ARE YOU READY FOR AN EPIC LIFE?

WooHoo!  What a gift….

I’m thrilled about this FREE EVENT Mastin Kipp of The Daily Love (my fave blog) is hosting and had to share it with you sisters!   This is the PERFECT way the end 2012 and release any old thought patterns, shift focus and set yourself up for success in 2013.  There will be 20 of the top thought leaders and empowerment coaches sharing their insight every night from Nov 12th-16th.  The panel includes my girlfriend, Ali Brown- the entrepreneur mentor, Marianne Williamson- author of the book I mention frequently, Illuminata, Kris Carr- my fave wellness guru and Gabby Bernstein- author of Spirit Junkie.

Yes, it is a commitment a few hours every night for 5 nights.  But, aren’t you and your future worth it?  When you sign up you will receive email reminders with the specific teacher being interviewed for that night.  At least try to make a few!  Let me know if you will be joining so we can discuss our “a-ha’s” afterward.

Sign up at http://www.entheos.com/DailyLove

2013 WILL BE EPIC!

Keep Striving,

Tiff

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Make May A {{may}}zing!

Hello Precious Peacocks!

Join me in welcoming the month of May!  Woohoo!  Summer is around the corner.  I trust you all had a beautiful April.  I’ve been busy setting up the new studio, did my very first speaking engagements, took the most fabulous girls trip and started a new volunteer program teaching a small group of homeless pregnant women!  I swear, the minute I wrote that blog about getting out of your CZ (comfort zone) last month- opportunities opened up for me to take my own advice.  Funny how that works!   Getting out of your CZ awakens so many different emotions ranging from excitement to anxiety to pure bliss.  Your spirit is truly IGNITED!  Don’t get me wrong–  I have been to the point several times this month where I wanted to literally “crap my pants” and had to just face the fear, put on my imaginary Depends Underwear and GO FOR IT!   It’s very liberating and I highly recommend it! 

Join me for the month of May- I challenge us all to START making the necessary tweaks to our life to make it a whole lot more AMAZING!  My dear girlfriend Julianna Geldien shared a fantastic “to-do” list of 31 positive things we can all do to IGNITE THAT SPARK and I had to pass it along to you!   Are you ready…..

  1. Start spending time with the right people. (stop hanging with the negative Nelly’s)
  2. Start facing your problems head on.
  3. Start being honest with yourself about everything.
  4. Start making your own happiness a priority. (being a martyr is not pretty)
  5. Start being yourself- genuinely. (stop caring what other people think about you)
  6. Start noticing and living in the present.
  7. Start valuing the lessons your mistakes teach you.
  8. Start being more polite to yourself.
  9. Start enjoying the things you already have. (you’ll get more of it)
  10. Start creating your own happiness. (happiness is inside of all of us- we just need to unleash it)
  11. Start giving your ideas and dreams a chance. (you are preggars with possibilities- don’t abort your dreams before their you give them a chance to grow)
  12. Start believing that you’re ready for the next step. (just step out and go for it..even if it’s a baby step)
  13. Start entering new relationships for the right reasons.
  14. Start giving new people you meet a chance.
  15. Start learning from others and appreciating others gifts. (let go of pride + ego)
  16. Start cheering for others victories.
  17. Start looking for the silver lining in tough situations. (there’s a lesson in every circumstance)
  18. Start forgiving yourself and others.
  19. Start helping others and get your mind off yourself. ( this is the best natural anti-depressant)
  20. Start listening to your inner voice. (it will always take care of you)
  21. Start being attentive to your stress level and take short breaks.
  22. Start noticing the beauty of small moments. (when you get a grin from a baby)
  23. Start accepting things when they are less than perfect.
  24. Start working toward your goals and dreams every single day.
  25. Start being more open about how you feel. (remove the mask and keep it real)
  26. Start taking full accountability for your own life. (stop the blame game)
  27. Start actively nurturing your most important relationships.
  28. Start investing your energy in the things you can control. (stop wasting time on things beyond your control)
  29. Start focusing on the possibility of positive outcomes.
  30. Start realizing your unique gifts + talents. (stop comparing yourself to others and what they can do)
  31. Start noticing how wealthy you are RIGHT NOW. (you are so blessed)

Let’s all focus on one thing per day and regroup on May 31st to assess any changes, blocks or shifts that happened. So exciting!

Get ready for your light to shine brighter than ever! 

I am BEYOND excited to start shooting webisodes again and thank you for hanging in there with me during this transition!  I sense everything is going to a new level and I look forward to this next chapter with you all.  Don’t hesitate to share any topics you want to see!  I love getting ideas and feedback.

Remember, I’m all about giving you the tips to help you look good on the outside as well as “inner beauty” tips to help you feel good on the inside !  True, genuine and lasting beauty requires the dual-approach.  We can’t focus only on our outer appearance and neglect our spirit! Cheers to keeping it balanced and I have made it my mission to help you do so.

{{Shine On}}

With tons of love, Tiff

P.S.  Do your girlfriends a favor and invite them to join you on making the month of May simply AMAZING!  Share it, Follow it, Tweet it, Comment on it!

P.S.S. Are you on Pinterest?  How much fun is that thing!?!  It’s such a visually stimulating creative outlet.  Follow me: http://pinterest.com/sanctuarystyle

10 Ways To Stay Balanced & Sane:-)

Hey SOS Superstars!  

Who’s excited for the 2012 Academy Awards and all the red carpet glam this weekend?  If you’re on Twitter, connect with me and share your two-cents on the red carpet styles.  Follow me at www.twitter.com/sanctuarystyle

PLUS, I am learning Pinterest and slowly but surely creating boards! Like we have time for another Social Media account, but I totally get the obsession with this one!  I admit I’m getting addicted and and love the creativity.  If you’re like me and love Vision Boards, you have to join Pinterest and follow me at http://pinterest.com/sanctuarystyle . I created a board with my fave Oscar Moments.  I love this shot of Audrey Hepburn & Grace Kelly…

Ok, I’ve been brainstorming for this week’s blog and the topic of STAYING BALANCED has come up quite often among my friends.  It seems that everyone is feeling super crazy shifts and changes already this year.  We always start off the new year with a full tank of motivation, but can putter out quickly and start running on fumes from our busy day-to-day routine.  I don’t know about you, but I am not efficient, productive, creative or my happiest when I’m unbalanced.  I have learned the tools, the boundaries, the steps to keep myself from getting OFF KILTER.   If you’re tank is close to E (empty), here’s 10 ways we can keep our tank FULL and stay balanced & sane this year…

  1. Nurture your spirit:  Think of those things you did as a child that made you giddy and all warm & fuzzy on the inside. I loved playing outside when I was little!  So as an adult, the things that feed my spirit are usually activities out in nature.  A hike. Walk on the beach. A drive with the top down in a convertible.  Make time every week for an activity that makes you feel free, giddy and all warm & fuzzy!
  2. Prayer & Meditation:  I am a firm believer in starting your day with prayer & meditation. Taking the time to be still, get quiet and calm the inner chatter in your mind is one of THE MOST POWERFUL things you can do to stay balanced.  If you jump out of bed and immediately check your phone or emails, notice how easily “off kilter” the rest of your day will be.  Prayer is more than giving God a list of “to do’s”.  Focus on counting your blessings and giving gratitude!  This will bring you peace and an emotional state of well-being.
  3. Journaling:  Getting the thoughts out of your head and down on paper is extremely cathartic.  I began journaling about 10 years ago and it was like opening the flood gates!  If you keep all those thoughts bottled up eventually you can implode.  Start simple by logging your hopes, dreams, fears and things you’re grateful for. There is no magic formula to journaling and the method you go about it is a personal thing.  It’s fun to go back and read your progress and growth!
  4. Start a vision board.  Being an artist and a very visual person, I have been creating vision boards since I was a little girl and still do!  You are never too old to make a vision board.  This can be a super creative and fun way to keep your intentions, dreams and goals in plain site on a daily basis.  I prefer using a large cork board and clear tacks.  Cut out photos from magazines and newspapers of images that align with your goals and the vision for your life.  I also love to add powerful affirming words.  Make sure to hang it in a place you will see it on a regular basis.  As specific goals come to pass, remove them from the board and add new ones. This keeps it fresh and makes for a fun project all year long.
  5. Get a mentor.  Sharing your thoughts, goals and dreams with a person you admire and who has your best interest at heart is a powerful way to stay accountable. The definition of mentor: a trusted friend, counselor or teacher, usually a more experienced person. If you have someone in mind, simply ask them if they would be your mentor.  Being a mentor is a serious responsibility and honor.
  6. “Me” time:  This is especially important if you have children!  Do something ALONE every week that brings you joy.  It can be a simple as locking yourself in the bathroom and enjoying a long bubble bath.  I love to “flutter” around for an afternoon…go where ever I feel led to go- BY MYSELF!  I love to pop in one of my favorite shops, stop and grab lunch or get a mani/pedi.  For many, in order for this step to take place, you have to set boundaries with the people in your life that require much of your attention.  Mom’s you even need to set boundaries with your kids! This step is one of the most important ways to STAY SANE!
  7. Move your bootie:  Finding an exercise you love and moving your body is another very important way to stay balanced.  Working out not only helps the size of your thighs, but it helps your mind stay sharp and keeps your emotions under control.  If you get bored with your workout routine, change it up!  Try a new class like this Zumba everyone is raving about.  Just move that butt!  Sitting around wallowing and being sedentary will only inflame any emotional instability or depressed feelings.
  8. Be a giver:  One of the best natural anti-depressants is getting your mind off yourself and helping someone else.  This doesn’t have to be complicated and you don’t have to find a non-profit org to support.  Maybe it’s as easy as calling your lonely widowed aunt and checking on her. Maybe it’s offering to babysit your girlfriends kids so she and her hubby can have a date night without paying for a babysitter.  There’s a million creative ways to give!  It’s a total win-win…you, the giver, feels joy and so does the receiver.
  9. Girl Time:  On a regular basis, make time for special dinners, lunches, shopping dates or weekend trips with your girlfriends.  With the added responsibilities that come with being a wife and/or mother, making time for your girlfriends can be a challenge. BUT, it’s vital for women to connect.  It’s part of our lively-hood. Pick up the phone right now and plan a girlie lunch with a dear friend.  Girl Time does wonders for me…and for my hubby!  It makes me a much better wife!
  10. Join or start a group/class.  Surrounding yourself with like-minded people is a wonderful way to give and receive support.  This can be a book club, a cycling group or runners group, a prayer circle or even taking a cooking or photography class.  I am part of an amazing Spiritual Empowerment Group of Spiritually conscious, intelligent, loving and powerful career women who want to make a difference in the world.  If you cannot find a group to join, think about starting one!  It will change your life!

Staying balanced & sane is possible- no matter what is going on around us.  It’s a choice!  Decide to TODAY that you will do whatever it takes, you will use the necessary tools and you will set boundaries in order to keep from running on fumes! Cheers to sanity:-)

FINAL THOUGHT:

I must share these words of wisdom from my bestie LeeAnne Locken,

“Every setback is a setup for a comeback! God wants to bring you out better than you were before! Every trial we face, comes from the hand of God, who wants us to grow.  If your wise enough, you will see that disruptive moments are really divine appointments. We must learn to LOOK FOR THE LESSON! There is always one there making you a stronger person! The lessons prepare you for an abundant life! Now get out there and MAKE THIS DAY SPARKLE”! ♥
  • Share this blog post with any friends you have that may be feeling off kilter!
  • Comment and share  any ways you have found that help you STAY SANE!

With abundant love and appreciation,

Tiff 

MAKE THE CAMERA YOUR BFF!

Ho Ho Ho SOS Supermodels!

Do you have a love/hate relationship with the camera? 

Do you cringe when a friend tags you in a photo on Facebook?

Well, all of that is about to change!

During this time of year there are photo op’s every time you turn around whether it’s around the tree with family or toasting at a party with your girlfriends- so I wanted to share with you a few simple tips for taking YOUR BEST PHOTOS!   I started modeling at 14 and have had PLENTY of years of practice in front of the camera and learned what to tweak to help you look your most flattering + confident!  Luckily, these days with the digital cameras we can see it immediately and do as many retakes as we want!  Cracks me up when my friends and I take photos together,  we all want to check out how we look right away!  Screw how your friends look- we look at ourselves in the photo! You know what I’m talking about:-)

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Now the camera can be your new BFF!

This is the S-Curve pose that Christie Brinkley made famous!  I love that she wasn’t a toothpick.  Remember, swivel the hips and bring the shoulders back around.  This is by far, the most transforming photoposing tip!

REMINDER FOR MY CHRISTMAS GIVEAWAY:

I will be offering reasonable PRIVATE SKYPE CONSULTATION + COACHING SESSIONS next year so I am giving one SOS blog subscriber 30 minutes with me via skype!  To enter you must be a follower or subscriber of this blog and send me a personal email to asktiffanyhendra@gmail.com with a short + sweet note saying you would like to spend 30 minutes with me.

FUN IDEA:

I shared this on Facebook and it really made an impact on several gals!  “NEW YEAR…TIME FOR A NEW RED WALLET! As the new year approaches- take the time to cleanse + organize areas of your life that need it so you do not take “clutter” and blockage into 2012. One place to start- HOW DOES YOUR PURSE LOOK? Is it filled with old receipts, gum wrappers? Is is tattered? WHAT ABOUT YOUR WALLET? A great gift you can buy for yourself this season is a NEW RED WALLET: “A new wallet symbolizes being ready to accept new wealth + colors in the red family draw prosperity to you.”-Feng Shui expert, Carol Olmstead.  I just got this new Michael Kors- I’m ready for more prosperity in 2012! Go for it girls!

Had to share this awesome quote from my bestie LeeAnne Locken-  “You are not a size, you are not a weight, you are not a color, you are not an age, you are not a trophy, you are not a doll, you are a HUMAN and you are BEAUTIFUL!! Never let others define you…you define yourself”!  Isn’t that a great mantra to carry into the New Year!?

I love getting comments + feedback- so don’t hesitate to let me know what you want to see!

Wishing you all a fun, fabulous, festive week ahead + a Very Merry Christmas!  Hanukkah began today so if you are celebrating– I wish you a HAPPY HANUKKAH!

Remember it’s all about us being more fabulous together! 

Love, Tiff

What is your PMS like? Not the kind you’re thinking…

Hello Kindred Spirits!

My head is spinning with the idea that November is around the corner.  I do hope you all have had an Outstanding October! 

  • Have you been running on fumes in over-drive all year?
  • What have you been chasing?  Money….A Guy….Your 2 Year Old….Your Dream….Your Tail?
  • Are you focused and living with purpose?  Or are you all over the place with little direction?

Once November arrives, we will have just 60 days left in 2011 which gets me thinking about the New Year on the horizon.   Whoa- 2012 is almost here ladies!  The thought of this has put me in a reflective mode.  I am clearing the clutter of life and getting focused on my PMS to make sure I am in alignment with it and making the right choices to support it.   You’re probably wondering “what the heck is Tiff talking about, right”?  Of course, I’m not talking about that dreaded week every month when all hell breaks loose, your skinny jeans fit a bit too snug and our head seems to be detached from our body- I’m talking about my PERSONAL MISSION STATEMENT!

DO YOU HAVE A PERSONAL MISSION STATEMENT?

We should all be able to clearly verbalize our PMS in one sentence.  Whether you are a stay-at-home mom dedicated to raising healthy children or you are climbing the corporate ladder or volunteering your time to a non-profit organization close to your heart- living our lives with intention and knowing, without a doubt, what our mission in life is- gives us purpose and keeps us from just meandering through life.  Our PMS keeps us focused, brings us joy and gives us the guidance we need on those days when we feel unsure! 

WE WERE ALL PUT ON THIS EARTH FOR A PURPOSE!

A personal mission consists of 3 parts:

  1. What do I want to do?
  2. Who do I want to help?
  3. What is the result? What value will I create?

Do you know your PMS?  Awesome!  Please share it with us with a comment below.

If not,  here’s  a fun exercise to help you open your heart and mind before attempting to write your PMS:

Sit in a comfortable, quiet space.  Close your eyes and clear your mind.  Imagine you are 90 years old- healthy, fulfilled and content- sitting in a porch swing with the sound of birds chirping and the wind rustling the trees.  You look back on your life and list all the miraculous things you did, places you visited and people you blessed by living FULLY IN YOUR PURPOSE.  Is there anything you regret not doing?   What were the things that mattered most to you over your lifetime?  When did you feel most alive?  What were you doing when you were effectively helping others?  Remember, this is not about how much money you earned in your life either!

Write all these things down.  At 90, our life is nearly over- that is if we actually make it to 90!   Do you want to be able to look back on it and know beyond a shadow of a doubt that you TRULY LIVED YOUR PURPOSE?   You may not be able to write your PMS just like that- SNAP- in one day.  Give yourself time and you may have to do some serious soul searching.

TIFF’S PMS  (Haha…my hubby, Aaron could give you an ear full about my “other” kind of pms:-)

I am going to make this story short and sweet.  There is really A LOT more to it which I will share another time!  In 2002, after booking plenty of TV shows and building a decent resume as an actress and TV host, I sensed something was missing.  I had come to LA and achieved what I “thought” would make me happy and fulfilled.  It didn’t.  I knew God had more for me to do on this Earth and I had felt that from the time I was a little girl, but I wasn’t quite sure what it was.  I always knew I loved to help people, but “people” is very broad.  

In June 2002, with some money in the bank after wrapping a show,  I left LA and went back to Texas for six months of serious soul searching.   I am so grateful I had the luxury to do this and not worry about working!  After 3 months of getting “still” and pretty much locking myself away from all the things that had always distracted me before- I received TOTAL CLARITY on what my PURPOSE was and wrote out my PMS.  I tear up as I write this now because that was such a profound time in my life.   I knew that I was here to “Empower, Educate and Inspire women- through my testimony and experiences- to live their most confident, fulfilled and powerful lives”.   I spent 3 more months in Texas writing my first treatment for a women’s talk show and taped a pilot!   This was the most amazing 6 months!  When we clear the clutter of life and get through the storms, follow the rainbow and look within at the beautiful loving nature’s God gave us all- we find our pot of gold!  We waste so much time looking everywhere else for the gold, but it’s within each of us.  Then when we share that gold with others- WE HAVE FOUND OUR PURPOSE!

“Writing or reviewing a mission statement changes you because it forces you to think through your priorities deeply, carefully, and to align your behaviour with your beliefs”
– Stephen Covey, ‘7 Habits of Highly Effective People’

PLEASE SHARE YOUR PMS WITH THE SOS FAMILY! 

We should all support one another on our mission in life.  Thank you for being part of mine!

Sharing the beauty, style + inspiration,

Tiff xoxo

Why did I create SOS? (Plus a few updates)

A LIL ONE-ON-ONE WITH TIFF…

If you have been watching my webisodes and reading my blog for a while now, you probably have a good idea what I’m all about, right!?  There’s still a few things I haven’t shared publicly YET and over time I will be more open and transparent.  There’s a time and place for everything!   I’m actually going to write a book!

In Part 2 of my hike up Runyon Canyon, I take a moment to say a few positive affirmations and give thanks for all of you and this mission through Sanctuary Of Style.

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I recently experienced first hand the truth of Oprah’s saying, “Success come when Preparation meets Opportunity”.    I was booked as the host, image coach, mentor and counsler to young women needing a serious life change!    This role was custom-made for me.   So grateful for the experience!   Unfortunately, I can’t give too many details, but let’s just say- this is a show we’ll all love to watch.

(Here’s a pic of me giving the ladies a few etiquette and dating tips)

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

You have heard me rave about Entrepreneur Mentor for Women, Ali Brown.  I have been diving into her telecourses and learning so much- not only about business, but personal growth!   Even coaches need to be coached!   She’s a fellow Lioness and on the day I wrapped my show, she invited me to her personal birthday party with a handful of powerful entrepreneur ladies.  It was the perfect way to wrap a perfect experience!   If you are interested in taking your business to the next level, I highly recommend checking out her teaching products at www.alibrown.com.   I am planning to attend her exciting 3 day conference called SHINE in Dallas on Nov 2-4th.  I hear it’s life-changing!   I know many of you are in Dallas so check into it at this link: SHINE 2011 INFO.   Could be fun to catch up there!

 

 

 

 

I want to give a special SHOUT OUT to the extraordinary ladies who were so generous with their participation on the July Swag Bag Giveaway, Carla Masley and Shelley Goodstein. You gals rock!

Last thing, if you are planning to clean out your closets this summer to make room for fall- please consider donating your gently used items to DIVA’S CLOSET! 

A TOPIC YOU WANT TO SEE A WEBISODE ON?  Let me know! 

Sharing the love, style+inspiration,

Tiff