[With my on-camera coaching client and friend, Stefani Threadgill on her CW33 TV taping]
As I was cleaning up my messy desk today, I came across this notecard I had saved a few years ago. It made me think of a powerful experience I had yesterday with a few other ladybosses. The notecard does not say who the writer is, but it could have come directly from me:
“I am that woman. I have a brilliant heart & a beautiful mind.
I am me, a perfectly flawed, beautyFULL work in progress.
I promise to lift women up, have their backs & make it safe for them to be exactly WHO THEY ARE.
I’m on a MISSION to raise the standards for how we treat each other, how we treat ourselves, and how we treat the world.
Every time I look in the mirror I’ll remind myself that I’m not alone, that I’m beautiful, that my voice matters &
that I AM ENOUGH.”
I encourage you to print that out as a reminder. If you have been following SOS for a while, you know this is my mission and it has been a beautiful experience to go out in the field and work more 1×1 with women. To see women in action, pushing past their fears, living this mantra, and stepping into their purpose is mind-blowing.
My on-camera coaching client Stefani is one of the hardest working women I know! She was given her own segment on the hit CW33 show NewsFix and hired me to sharpen her on-camera presence. She is a brilliant sex therapist with a dream to reach more people and save marriages.
With any dream there are many components that go into it. For television, the list is endless from your voice, delivery, content, energy, charisma, makeup, hair, wardrobe and on and on. I have been on a zillion sets with a zillion producers, makeup artists, stylists, camera operators, etc. Just one of those people can have a bad vibe and wreck your flow. That’s an overall life lesson in who you surround yourself with and why I have copied Oprah’s quote and posted it on the right side bar of this blog, “Be responsible for the energy you bring to this space.”
[With MUA Daniela Bell]
Yesterday, Stefani had a big tape day and knocked it out of the park. My amazing makeup artist friend, Daniela- owner of The Makeup Zone– did her makeup so beautifully. The collaborative effort was total perfection! Back to this part of the above quote:
Lift women up, have their backs & make it safe for them to be exactly WHO THEY ARE.
I left the shoot with tears in my eyes. Not just because I was a proud coach, but proud to be part of something so special and witnessing a purpose-driven woman step into her greatness. Regardless of our profession, shouldn’t we all strive to be THAT type of woman? I challenge each of you to be more conscious and intentional about lifting women up. The first step is to stop being so self-absorbed and stop making everything about you. Sorry, not sorry, if that pisses you off. We have enough pressure and things that tear us down. Don’t add to that problem. Help eradicate it.
In my on-camera confidence workshops, I teach women to change their physicality to get out of their heads before stepping on set or on stage to speak. Loved catching Stefani do her “Wonder Woman Pose” before filming started. This works and helps you go in to any stressful situation. I like to flip my head over and shake my hair and always pull my shoulders back and WALK TALL. Do you have a quick physical confidence builder?
Can you believe we are half way through 2017? It’s exciting because we have 6 more months to kick some serious bootie by December. Last year was a challenging time for many of us, but I’m sensing this year is a time of rising above, gaining momentum and moving on.
Are there a few things on your goal list that you haven’t checked off yet? Are you struggling with a few intentions you’ve set? What is holding you back? Are you making choices out of fear or love? Do you play small?
For the remainder of the year, I challenge us all to be limitless in our thinking and get out of our comfort zone:
P.S. There is one spot available in August for my private on-camera confidence coaching bootcamps. Go here for details. Rates and packages will change in the Fall.
[Rarely do I have time to go back and browse through my blog posts, but I’m glad I stumbled (well, let’s keep it real.. God led me to) this post from June 1, 2013. June is always special to me because it marks the halfway point of the year and I love to pause and reflect on how the year is unfolding. Also interesting– this week marked the 3 year anniversary of Maya Angelou’s passing. I pray you take some time to reflect and get even more intentional about how you want to rest of 2017 to play out.]
Last week I watched an episode of Oprah’s Super Soul Sunday with Maya Angelou. Have you seen it? Her story of courage, triumph, bravery and success has been resonating with me all week. In this interview with Oprah, Maya spoke of the concept of courage being the foundation of all other virtues (above quote) so it forced me to look inward at my own level of courage. Often throughout my life, I have been courageous and brave, but there are also many times I have tucked my tail between my legs and chose to shrink back. We all have a certain level of courage, but what is that special ingredient that gives us that little bit extra tenacity to tap into our inner Wonder Woman and push forward instead of shrinking back? Can you think of a time right now when you consciously chose to dig deeper and dust off your red + gold bustier? It’s a great exercise to reflect on those moments as a reminder for the next time we are tempted to be a coward instead of courageous.
I takes courage to walk down the aisle and make the vow. It takes courage to wake up everyday and raise your child. It takes courage to follow your dreams. It takes courage to walk away from a toxic relationship. It takes courage to speak your truth. It takes courage not to conform. It takes courage to let go of your past. So, yes– I definitely believe in Ms. Angelou’s concept that it takes courage to practice all the other virtues consistently. Cheers to all of us having more consistent courage this week, this month, this year. Even if you have to fake-it-till-ya-make it. You can be courageous even when you don’t feel like. I love John Wayne’s quote, “Courage is being scared and saddling up anyway”. Go lock yourself in the bathroom and do the Wonder Woman spin if it will help….
All week, I have stumbled upon blessing after blessing. It’s like God’s little winks letting us know we are on the right track. I just love how He does that! I call it living in “flow”. This morning someone sent me this AHHHHH-mazing video and of course, I had to share it with all of you. As a confidence builder, affirmation addict (hence, #Tiffirmations) and advocate for empowering women to live their most authentic life– this video gave me chills, brought tears to my eyes and fueled me up for the day ahead. Please do yourself a favor and watch it, but not only watch it allow the message to sink down into your spirit.
If you are raising daughters, mentoring young girls or need to be a braver woman… WATCH THIS:
I just spent the most magical two weeks in California (another blog to come later) and my younger sister, Natalie and I sat on the beach one gorgeous evening reminiscing about our tomboy upbringing. Can I just tell you how grateful I am that our parents embraced ALL the multifaceted sides of our personalities?!? We were pretty, but brave little tomboys who had to wear shorts underneath our dresses on Sunday because we would not let a dress stop us from the chance to climb the monkey bars or race that little boy across the church parking lot.
One day we wanted to…
go muddin’ in the ditches,
learn piano the next,
climb trees after that,
race bicycles up and down the street,
try out for cheerleader,
perform all the songs to Grease for the family,
go on mission trips,
swim in the horse trough,
build a Barbie city that covered my entire bedroom floor,
my bad New Waver phase and Flock of Seagulls haircut, (Lawdy, Lawd!!)
beauty pageants, (then with my Belinda Carlisle haircut)
and on and on and on.
Back then there were no screens to consume our time except for the television screen. We didn’t care much about TV except for watching reruns of Happy Days, Three’s Company, and Good Times. Oh wait, I did love American Bandstand on Saturday mornings. Anyone else? We loved playing outside! We loved getting sweaty! We loved sports! We truly thought we could do everything the boys did. Although, I did hate it when my dad made us help with the yard work! But, even that toughen us up and taught us not be afraid to use our hands and get a bit dirty. I never realized- until I saw the above TED Talk by Caroline Paul this morning- that all of that freedom to express our “gutsiness” would make such a huge difference in our life as women.
Natalie went all over the world as a teenager doing mission work and almost won Survivor: Micronesia in 2008. Not as adventurous, but still gutsy- I began modeling internationally at 17. I climbed down a Bavarian alp and rode a mountain bike from Germany to Austria. (Talk about an achy bootie…think about doing spin class for 8 hours! OUCH!) Flew on an Ultralight, which is basically a go cart with flimsy canvas wings, in Mexico. Slept in a rat infested cabin in Southern Sudan. Drove a Lamborghini up the PCH and got it to 160 MPH. Yeehaw! I should have been Danica Patrick. Just sayin’. Snorkeled off the coast of Africa in the Seychelle Islands and the Great Barrier Reef off the coast of Belize. Sang karaoke in Rappongi, the nightlight district of Tokyo. Lived in Milan, Italy for a Summer and rode a 10-speed to all my castings so I could see the city instead of being underground in the subway. Flown in a helicopter over the Great Ocean Road. Heck, moving to LA where I knew no one, took guts and independence. Seriously, driving around LA the past 2 weeks is gutsy. It’s like a bunch of ants texting while their trying to drive. Now I remember why my adrenal glands were shot from living there. Whew! #RoadRageOnCrack
Has life dulled your gutsiness? Life can make us fearful. I get it. Life can make us whimpy. I get it. Especially, the world we’re living in today, but SCREW THAT! Today, more than ever, we need to raise brave girls and be examples of brave women for them. The conversation with my sister sitting on the beach last week, then stumbling across this TED Talk was no coincidence. I’m here to encourage you to remember how brave you are. I love the ripple effect we can cause for good.
We become more brave by exercising our bravery. I don’t think I’ve ever made a list of all the cool and somewhat crazy things I’ve done in my life. My confidence and bravery is officially built up and sharpened. Never let anyone or anything, especially yourself, dull your gutsy, girlfriend.
Love to hear your thoughts or a specific gutsy moment you had.
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