If you have subscribed to SOS, more than likely you are serious about your personal growth and development, spiritual healing, image and purpose in life. Often, I refer to the cocoon and the butterfly as a symbol of beauty, growth and transformation. The butterfly has intrigued me since I was little and it’s meaning became even more powerful to me as I began my journey of transformation. We are all striving to gain our wings.
Wherever you are in your journey today, remember that some people will not accept, appreciate or support your growth. This is unfortunate, but it’s the truth. Do not -under any circumstances – allow their insecurity to keep you from moving forward. Putting in the work takes guts, grit, courage, lady balls, focus and ALL of your will power. Throughout my journey, I’ve experienced a resistance to my growth by others. I’ve been made fun of for being “too airy fairy” or too motivational, cheerleadery and positive. At first, this would cause me to pull back and dummy myself down. No one likes to be made fun of so we go against our authenticity by trying to fit in. This has never worked for me! I had a deep longing to become the best I could be and to overcome the issues in my life. We make ourselves miserable trying to make others feel more comfortable. How stupid is that?!?
NEVER EVER EVER ALLOW ANYONE TO DULL YOUR SHINE!
Ultimately, we dull our shine or clip our wings by allowing others opinions to overrule our own thinking. We need to take responsibility for what we allow. Personal growth and becoming who God created us to be takes work and major cooperation with Him. The work can be very painful at times, but what you gain on the other side is beyond worth it.
SO, WHY WOULD YOU EVER GO BACK?
People only want you to stay broken and in the same place because they aren’t doing their work to move forward. It’s time to limit your time with these types of people and your true friends will celebrate your growth. They will help you claim your wings and even be the wind beneath your wings. I’m so grateful for those friendships. I look at how much my life has changed (for the WAY better) so if being too cheerleadery or positive is weird, then I’m happy to be a total weirdo and I adore those who choose to be weirdos with me.
Have you experienced this? Do you “dummy down” to please others?
Go enjoy the clouds today!
SOAR.
Love, Tiff
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I love this! So true!
Wow! Does this describe what I’ve experienced! Thank You! I’ll Never Ever Go Back!
I have experienced this in my life with what I thought were good friends , made me sooooooo sad .
I have experienced this in my life too. It is nice to know that you are not alone. And… thanks for the reminder Tiff. We must continue to spread our wings and fly. Unfortunately, it is easy sometimes to get caught up in trying to fit in. As if, there is something wrong with the way we are. Thanks again. We all need reminded that it is ok to be who we truly are. You are and inspiration to all!
This just recently happened to me. I have money in the stock market. My husband has been the only one working for the past few years because I suffer from Bipolar Type I Disorder and have been through a major depression the past couple of years.
I LOVE working. I work in the medical field and I love helping others. BUT every time I go to see my financial advisor to go over how my stocks are doing, my portfolio, he starts talking down to me regarding me not having a job. He’s been my dad’s advisor for 25 years so I guess because of this, he feels he has the right to talk to me like a child. I tried once to explain my issues to him, yet ANOTHER person that is not psychologically minded. He doesn’t get it and he never will.
The upshot is, what is going on in this house, this home is between my husband and me. My husband makes good money but I am currently looking again for a full-time job. I want to work, to contribute. I want to feel independent again. My financial advisor actually told me today, acting like he was joking, that he didn’t want to see me again until I had a job. I tried to be jovial and was going along with him, even putting myself down in the process. I figure that there must be something inside me that believes what he is saying, that I’m a useless stump living off her husband, if I allow him to talk down to me like he did today and has in the past.
Today pretty much confirmed that, not only do I have many changes to make before I learn to love myself completely, warts and all but also that it’s time to find a new financial advisor. And my mama just gave me plaque that says “DON’T EVER LET ANYONE DULL YOUR SPARKLE”. Thank you so much for this post. I didn’t have time to read it until today, the perfect day as it turns out. Despite me not having a job I do stay busy. Thank you for always being a bright light. 🙂