What Was Your 2016 Highlight?

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Hello Gorgeous!

Did Santa bring you what you asked for? I hope you all had a Christmas weekend filled with fun. Now, we are leading up to ((drum roll))……..the new year! As I’ve mentioned in previous posts, I try to take time out in December to reflect and begin planning for the new year. I caught myself constantly saying out loud “how hard the year was” and got sick of hearing my Negative Nellie taking over. I stopped myself and thought Yes, but it’s also been an amazing year of growth and preparation”. I began thinking of my 2016 highlights and blessings. WHOA! What an amazing year. This was so powerful I just had to write a blog post about it and encourage you all to do the same.

Ok, so one of my top highlights of 2016 was turning 45!  Ummm, yes– I was actually excited about it! Call me crazy. Specifically, the love fest luncheon my dear friend and spiritual mentor –Dr. Melanie Ross Mills– threw for me. It’s humbling to have so many beautiful (inside & out) friends unite for the sole reason of lifting you up. To give you a glimpse of the day…imagine walking into the most beautifully decorated dining room with a big round table so everyone could see one another. The table was set for princesses with orchids and gifts for everyone. The sunlight coming through the windows made the whole room even more “twinkly”. We wore pixie headbands and the champs was flowing. My bestie ordered the most extravagant and amazing cake complete with all my loves represented on it. Melanie said a beautiful prayer including a message to each guest. (talk about a kleenex moment!) She had each girlfriend prepare a sweet message for me which was made into a slide show. For someone who has struggled with “receiving”, I admit– this was a bit uncomfortable at first. But, I knew God was using these friends to pour love on me like a salve to heal my battle wounds from such a wild year. These women showed me the true meaning of “SISTERHOOD” in action.

Thank you Mel! I don’t know how your massive heart fits inside your tiny body!

It could not have been a more perfect afternoon! I will forever cherish that day and each beautiful friend in the photo above. At this time of celebration, reflection and anticipation of the new year, I encourage you to take a moment to think of the highlights of your year.  It’s been a challenging year for many of us and it’s easy to focus on the moments we felt defeated. Let’s focus on the wins!

 

 

I just read the following message about sisterhood by Claire Zammit, Ph.d and had to share it with you all:  

“Thank you. You stand for your own greatness and your commitment to supporting other women in realizing theirs will change and evolve our world.

I am so honored and grateful to walk side by side with you on this journey.

One of the other things I most want to appreciate today is the transformative power of sisterhood.

None of us can become ourselves by ourselves. (I looove that!)

We need to be mirrored, supported, challenged and championed by each other to come into the fullness of our power and to unleash our brilliance.

Let’s commit to this sisterhood.

Let’s go out of our way to support each other.

When we see a woman stepping up, let’s stand behind her.

When she stumbles, we can be there to help her up. 

When she is challenged, it’s up to us to fight for her.

And when she triumphs, we should celebrate her wildly.

I’m so incredibly grateful for the ways in which so many women in my life and this community have stood for me.”

I would love to hear what your 2016 highlight was. Please share and make a comment!

If you had a girlfriend(s) stand by your side this year please make sure to send them a note of gratitude and appreciation.

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GIRLTIME IS GOOD FOR YOUR HEALTH: Plan Some This Week

Hey Sistas!

Recently, one of my besties sent me this great reminder. I read this a few years ago, but in each season of our life messages hit us differently! I wanted to share it with all of you to encourage you to plan regular time with girlfriends who lift you up, challenge you to be the best you can be, who spotlight your strengths and love you unconditionally. Over the past few weeks I’ve been blessed by several empowering and uplifting moments with girlfriends. This is truly the best anti-depressant and it’s even good for our overall health. Read on…

FashionStars[Celebrating our dear friend Dawn Mellon as one of this year’s Fashion Stars for a Cause benefitting the Suicide & Crisis Center of North Dallas at the DCC. Photo Credit: Danny Campbell]

INTERESTING BIT ABOUT FEMALE RELATIONSHIPS.  They Teach It at Stanford:

In an evening class at Stanford University, the last lecture was on the mind-body connection — the relationship between stress and disease.

The speaker (head of psychiatry at Stanford) said, among other things, that one of the best things that a man could do for his health is to be married to a woman. … . whereas for a woman, one of the best things she could do for her health was to nurture her relationships with her girlfriends.

At first everyone laughed, but he was serious. Women connect with each other differently and provide support systems that help each other to deal with stress and difficult life experiences. Physically, this quality “girlfriend time” helps us to create more serotonin — a neurotransmitter that helps combat depression and can create a general feeling of well being.

Women share feelings, whereas men often form relationships around activities. We share from our souls with our sisters/mothers, and evidentlythat is very GOOD for our health. He said that spending time with a friend is just as important to our general health as jogging or working out at a gym.

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There’s a tendency to think that when we are “exercising” we are doing something good for our bodies, but when we are hanging out with friends, we are wasting our time and should be more productively engaged? Not true. In fact, he said that failure to create and maintain quality personal relationships with other humans is as dangerous to our physical health as smoking!

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So every time you hang out to schmooze with a gal pal, just pat yourself on the back and congratulate yourself for doing something good for your health!
We are indeed very, very lucky. So…. let’s toast to our friendship with our girlfriends. Evidently, it’s very good for our health. 

Love,

Tiff

5 THINGS TO LET GO OF IN 2015: The 1st Motivational Vlog of the Year

Hey Chicas!

Grab a cup of coffee, tea or a kale smoothie (wink) and your iPad and have some girl time with me. This is the very 1st motivational vlog of the 2015 and this time I’m giving you a list of 5 things to stop doing instead of adding more things to your to-do list this year. As we all plan to go bigger and elevate every aspect of our life we have to get rid of and grow out of behaviors that hold us back from being our ultimate best!

The heartfelt comments women are leaving on this video have inspired me and deepened my passion for the purpose of SOS. Women around the world are being braver than ever right now and stepping into their destiny.

Are YOU joining us? 

I hope so.

Love, Tiff

How to Start 2015 with More Confidence by Guest Blogger Tina Hamilton

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There are a lot of excitements and pressures that women feel at the beginning of a new year. Every woman feels the need to instantly dump bad habits, make a lot of New Year’s Resolutions and suddenly be a different person once that clock strives twelve. Of course, this is just not realistic. Goal setting is a great idea to help any woman achieve her dreams, but no one can change completely overnight.

One of the most important traits that any woman needs in order to set realistic goals and achieve those goals is confidence. So many women struggle with not feeling like they are important or capable of achieving greater things, but this is not true! Every woman should create the power within herself to make 2015 her best year yet.

Here are some tips to help you gain more confidence in 2015:

Start with positive self-talk

Every woman is guilty of it from time to time. Putting oneself down and saying negative things is simply not productive. Every woman should focus instead on building herself up, not tearing down with negative self-talk. This can be a difficult process for a lot of women, but it is something that everyone should be working on constantly in order to become the best version of themselves.

Create a comfortable and expressive style

It may sound silly, but dressing cute actually does help a woman’s self-esteem. More importantly, the saying ‘dress the part’ still holds true. If a woman wants to be more confident to impress a man, get a promotion at work, or for any other reason, she should dress appropriately to help get to that goal. Women should forget about following trends and wear things that make them feel beautiful and comfortable, investing in t-shirt bra styles and well-fitting items that will last a lifetime.

Move every day

Exercise is an important aspect of staying healthy and happy. People who get regular exercise are not only happier with their lives, but they are also more confident and outgoing. Everyone should make a point to get up and move every single day. This can range from a ten minute walk around the block to a 2 hour sweaty yoga session.

Find a teammate

Women often feel like they have to do everything on their own, and there is no one out there who would be willing to help them even if they asked. This is an unfortunate misunderstanding. Every woman can and should work to find a teammate or partner who can help them feel better about themselves and achieve their goals this year. This can range from a life coach to a good friend.

Try something new

It sounds a little ironic, but it is true that one of the best ways to feel more confident is to do something that one is not confident doing! By getting outside of their comfort zone and trying new things, women can empower themselves and gain the confidence they need to take on any new challenge 2015 has to offer.

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Tina Hamilton is a journalist, blogger and social media guru. You can usually find her online or walking along one of Southern California’s beaches with her dog, Joey. Look for her on Twitter

BE A BETTER GIRLFRIEND: Mid-Week Affirmations

Hey Gorgeous Girls,

 

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The past few days I’ve been reveling in the genuine friendships in my life. I am so grateful for the girlfriends who have stood by my side for over 20 years and excited about the new friendships I’m creating here in Dallas. Women need each other.. we have this innate need to feel connected and the minute we feel disconnected- all hell can break loose in our life. I realize that I’m a better wife, daughter, sister, etc- when my love tank is filled up from meaningful connection with my girlfriends. With all the hats we wear, it’s easy to allow the responsibilities of life to push ‘girl time’ on the back burner. Be intentional with scheduling quality time with your beloved girlfriends. From a shopping trip, happy hour or a powerwalk together, it really is the best therapy! Do not let too much time go by without this connection.

This was an important part of the foundation of SOS when I created it. During lonely periods in my life (LA could get very lonely at times), I realized I would look forward to watching Oprah or Sex and the City because it felt like some sort of connection and girl time. As sad as that sounds, it’s the truth. Then, after my YouTube Channel began to grow, many women would tell me they looked forward to the kids going to bed so they could jump on the computer and watch my latest video. For that 5-10 minutes they felt like they had some ‘girl time’ after a long day of juggling kids, career and life.  I completely understood and this truth fueled me to keep on keepin’ on with SOS. That’s what sparked the idea of it being a SISTERHOOD. Now, don’t get me wrong- watching TV or YouTube does not replace the in-person connecting we so desperately need, but it proved to me that this ‘connection’ should be a priority in every woman’s life. Make girl time a priority. You need it and deserve it.   

 

Affirm it today. I will…

  1. Schedule girlfriend time.
  2. Give gratitude for all the amazing women in my life.
  3. Be a better friend.
  4. Open up to a trusting friend, remove the mask + share my soul. 
  5. Release any toxic friendships once and for all.
  6. Pray for my girlfriends.
  7. Nurture all the women in my life no matter their age. (even your 9 yr old niece)
  8. Listen without “one-upping” (thanks Brene Brown)
  9. Reach out the minute I feel lonely. (stop the wallowing before it starts)
  10. Not take my genuine friendships for granted.
  11. Toast to the fabulous friends in my life!

 

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Thank YOU for being part of this cherished sisterhood.

YOU are loved & appreciated.

With gratitude,

Tiff