WHERE IS YOUR CROWN? A Call To Action

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How fast did January fly by? We’re wrapping up the first month of 2015 and have gotten back into the groove or perhaps you’re trying to create a new groove for the year. With the hustle of life, women easily and willingly shove their crowns in the back of the junk drawer. Where is your crown these days? (Yes, I’m referring to your invisible metaphoric one, but if you want to rock a real tiara- go right ahead sista!)  How is your “queendom” looking? How are you feeling- body, mind & spirit?

I want to encourage you to make your “self-care” a top priority and treat yourself like the queen that you are. You are not a martyr, you are not a slave, you are not a pauper.

YOU ARE A QUEEN! THIS IS YOUR CALL TO ACTION FOR 2015!

Beautiful miracles open up in your life when you pamper, respect and love yourself. Too many women view this as selfish or self-indulgent. Moms, if you are taking good care of yourself, you are setting an example for your children to do the same. It goes the same for the opposite. If you are neglecting yourself, you are setting that negative example for your kids.

Everyone’s life is different so the various levels of self-care will be different for every woman, but here are a few ways we can all make self-care a priority this year:

  1. BE SPONTANEOUS. Take a break each week and do something totally spontaneous. I know this sounds contradictory to plan spontaneity, but we gotta do what we gotta do, right. Basically, it’s giving yourself free time each week and sometimes even that has to be scheduled. For example, on a day that has a light schedule, go do something totally fun. Last Friday after a morning meeting- which I had blocked off more time for than was needed- and when the meeting ended sooner than expected my girlfriend (who was also at the meeting) and I headed to the mall, grabbed a Starbucks for shopping stamina and went hunting  for boot sales! Totally spontaneous and just what the doctor ordered after a very busy week.
  2. ASK FOR HELP. This is a big one because we don’t like to “put people out” or bother anyone. I admit to being really weak in this area because 1. I’m a control freak and 2. I don’t like to bother people. As my schedule gets crazier and I have more responsibilities, I am forcing myself out of my comfort zone and asking for help. A queen allows people to do things for her. She’s not a B@&*# about it and she’s not demanding. She simply knows her queendom will run more efficiently when she delegates and isn’t afraid to ask people to do things that they are probably much better at than she is anyway.
  3. WEEKLY PAMPERING. Create a “Just for me” cash stash and go blow it on yourself every single week. Yes, I said every week not every few months. Get a mani/pedi, massage, facial, body wrap or treatment, etc every week. Maybe put the money toward an empowering seminar you’ve been wanting to take which pampers your spirit. I admit, I still do my nails at home every once in a while for convenience, but I started a “just for me” cash stash a few years ago and it is one of the best ways to practice self- care. I can no longer use the excuse of lack of funds for neglecting myself.

The list really could go to a hundred ways to take care of yourself, but these 3 things have stood out to me recently between my private lifestyle mentor clients and girlfriends. Don’t wait until you have chronic migraines, resent your family for spreading you thin and you begin to feel like a doormat. Start today. Set your intention on rockin’ that crown proudly.

 

I wanted to share one of my favorite Oprah quotes and just googled it to find there was more to it. I’m excited to add this to the post:

Be A Queen by Oprah

 

Be a queen. Dare to be different. Be a pioneer. Be a leader. Be the kind of woman who in the face of diversity will continue to embrace life and walk fearlessly toward challenge. Take it on! Be a truth seeker and rule your domain, whatever it is—your home, your office, your family—with a loving heart.

Be a queen. Be tender. Continue to give birth to ideas and rejoice in your womanhood… my prayer is that we will stop wasting time being mundane and mediocre… we are daughters of God—here to teach the world how to love…

It doesn’t matter what you’ve been through, where you come from, who your parents are—nor your social or economic status. None of that matters. What matters is how you choose to love, how you choose to express that love through your work, through your family, through what you have to give to the world…

Be a queen. Own your power and glory!

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Cheers to my fellow daughters of God!
Please leave a comment and share if you’re going to dust off your crown and make sure to share this with your friends who need this call to action as well.
Love, Tiff

 

STOP FIGHTING IT! Embrace The Place You’re In {Candid Motivational Vlog}

RESISTANCE.

It causes us so much pain, frustration and even anger. In today’s candid video blog I share a realization that will forever change the way I handle growth spurts and the different phases we go through. Are you resisting the phase you’re in or have you embraced the art of surrender?

Check it out…

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Of course, when you open up to receive messages/ hints/nudges – they arrive at precisely the right time. I met with a stunning young women about mentoring and she was telling me about a powerful YouTube video from Oprah’s Master Class. I watched the video tonight and whoa– I had seen it last year and it impacted me then, but the reminder was even more powerful, RIGHT NOW. It goes to show that the concept of surrender is an ongoing practice. Sort of like the concept of forgiveness. It’s something we need to always work on. Although I live my life with God behind the wheel, my “control freak” nature creeps back in from time-to-time creating inner turmoil, resistance and sometimes depression. So….

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Check this out….

 

Share your two-cents! 

Cheers to letting go sista,

Tiff xo

Prayer, Positivity + Patent Leather

Happy Humpday Hotstuff!  Today’s post has a dash of everything to jazz up your heart-space, your mind and your wardrobe!  Ready? Let’s get started….

For the past few weeks I’ve felt a beautiful shift and the urgency to go even deeper in my Spiritual life. I feel like a Spiritual Sponge and want to soak up new teachings, ideas, tools and practices in order to keep growing and understanding my true purpose and what God has planned for me.  I believe we are a “work-in-progress” until we take our final breath and there’s still so many old mindsets from the past that I wish to overcome and concepts that no longer serve me and my highest good.  Woohoo for outgrowing old mindsets!  It’s a liberating time as well as a challenging one and many times, we get bogged down in the complexity of it all.  I often judge myself and over -analyze what I’m thinking.  But, the truth is…it is all quite simple.  We need to just open our hearts, be like a little innocent child and then just LISTEN.  Have you felt what I’m describing?   All of these concepts are brilliantly taught by one of my fave Spiritual teachers, Marianne Williamson.  She has a gift for articulating profound Spiritual principles into easy-to-comprehend teachings to apply to your life.  I recently watched older episodes of her appearances on the  “The Best of The Oprah Show”  on OWN and I highly recommend that you do yourself a favor and watch it!  Life-changing.  I have read many of Marianne’s books and they are the type you need to read every few years.  I wanted to share this beautiful Morning Prayer from her book, ILLUMINATA.  If you struggle with getting your day started right and then continuing to come from a place of Love VS. Fear throughout the day, I encourage you to print this out and read it every morning:

Dear God,
I give this day to You.
May my mind stay centered on the things of spirit.
May I not be tempted to stray from love.
As I begin this day, I open to receive You.
Please enter where You already abide.
May my mind and heart be pure and true, and may I not deviate from the things of goodness.
May I see the love and innocence in all mankind, behind the masks we all wear and the illusions of this worldly plane.
I surrender to You my doings this day.
I ask only that they serve You and the healing of the world.
May I bring Your love and goodness with me, to give unto others wherever I go.
Make me the person You would have me be.
Direct my footsteps, and show me what You would have me do.
Make the world a safer, more beautiful place.
Bless all Your creatures.
Heal us all, and use me, dear Lord, that I might know the joy of being used by You.
Amen.

Here’s a candid video sharing my thoughts on not beating yourself up if you have negative thoughts– because they can actually be a GREAT MOTIVATOR!

Quick style tip to keep in mind when you start shopping for new fall items: Rock patent leather preferably in the Burgundy, Wine + Red family!  Either a great jacket, boots or handbag will jazz up your wardrobe for Fall 2012!

Please invite your girlfriends to join the Style Sisterhood!  We are all growing and getting more fabulous together.

Walk Tall.  Be Unapologetic for Your Fabulous-ness.

Love Yourself.

xo, Tiff

HAPPY FRIDAY the 13th

Hey Fabulous Friend!

How was your week?  I hope you were kickin’ butt and takin’ names!  It’s been an exhilarating, yet exhausting week for me because of the long build up to my hubby’s music video launch and I’m looking forward to being able to stay in my jammies all day on Sat…..if I can! Don’t you just love a lazy day to “piddle” around the house?  I put Pandora music on shuffle, hair in a ponytail, no makeup and do whatever the heck I feel like. I find if I don’t recharge after a busy week I become a total witch with a Capital B who feels me?  Because I was feeling depleted, I needed an extra snack of Spiritual nourishment last night and curled up with the laptop and watch a few epsiodes of Oprah’s Lifeclass with Bishop TD Jakes + Deepak Chopra. Whew! It was more like a yummy buffet than a snack. I highly recommend watching a few episodes this weekend if you are in need of some good Spiritual food.

{Style Tip}

WOW- I have been blown away at the responses from the “7 Tricks to Hiding the Muffin Top”. Everyone from personal friends, family and YouTuber’s are commenting on how much they needed these tips. Have you tried any of the tips yet? I wanted to remind you to play with your belts. It really is one of the quickest ways to camouflage things in the middle! Especially wider belts….

{Beauty Tip}

Did you know drinking a big glass of water first thing in the morning is one of the most important beauty tips you will ever hear?!  It’s true. Water is vital for proper organ function and remember, our skin is the largest organ so it’s just as important what we ingest as what we apply to our skin.  As we sleep our stomach fills up with acid and the water dilutes it and gets your day started healthy instead of on the toxic side.   Toxicity in your organs will show up on your beautiful face as acne, bags under your eyes and sagging skin.  Make it a habit to take a big glass of water to bed with you so you can down it right when you wake up!  For extra internal scrubbing, add some lemon juice to your water!

{Inspiration}

Do you have a special spot you can go to think, decompress and daydream?  It could be your bathtub, your garden, back porch, your mom’s kitchen table or even the gym. By now, you all know I love hiking and being outdoors.  I love being among the trees and seeing the sky always gives me instant peace. If you don’t have a special spot, I encourage you to find one this weekend. Maybe there’s a beautiful park nearby that you’ve never been to.  It will become your private oasis to run to whenever you need to get a hold of your thoughts, reconnect with your spirit and just EXHALE.

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Sparkle On,

Tiff