WHO YOU ARE: A Message To All Women [Video]

Happy FriYAY!

All week, I have stumbled upon blessing after blessing. It’s like God’s little winks letting us know we are on the right track. I just love how He does that! I call it living in “flow”.  This morning someone sent me this AHHHHH-mazing video and of course, I had to share it with all of you. As a confidence builder, affirmation addict (hence, #Tiffirmations) and advocate for empowering women to live their most authentic life– this video gave me chills, brought tears to my eyes and fueled me up for the day ahead. Please do yourself a favor and watch it, but not only watch it allow the message to sink down into your spirit.

 

 

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P.S. Will I see you at Stix & Brix on March 25th? I hope so! There’s still a few tickets available HERE!

#MondayMotivation || To Raise Brave Girls, Encourage Adventure

Gutsy girls skateboard, climb trees, clamber around, fall down, scrape their knees, get right back up — and grow up to be BRAVE WOMEN.  Learn how to spark a little productive risk-taking and raise confident girls with stories and advice from firefighter, paraglider and all-around adventurer Caroline Paul.

If you are raising daughters, mentoring young girls or need to be a braver woman… WATCH THIS: 

 

I just spent the most magical two weeks in California (another blog to come later) and my younger sister, Natalie and I sat on the beach one gorgeous evening reminiscing about our tomboy upbringing. Can I just tell you how grateful I am that our parents embraced ALL the multifaceted sides of our personalities?!? We were pretty, but brave little tomboys who had to wear shorts underneath our dresses on Sunday because we would not let a dress stop us from the chance to climb the monkey bars or race that little boy across the church parking lot.

One day we wanted to…

go muddin’ in the ditches,

learn piano the next,

climb trees after that,

race bicycles up and down the street,

play basketball,

try out for cheerleader,

perform all the songs to Grease for the family,

go on mission trips,

summer camp,

swim in the horse trough,

build a Barbie city that covered my entire bedroom floor,

my bad New Waver phase and Flock of Seagulls haircut, (Lawdy, Lawd!!)

beauty pageants, (then with my Belinda Carlisle haircut)

and on and on and on.

 

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Back then there were no screens to consume our time except for the television screen. We didn’t care much about TV except for watching reruns of Happy Days, Three’s Company, and Good Times. Oh wait, I did love American Bandstand on Saturday mornings. Anyone else?  We loved playing outside! We loved getting sweaty! We loved sports! We truly thought we could do everything the boys did. Although, I did hate it when my dad made us help with the yard work! But, even that toughen us up and taught us not be afraid to use our hands and get a bit dirty. I never realized- until I saw the above TED Talk by Caroline Paul this morning- that all of that freedom to express our “gutsiness” would make such a huge difference in our life as women.

Thank you mom and dad for allowing us to be little adventurous explorers.

Natalie went all over the world as a teenager doing mission work and almost won Survivor: Micronesia in 2008. Not as adventurous, but still gutsy- I began modeling internationally at 17. I climbed down a Bavarian alp and rode a mountain bike from Germany to Austria. (Talk about an achy bootie…think about doing spin class for 8 hours! OUCH!) Flew on an Ultralight, which is basically a go cart with flimsy canvas wings, in Mexico. Slept in a rat infested cabin in Southern Sudan. Drove a Lamborghini up the PCH and got it to 160 MPH. Yeehaw! I should have been Danica Patrick. Just sayin’. Snorkeled off the coast of Africa in the Seychelle Islands and the Great Barrier Reef off the coast of Belize. Sang karaoke in Rappongi, the nightlight district of Tokyo. Lived in Milan, Italy for a Summer and rode a 10-speed to all my castings so I could see the city instead of being underground in the subway. Flown in a helicopter over the Great Ocean Road. Heck, moving to LA where I knew no one, took guts and independence.  Seriously, driving around LA the past 2 weeks is gutsy. It’s like a bunch of ants texting while their trying to drive. Now I remember why my adrenal glands were shot from living there. Whew! #RoadRageOnCrack

Has life dulled your gutsiness? Life can make us fearful. I get it. Life can make us whimpy. I get it. Especially, the world we’re living in today, but SCREW THAT! Today, more than ever, we need to raise brave girls and be examples of brave women for them. The conversation with my sister sitting on the beach last week, then stumbling across this TED Talk was no coincidence. I’m here to encourage you to remember how brave you are. I love the ripple effect we can cause for good.

  • Take a moment to reminisce on all the gutsy things you’ve done throughout your life. This will build confidence.
  • If you chickened out on many things you wished you had done, start a list.
  • Get busy being braver than ever and get out there. Check off the list. I want to hear about it!

We become more brave by exercising our bravery. I don’t think I’ve ever made a list of all the cool and somewhat crazy things I’ve done in my life. My confidence and bravery is officially built up and sharpened. Never let anyone or anything, especially yourself, dull your gutsy, girlfriend. 

 

Love to hear your thoughts or a specific gutsy moment you had. 

Share. Comment. Like. You know the drill.

 

EGO= Edging God Out [Video]

 

 

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HAPPY NEW YEAR: 17 Empowering Quotes for 2017

Hey Fellow Dream Chasers!

Have you started working on your goals and vision board yet? Over the past few weeks, I’ve set aside time to work on mine. It’s such a fun process! I have always loved empowering and inspiring quotes and love adding special ones to my vision board that are in alignment with my goals. Several jumped out at me that I wanted to share with you:

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Which quote hit home with you the most?

Make sure to share this inspiration with your girlfriends.

I highly recommend making an “empowerment pow wow” with a trusted friend who is a fellow dream chaser in the 1st few weeks of the new year. What you do in the beginning of the year sets the tone for the rest of your year. Share your highlights of 2016 and your dreams/goals/vision for 2017. Make sure not to share big dreams with small minded people who try to keep you in their small box! Choose a friend who is able to see gifts in you that you may not see for yourself, who is an encourager…not a discourager and who will be a lifter of your dreams throughout the year.

Another exercise I’m starting this new year is to imagine yourself on new year’s eve 2017. How does it feel? We are actually chasing after the feeling of joy, satisfaction, achievement and success. This will help ignite exactly what goals to set today.

“Go girl! The world is waiting for your special brand of awesomeness. Go take charge of your calling!” ~Lysa Terkeurst The Best Yes

 

HAPPY 2017!

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WHAT’S FEEDING YOU?

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Hey SOS Sista,

One of the things I love the most about Instagram is coming across thought-provoking quotes and messages. Social Media– if used properly– can be a great tool for your personal development and spiritual growth. (So be conscious of who you follow!!) A few days ago, the above quote really caught my attention. It made me stop and ponder on what I’ve been feeding on this year. Soul sucking or soul enriching food? It’s the perfect time of the year for us all to think about this.

I’ve mentioned how much I love this time of the year because I take time to cocoon. Being a person who is easily distracted, I learned what steps I must take to get focused. Cocooning is a wonderful time for to catch up on reading inspiring books and watching motivational videos. I know you busy mama’s are time restricted especially around the holidays so try taking small chunks to cocoon. Maybe an hour before the kids get up or an hour after they go to bed. It’s vital to our growth that we take time away from meaningless distractions, people who drain us and get focused on the changes we need to make. That truly is the core of SOS! You cannot depend on that once a week sermon you hear on Sunday mornings. If you deeply desire to make hardcore and lasting changes— it takes effort, time and laser-beamed focus.

What have you been feeding yourself in 2016? 

FEED: verb

  1. to give food to

  2. to furnish something essential to the development, sustenance, maintenance, or operation of feeds the mind>

Will you let another year go by feeding your mind and spirit junk food?  2017 is right around the corner and I know you have those goals to set, fears to overcome and a breakthrough around the corner.

Are you ready?
Are you dragging your feet?
Are you allowing insecurity and fear to lead the way? 

I can help you get ready.

I can help you get motivated.

I can help you build more confidence!

Do not allow more time to go by and you get to mid 2017 and still have not made changes. Consider me you spiritual dietician. Let’s get you on a healthy spiritual diet. 

Stop letting yourself down and make 2017 the best ever!

To make it easier on you to take that step forward, I’m offering a holiday special on private sessions. Buy one private session and get one session. ($300 Value for $150) Let’s work together for 2 hours for the price of 1 hour. 

Special offer ends Dec 15, 2017.
Sessions must be used by March 31, 2017. 

Skype sessions available for out of towners.

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Look forward to helping you shine & soar!

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GET OFF YOUR LAZY BOOTIE: 2 Steps To Changing Habits

 

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“Your beliefs become your thoughts, 
Your thoughts become your words,
Your words become your actions,
Your actions become your habits, 
Your habits become your values, 
Your values become your destiny.” 

― Mahatma Gandhi

 

Hey Hey Beautiful!

It’s the first day of December and I’ve started my end-of-year ritual of reflection and introspection. With exactly 30 days left in 2016 and 2017 around the corner, it’s easy to go into freak out mode because we may have missed the mark and didn’t achieve all that we had planned for the year. I admit, I felt a mini panic coming on yesterday so I forced myself to reflect on how much I did achieve. It’s all about what you focus on! 2016 was a BIG year for my husband and I, but how easily do we focus on what we didn’t get done. Today, I awoke with a better perspective and look forward to the new opportunities 2017 will offer.

Over the next month, I challenge you to reflect on how the past year turned out, before jumping into something new.

Think about this… your life this past year has been a result of all of your habits, both good and bad. (OUCH!!)

And the habits you decide to eliminate, change, and improve upon will ultimately determine your level of success in 2017.

Now ask yourself this…

What habits are keeping you from achieving your goals and becoming the person you want to be?

I really want you to be honest with yourself and think about this. For example: I admit, due to building my brand myself without a team (getting a team together is one of my 2017 goals) I spend too much time on social media. It’s been a challenge to schedule my social media time.  I always plan to post content and get off, BUT how often do we see a post that leads us to whatever is tagged then you go over to that account and on and on. Yikes, you’ve lost 30 minutes and you could have used that time to get in that cardio you’ve been meaning to do. Who feels me? Another example of a habit I need to change– getting in enough cardio! I swear, I talk to myself sometimes and say, “Tiff get off your lazy a$$”.  Seriously.

I’ve been diving into great books and listening to my favorite motivators and thought leaders. This morning I opened this email from Jack Canfield and was absolutely meant to read his latest blog– see below. Thought you would enjoy the kick in the bootie too!

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The reality is that you – and the life you lead today – are the result of your habits. Changing habits can seem difficult to accomplish at first, but success is a result of your habits.

If you think about it, you’re living out your habits every day. From how early you get out of bed, to your morning routine, how you dress, walk, exercise, interact with others and even what you habitually think about and how you respond to the world.

These habits got you to where you are today…

The fact is that habits are necessary. They free up your mind so you can concentrate on how to survive day to day. For instance, you don’t have to think about how to drive your car – which allows you instead to be on the lookout for danger while you’re driving.

Unfortunately, habits can also keep you locked in self-destructive patterns, which limit your success. Becoming successful is a result of changing habits. You’ll need to eliminate bad habits and develop new ones that are in alignment with the life you want to live.

The life you want to live won’t just materialize one day… your habits determine your outcomes!

What is Keeping You From Achieving Your Goals?

What are the habits that you live with every day that are keeping you from achieving your goals?

What habits are keeping you from achieving your goals?

I encourage you to be really honest with yourself here…

  • Are you always running late?
  • Do you forget to return phone calls within 24 hours?
  • Do you stay up late and never get enough sleep?
  • Do you often break promises to your friends and family?
  • Do you resist planning out your day?
  • Do you spend money you don’t have?
  • Do you avoid putting important tasks and events in your calendar?
  • Do you drink alcohol more than once a week – and do you have more than two drinks per day?

Imagine the Result of You Changing Habits

  • What would your life be like if you ate healthy meals, exercised and got enough sleep?
  • What if you saved your money, stopped using credit cards, and paid cash for everything?
  • What if you stopped procrastinating, overcame your fears, and began networking with people in your field?
  • What if you created a detailed annual plan for success – then chunked it down into monthly, weekly, and daily plans to ensure you stayed on track to achieving your goals?

Would your life be different if you changed your habits? I bet it would!

The 2 Steps to Changing Habits

My suggested action step for you is to write down some productive habits you couldvisualize, then adopt in your life. Step two is to ‘act as if’ you were living these new habits right now!

To help you get moving toward creating more successful habits right away, I’d like to recommend that you develop four new success habits each year, one for each quarter.

Once you determine the new habit you’re ready to adopt, next you’ll want to create a method that will support your new habit.

Here are some ideas to get you started:

  • You could write it down on a card that you keep with you and read several times a day.
  • You could make it a part of your daily visualization.
  • You could also enlist the help of an accountability partner who has habits they also want to change, or work with a personal coach who can keep you on track.

Make a 100% Commitment to You New Habit

It’s important to make a 100% commitment to your new habit, so be specific about the steps that you’re willing to take in order to drop an old habit and adopt a new one. Don’t be vague about how you will change your habits. Spell it out for yourself so you can put yourself in situations that will motivate you to act upon your new habit.

Just developing four good habits a year will dramatically shift your life to be more in line with achieving your vision. And the more focused you are, the easier your other, not-so-good habits will be to replace. Your perspective will shift and you’ll see more clearly how your old habits just aren’t serving you anymore.

Make the decision. Make the commitment. Then watch your new, positive life unfold!

I want to leave you with a bit of homework to complete after you’re done reading. Write down the four habits that you want to develop over the next year. Make a 100% commitment to each of your new habits and watch great things happen.

Leave a comment below and tell me which new habit you have in mind to develop first.

Changing habits in 2017 starts with a fresh set of goals using my 12-Month Success Planner. I designed this planner to help you plan exactly how to tackle daily challenges and achieve your goals. Use it to get a jump on the new year.

To your new habits in 2017,

Jack Canfield


Jack Canfield, America’s #1 Success Coach, is founder of the billion-dollar book brand Chicken Soup for the Soul® and a leading authority on Peak Performance and Life Success. If you’re ready to jump-start your life, make more money, and have more fun and joy in all that you do, get FREE success tips from Jack Canfield now at: www.FreeSuccessStrategies.com

LOVE YOUR SELFIE: Fall Reinvention

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REINVENT: verb 1. to invent again or anew,  2. to remake or make over, as in a different form 3. to bring back; revive.

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Typically, we discuss makeovers and reinvention on Jan 1st! Every magazine cover boasts headlines like “new year, new you”. But, I believe anytime is a good time to change it up, revive yourself and start anew. Are you afraid of change? Are you stuck in a rut? Are you sick of feeling blah? Are you enemies with the mirror? Do you cringe when you take a selfie? Are you sick and tired of hearing yourself complain about the same old, same old?

Sista, it’s time to s@*! or get off the pot…..as grandma would say!

Yes, that’s a Southern saying that’s a bit in your face, but you know me– I keep it real and am your instigator of change. Women keep themselves so busy taking care of everyone else that they neglect their basic needs, put their health and appearance on the back burner and ultimately end up miserable with themselves.

THAT STOPS NOW!

After the amazing yet challenging year I had, I was feeling blah and needed to shake it all up. What’s an easy solution? Chopping off my hair. I thought of it on a Monday, made the hair appointment and cut it on Wednesday. I didn’t hem and haw about it and just went for it.  Ba-bye 6 inches. Don’t miss ya! Big thanks to Holly Dear of Dear Clark for being part of my reinvention.

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I believe our hair holds energy and it’s the perfect way to revive – not only your look- but your spirit. Letting go of that old energy is freedom! You know I love long hair and I’ve let it define me at certain points in my life and career. Over the past 15 years, I’ve whacked my hair off twice and felt the same sense of freedom. I hear many women say they are so afraid to cut their long hair. If that’s you, what are you holding on to? It could be deeper than just the length of your hair. The beautiful thing about hair is that it always grows back. What can you do TODAY to let go of the old and embrace more freedom in your life?

Perhaps, it’s not your look or hair. It could be something to revive your health and energy! Making simple steps like starting the day with green smoothie and laying off the diet cokes. Honoring yourself with healthy food choices is truly life changing!

Maybe it’s being more diligent with time management and restricting your time on social media. We increase our confidence when we are efficient and get things done! I’m guilty of getting on Facebook, Twitter or Instagram and losing an hour of my life. For my brand and business, social media is an important tool, but it must be managed. Women thrive on being productive multi-taskers so if you’ve are in a time and scheduling rut– make some changes today. I’m an avid list maker and have note pads and spiral notebooks everywhere to help me stay on track. When I’m feeling inefficient, my self-esteem suffers. I’ve been diagnosed with ADD and have tried medication, but it was not for me. I’ve learned to keep my schedule doable and not allow myself to get overwhelmed with a full plate. Lists and time management are key to my sanity! Are you wasting time?

Scroll back up to the top of the page and read the definition of REINVENT again. Take some alone time to assess the areas you could remake, revive, reinvent. Fall is upon us and with every season change it brings both a sense of new beginnings and the end of the old.

DO THAT THING THAT SCARES YOU!

Take the baby step. It might be small, but it’s still a step forward.

It’s about time you take a selfie and really love what you see.

Nudging You With Love,

Xo Tiff

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Honored to walk in the ESTEEM Fashion Show benefitting The Elisa Project which celebrates and teaches healthy body image.