10 Ways To Stay Balanced & Sane:-)

Hey SOS Superstars!  

Who’s excited for the 2012 Academy Awards and all the red carpet glam this weekend?  If you’re on Twitter, connect with me and share your two-cents on the red carpet styles.  Follow me at www.twitter.com/sanctuarystyle

PLUS, I am learning Pinterest and slowly but surely creating boards! Like we have time for another Social Media account, but I totally get the obsession with this one!  I admit I’m getting addicted and and love the creativity.  If you’re like me and love Vision Boards, you have to join Pinterest and follow me at http://pinterest.com/sanctuarystyle . I created a board with my fave Oscar Moments.  I love this shot of Audrey Hepburn & Grace Kelly…

Ok, I’ve been brainstorming for this week’s blog and the topic of STAYING BALANCED has come up quite often among my friends.  It seems that everyone is feeling super crazy shifts and changes already this year.  We always start off the new year with a full tank of motivation, but can putter out quickly and start running on fumes from our busy day-to-day routine.  I don’t know about you, but I am not efficient, productive, creative or my happiest when I’m unbalanced.  I have learned the tools, the boundaries, the steps to keep myself from getting OFF KILTER.   If you’re tank is close to E (empty), here’s 10 ways we can keep our tank FULL and stay balanced & sane this year…

  1. Nurture your spirit:  Think of those things you did as a child that made you giddy and all warm & fuzzy on the inside. I loved playing outside when I was little!  So as an adult, the things that feed my spirit are usually activities out in nature.  A hike. Walk on the beach. A drive with the top down in a convertible.  Make time every week for an activity that makes you feel free, giddy and all warm & fuzzy!
  2. Prayer & Meditation:  I am a firm believer in starting your day with prayer & meditation. Taking the time to be still, get quiet and calm the inner chatter in your mind is one of THE MOST POWERFUL things you can do to stay balanced.  If you jump out of bed and immediately check your phone or emails, notice how easily “off kilter” the rest of your day will be.  Prayer is more than giving God a list of “to do’s”.  Focus on counting your blessings and giving gratitude!  This will bring you peace and an emotional state of well-being.
  3. Journaling:  Getting the thoughts out of your head and down on paper is extremely cathartic.  I began journaling about 10 years ago and it was like opening the flood gates!  If you keep all those thoughts bottled up eventually you can implode.  Start simple by logging your hopes, dreams, fears and things you’re grateful for. There is no magic formula to journaling and the method you go about it is a personal thing.  It’s fun to go back and read your progress and growth!
  4. Start a vision board.  Being an artist and a very visual person, I have been creating vision boards since I was a little girl and still do!  You are never too old to make a vision board.  This can be a super creative and fun way to keep your intentions, dreams and goals in plain site on a daily basis.  I prefer using a large cork board and clear tacks.  Cut out photos from magazines and newspapers of images that align with your goals and the vision for your life.  I also love to add powerful affirming words.  Make sure to hang it in a place you will see it on a regular basis.  As specific goals come to pass, remove them from the board and add new ones. This keeps it fresh and makes for a fun project all year long.
  5. Get a mentor.  Sharing your thoughts, goals and dreams with a person you admire and who has your best interest at heart is a powerful way to stay accountable. The definition of mentor: a trusted friend, counselor or teacher, usually a more experienced person. If you have someone in mind, simply ask them if they would be your mentor.  Being a mentor is a serious responsibility and honor.
  6. “Me” time:  This is especially important if you have children!  Do something ALONE every week that brings you joy.  It can be a simple as locking yourself in the bathroom and enjoying a long bubble bath.  I love to “flutter” around for an afternoon…go where ever I feel led to go- BY MYSELF!  I love to pop in one of my favorite shops, stop and grab lunch or get a mani/pedi.  For many, in order for this step to take place, you have to set boundaries with the people in your life that require much of your attention.  Mom’s you even need to set boundaries with your kids! This step is one of the most important ways to STAY SANE!
  7. Move your bootie:  Finding an exercise you love and moving your body is another very important way to stay balanced.  Working out not only helps the size of your thighs, but it helps your mind stay sharp and keeps your emotions under control.  If you get bored with your workout routine, change it up!  Try a new class like this Zumba everyone is raving about.  Just move that butt!  Sitting around wallowing and being sedentary will only inflame any emotional instability or depressed feelings.
  8. Be a giver:  One of the best natural anti-depressants is getting your mind off yourself and helping someone else.  This doesn’t have to be complicated and you don’t have to find a non-profit org to support.  Maybe it’s as easy as calling your lonely widowed aunt and checking on her. Maybe it’s offering to babysit your girlfriends kids so she and her hubby can have a date night without paying for a babysitter.  There’s a million creative ways to give!  It’s a total win-win…you, the giver, feels joy and so does the receiver.
  9. Girl Time:  On a regular basis, make time for special dinners, lunches, shopping dates or weekend trips with your girlfriends.  With the added responsibilities that come with being a wife and/or mother, making time for your girlfriends can be a challenge. BUT, it’s vital for women to connect.  It’s part of our lively-hood. Pick up the phone right now and plan a girlie lunch with a dear friend.  Girl Time does wonders for me…and for my hubby!  It makes me a much better wife!
  10. Join or start a group/class.  Surrounding yourself with like-minded people is a wonderful way to give and receive support.  This can be a book club, a cycling group or runners group, a prayer circle or even taking a cooking or photography class.  I am part of an amazing Spiritual Empowerment Group of Spiritually conscious, intelligent, loving and powerful career women who want to make a difference in the world.  If you cannot find a group to join, think about starting one!  It will change your life!

Staying balanced & sane is possible- no matter what is going on around us.  It’s a choice!  Decide to TODAY that you will do whatever it takes, you will use the necessary tools and you will set boundaries in order to keep from running on fumes! Cheers to sanity:-)

FINAL THOUGHT:

I must share these words of wisdom from my bestie LeeAnne Locken,

“Every setback is a setup for a comeback! God wants to bring you out better than you were before! Every trial we face, comes from the hand of God, who wants us to grow.  If your wise enough, you will see that disruptive moments are really divine appointments. We must learn to LOOK FOR THE LESSON! There is always one there making you a stronger person! The lessons prepare you for an abundant life! Now get out there and MAKE THIS DAY SPARKLE”! ♥
  • Share this blog post with any friends you have that may be feeling off kilter!
  • Comment and share  any ways you have found that help you STAY SANE!

With abundant love and appreciation,

Tiff 

What is your PMS like? Not the kind you’re thinking…

Hello Kindred Spirits!

My head is spinning with the idea that November is around the corner.  I do hope you all have had an Outstanding October! 

  • Have you been running on fumes in over-drive all year?
  • What have you been chasing?  Money….A Guy….Your 2 Year Old….Your Dream….Your Tail?
  • Are you focused and living with purpose?  Or are you all over the place with little direction?

Once November arrives, we will have just 60 days left in 2011 which gets me thinking about the New Year on the horizon.   Whoa- 2012 is almost here ladies!  The thought of this has put me in a reflective mode.  I am clearing the clutter of life and getting focused on my PMS to make sure I am in alignment with it and making the right choices to support it.   You’re probably wondering “what the heck is Tiff talking about, right”?  Of course, I’m not talking about that dreaded week every month when all hell breaks loose, your skinny jeans fit a bit too snug and our head seems to be detached from our body- I’m talking about my PERSONAL MISSION STATEMENT!

DO YOU HAVE A PERSONAL MISSION STATEMENT?

We should all be able to clearly verbalize our PMS in one sentence.  Whether you are a stay-at-home mom dedicated to raising healthy children or you are climbing the corporate ladder or volunteering your time to a non-profit organization close to your heart- living our lives with intention and knowing, without a doubt, what our mission in life is- gives us purpose and keeps us from just meandering through life.  Our PMS keeps us focused, brings us joy and gives us the guidance we need on those days when we feel unsure! 

WE WERE ALL PUT ON THIS EARTH FOR A PURPOSE!

A personal mission consists of 3 parts:

  1. What do I want to do?
  2. Who do I want to help?
  3. What is the result? What value will I create?

Do you know your PMS?  Awesome!  Please share it with us with a comment below.

If not,  here’s  a fun exercise to help you open your heart and mind before attempting to write your PMS:

Sit in a comfortable, quiet space.  Close your eyes and clear your mind.  Imagine you are 90 years old- healthy, fulfilled and content- sitting in a porch swing with the sound of birds chirping and the wind rustling the trees.  You look back on your life and list all the miraculous things you did, places you visited and people you blessed by living FULLY IN YOUR PURPOSE.  Is there anything you regret not doing?   What were the things that mattered most to you over your lifetime?  When did you feel most alive?  What were you doing when you were effectively helping others?  Remember, this is not about how much money you earned in your life either!

Write all these things down.  At 90, our life is nearly over- that is if we actually make it to 90!   Do you want to be able to look back on it and know beyond a shadow of a doubt that you TRULY LIVED YOUR PURPOSE?   You may not be able to write your PMS just like that- SNAP- in one day.  Give yourself time and you may have to do some serious soul searching.

TIFF’S PMS  (Haha…my hubby, Aaron could give you an ear full about my “other” kind of pms:-)

I am going to make this story short and sweet.  There is really A LOT more to it which I will share another time!  In 2002, after booking plenty of TV shows and building a decent resume as an actress and TV host, I sensed something was missing.  I had come to LA and achieved what I “thought” would make me happy and fulfilled.  It didn’t.  I knew God had more for me to do on this Earth and I had felt that from the time I was a little girl, but I wasn’t quite sure what it was.  I always knew I loved to help people, but “people” is very broad.  

In June 2002, with some money in the bank after wrapping a show,  I left LA and went back to Texas for six months of serious soul searching.   I am so grateful I had the luxury to do this and not worry about working!  After 3 months of getting “still” and pretty much locking myself away from all the things that had always distracted me before- I received TOTAL CLARITY on what my PURPOSE was and wrote out my PMS.  I tear up as I write this now because that was such a profound time in my life.   I knew that I was here to “Empower, Educate and Inspire women- through my testimony and experiences- to live their most confident, fulfilled and powerful lives”.   I spent 3 more months in Texas writing my first treatment for a women’s talk show and taped a pilot!   This was the most amazing 6 months!  When we clear the clutter of life and get through the storms, follow the rainbow and look within at the beautiful loving nature’s God gave us all- we find our pot of gold!  We waste so much time looking everywhere else for the gold, but it’s within each of us.  Then when we share that gold with others- WE HAVE FOUND OUR PURPOSE!

“Writing or reviewing a mission statement changes you because it forces you to think through your priorities deeply, carefully, and to align your behaviour with your beliefs”
– Stephen Covey, ‘7 Habits of Highly Effective People’

PLEASE SHARE YOUR PMS WITH THE SOS FAMILY! 

We should all support one another on our mission in life.  Thank you for being part of mine!

Sharing the beauty, style + inspiration,

Tiff xoxo

DO YOU LOVE YOUR WORKOUT?

WATCH WEBISODE:

Do you burn out quickly when you start a new workout routine or are you one of the lucky one’s who LOVES THEIR WORKOUT?

I’m a firm believer that if you love and enjoy your workout then you will stay motivated to stick with it and it becomes part of your lifestyle!  In Part 1,  I take you on a hike up Runyon Canyon, my favorite workout!  Enjoy.  STAY TUNED FOR PART 2!

Post a comment and let me know what your fav workout routine is…Yoga, Pilates, Swimming, Hiking?

QUICK HEALTH TIP:

EAT MORE KALE-  I have had a few Wonder Women Girlfriends (meaning they have superhuman energy) tell me they drank kale smoothies…Hmm, I just add super green powder to mine and thought that was good enoughg.  I was curious and googled the benefits of raw kale then went to Whole Foods and bought a bunch!  It’s always better to use a whole food so I’ll save the super greens for when I’m out of the real deal!  I have been adding kale to my morning smoothies for the past week and feel amazing!  Gotta read these benefits…… READ MORE

Simple & Yummy Kale Salad Recipe from Julianna Geldien:   Chopped Kale, Slivered Almonds, Chopped Red Onion , Sprinkle Parmesan Cheese, Toss in Olive Oil & Sea Salt.   Thanks JG!

REMEMBER…

The Beach Bag Giveaway ends on Thursday, June 30th.  It’s filled with amazing products from SALERM COSMETICS, as well as my sisters personalized parfume oil called Corpus Dei and I’m so excited that DEBORAH CLOYED will be signing a copy of her book, “The Summer We Came To Life” for the giveaway.  Winner will be announced before the 4th of July.

 

 

 

 

We have some exciting things coming up in July too!   Do you have a webisode topic you would like to see?   Please let me know!

“Love is what we are born with. Fear is what we learn. The spiritual journey is the unlearning of fear and prejudices and the acceptance of love back in our hearts. Love is the essential reality and our purpose on earth. To be consciously aware of it, to experience love in ourselves and others, is the meaning of life. Meaning does not lie in things. Meaning lies in us.”  — Marianne Williamson

Spread your beautiful wings and fly high this week….here’s to BLUE SKIES AHEAD!  xoTiff