Category Archives: Confidence Building

LADYBOSSES USING THEIR LADYBALLS! #MondayMotivation

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There is nothing that lights me up more than seeing women step out of their comfort zone and use their ladyballs!  This past weekend I hosted another ladyboss only on-camera workshop and am still on a happy high. Like every woman, each of the beauties in the photo above has an amazing story and I was honored to experience their vulnerability, heart, humor, wisdom, gifts and talents.

Doing something that scares you is what the true definition of courage is. When you push past the fear and do it anyway, you expand yourself and your abilities. When we shrink back, we stay small. Period.  After coaching and hosting workshops since moving to Dallas, I see women revert to their small stance of shoulders rolled forward and hands clenched in front of them. I teach my clients to strike a power pose before any event, speaking engagement or on-camera appearance. Women transform right before my eyes with this exercise!

My challenge and motivation for this week is to be aware of situations that make you want to shrink. Stop, acknowledge it and immediately change up your physicality by doing the Wonder Woman pose and saying positive affirmations over yourself.  (I get it.. some of you just can’t seem to wrap your brain around affirmations or think it’s silly, but I promise you- the way you speak to yourself is crucial. I would NOT be where I am today without power words and affirmations!!) Just try it. What could it hurt.

POWER POSE: 

  • Take a long deep breath.
  • Get grounded and create a wide stance with your legs.
  • Pull your shoulders back.
  • Hands on hips.
  • Smile.

Affirm to yourself that you are capable, strong and courageous. Get a powerful list of “I Am’s”. I am a Warrior Princess! (Who was that.. Zena?)  I am a badass! I am intelligent, talented and beautiful! I am a world changer! I am ________________!  Leave a comment and fill in the blank.

 

 

For some of my clients,  doing something fun like flipping their hair, dancing, doing jumping jacks helps them. Whatever it is to shake it up to get out of your head!

 

Special shout out + thanks to the fabulous Whitney Kutch (stunning blonde making the peace sign) for her help in making this day a total success. Whit- I appreciate your crazy beautiful self, your generous heart to serve and uplift everyone around you! Love you! 

 

Grab that imaginary cape and go slay this week.

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Shut Up + Give A Woman Her Moment! || Candid Video

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Happy Sunday Sista!

This Instagram story has struck a chord and caused some panties to get in a wad so I wanted to share it here.

I am all about igniting change so here ya go.

In my robe, no makeup with morning crusties in my eyes so no judgement, k.

I’ve had so many women comment and message me that they accept the challenge and admit they are guilty of this.

What about you?
Do tell..

 

 

 

 

HEY TIFF, WHAT IS STYLECON?

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You’ve probably seen all my posts on social media about StyleCon and I’m getting more and more messages asking exactly what it is. This past Spring, I was introduced to the fabulous Irene Martino, co-founder of the style conference called StyleCon. She has massive success with it in Cali and decided to branch out and bring it to DFW. We’re so glad she did!  When Irene shared with me her vision for this year’s theme, The Beauty Of Empowerment, I immediately jumped on board. It has also been part of my vision for SOS to unite with larger platforms like conferences, workshops and through speaking engagements. StyleCon is all of those in one event! Yeehaw!

WILL I SEE YOU THIS SATURDAY?

It’s an honor to co-host the stage with YouTube sensation, Jeanine Amapola and moderate several insightful discussions with some of DFW’s most influential in the areas of fashion, beauty, entrepreneurship, relationships and personal style.  Several of my close friends will be part of this event making it extra special. I will be hosting the panels in the first part of the day. Check out the this spectacular lineup:
Ladyboss, Mama & TV Personality, Catherine Lowe is our keynote speaker!
StyleCon brings together a community of fashion and beauty lovers, digital influencers, and style and tastemakers with brands to engage, discuss, follow and influence. Top stylists and makeup artists will showcase their talents with complimentary pamper stations including hair, makeup, lashes, and nails.
The Beauty of Empowerment is this year’s theme on the StyleStage with keynote speakers, blogger panels, and style and fashion presentations.
Network with like-minded individuals while listening to inspirational entrepreneurs in the style business.
My personal intention for StyleCon is for every woman who walks through the door to leave walking a bit taller, empowered with nuggets of wisdom, and inspired to elevate her life, her brand and her influence. 
Get your tickets HERE before it sells out!
StyleCon 2017 - Brands + Influencers + Millennials

You Are THAT Woman.

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[With my on-camera coaching client and friend, Stefani Threadgill on her CW33 TV  taping]

 

Hey Sista,

As I was cleaning up my messy desk today, I came across this notecard I had saved a few years ago. It made me think of a powerful experience I had yesterday with a few other ladybosses. The notecard does not say who the writer is, but it could have come directly from me:

 

“I am that woman. I have a brilliant heart & a beautiful mind.

I am me, a perfectly flawed, beautyFULL work in progress.

I promise to lift women up, have their backs & make it safe for them to be exactly WHO THEY ARE. 

I’m on a MISSION to raise the standards for how we treat each other, how we treat ourselves, and how we treat the world. 

Every time I look in the mirror I’ll remind myself that I’m not alone, that I’m beautiful, that my voice matters & 

that I AM ENOUGH.” 

 

I encourage you to print that out as a reminder. If you have been following SOS for a while, you know this is my mission and it has been a beautiful experience to go out in the field and work more 1×1 with women. To see women in action, pushing past their fears, living this mantra, and stepping into their purpose is mind-blowing.

My on-camera coaching client Stefani is one of the hardest working women I know! She was given her own segment on the hit CW33 show NewsFix and hired me to sharpen her on-camera presence. She is a brilliant sex therapist with a dream to reach more people and save marriages.

With any dream there are many components that go into it. For television, the list is endless from your voice, delivery, content, energy, charisma, makeup, hair, wardrobe and on and on. I have been on a zillion sets with a zillion producers, makeup artists, stylists, camera operators, etc. Just one of those people can have a bad vibe and wreck your flow. That’s an overall life lesson in who you surround yourself with and why I have copied Oprah’s quote and posted it on the right side bar of this blog, “Be responsible for the energy you bring to this space.” 

 

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Yesterday, Stefani had a big tape day and knocked it out of the park. My amazing makeup artist friend, Daniela- owner of The Makeup Zone– did her makeup so beautifully. The collaborative effort was total perfection! Back to this part of the above quote:

Lift women up, have their backs & make it safe for them to be exactly WHO THEY ARE.

I left the shoot with tears in my eyes. Not just because I was a proud coach, but proud to be part of something so special and witnessing a purpose-driven woman step into her greatness. Regardless of our profession, shouldn’t we all strive to be THAT type of woman?  I challenge each of you to be more conscious and intentional about lifting  women up. The first step is to stop being so self-absorbed and stop making everything about you. Sorry, not sorry, if that pisses you off. We have enough pressure and things that tear us down. Don’t add to that problem. Help eradicate it.

 

 

In my on-camera confidence workshops, I teach women to change their physicality to get out of their heads before stepping on set or on stage to speak. Loved catching Stefani do her “Wonder Woman Pose” before filming started. This works and helps you go in to any stressful situation. I like to flip my head over and shake my hair and always pull my shoulders back and WALK TALL. Do you have a quick physical confidence builder?

 

Make it a daily habit to lift, compliment, hug, smile and empower other women.
GROUP FIST PUMP!

 

A BOOTIE KICKING 6 MONTHS

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Can you believe we are half way through 2017?  It’s exciting because we have 6 more months to kick some serious bootie by December.  Last year was a challenging time for many of us, but I’m sensing this year is a time of rising above, gaining momentum and moving on.

HOW ABOUT YOU?

Are there a few things on your goal list that you haven’t checked off yet? Are you struggling with a few intentions you’ve set? What is holding you back? Are you making choices out of fear or love? Do you play small? 

For the remainder of the year, I challenge us all to be limitless in our thinking and get out of our comfort zone:

    • THINK BIGGER!  If you think small, you achieve little.  Huge risk, Huge reward.
    • EXPAND YOUR VISION!  Look beyond what’s right in front of your face everyday.
    • TAKE ON NEW CHALLENGES! This builds confidence and forces you to grow.
    • PUSH THE BOUNDARIES! Your comfort zone isn’t the Great Wall of China. It’s just in your mind and you can do anything you set your mind to.
    • KARATE KICK YOUR FEARS!  Be like a warrior and kick the crap out of your fears instead of the other way around.
    • DON’T LET ANYTHING OR ANYONE STOP YOU!  Nuff said.
    • TAKE BABY STEPS!  This helps you stay grounded.  Stepping out can cause you to feel off kilter. Taking it slow will keep you balanced.
    • GET OFF THE HAMSTER WHEEL!  Being in your comfort zone can make you feel like you’re going in circles and getting nowhere.
    • STOP MAKING EXCUSES!  Excuses are useless.
    • JUST DO IT!  Once you make up your mind to do something, just get out there and do it already.
Our thoughts are powerful.  We can talk ourselves into, doing or NOT doing, anything. You may say, “I don’t have the money to do this or that or I just don’t have the time”, and trust me- I have used those excuses, but remember, excuses are useless!   They serve no purpose except for keeping you from truly enjoying ALL that life has to offer!   I have learned to feel comfortable being uncomfortable living outside my comfort zone.  Ultimately, it is more uncomfortable for us to stay in the same old, same old.
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Group hug and a high five to all of you wise girls who know you are limitless!

 

P.S. There is one spot available in August for my private on-camera confidence coaching bootcamps. Go here for details. Rates and packages will change in the Fall.

 

DO THE WONDER WOMAN SPIN [Repost]

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[Rarely do I have time to go back and browse through my blog posts, but I’m glad I stumbled (well, let’s keep it real.. God led me to) this post from June 1, 2013. June is always special to me because it marks the halfway point of the year and I love to pause and reflect on how the year is unfolding. Also interesting– this week marked the 3 year anniversary of Maya Angelou’s passing. I pray you take some time to reflect and get even more intentional about how you  want to rest of 2017 to play out.] 

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Hey Wonder Woman!

Last week I watched an episode of Oprah’s Super Soul Sunday with Maya Angelou.  Have you seen it? Her story of courage, triumph, bravery and success has been resonating with me all week.  In this interview with Oprah, Maya spoke of the concept of courage being the foundation of all other virtues (above quote) so it forced me to look inward at my own level of courage.  Often throughout my life, I have been courageous and brave, but there are also many times I have tucked my tail between my legs and chose to shrink back.  We all have a certain level of courage, but what is that special ingredient that gives us that little bit extra tenacity to tap into our inner Wonder Woman and push forward instead of shrinking back?  Can you think of a time right now when you consciously chose to dig deeper and dust off your red + gold bustier?  It’s a great exercise to reflect on those moments as a reminder for the next time we are tempted to be a coward instead of courageous.

Courage is the ability to confront fear, pain, danger, uncertainty or intimidation.

I takes courage to walk down the aisle and make the vow. It takes courage to wake up everyday and raise your child.  It takes courage to follow your dreams.  It takes courage to walk away from a toxic relationship.  It takes courage to speak your truth. It takes courage not to conform.  It takes courage to let go of your past. So, yes– I definitely believe in Ms. Angelou’s concept that it takes courage to practice all the other virtues consistently.  Cheers to all of us having more consistent courage this week, this month, this year.  Even if you have to fake-it-till-ya-make it.  You can be courageous even when you don’t feel like.  I love John Wayne’s quote, “Courage is being scared and saddling up anyway”. Go lock yourself in the bathroom and do the Wonder Woman spin if it will help….

THIS WEEK I WILL:

  1. Reflect on my many courageous moments.
  2. Dig deeper when I feel my wimpy self taking over.
  3. Not shrink back.
  4. Dust off my imaginary red + gold bustier.
  5. Remember God is always on my side.
  6. Be brave!
  7. Never ever ever ever give up.
  8. Not allow anyone to intimidate me.
  9. Face my fears head on.
  10. Pray to have more courage.
  11. Do the right thing.
  12. Put my shoulders back + WALK TALL!

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Are you excited to see what new experiences and opportunities June will bring?  Let’s all focus on being more courageous than we’ve ever been.
I would love to hear your comments and two-cents on this topic even if it ticked you off and you are sick + tired of trying to put on your imaginary cape! 
Please like, share, tweet this post with your friends and share the affirmations.

WHO YOU ARE: A Message To All Women [Video]

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Happy FriYAY!

All week, I have stumbled upon blessing after blessing. It’s like God’s little winks letting us know we are on the right track. I just love how He does that! I call it living in “flow”.  This morning someone sent me this AHHHHH-mazing video and of course, I had to share it with all of you. As a confidence builder, affirmation addict (hence, #Tiffirmations) and advocate for empowering women to live their most authentic life– this video gave me chills, brought tears to my eyes and fueled me up for the day ahead. Please do yourself a favor and watch it, but not only watch it allow the message to sink down into your spirit.

 

 

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P.S. Will I see you at Stix & Brix on March 25th? I hope so! There’s still a few tickets available HERE!

#MondayMotivation || To Raise Brave Girls, Encourage Adventure

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Gutsy girls skateboard, climb trees, clamber around, fall down, scrape their knees, get right back up — and grow up to be BRAVE WOMEN.  Learn how to spark a little productive risk-taking and raise confident girls with stories and advice from firefighter, paraglider and all-around adventurer Caroline Paul.

If you are raising daughters, mentoring young girls or need to be a braver woman… WATCH THIS: 

 

I just spent the most magical two weeks in California (another blog to come later) and my younger sister, Natalie and I sat on the beach one gorgeous evening reminiscing about our tomboy upbringing. Can I just tell you how grateful I am that our parents embraced ALL the multifaceted sides of our personalities?!? We were pretty, but brave little tomboys who had to wear shorts underneath our dresses on Sunday because we would not let a dress stop us from the chance to climb the monkey bars or race that little boy across the church parking lot.

One day we wanted to…

go muddin’ in the ditches,

learn piano the next,

climb trees after that,

race bicycles up and down the street,

play basketball,

try out for cheerleader,

perform all the songs to Grease for the family,

go on mission trips,

summer camp,

swim in the horse trough,

build a Barbie city that covered my entire bedroom floor,

my bad New Waver phase and Flock of Seagulls haircut, (Lawdy, Lawd!!)

beauty pageants, (then with my Belinda Carlisle haircut)

and on and on and on.

 

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Back then there were no screens to consume our time except for the television screen. We didn’t care much about TV except for watching reruns of Happy Days, Three’s Company, and Good Times. Oh wait, I did love American Bandstand on Saturday mornings. Anyone else?  We loved playing outside! We loved getting sweaty! We loved sports! We truly thought we could do everything the boys did. Although, I did hate it when my dad made us help with the yard work! But, even that toughen us up and taught us not be afraid to use our hands and get a bit dirty. I never realized- until I saw the above TED Talk by Caroline Paul this morning- that all of that freedom to express our “gutsiness” would make such a huge difference in our life as women.

Thank you mom and dad for allowing us to be little adventurous explorers.

Natalie went all over the world as a teenager doing mission work and almost won Survivor: Micronesia in 2008. Not as adventurous, but still gutsy- I began modeling internationally at 17. I climbed down a Bavarian alp and rode a mountain bike from Germany to Austria. (Talk about an achy bootie…think about doing spin class for 8 hours! OUCH!) Flew on an Ultralight, which is basically a go cart with flimsy canvas wings, in Mexico. Slept in a rat infested cabin in Southern Sudan. Drove a Lamborghini up the PCH and got it to 160 MPH. Yeehaw! I should have been Danica Patrick. Just sayin’. Snorkeled off the coast of Africa in the Seychelle Islands and the Great Barrier Reef off the coast of Belize. Sang karaoke in Rappongi, the nightlight district of Tokyo. Lived in Milan, Italy for a Summer and rode a 10-speed to all my castings so I could see the city instead of being underground in the subway. Flown in a helicopter over the Great Ocean Road. Heck, moving to LA where I knew no one, took guts and independence.  Seriously, driving around LA the past 2 weeks is gutsy. It’s like a bunch of ants texting while their trying to drive. Now I remember why my adrenal glands were shot from living there. Whew! #RoadRageOnCrack

Has life dulled your gutsiness? Life can make us fearful. I get it. Life can make us whimpy. I get it. Especially, the world we’re living in today, but SCREW THAT! Today, more than ever, we need to raise brave girls and be examples of brave women for them. The conversation with my sister sitting on the beach last week, then stumbling across this TED Talk was no coincidence. I’m here to encourage you to remember how brave you are. I love the ripple effect we can cause for good.

  • Take a moment to reminisce on all the gutsy things you’ve done throughout your life. This will build confidence.
  • If you chickened out on many things you wished you had done, start a list.
  • Get busy being braver than ever and get out there. Check off the list. I want to hear about it!

We become more brave by exercising our bravery. I don’t think I’ve ever made a list of all the cool and somewhat crazy things I’ve done in my life. My confidence and bravery is officially built up and sharpened. Never let anyone or anything, especially yourself, dull your gutsy, girlfriend. 

 

Love to hear your thoughts or a specific gutsy moment you had. 

Share. Comment. Like. You know the drill.

 

EGO= Edging God Out [Video]

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Did you get your ticket yet?

Hope to see you at the Stix & Brix Fundraiser to help build 10 homes in DFW for sex trafficked victims.

Get your tickets here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/stix-brix-fundraiser-benefiting-treasured-vessels-foundation-tickets-27444134144?aff=es2

HAPPY NEW YEAR: 17 Empowering Quotes for 2017

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Hey Fellow Dream Chasers!

Have you started working on your goals and vision board yet? Over the past few weeks, I’ve set aside time to work on mine. It’s such a fun process! I have always loved empowering and inspiring quotes and love adding special ones to my vision board that are in alignment with my goals. Several jumped out at me that I wanted to share with you:

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Which quote hit home with you the most?

Make sure to share this inspiration with your girlfriends.

I highly recommend making an “empowerment pow wow” with a trusted friend who is a fellow dream chaser in the 1st few weeks of the new year. What you do in the beginning of the year sets the tone for the rest of your year. Share your highlights of 2016 and your dreams/goals/vision for 2017. Make sure not to share big dreams with small minded people who try to keep you in their small box! Choose a friend who is able to see gifts in you that you may not see for yourself, who is an encourager…not a discourager and who will be a lifter of your dreams throughout the year.

Another exercise I’m starting this new year is to imagine yourself on new year’s eve 2017. How does it feel? We are actually chasing after the feeling of joy, satisfaction, achievement and success. This will help ignite exactly what goals to set today.

“Go girl! The world is waiting for your special brand of awesomeness. Go take charge of your calling!” ~Lysa Terkeurst The Best Yes

 

HAPPY 2017!

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