Happy Sunday Sistas!
Many of you fabulous fashionistas are single and I wanted to take a minute to encourage you and remind you of something VERY important- if you truly desire a healthy relationship with your “soulmate”, then you must remember the best matchmaker is God and one of the most important qualities in a man is that he has a strong Faith. Most of the time, it’s us gals who place our Spirituality as a priority because we are more intuitive, nurturing creatures. Who knows- I’m just guestimating that. We all have different Spiritual beliefs and I respect everyone’s Faith. I am only speaking my Truth and sharing my experiences with the hope that it encourages you. I always had the dream of being married (in the back of my head and hidden deep down in my heart), but like many of us- I had been cheated on and my heart smashed to pieces a few times which altered my views on what a healthy relationship was. I dated the gamut of men from broke screenwriters to narcissistic male models to sports fanatics to grown men who acted like a 12 year old to wealthy businessmen with bad drug habits. Then add my “daddy issues” and it seemed like a far-off-impossible dream that I could ever find….. someone I trusted with all of me (the good stuff AND the baggage), genuine love, a partner who had my back, a cheerleader who nurtured my dreams AND a real man who loved God. Was it possible? Is “he” out there?
Ok, I admit it– I was one of those gals who had the ‘lap over’ relationships. You know what I’m talking about, find a new one before you really leave the last one. Shame on me, I know! I didn’t know how to be alone. Before I could allow “the one” to appear in my life, I had to begin a relationship with “The One”- God. I had to allow myself to be alone (I hated that) and start falling in love with me as well. It was like I was dating God. I know that sounds weird, but it’s true. I actually started a list of what I wanted in my “dream man”. I wrote every little detail down and prayed for him. Yes, I started praying for him before I even met him. I had to become content and comfortable with ME! Being single is actually a liberating and beautiful time of growth. For the first time, I actually liked me, my single status and embraced the excruciating growth period. Then, after about two years of this introspection, praying, believing and lots of “Tiff Time”….God brought along my Knight. So yes, to answer my own question….IT IS POSSIBLE! HE IS OUT THERE!
If you have the dream of sharing your life with the “man of your dreams”, TODAY- I recommend writing down every single characteristic you want in him and begin asking God (the ultimate matchmaker) to prepare you both and bring you together at the RIGHT TIME. My wish for all of you– who desire a healthy, loving relationship– is that you are able to experience how truly remarkable it is to feel real love and support from the PERFECT MATCH that God has for you.
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I love you wrote this. It was meant for me to read it. My husband of 8 years cheated on me. I got a divorce, left my house, friends, work and life. I moved back home with the parents, in therapy and starting over at age 34. So this really helped, thanks 🙂
It’s true about God 🙂
I’m so sorry all that happened. Take this new start as a beautiful time to create the life you dream of! Glad this helped 🙂
wow. this was amazing, i feel like i needed this reminder 🙂