A precious SOS sista, Michelle Colon-Johnson, shared this old video yesterday and it was actually a message I needed to hear TODAY. I thought it may inspire you as well. Take a look:
WHAT STEP CAN YOU TAKE TODAY TO MOVE CLOSER TO WHAT YOU LOVE?
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HAPPY IS ON THE HORIZON: My 2016 Prayer For You
Photo taken by me in Santa Monica. One of the highlights of 2015- going back to California for the first time since our move.
Sista, my prayer for you:
May every single day of 2016 be filled with the wonder of God’s special love for you.
I pray for your happiness, but also for a greater sense of fulfillment in your career and purpose, an ease of communication with those you love, and a sense of satisfaction in all that you have accomplished. Above all, may you rest secure in the knowing of God’s presence. Regardless of how lonely you feel or how difficult a situation- you are never alone.
I pray for you to be happy and expectant about what is on the horizon in 2016.
I pray for smiles and love.
I pray for friends that are true and authentic.
I pray for kindness and compassion.
I pray for unexpected moments of joy and laughter.
I pray for you to be at peace.
I pray you walk taller and shine brighter in the new year. I pray you shake off any self-defeating thoughts and truly own your beauty. I pray you are healthy and whole- body, mind and spirit. I pray you stay spiritually centered.
Sista, I am grateful you are on this journey with me and I picked up my favorite scented candle by Voluspa in honor of this final blog post of 2015. I lit it and wrote this prayer for you tonight.
May God keep you in touch with all that you are and all that you are meant to become. May you have the strength and discernment to remove any toxic person who does not celebrate and encourage the woman you are becoming. Keep believing. Keep moving forward. In His mighty name, Amen.
What are your goals and plans for 2016?
Share + Comment.
Love,
Tiff
INTENTION CREATES REALITY {Sunday Affirmations}
HAPPY SUNDAY SISTAS!
How was your first week of 2014? Were you able to get in some quiet time to set your intentions, goals and/or resolutions? I spent several days working on mine. Remember, it’s great to take your time with this task- even if it takes you a few weeks. I also had an empowering 3 hour ‘mastermind’ meeting with a trusting friend so we could share our goals with each other. This creates accountability and sets you up for success in a bigger way! This also activates creativity in each of you to come up with ideas to help one another achieve these goals.
Are you wondering what it means to set an intention? I believe it’s basically making up your mind what you want. How often do you hem & haw about things? It is so powerful when we get clear, get focused and make up our minds. Then, the real power is in the follow through. I also believe we are setting intentions when we pray and share with God what we want a desired outcome to be. Let’s look at intentions without follow through. How often do we say things like…Oh, I intended to call you…Oh, it was my intention to lose 5 lbs before summer…I’m sorry I hurt your feelings it was not my intent?? It feels pretty crappy, right? Let’s get to following through, shall we?
I see the word intention as a fancy name for GOAL– but, with an added oomph of Spiritual Power behind it. Without intentions for our life, we tend to wander. If you feel like you have lost direction and are wandering through life, here are 5 steps to setting intentions:
- DECIDE. What do you want the outcome to be? It’s as simple as that. Making the decision is a huge first step!
- WRITE IT OUT. Make it official by writing your intentions in your journal or putting up sticky notes in places you can see them on a regular basis. I have sticky notes on the sides of my computer monitor, bathroom mirror and fridge. This is a powerful daily reminder to keep your thoughts going in the right direction.
- SHARE. Find a trusting friend/mentor or group to hold your intentions with you. By sharing your desired outcome with others, you create a “mastermind” of positive thoughts. One of my favorite books is “Think and Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill. His definition of a mastermind is– “Coordination of knowledge and effort, in a spirit of harmony between two or more people, for the attainment of a definite purpose.” Make sure to share with those of a like-minded spirit and steer clear of anyone who may try to sabotage your goals or be unsupportive.
- LIVE IT. Act as if your outcome is here NOW! Speak as if it’s here. Your words and actions have a powerful effect so be mindful of what you are doing, thinking and saying. Get committed!
- NEVER GIVE UP. Period.
I know what you are thinking right now– Hey Tiff, so what’s the difference between affirmations and intentions? They are marriage partners, first cousins, Batman + Robin! Affirmations are basically spoken intentions. They are the daily statements we declare over our lives based on our intentions. They help you course correct when you tend to wander. Affirmations and intentions are the power combo to creating the life of your dreams! Add in specific actions, prayer and a vision board then WATCH OUT– you are destined for success!
THIS WEEK I WILL….
- Really think about what I want.
- Make up my mind already.
- Stop hemming + hawing.
- Set intentions for 2014.
- Share my intentions with a trusting friend.
- Join or create a mastermind group.
- Act as if my goals/intentions are here now.
- Step out of fear into faith.
- Open myself to receive success.
- Pray for guidance.
- Claim that I am destined for..and deserve the life of my dreams!
What are your intentions for 2014?
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REMINDER: I will be taking new mentoring/coaching clients in January. If you are serious about committing and investing in yourself, please take advantage of my offer of COMPLIMENTARY 15 MINUTE SKYPE OR PHONE CONSULTATIONS through Wed, Jan 15th. If you are interested, please feel out the contact form on the SERVICES PAGE. Those who take advantage of this January consultation will receive a 25% discount on all packages or single sessions. *If you are not committed to your personal growth, a coach or mentor will not help you. Again, serious inquiries only!
I INTEND ON HAVING AN AMAZING YEAR!
Join me.
Love, Tiff
GET READY TO RECEIVE IN 2014
My Sweet Sistas!
On this final day of 2013, I encourage you to take some time to close your eyes and give thanks for last year. Give thanks for the blessings as well as the hardships because ultimately the tough times turn to blessings. SAY WHAT TIFF? Yes, the tough times become blessings in the form of lessons learned, wisdom and strength! We do not gain strength and wisdom when everything is easy breezy. Also, take the time to get alone and write out your 2014 intentions, goals, resolutions and COMMITMENTS. Most people putter out and give up on their resolutions by the end of January so I prefer to think of them in terms of commitments and intentions. We make commitments to our loved ones nearly everyday and feel awful when we don’t keep them. Being committed equals being dedicated, faithful, devoted and loyal.
WHAT COMMITMENTS DO YOU NEED TO MAKE TO YOURSELF IN 2014?
Go beyond the simple goal setting of “I want to workout more” and set to goal/intention with details like “I will workout for 45 minutes, 4 times a week”. Make your goals doable so you stay motivated. Take the time to really think about how you want 2014 to look. Do you want to lose weight, have more confidence, build deeper friendships with people, land new clients for your business? Recently, I read this about goal setting and loved it:
CONCEIVE>BELIEVE>ACHIEVE>RECEIVE!!!
Focus on the outcome of you fulfilling your goals. See the end result and RECEIVE the weight loss, RECEIVE more confidence, RECEIVE deeper friendships, RECEIVE more clients!
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I would love to hear what your 2013 highlight was!
PLEASE MAKE A COMMENT + SHARE.
Obviously, my personal highlight was moving to Texas, but the highlight of SOS was leading my first live workshop in Vegas for the Rising Phoenix Charitable Foundation’s Annual Gala which raises funds for our friend Sam Childer’s (aka The Machinegun Preacher) and Angels Of East Africa as well as The Shade Tree Women’s Shelter. I’m looking forward to working with more women in person and putting on several workshops in 2014.
That’s one of my big new year commitments!
I pray over this community and for each of you to have a blessed year full of health, happiness, beauty, style and commitments + goals received!
REMINDER: I will be taking new mentoring/coaching clients in January. If you are serious about committing and investing in yourself, please take advantage of my offer of COMPLIMENTARY 15 MINUTE SKYPE OR PHONE CONSULTATIONS through Wed, Jan 15th. If you are interested, please feel out the contact form on the SERVICES PAGE. Those who take advantage of this January consultation will receive a 25% discount on all packages or single sessions. *If you are not committed to your personal growth, a coach or mentor will not help you. Again, serious inquiries only!
2014 is going to ROCK!
Love, Tiff
HELLO DECEMBER: Tiffany’s In Texas!
Howdy Sistas!
A quick hello and wishing you all a Wonderfully Fabulous December! We made it safely to Texas and a big wish of mine has come true. I’ve been longing to move back to Texas for the past few years to be closer to my family and besties. We thrive in the “atmosphere” that is best suited for us and I am thrilled to see what is in store for us here. My hubby is already loving it too! Aussie turned Texan! Yeehaw G’day Mate.
Remember, the holidays can easily turn into a stressful, rush rush rush and exhausting experience if you allow it. It is ok to decline that 19th cocktail party invite and choose to stay at home with a cup of hot cocoa and an old movie instead. Gift giving can become an expensive exchange if you aren’t diligent to stay in your budget. Sometimes a real snail mail card or phone call to connect is the best give ever! Take some time to enjoy and be grateful for the “reason of the season” and begin thinking of the intentions you want to set for 2014. The holidays are a time of celebration, reflection and taking time for the things that matter most in life. We can get pulled in too many directions then we end up starting the New Year frazzled. JUST SAY NO SISTA!
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EXCITING NEWS! The popular SOS Stocking Stuffer Giveaway will be back this holiday! Make sure to check in here or on the Facebook Page for details and dates.
*If you have a product or service that is a “fit” with SOS [fashion, beauty products,health/wellness, fitness] and would like to be included in the giveaway- please fill out the form on the COLLABORATION PAGE for pricing & details. Deadline is Dec 11th to participate.
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Again, thank you all for you prayers, patience and support during this big transition!
I would love to hear your holiday tradition… please share!
Love, Tiff
SUNDAY AFFIRMATIONS OVERLOAD
Hey Beautiful,
I was brainstorming and praying for guidance for this Sunday’s topic and was curious of when and how I started posting the Sunday Affirmations. I looked back over the history of blog posts and found that I started them last June. There are several new blog subscribers so I thought I would explain what it’s all about and why I chose Sunday to post affirmations.
Last year, I started noticing a few of my girlfriends– who have small children– venting every Sunday night at how exhausted they were and they hated to start the week totally frazzled and depleted. We should be refueled and raring to go on Monday morning, right?! With a few small adjustments, I think we can all feel energized and at peace as we approach the end of the weekend and get prepared for the week. By setting boundaries, taking “me time”, declining social invitations (and not feeling guilty about it), make a ‘must do’ list and saying positive affirmations– we set our mind and attitude toward having a successful week instead of dreading Monday. I had fun reading through some of the old affirmations and decided to create a long inspiring list of ones that I need to REAFFIRM and thought you might as well!
THIS WEEK I WILL……
- Follow my bliss.
- Smile more.
- Love + Laugh harder.
- Embrace my own unique beauty + style.
- Celebrate my life instead of complain about it.
- Read a spiritually rich book.
- Count my blessings every single day.
- Put my shoulders back, walk tall + shine my light!
- Drink plenty of water.
- Pamper myself.
- Walk in Grace + Peace, no matter what grouch crosses my path.
- Love my body by getting enough exercise.
- Shut up my Negative Nellie.
- Wear my invisible crown because I am a Queen!
- Try something new…new food, new route to work, new bold accessory.
- Honor the healthy boundaries I’ve set.
- Not leave the house w/o my best accessory….my beautiful smile.
- Be courageous no matter how “wimpy” I may feel.
- Eat foods rich in antioxidants because my body is a temple.
- Practice more patience.
- Help others without expecting anything in return.
- See myself as healthy, whole, happy and HOT.
- Send a “just because” hand written note to a dear friend.
- Take time to decompress.
- Compliment myself once a day.
- Embrace that quirk about myself that I’ve always hated.
- Remove “I’m worried that_” from my vocab.
- Make more time for girltime.
- Ignore catty women. They’re just insecure…poor things.
- Snack on blueberries + almonds instead of cheese nips + skittles.
- CELEBRATE ME!
- Turn my back on mediocrity.
- Be fabulous not frazzled.
- Not base my identity on how I look, what I wear or own. I am a Child of God!
- Book a spa day + massage because I deserve it.
- Check something fun off my bucketlist.
- Focus on being healthy instead of the number on the scale.
- Surround myself with other women of excellence.
- Listen to a friend in need w/o having to “one up” her story.
- Be integrity driven, not emotionally driven.
- Believe in myself more than ever.
- Choose the side salad instead of the fries.
- Listen to my gut + stop ignoring it.
- Start + end each day with a prayer of gratitude.
- Have more fun w/ fashion + wear a flirty dress.
- Walk in L-O-V-E not fear.
- Surrender, take a deep breath and then exhale.
- NEVER GIVE UP!
- Step into my greatness…even if it’s one baby step in that direction.
- Give myself a pat on the back instead of beating myself up.
- Attend a movie, concert or seminar that inspires me.
- Lift light weights regularly. It helps my bone density!
- Go big + stop playing rinky-dink.
- RADIATE!
I don’t know about you, but I’m totally amped up for the week ahead after reading that list! WooHoo!
Please tweet, pin, like + share this post with your peeps if you found it inspiring. I appreciate it!
Go kick some serious bootie this week my sistas!
Love, Tiff
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P.S. Several SOS Sistas + new YouTube subbies were asking me to get back on Instagram for my style pics + inspirational quotes. I’m a wanna-be-photographer so I’m officially back on and loving it.
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{Heidi in Santa Monica}
{Faux leather leggings + top from H&M, bracelet by Steele Jewel, vintage belt, earrings from Forever 21}
HONOR YOURSELF {Sunday Affirmations}
Hello Beautiful Butterflies,
HONOR: to regard or treat with esteem or RESPECT.
On my powerwalk this morning, I asked God to give me some inspiration for today’s blog post. He answered. Creative and inspired thoughts come to me on my walks and today was extra special because it had to do with my taking time to honor my body with a long walk. It’s been raining for the last few days here in LA so I’ve missed my hikes and walks. The rain stopped long enough for me to throw on my tennis shoes and go on a 45 minute walk around the neighborhood. It felt wonderful– mentally + physically– to honor my body and spirit. I gave to me. I was generous to me. I showed respect to me. I showed love to me. Are you honoring YOU? Are you loving YOU? Are you generous to YOU? Women are so giving + generous to everyone around them and often neglect themselves! If this is you, please understand that you are DISHONORING yourself. For example, you are dishonoring your body if you skip meals, grab junk on the go and never make time to exercise. You are dishonoring yourself by allowing others to manipulate you with toxic behavior. You are dishonoring yourself by ignoring your dreams, plans and desires. In the week ahead, let’s focus on honoring ourselves on every level– mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually, in our relationships, in our jobs, etc.
THIS WEEK I WILL….
- Move my body even if it’s just taking a few minutes to stretch daily.
- Realize I am deserving of first class treatment especially from myself.
- Buy myself a bouquet of my favorite flowers.
- Vocalize that my needs are important.
- Release any dishonoring beliefs I have about myself.
- Feed my body with plenty of fresh organic fruits + veggies.
- Take a good look at myself in the mirror and say, I adore you!
- Meditate on those dreams + personal plans I’ve been ignoring.
- Set a hard boundary with that person who’s been manipulating + draining me.
- Get “gussied up” and take myself on a playdate.
- Write a personal mission statement for my life.
Many of us have written mission statements for our businesses, but how about one for you life? This week, grab your journal and write a short + sweet mission statement for YOU. It could go something like this:
I am a wonderful, talented and beautiful person. I have many gifts to share with the world. The world needs my light and I will awaken daily with the intention of shining it. I will make honoring myself a priority so that I have the time, energy and emotional capacity to share my gifts and light. I have healthy boundaries and surround myself with healthy people. I will live with an open heart which gives and receives love freely. I deserve a happy, healthy and successful life. I rock!
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A big congrats to our sista Shanel Wilson for winning the first stocking stuffer giveaway last week. We have another fabulous stocking packed with goodies so make sure to check in on the FACEBOOK PAGE during the week! Winner will be announced on Friday.
Please share the SOS affirmations + inspiration with your friends!
Like, tweet, and comment- I love hearing your thoughts!
Thanks for reading!
Love,
Tiff
SOME GOOD NEWS ABOUT YOUR PURPOSE
Hola Senorita Bonita!
Are you frustrated because you’re unsure of what your purpose is? Here’s some good news about that….
Isn’t that comforting to know you are right where you are meant to be, no matter what your age? HOLLA!
As always, I love hearing your thoughts! Here’s a great comment from YouTube:
“Thank you very much for this! I thought that in my 30’s my life would be settled and its not what I expected it to be at all. Comparisons are so easy so fall into. But this is honestly time for me to evaluate my friends, my values and focus on a simple, content life.”
Share, like, comment + tweet this post if you found it inspiring!
Adios,
Tiff
P.S. New style webisode coming soon! I promise!
COMPLIMENT YOURSELF {Sunday Eve Affirmations}
Hey Style + Spirit Sisters!
How is your weekend going? I hope you found a moment for some “ME” time. My weekend has been pretty perfect so far. My hubby and his band killed it last night at the House of Blue’s Foundation Room on Sunset Blvd. It was truly surreal because we have eaten there and seen other gigs perform a zillion times. I’m a proud rock wife! Ok, enough about me:-) Let’s talk about how amazing women are! Well, confident women- I should say. This Sunday’s topic was inspired by the many gorgeous girlfriends I am blessed to have in my life. Several of them came out to support my man last night (Thank you girls! Meant the world to me!) and I just love seeing so many stunning and talented women with the ability to shower other women with compliments.
We were like a mega-fashionable cheerleading squad! Replace the pom poms + pigtails for skinny jeans + crazy cool accessories…. “Girl, I love your hair color… Honey, you look so beautiful tonight… Sista, you give the best hugs… Sweetie, have you lost weight (that’s always the best one, right)” ….and on and on! Sisk-boom-bahhh! I’m sure we all left the gig with a pep in our step and our love tanks full. I know I sure did! This seems to be a topic I’m harping on quite a bit at the moment- GIRLFRIENDS + GIRLTIME- but, it really is vital for us to cheer one another on and feel connected + appreciated. I mean, let’s be honest- I love love love getting compliments from my man, but doesn’t it make you feel even more warm + fuzzy to get a genuine compliment from another woman?
This got me thinking-
I bet most of us never shower OURSELVES with praise or compliments. AM I RIGHT? We are able to freely give a ‘shout out’ to others, but when was the last time you gave yourself a pat on the back or looked in the mirror and said, “Girl, you’re rockin’ it today” ??? Do you rely on others to boost your confidence? Do you feed on others complimenting you and when your ego isn’t stroked, you feel disappointed? In the week ahead, let’s start making it a daily habit to give ourselves at least one compliment a day! I think that’s totally do-able….
THIS WEEK I WILL:
- Compliment myself once a day.
- Embrace that quirk about myself that I’ve always hated.
- Remove “I’m worried that_” from my vocab.
- Make more time for girltime.
- Start claiming 2013 to be the best year ever.
- Wear the expensive earrings I’ve been saving for a special occasion.
- Ignore catty women. They’re just insecure, poor things.
- Say “hello” to the person in front of me in the checkout line.
- Snack on blueberries + almonds instead of cheese nips + skittles.
- Hold my shoulders back, engage my core + stand up tall.
- CELEBRATE ME!
Please make a comment + share something you love about yourself. Come on, just do it! I’ll start…I love that I have the gift of listening to others and my hair is super healthy and shiny! Ok, your turn. Ready, set, go!
Share, tweet + like this post if you found it inspiring. Thanks a bunch!
Wishing you a week full of love, laughter, light, bliss, peace + silly moments!
Love, Tiff
P.S. It is a very important week for our country. As you go out and vote, please pray + send positive thoughts that we will appoint the right candidate to lead our nation. God Bless the USA!
Thank God for Girl Time
Hello Gorgeous!
Happy Friday! How was your week? Any fun plans for this weekend? I just feel like a lil ‘girl talk’ this morning. No style tip or beauty secret to offer today. I’m sitting here in my robe sipping coffee, sorting through a zillion emails and getting life organized after my amazing trip. Don’t you love that refueled feeling after a vacay? Always, always take a good vacay every year or at least a few mini ones. We all deserve a break now and then! HOLLA!
Over the past few months, we have had so much stress and pressure with our other business that I was about to implode if I didn’t remove myself from it for a sec. WHO FEELS ME? I’m happy to report that I did not implode or totally go into freak out mode…almost, but not quite! I’m so grateful to have dear girlfriends I can run to for solace in these times. They don’t judge me for feeling weak. They don’t judge me for needing a break from trying to be the West Coast Wonder Woman. They don’t judge me, period. They focus on my strengths and help me to see them when it all seems blurry. I am tearing up right now thinking back over the years of fun, pain, growth, success, trials, heartbreak, wins and losses that my girlfriends experienced with me. If you have even one girlfriend like that, consider yourself extremely blessed. Women need to feel connected and when our real-life girlfriends may be unavailable, this community fills that void and provides support for many. I thank God for giving it to us. Girl time is vital- never deny yourself a good dose of it on a reg basis!
I have an excitement in my belly about the next few months and what’s to come in 2013. SOS is my baby, my priority, my passion and I envision awesome things for us in the new year. Daily, I receive heartfelt comments, questions, concerns and lots of encouragement from you ladies and this is what fuels me to keep going, keep building, keep growing this Sisterhood. Thank you for taking the time to connect on a regular basis either here on the blog or on the Facebook Community. Thank you for subscribing. I know I really have to enjoy a blog or newsletter to actually take the time to subscribe and enter my email address. Again, thank you.
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