LADYBOSSES USING THEIR LADYBALLS! #MondayMotivation

Top with bodice similar H&M / Faux Leather Pants H&M / Patent Leather Heels DSW 

 

There is nothing that lights me up more than seeing women step out of their comfort zone and use their ladyballs!  This past weekend I hosted another ladyboss only on-camera workshop and am still on a happy high. Like every woman, each of the beauties in the photo above has an amazing story and I was honored to experience their vulnerability, heart, humor, wisdom, gifts and talents.

Doing something that scares you is what the true definition of courage is. When you push past the fear and do it anyway, you expand yourself and your abilities. When we shrink back, we stay small. Period.  After coaching and hosting workshops since moving to Dallas, I see women revert to their small stance of shoulders rolled forward and hands clenched in front of them. I teach my clients to strike a power pose before any event, speaking engagement or on-camera appearance. Women transform right before my eyes with this exercise!

My challenge and motivation for this week is to be aware of situations that make you want to shrink. Stop, acknowledge it and immediately change up your physicality by doing the Wonder Woman pose and saying positive affirmations over yourself.  (I get it.. some of you just can’t seem to wrap your brain around affirmations or think it’s silly, but I promise you- the way you speak to yourself is crucial. I would NOT be where I am today without power words and affirmations!!) Just try it. What could it hurt.

POWER POSE: 

  • Take a long deep breath.
  • Get grounded and create a wide stance with your legs.
  • Pull your shoulders back.
  • Hands on hips.
  • Smile.

Affirm to yourself that you are capable, strong and courageous. Get a powerful list of “I Am’s”. I am a Warrior Princess! (Who was that.. Zena?)  I am a badass! I am intelligent, talented and beautiful! I am a world changer! I am ________________!  Leave a comment and fill in the blank.

 

 

For some of my clients,  doing something fun like flipping their hair, dancing, doing jumping jacks helps them. Whatever it is to shake it up to get out of your head!

 

Special shout out + thanks to the fabulous Whitney Kutch (stunning blonde making the peace sign) for her help in making this day a total success. Whit- I appreciate your crazy beautiful self, your generous heart to serve and uplift everyone around you! Love you! 

 

Grab that imaginary cape and go slay this week.

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Make May A {{may}}zing!

Hello Precious Peacocks!

Join me in welcoming the month of May!  Woohoo!  Summer is around the corner.  I trust you all had a beautiful April.  I’ve been busy setting up the new studio, did my very first speaking engagements, took the most fabulous girls trip and started a new volunteer program teaching a small group of homeless pregnant women!  I swear, the minute I wrote that blog about getting out of your CZ (comfort zone) last month- opportunities opened up for me to take my own advice.  Funny how that works!   Getting out of your CZ awakens so many different emotions ranging from excitement to anxiety to pure bliss.  Your spirit is truly IGNITED!  Don’t get me wrong–  I have been to the point several times this month where I wanted to literally “crap my pants” and had to just face the fear, put on my imaginary Depends Underwear and GO FOR IT!   It’s very liberating and I highly recommend it! 

Join me for the month of May- I challenge us all to START making the necessary tweaks to our life to make it a whole lot more AMAZING!  My dear girlfriend Julianna Geldien shared a fantastic “to-do” list of 31 positive things we can all do to IGNITE THAT SPARK and I had to pass it along to you!   Are you ready…..

  1. Start spending time with the right people. (stop hanging with the negative Nelly’s)
  2. Start facing your problems head on.
  3. Start being honest with yourself about everything.
  4. Start making your own happiness a priority. (being a martyr is not pretty)
  5. Start being yourself- genuinely. (stop caring what other people think about you)
  6. Start noticing and living in the present.
  7. Start valuing the lessons your mistakes teach you.
  8. Start being more polite to yourself.
  9. Start enjoying the things you already have. (you’ll get more of it)
  10. Start creating your own happiness. (happiness is inside of all of us- we just need to unleash it)
  11. Start giving your ideas and dreams a chance. (you are preggars with possibilities- don’t abort your dreams before their you give them a chance to grow)
  12. Start believing that you’re ready for the next step. (just step out and go for it..even if it’s a baby step)
  13. Start entering new relationships for the right reasons.
  14. Start giving new people you meet a chance.
  15. Start learning from others and appreciating others gifts. (let go of pride + ego)
  16. Start cheering for others victories.
  17. Start looking for the silver lining in tough situations. (there’s a lesson in every circumstance)
  18. Start forgiving yourself and others.
  19. Start helping others and get your mind off yourself. ( this is the best natural anti-depressant)
  20. Start listening to your inner voice. (it will always take care of you)
  21. Start being attentive to your stress level and take short breaks.
  22. Start noticing the beauty of small moments. (when you get a grin from a baby)
  23. Start accepting things when they are less than perfect.
  24. Start working toward your goals and dreams every single day.
  25. Start being more open about how you feel. (remove the mask and keep it real)
  26. Start taking full accountability for your own life. (stop the blame game)
  27. Start actively nurturing your most important relationships.
  28. Start investing your energy in the things you can control. (stop wasting time on things beyond your control)
  29. Start focusing on the possibility of positive outcomes.
  30. Start realizing your unique gifts + talents. (stop comparing yourself to others and what they can do)
  31. Start noticing how wealthy you are RIGHT NOW. (you are so blessed)

Let’s all focus on one thing per day and regroup on May 31st to assess any changes, blocks or shifts that happened. So exciting!

Get ready for your light to shine brighter than ever! 

I am BEYOND excited to start shooting webisodes again and thank you for hanging in there with me during this transition!  I sense everything is going to a new level and I look forward to this next chapter with you all.  Don’t hesitate to share any topics you want to see!  I love getting ideas and feedback.

Remember, I’m all about giving you the tips to help you look good on the outside as well as “inner beauty” tips to help you feel good on the inside !  True, genuine and lasting beauty requires the dual-approach.  We can’t focus only on our outer appearance and neglect our spirit! Cheers to keeping it balanced and I have made it my mission to help you do so.

{{Shine On}}

With tons of love, Tiff

P.S.  Do your girlfriends a favor and invite them to join you on making the month of May simply AMAZING!  Share it, Follow it, Tweet it, Comment on it!

P.S.S. Are you on Pinterest?  How much fun is that thing!?!  It’s such a visually stimulating creative outlet.  Follow me: http://pinterest.com/sanctuarystyle

BEYOND YOUR COMFORT ZONE

Hey Butterflies,

I’m sending some hippie love from the road!  After an insanely busy and exciting 8 months, my hubby and I packed up the Jeep and decided to take a road trip. Wide open spaces refuel my soul and unlock any stagnant creativity!  When my creativity is stifled,  it feels like my life is airing in black & white instead of vivid color.  This alerts me that it’s time to STEP OUT!  Do something different!  Shake things up!  What helps unlock your creativity? Walking on the beach, singing, dancing, scuba diving, horseback riding?   You may not realize it, but a healthy flow of creativity is something we all need in many areas of our lives…on a daily basis!  We may need it on our jobs (web designer, makeup artist, stylist, florist, writer, etc) and to create yummy meals for our families every night and as a way of expressing ourselves with our fashion sense.  It is imperative that we  all keep our creative juices flowing by  GETTING OUT OF OUR COMFORT ZONE ON A REGULAR BASIS! 

Do you have difficulty getting out of your CZ?  Does it make you feel anxious?  Do you truly desire to live beyond your CZ, but just as you are about to step out, you shrink back?  Do you have one voice in your head saying “GO FOR IT GIRL” and another voice saying “IT’S TOO HARD”?  It’s a funny thing, that old comfort zone-– because in the long run, it’s really not that comfortable at all.  It becomes a painful and depressing, self-imposed prison!   Staying in your CZ will rob you of amazing opportunities, potential relationships, seeing the world and unlocking new passions you may never knew you had! 

TAKE THE LIMITS OFF + STEP BEYOND YOUR CZ!   Spring, a time of rebirth, is the perfect time to try new things!  Here’s a few strategies I remind myself of when I feel like it’s time to make some changes and GO BEYOND!

    • THINK BIGGER!  If you think small, you achieve little.  Huge risk, Huge reward!
    • EXPAND YOUR VISION!  Look beyond what’s right in front of your face everyday!
    • TAKE ON NEW CHALLENGES! This builds confidence and forces you to grow!
    • PUSH THE BOUNDARIES! Your CZ isn’t the Great Wall of China. It’s just in your mind and you can do anything you set your mind to!
    • KARATE KICK YOUR FEARS!  Be like a warrior and kick the crap out of your fears instead of the other way around!
    • DON’T LET ANYTHING OR ANYONE STOP YOU!  Nuff said.
    • TAKE BABY STEPS!  This helps you stay grounded.  Stepping out can cause you to feel off kilter. Taking it slow will keep you balanced.
    • GET OFF THE HAMSTER WHEEL!  Being in your CZ can make you feel like you’re going in circles and getting nowhere!
    • STOP MAKING EXCUSES!  Excuses are useless!
    • JUST DO IT!  Once you make up your mind to do something, just get out there and do it already!
Our thoughts are powerful.  We can talk ourselves into, doing or NOT doing, anything. You may say, “I don’t have the money to do this or that or I just don’t have the time”, trust me- I have used these exact excuses– and remember, excuses are useless!   They serve no purpose except for keeping you from truly enjoying ALL that life has to offer!   I have learned to actually feel comfortable living outside my CZ.  It’s uncomfortable for me to stay in the same old, same old. 
BUST A MOVE, STEP OUT, CLIMB OVER, CUT THE CHORD and get out there and rock it!

I would love to hear your 2- cents on this subject!

Do you have specific strategies to help get you out of your CZ?  

Please share!

I loved this!  Had to share from Oprah Winfrey: “As you walk into what you fear, know that you already have the enduring power you’re asking for—then say “Thank you,” because you understand your deepest struggle will produce your greatest strength”.

Read more: http://www.oprah.com/omagazine/What-Oprah-Knows-for-Sure-About-Inner-Strength#ixzz1p1ECjzOz

Sharing the beauty+style+inspiration,

Tiff

P.S.  Ok, I’m officially addicted to Pinterest!  Wow, talk about an activity to keep the creativity flowing.  Follow me: http://pinterest.com/sanctuarystyle