GOT ANXIETY? DO THIS.

 

Hey Love,

Because of the recent disaster in my hometown of Houston, I’ve been receiving messages on my social media daily asking how I deal with anxiety. I also get messages regularly asking how to get started with praying so I thought I would repost the video below from this spring. I admit I was filled with a rush of panic the day of the gas shortage in Dallas last week. The long lines at the gas stations, horrible traffic, people were frantic, my phone was blowing up and as an empath I feel the collective energy around me. Thank God a girlfriend gave me a heads up the night before about the gas sitch and I was able to get to the gas station early that morning, but still sat in quite a line. Instead of staying glued to the news, I tried to stay off social media last weekend and plug in to God even deeper.

Prayer is powerful and if you feel the nudge to begin praying, I would say now is a great time to start. It’s never to late! One thing I didn’t mention in the video is that prayer does not have to be complicated. When I start an entry in my prayer journal, I treat it like a letter to God with “Dear Heavenly Father,…”.  Just talk to God as you would a dear friend or the ultimate daddy. Before I give Him my laundry list of needs/wants, I thank Him for all my blessings and answers to prayer no matter how small. You don’t have to be overly eloquent or religious. Just think of it as your most importance chat of the day.

Praying is one of the best things you can do to nix anxiety. When I start giving God a list of gratitude, I immediately feel the anxiety drain from my body and peace rush over me. I do this all throughout the day!! Sometimes I wonder if God laughs because I’m constantly chatting with Him throughout the day. He’s probably thinking, “Girl, you are one Chatty Cathy!” hahaha! If your anxiety is heightened like so many people around the world, I encourage you to begin praying and if you already pray a little bit– AMP IT UP.

 

 

Praying for the victims of Hurricane Harvey and the devastation Irma is already leaving. Praying for Florida as her arrival approaches there. Praying for all the families who lost loved ones in the earthquake in Mexico.

Praying for the world.

I know it’s easy to get pissed at God when events like this happen, but I encourage you DO NOT allow your mind and spirit to entertain those thoughts.

Instead, lean in and rely on Him.

 

 

 

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What I Pray For

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Photo taken by me in Santa Monica. One of the highlights of 2015- going back to California for the first time since our move.

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I just stumbled across this old blog post and had to repost it. Be blessed!

 

Sista, my prayer for you:

 

May every single day be filled with the wonder of God’s special love for you.

I pray for your happiness, but also for a greater sense of fulfillment in your career and purpose, an ease of communication with those you love, and a sense of satisfaction in all that you have accomplished. Above all, may you rest secure in the knowing of God’s presence. Regardless of how lonely you feel or how difficult a situation- you are never alone. 

I pray for you to be happy and expectant about what is on the horizon in 2016.

I pray for smiles and love.

I pray for friends that are true and authentic.

I pray for kindness and compassion.

I pray for unexpected moments of joy and laughter.

I pray for you to be at peace. 

I pray you walk taller and shine brighter. I pray you shake off any self-defeating thoughts and truly own your beauty.  I pray you are healthy and whole- body, mind and spirit. I pray you stay spiritually centered.

May God keep you in touch with all that you are and all that you are meant to become. May you have the strength and discernment to remove any toxic person who does not celebrate and encourage the woman you are becoming.

 

Keep praying and stay in constant communication with God. 

Keep believing.

Keep moving forward.

 

Amen.

 

EGO= Edging God Out [Video]

 

 

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LIFESTYLE SERIES WEEK #4: Prayer Before Pills

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[DISCLAIMER]

Before anyone freaks out about me discussing my stint with antidepressants, I am fully aware that many people truly need them for chemical imbalances and psychological issues. I respect anyone who seeks help and receives proper  treatment. My experience was with doctors who rather just put you on a pill instead of giving you healthy lifestyle options. That is all I’m offering here. The options that have worked for me, but that doesn’t mean they work for everyone.  

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Here we go…week # 4 is the most important tip I have shared so far in the SOS journey. In the beginning, I wasn’t confident enough to share this probably for fear of being judged, but now I’m all about transparency in order to help others. What I have found on this healing journey is women who “have lost themselves” or “want something that’s all their own” or “feel unfulfilled” have disconnected from their own spirit and from God. Throughout my 20’s, this is exactly what my issue was. I was spinning my wheels trying to fulfill myself with my career, building my resume, being a size 2, dating the wrong guys and wanting more money, money, money.

After hitting rock bottom and crying out to God, I implemented this morning ritual into my life and it changed everything. Starting to learn to love myself, reconnect with God, finding peace and controlling the mind crank was so important to me that I was willing to do whatever I needed to do to achieve it– especially without RX medication.  Back at that time, Aaron was working construction and got up for work at 4:30am so it was easy to get up with him. I get it– some people just aren’t morning people, but even just devoting 10-15 minutes to getting your peace on and focusing on a prayer of gratitude will completely change your life. Again, this is what worked for me. That doesn’t mean you have to to the exact same ritual. Many women I coach have fit their “God appointment” into their routine after they have taken the kids to school and have a quieter home.

From my heart to yours…

In our generation, we have so many great resources at our fingertips. On mornings I don’t feel like reading, I may watch an empowering message on YouTube or listen to a podcast. Remember, find what works for you, what captures your attention and gets down into your spirit. Do more of that!

Thank you for allowing me to feel safe enough to be transparent here.

Share with a friend who you feel needs this message.

Holding your hand. Giving you a hug.

 

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SHARE THE PRAYER!

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Our Father who art in heaven, hallowed be Thy name,

Thy kingdom come,

Thy will be done, on earth as it is in heaven,

give us this day our daily bread and forgive us our trespasses as

we forgive those who trespass against us and lead us not into temptation,

 but deliver us from evil, for Thine is the kingdom and the power

and the glory, now and forever Amen.

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Hello Fab Friends,

Today, I invite you to join me in prayer.  Regardless of your Faith– we can all join as sisters and brothers in prayer.  It is truly powerful and I had to share this email prayer I received a few weeks ago.  My heart was touched and I trust yours will be too!  I thought it was fitting to share this prayer on Memorial weekend.  Let us unite in sending love and prayers to all the families who have lost a loved one while serving our country.  We honor them all by bowing our heads in gratitude for their sacrifice.

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It shall be well with you the remainder of the year. No matter how much your enemies try this year, they will not succeed.
 You have been DESTINED to make it and you shall surely achieve all your goals this year.


Your agonies will be diverted and victory and prosperity will be incoming in abundance.  Today, God has confirmed the end of your sufferings sorrows because He will take away your hardships and give you JOY.  He will never let you down.
 Just ask, believe and receive.

Let’s pray for one another and continue to ask for Gods Will to be done here on earth.

GOD LOVES YOU!

  
He has seen you struggling with something and He says it is over. 

Blessings are coming your way!

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Love, Tiff

Are you a Goldfish?

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HAPPY FRIDAY GOLDFISH!

This simple yet profound photo impacted many on the Facebook Page so I had to share it here as well.  I LOVE IT!  Does it speak to you the way it did to me?  One of the primary messages of SOS is to be Bold + Confident and this photo represents just that.  Do you battle with your confidence?  Do you feel like that goldfish on the inside, but for some reason you find it difficult to truly own it?  Do you shrink back with all the other little blue fish for fear of being too different or being considered a ‘show off’ among your peers? 

From childhood, we are trying to ‘fit in’ and find our group.  I hung around the cheerleaders and jocks for a while, but I was really more eclectic and artsy.  The dark, outcast, artistic types were who I felt most comfortable with.  You know the guys in art class who wore Doc Martin’s and concert T’s with buzzed hair except for that one long bang that hung down over one eye.  They were my fave peeps, yet I dated one of the cutest, most popular basketball players in school.  I also played the piano in my youth group services at church.  Oh yea– and I was modeling quite a bit by my senior year.  Whoa, there were a few crazy years in high school and had to switch schools too.  AHHHH!  I was all over the place and always walked to the beat of my own drum.  Where was I suppose to fit in?  I never really knew and I am sure many of you felt the same way.

Finally, as we grow and learn to love ourselves– we realize what a waste of time and energy it is trying to fit in.  The most freeing thing in the world is to feel comfortable in your own skin.  That statement deserves a great big…….. HOLLA!!!

If you walk to the beat of your own drum, never ever apologize for it. 

If you love to wear giant earrings, bright shirts or funky hats, never apologize for it.

If you are more art class than sorority or drill team, never apologize for it.

Be confident in who you are and stop comparing yourself to your friends or the images you see in the media.  Yes, I know easier said than done.  I’ve worked in the media industry my entire life so I know how much it can devastate your confidence….if you let it.  Oh how I wish our teen girls and young women could understand this!  I wasted so many years battling low self-esteem– an entire decade in my 20’s– and I want to see our next generation of women self- assured during those fun years instead of either hiding behind a mask or shrinking back in fear.   I really want to see ALL women living a confident life!  Period.

Wishing you all a weekend full of your favorite things!  Make sure to take some time for YOU.

I realize we are being bombarded with the news coverage of the horrible recent events (luckily I don’t have cable), but I feel in my heart to give you all a simple reminder to pray. Pray for Boston. Pray for Texas. Pray for the World.  In these uncertain times, one thing I do know is certain… God hears our prayers.

Love, Tiff

BEAUTY TIPS FOR HOLIDAY FATIGUE {Plus Inspirational Vlog}

Hi Pretty Poinsettia!

Is the holiday overindulging leaving you with red, puffy eyes and an overall fatigued look?

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Because I work in front of the camera and have to look bright-eyed at a moments notice, I have found the following tips give me an instant well rested look even after a night of little sleep, high sodium meals, sugary treats and one glass of wine too many!  On top of that, I have hereditary dark circles and puffy eyes (Thanks Daddy).  Plus, the use of heaters and all the nasal issues we deal with during the winter can add to the puffy eye problem.  The combination of all these tips will give you the appearance of being bright-eyed and bushy-tailed and as if you slept a full 8 hours, I promise!

1. HYDRATE: Drink a large glass of water with juice from half a lemon. This helps with relieving a puffy face and cleanses the body of toxins. I actually down a big glass of lemon water first thing EVERY a.m.

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2. NATURAL DIURETIC: Puffiness is due to a build up of fluid under the eye.  Eat a bowl a strawberries to flush out water retention.  They are loaded with calcium, potassium and arginine which have diuretic properties.

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3. TEA BAGS: Chill used tea bags in the fridge and apply to eyes for 10 minutes to reduce swelling. Cold spoons work as well, but aren’t as comfortable.

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4. UNDER EYE CREAM WITH CAFFEINE:  Look for eye creams and serums with caffeine which shrinks fluid buildup under the eye. I use Garnier anti-dark circle rollerball with tint on days my eyes are extra dark and puffy. The caffeine plus the rollerball help de-puff the under eye area super quick.   **I will be giving this tinted rollerball in this week’s stocking stuffer!

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5. EGG WHITE MASK: Using approximately 1 teaspoon of an egg white as a facial mask will tighten the skin and shrink swelling and pore size. Wakes up your skin and gives you an instant glow.
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6. HIGHLIGHTER IN CORNER OF EYES: Adding a brightening white, beige or peach eyeshadow to the inner corner of the eye adds a youthful look and widens the appearance of the eyes giving a more rested look.

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7. VISINE: A ‘must do’ to whitens the eyes.

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8. RAISE YOUR HEART RATE: Doing 50 jumping jacks or taking a brisk 15-20 minute walk instantly increases the circulation in the body which adds a flush to the cheeks helping you look more awake.

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Plus, if you can get in a few 15 minute power naps here and there during the holidays it will help you get through all the parties and activities and try to stay away from sodium rich foods too.

CANDID VLOG: I share my thoughts on prayer.  I would love to hear your comments on the topic!

We’ve only got a few more days left until the final stocking stuffer winner is announced!  See you on the Facebook Page.

Love, Tiff

PEACE & COMFORT {Sunday Affirmations}

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My Sistas,

How are you?  I always seek guidance for the perfect and timely inspiration to share on the Sunday blog post.  But today, with the heartbreak we are all feeling from Friday’s devastation, all I am coming up with is the need to express my love for all of you and how we need to continue joining together in prayer.  I know we are being bombarded and overwhelmed with the media coverage so I will keep it short and sweet.  This week’s affirmations will be a bit different.  In the coming week, let’s switch our focus from specific “things and goals” we want to affirm to more focus on PRAYER.  I am very open about my belief in the Power of Prayer and have seen it’s remarkable effect on my life.  Will you join me?

Pray for our loved ones.

Pray for the families in Connecticut.

Pray for our nation. 

Pray for our Government officials.

Pray for our Spiritual leaders.

Pray for our educators. 

Simply…..PRAY. 

Prayer immediately connects us to our Creator and wraps us like a warm blanket with peace and comfort.  Many of you are Mother’s and I can only imagine the rollercoaster of emotions you are feeling from anger, confusion, disgust, sadness and fear.   Again, simply pray and ask God for peace that passes ALL understanding.   I had to share this eloquent prayer written by Marianne Williamson:

Dear God,
We come to You with broken hearts,
surrendering the catastrophe that has occurred today in Connecticut.

We cannot comprehend the darkness that led to this,
or the suffering of those who have loved and lost.
They are both too big.

But in You, dear God, there are Answers we cannot surmise and Light we cannot summon by ourselves.
We present to you our brokenness, and the horror and pain of those who grieve.

May those who died find joy in the immortal realms.
May those who mourn them be comforted in this hour of their agony.

And may our prayers and actions be guided by You, dear God, to create a world where this occurs no more.
Amen

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Remember, this is our final week of Stocking Stuffer Giveaways (BooHoo!) so make sure to check in on the FACEBOOK PAGE for fun questions and join in on the convo’s.

Big Thanks to Drink Chia, Sia Botanics, Luscious Soul, Liberty Emma Collections, Steele Jewel, Love for Pink + Plexus Slim and the Aaron Hendra Project!

Several of you have mentioned that you have recommended SOS to your moms, daughters, sisters and girlfriends.  From the bottom of my heart, THANK YOU!  Every single person in this Sisterhood is so special and I want to say….

I love you.

Tiff

POSITIVE ENERGY + how to not absord the negative!

Hey My Fabulous Fashionista Friends!

Who is feeling that magical transition to Pre-Fall? As much as I completely Love (I mean seriously L O V E) summer, I equally love that change in the air as the seasons begin to change.  For me, it is always a fun time of year because my birthday is always that final summer celebration and let me tell you– I had an AWESOME birthday and was royally spoiled by family and friends complete with a quick jaunt to Vegas.  This leads me to this week’s topic= ENERGY + INTUITION.  Now, I truly love getting out of town for a sec no matter where it is, but Vegas is a whole other cup of tea.  It’s not my fave place on the planet, but I can seem to find fun wherever! There are people, people and more people in Sin City and I often leave feeling an “energy drain” from the crowds. Do you relate to what I’m talking about?  It’s as if someone took a vacuum hose to my gut and sucked out all my positive energy. So I’ve spent the past few days refueling.  If you are like me and “feel” other people’s energy and vibes to the point that it drains you- here’s a few tips on transforming the “energy drain” back into a positive feeling and get your vibrancy back!  If you are overly “empathetic”, you probably deal with this issue because you are like a SPONGE and absorb people’s energy:

  1. PROTECT YOURSELF.  Before heading into the masses, stop- say a prayer and ask to be shielded with white light from the top of your head down to your tippy toes.  Ok, this may sound corny, but God will protect you!
  2. BE AWARE. Take notice of how you feel in a certain environment and around certain people.  Do you crave your “comfort foods” after being exposed to negative people or do you feel like drinking more? This is important to be aware of because we are physically trying to correct an emotional issue. (I have a touch of social anxiety and “feel” peoples energy very quickly so I tend to grab for that extra glass of wine to deal. I don’t recommend it- just being honest)
  3. RINSE IT OFF. Believe it or not, a hot bath or shower can “cleanse” you of negative energy.  Washing away negative energy will release you from “carrying” that energy and keep you sane.  Let all the negative energy go right down the drain!

PLEASE comment and let me know if you deal with this and if you have found a great remedy that works for you!

Switching Gears to a Fun Fashion Topic!

I will be taping a few Fall inspired webisodes this week to give you the 411 on the “must have’s” and also the things you can skip! As a self-proclaimed Texas “boot girl”,  my fave fave fave thing about Fall is a GREAT BOOT! Just about any style of boot is hot this season.  What is YOUR fave type of boot? Wedge, Bootie, Motorcycle, Over-the-Knee?

Remember to join us on the Facebook Page for some fun convo’s!

Here are a few great affirmations for the week ahead posted by our Style Sisters:

  • I WILL not put up w/ ANY NEGATIVITY! -Teri
  • Feeling like the little engine that could…I WILL be a light. I will be productive. I will give and receive beautiful energy. I will be a blessing. I will honor the divinity within me.-Teia
  • I WILL begin each day by being grateful for my many blessings.-Dianna
  •  I WILL flirt!-Diane
  • I WILL never give up and dream big!-Kay
  • I WILL start to wake up earlier and give my time to God before I go on with my day as I lack in that area sometimes as well as do something nice for my self at least once a day.-Christina
  • I WILL wake up every morning with the thought that something fabulous is about to happen!-Cheryl
  • I WILL spend time daily in prayer and turn to God when I need peace instead of distracting myself with things that ultimately don’t matter. -Kari
  • I WILL spend more time on me!-Jo

I know too well what it’s like to live a life of low self-esteem and even a shame-based life….this is why I started SOS.  ALL women deserve to live the life of their dreams no matter where they started in life…..we can all end up someplace beautiful, successful, powerful, positive and abundant!  It doesn’t matter where you start, but with belief + effort we can all end up someplace totally fabulous!  Make sure to share SOS with your girlfriends.  

Share the Beauty, Style + Inspiration.

THANK YOU FOR JOINING ME!

Love ,Tiff