the founder of STEMULATION this Spring at the Indie Beauty Expo and loved the sound of her products. Not only are they 87% botanical (plant based) and organic, but the foundation of Stemulation is stem cells. She sent me her entire line and I’ve been using it diligently for about 4 months. Here’s what I think:
Calling all fellow beauty + style junkies. I hope to see you at StyleCon on Sept 23rd. I’m excited to be moderating several insightful panel discussions. Expect to be inspired, empowered and leave with fresh ideas to take into your business, blog and wardrobe! Get tickets before the sell out.
[With my on-camera coaching client and friend, Stefani Threadgill on her CW33 TV taping]
As I was cleaning up my messy desk today, I came across this notecard I had saved a few years ago. It made me think of a powerful experience I had yesterday with a few other ladybosses. The notecard does not say who the writer is, but it could have come directly from me:
“I am that woman. I have a brilliant heart & a beautiful mind.
I am me, a perfectly flawed, beautyFULL work in progress.
I promise to lift women up, have their backs & make it safe for them to be exactly WHO THEY ARE.
I’m on a MISSION to raise the standards for how we treat each other, how we treat ourselves, and how we treat the world.
Every time I look in the mirror I’ll remind myself that I’m not alone, that I’m beautiful, that my voice matters &
that I AM ENOUGH.”
I encourage you to print that out as a reminder. If you have been following SOS for a while, you know this is my mission and it has been a beautiful experience to go out in the field and work more 1×1 with women. To see women in action, pushing past their fears, living this mantra, and stepping into their purpose is mind-blowing.
My on-camera coaching client Stefani is one of the hardest working women I know! She was given her own segment on the hit CW33 show NewsFix and hired me to sharpen her on-camera presence. She is a brilliant sex therapist with a dream to reach more people and save marriages.
With any dream there are many components that go into it. For television, the list is endless from your voice, delivery, content, energy, charisma, makeup, hair, wardrobe and on and on. I have been on a zillion sets with a zillion producers, makeup artists, stylists, camera operators, etc. Just one of those people can have a bad vibe and wreck your flow. That’s an overall life lesson in who you surround yourself with and why I have copied Oprah’s quote and posted it on the right side bar of this blog, “Be responsible for the energy you bring to this space.”
[With MUA Daniela Bell]
Yesterday, Stefani had a big tape day and knocked it out of the park. My amazing makeup artist friend, Daniela- owner of The Makeup Zone– did her makeup so beautifully. The collaborative effort was total perfection! Back to this part of the above quote:
Lift women up, have their backs & make it safe for them to be exactly WHO THEY ARE.
I left the shoot with tears in my eyes. Not just because I was a proud coach, but proud to be part of something so special and witnessing a purpose-driven woman step into her greatness. Regardless of our profession, shouldn’t we all strive to be THAT type of woman? I challenge each of you to be more conscious and intentional about lifting women up. The first step is to stop being so self-absorbed and stop making everything about you. Sorry, not sorry, if that pisses you off. We have enough pressure and things that tear us down. Don’t add to that problem. Help eradicate it.
In my on-camera confidence workshops, I teach women to change their physicality to get out of their heads before stepping on set or on stage to speak. Loved catching Stefani do her “Wonder Woman Pose” before filming started. This works and helps you go in to any stressful situation. I like to flip my head over and shake my hair and always pull my shoulders back and WALK TALL. Do you have a quick physical confidence builder?
[Photo by Frank del Corral. The Romy jumpsuit by Abi Ferrin]
It has been such a blast celebrating my birthday month and sharing my favorite products which all happen to be owned by fabulous ladyboss’s! Big thanks to TeaMi Blends, Stemulation Luxury Skincare, Heroes Beauty and drum roll…..
When I first moved to Dallas, Abi and I were judges together for the Little Black Dress Designer Competition founded by my longtime Houston friend, Jeff Shell- owner of the Neal Hamil Agency. She and I locked in to a heartfelt conversation about our time living in LA and the missions close to our hearts. Hello, kindred spirit! It is an honor to call her friend and to be chosen as one of her Women Of Purpose this year.
Abi Ferrin has a passion for empowering women and has been doing so through her eponymous clothing line for 14 years. As a fashion designer, she has had a perfect platform to inspire women, and as a philanthropist she created her company to support women while dressing them. Read here for more about Abi.
Abi is giving one lucky duck my favorite jumpsuit from her line, The Romy– a $315 value. Make sure you are following me on Instagram @tiffanyhendra to participate. Winner announced next Monday, August 28th on IG. Good Luck!