I AM…. {Sunday Eve Affirmations}

Question? What do you think about yourself?

If someone asked you to describe yourself with brutal honesty- would you shock yourself with your answers?  Do you truly own your strengths and love yourself or do you focus on your weaknesses and beat yourself up on a daily basis?  Just as important as it is to be non-judgmental towards others, we also need to stop judging ourselves so harshly.  So for this week’s affirmations, instead of the usual “I WILL….” list, I have created a long list of positive adjectives for us to read closely and really think about how each word applies to us and how we view ourselves.  If you tend to think negatively about yourself, it’s time to stop it and start focusing on your strengths and unique abilities!  

I AM….

  • Confident
  • Brave
  • Powerful
  • Determined
  • Intelligent
  • Wise
  • Strong
  • Courageous
  • Blessed
  • Amazing
  • Healthy
  • Whole
  • Happy
  • Optimistic
  • Successful
  • Hopeful
  • Graceful
  • Wonderful
  • Lovable
  • Valuable
  • Deserving
  • Worthy
  • Compassionate
  • Thoughtful
  • Kind
  • Humble
  • Cheerful
  • Fabulous
  • Fearless
  • Free
  • Magnetic
  • Attractive
  • Beautiful

So, how do you feel about that list?  I’m sure we all have a few that we can completely own and feel confident about and a few that we are unsure of and may have a hard time seeing ourselves fitting that specific description.  I’ll be open and share that often times I feel totally scared, completely insecure, not so graceful and want to make wiser decisions.  Of course, when I am feeling like this it is usually when I’m coming from a fear-based place of ego and in a silly pitty party.  I have learned the tools to get myself back on track when I falter and  have realized it serves no purpose to constantly beat myself up for my short-comings.    We all need to be proud of who we are and who we are BECOMING!  I encourage you this week to start believing in yourself more than ever!  We are all a WORK IN PROGRESS and it takes focus, courage and determination to make the necessary changes in order to grow and become all that you are DESTINED TO BE!  I love the quote below!  Such truth.  I challenge you to be conscious of what you are thinking of yourself.  If you catch yourself thinking a bad thought – STOP- and replace that description with a positive one!  It’s a simple exercise that can completely transform your self-esteem!

I BELIEVE IN YOU!

Love, Tiff

A bit of Beauty + Style with a whole lot of Inspiration

Hey Sassafrass!

Hope your week has been full of love, laughter, beauty, magic, blessings, good hair days, leopard shoes and a blemish-free chin!  I had the extreme pleasure of having a girlie lunch with one of our beautiful and inspiring SOS Sisters, the dahhh’ling  Suanne Arvay Rieker.  She is the epitome of health, radiance, positive energy, style, spunk and sass… (I want to be like Suanne when I grow up)  She is also THE example of what a brave female entrepreneur can create in her life.  Ok, can you tell I am her biggest fan? I can’t rave about her enough and feel so blessed to have had the opportunity to meet her in person on her first trip to Hollywood!

More Inspiration…

If you are on the Facebook Page , you may have seen my post about the amazing book by Marianne Williamson, ILLUMINATA.   It is full of beautiful prayers to get you through just about ANY situation.  Here’s a candid video sharing a beautiful passage from her Prayer for Achievement:

A bit of Beauty + Style:

I feel like I have been on the search for the PERFECT eye cream to deflate my bags and puffiness FOREVER.  I have battled bags under my eyes since the age of 12. Seriously!  Hallallujahhhhh, Nucerity launched my dream eye serum and I have actually seen results QUICK!  So has a fellow SOS sister. Here’s what she said:  “Tiff, I just have to let you know that the eye serum is definitely working for my under eye puffiness…The bags have literally totally disappeared . My dermatologist noticed, my husband and my friends!! So I’m very  happy about that!”  YAY!  If you would like to try it, go to the link on the right side of the blog. Preferred Customers enjoy a significant discount! Bye Bye Puffy Eyes!

For Fall 2012, don’t be afraid to rock the METALLIC JEAN!  It’s such a fun option to the staple- black- skinny- jeans for date nightPair them with the same tops, blazers and accessories that you would with any jeans. ROCK ON!

Are you on Twitter? Let’s tweet together: @SanctuaryStyle and my personal account is @TiffanyHendra

Please share SOS with your girlfriends!

Remember helping others is good for your complexion!  It makes you feel happy…..then it shows on your cheeks!

Love, Tiff

Sunday Eve Affirmations: I WILL…..

Hey Lovely Ladies,

When you close your eyes and think of the word, ABUNDANCE, what comes to mind?  Here is Webster’s definition:

a·bun·dance [noun]
1.an extremely plentiful or oversufficient quantity or supply.
2.overflowing fullness

This week, my wish for all of us, is that we stop and appreciate the abundance in our lives. It is not about how fat our bank account is or the “things” we acquire.  Abundance is feeling vibrant, alive and fully living each day with love and passion. It’s about enjoying the simple moments, the unexpected blessings that make life beautiful and most importantly, being grateful for what we have!  Life is short.  I watch so many people wasting their lives away trying to get more, do more and earn more money– yet they can’t maintain healthy relationships and their aging themselves too quickly because they are all work and no play.  I was one of those people and almost became a drug addict because of it.  My resume, the networks and producers I worked for, the size of my paycheck, the Gucci hangbag on my arm and the SUV I drove was my definition of abundance….BOY, did I have it all wrong! 

THIS WEEK, I WILL….

  1. Not lower myself by participating in gossip.
  2. Be an encourager instead of a critic.
  3. Get my glow on by eating a serving of blueberries every morning.
  4. Dance, paint, sing or do whatever that makes me feel free.
  5. Rock a dash of leopard print.
  6. Shine my light because the world needs it.
  7. Schedule my workouts as if they are an important meeting.
  8. Simplify my life + clear the clutter wherever it needs it.
  9. Drink a glass of lemon water upon rising before my coffee or tea.
  10. Say a prayer of gratitude for my abundant life.
  11. Release all fears + doubts and GO FOR IT!

{Daily Serving of Blueberries}

{Dash of Leopard Print}

{Shine On}

 

I would love to hear your comments on how these weekly affirmations have been effective in your life.

We’re in this together!

If you see a sister who’s spark is dim this week, help her out by fanning her flame and be an encouragement instead of a critic.

RADIATE LOVE,

Tiff

SUNDAY EVE AFFIRMATIONS

Hey Warrior Women!

I trust you all had a fantastic weekend and did a few things for yourself that brought you pure bliss.  My weekend was glorious and I had the luxury of taking a 2 hour nap and feel like a new person!  Here’s a few affirmations to focus on for your week ahead. I hope it ROCKS!

I WILL….

  1. Let go of the noisy mind and embrace the quiet one.
  2. Drink a big glass of water every morning upon rising.
  3. Seek well-being + freedom every single day- NO MATTER WHAT.
  4. Choose excellence over mediocrity.
  5. Give gratitude for even the simplest things.
  6. Be a warrior not a worrier.
  7. Go to sleep at a decent hour.
  8. Treat myself to a massage, mani/pedi or a new pair of shoes…or all three.
  9. Stop and smell the roses.
  10. Not be sucked in to gossip. (because what I put out there, will come back to me 100 fold- Eeeek)

I CLAIM….

I AM RESILIENT.

I AM FEARLESS.

I AM POWERFUL.

{Treat Yourself to one….or all three}

Do you battle perfectionism?

Remember although the full swag bag giveaways are finished for the summer, we will continue to have amazing giveaways over the next few weeks so make sure to check in on the FACEBOOK COMMUNITY!

High Five + a Hip Bump,

Tiff

What Are You Seeking? (plus need quick beauty video)

Hola SOS Senoritas!

(I’m making my famous guacamole for a party so I’ve got Spanish on the brain)

Are you ready to have another amazing week? I sure am. I adore weekends, but I’m also excited when a new week begins. New opportunities, new chances to be better, new obstacles to overcome, etc. Many of you sent me beautiful private messages expressing how touched, inspired and moved you were by my last post on GRATITUDE. I want to thank you all again for taking the time to write me and reveal your hearts. We’ve got some pretty darn extraordinary sistas in this bunch with big beautiful hearts. WOW! I want to reach through the computer and hug all of you. {{SQUEEZE}}

This morning I was thinking about the underprivileged young women I mentor and it’s such a shame that so many women are held back in life because they are seeking the APPROVAL of others. It’s like living in a cage. It can really be debilitating and prevent you from trying different things and just GOING FOR IT.  It typically stems from not getting the approval we needed as a child.  Looking back, I craved my Dad’s approval and never really felt like I got it. So, I was pretty much addicted to approval most of my life and I still have to “check myself” from time to time.  It has taken a loooooong time to figure out that looking inward for validation and self-acceptance was true FREEDOM! Woohoo! Yeehaw! Fly little birdie!  We all have the key within us to unlock the cage. How awesome is that to truly be able to live in freedom and not care what other people think about you?!? If you like you….. and you appreciate you……. and YOU APPROVE OF YOU………you are on your way to soaring as high as you possibly can.  WHO WANTS TO FLY? This week, be aware of the people and situations where you feel caged by this needless “seeking” of approval. When I’m feeling insecure, needy or PMS’ing, I can even get stuck seeking the approval of my own husband. Which is absurd because from day one- the man has accepted me just the way I am with all the baggage that I had and my many high-maintenance quirks! We all need to get out of our own way and love + accept ourselves EXACTLY the way God created us and get on with it already……get busy FLYING HIGH! 

How appropriate– I love that this week’s swag bag giveaway item from the fabulous LUSCIOUS SOUL is a glamorous “Couture Key” by Keys to my Castle.  Your own house key can be professionally cut on this beautiful key.

Now let’s totally switch gears here! In the latest webisode, I answer a beauty question from Melissa:

Make sure to join in on the FACEBOOK fun! There’s only a few more weeks of Swag Bag Giveaways.  Share this with your girlfriends too. I love that a few of you are having fun on SOS with your daughters. That’s exactly what I always dreamed of!  Women from all walks of life, best friends, moms, daughters, sisters, etc…..all joining the fun.  Getting better and building our confidence should be fun, right!?

Love, Tiff

GRATITUDE. A love note to you.

Hi Gorgeous Girls!

Over the past week or so, every fiber of my being has been flooded with HUMONGOUS GRATITUDE.  The kind that gives you that warm and fuzzy feeling complete with goose-bumps, hair raising on the back of my neck, girlie giddy excitement in my belly and a tear in my eye. Have you ever felt such bigtime gratefulness before?  Want to know the reason for mine? It’s because of YOU.  Yep, you girlfriend!

When I began a deep spiritual journey to figure out what the heck I was meant to do- it was exactly 10 yrs ago this month.  In the summer of 2002, I walked away from my TV career in LA, gave away most of my clothes and all my furniture and went back to Texas to get my head on straight. {GRATEFUL} That is when I birthed my idea (well, God really planted the seed) to help women through a community, website and TV show. Can you believe that was 10 years ago? I can’t! I had no idea how to get started or what the heck I was doing, but I just started putting it out there with child-like naivety. I laugh now because I thought I was ready to do a show back then and got totally pissed off that it wasn’t happening faster.  I had to go through MAJOR healing, changes and growth first.  I was a mess, but I had this BIG vision. After a 6 month sabbatical in Texas, I headed back to LA with this new dream!{GRATEFUL}

Within these 10 years, I have hosted several TV pilots geared for young women (one production company spent over $1 Million on our pilot) and they never went to air on TV.  Grrrr!  (This is where I give gratitude for the doors God closes!)  This was long before Facebook, YouTube, Blogs and the Flip camera. Now it’s easy for anyone to start taping their message and blast it to the world. Whew, I wanted to give up so many times, but a God-given dream just doesn’t leave you alone. It really is like you are pregnant with this idea/purpose/vision. I just couldn’t abort this dream!  I had this mad, crazy drive to help women…somehow, someway. I collaborated with several different producers with the hopes something would work. It never did.  When I finally realized it just wasn’t the right time, I decided I had to do something…..ANYTHING! I started teaching a self-development class and created a curriculum for 13-17 year olds as well as working in a fun, girlie boutique on the weekend. Gals would come sit in the boutique and chat about all the different life issues we girls love to talk about. Wish I had a camera in that boutique back then. It was like a talk show in there! Little did I know, these opportunities turned out to be an amazing training ground and preparation. {GRATEFUL} I still hoped and prayed to work on camera again, but shelved my show idea for a while (true surrender) and just lived life…WITH EXPECTANCY!

The reason I’m telling you all of this is the seed has grown slowly over the years (a little too darn slow at times) into a bud and then 2 years ago-this month- I pitched my show idea in front of one of the biggest television producers, Mark Burnett of The Apprentice, The Amazing Race and Survivor, for a show he was producing for Oprah.  Holla!  Yes, I almost crapped my pants that day, but…. I DID IT!  It’s as if it made it all REAL. It was no longer this concept that swirled around in my head driving me coocoo for coco puffs.  I put it out there! There was no taking it back. The universe had a hold of it. I went all the way to the last 20 finalists, but wasn’t chosen for the show. Again, thank God for the closed doors. After I caught my breath from that 3 month audition process, I finally had the guts to start taping my ideas. The only video camera I had at the time was the one on my blackberry. I had no idea what I was doing (I still don’t really), but I had to start somewhere. Then my brave hubby offered his help as camera man and we got a decent little video camera. Our first attempt at a light set up was a nightstand lamp with a white sheet as a reflector. Ha! We have come a loooooong way! {GRATEFUL}

Here we are today. I’m grateful for the ease of Facebook, WordPress, YouTube and the ability to create the community that we have.  I had to stop and send YOU a heartfelt thank you for sharing, joining, watching, subscribing, and reading. Thank you for allowing me to try different things and discuss different topics, all with the pure intention of helping you build confidence, believe in yourself and truly love yourself and your own unique beauty + style. My dream of creating a SISTERHOOD is becoming a reality. Thank You God. Thank You Aaron (my hubby). Thank You Girls.

WHAT ARE YOU TRULY GRATEFUL FOR TODAY?

I highly recommend making gratitude lists on a regular basis. It will change your life. It’s simple:

I AM GRATEFUL FOR___________________.

I AM GRATEFUL FOR___________________.

I AM GRATEFUL FOR___________________.

I AM GRATEFUL FOR___________________.

I AM GRATEFUL FOR___________________.

I AM GRATEFUL FOR___________________.

I hope you can also be grateful for your journey and remember, never give up.

Love, Tiff

NEW WEEK, NEW BEGINNING

Hey Style Sista’s!

How was your weekend? I was fortunate to spend a few fun girlie days with my precious mom and my love tank is full. Nothing like mother-daughter quality time, right! We did our fave things…shopping and eating Mexican food. We had some great convo’s which prompted me to share my thoughts on this video:

 

WHAT ARE THOUGHTS ON THIS SUBJECT?

Did it inspire you? Maybe it got you thinking about some changes you need to make? I would love to hear your thoughts.

The beauty of Sunday evenings is we have just one more sleep before the beginning of the new week. I don’t know about you, but it’s exciting to me! We get a clean slate….a brand new week to do things better. To do things bigger. To try new things. A whole seven days of new opportunities! I encourage you this week to start making a list of projects you want to dust off and work on, dreams that seem to be dead and buried and places you want to see.  I realize this is a bit of a repeat of last week’s blog post, but I believe it is vital to a woman’s livelihood.

{I’m getting out the brushes this week…if it’s the only thing I do}

Don’t forget to post + play on the SOS FACEBOOK PAGE to participate in the fabulous summer swag bag giveaways happening every week! To enter, you must be a subscriber to this blog, like the facebook page and join in on the fun convo’s.  Make sure to tell your girlfriends about it too!

With love + grace,

Tiff