Where the heck did January go? It flew by and I’m actually glad because it means we’re a bit closer to spring. YAY! I am sure you can tell by now I am not a fan of winter! This got me thinking about the recent post I wrote about introspection and “checking in with ourselves”. Because of the challenges over the past few months, I have hibernated lots in January to regroup and get it together. I call this “cocooning”. Do you allow yourself to “cocoon”? Everyone loves a beautiful butterfly, but let’s take a look at what it took (hey, I made a rhyme) to emerge into this beautiful creature.
The cocoon is a protective barrier to keep the insect safe while it goes through a transformation. It’s a place of stillness, darkness, quiet and of course, SOLITUDE….and it can flat out suck. When I began my Spiritual journey in my late 20’s, I didn’t understand how important these times of solitude were and neither did my friends. They thought something was seriously wrong with me or that I was depressed and anti-social. Normally, I was Miss Party Queen, but I was choosing to stay in on Saturday nights to read, journal or paint. SAY WHAT? I felt emotionally raw and weak at the time, so retreating to my sanctuary, safe haven or cocoon was the only way I could get my strength back. Now, I have learned to embrace these beautiful times of growth and looking inward and will “come out and play” when I’m ready. My closest peeps understand this about me now with no judgment or ridicule. Real friends understand. Thank God for those amazing friends who don’t put pressure on us and just let us “be”!
We all want to stretch and spread our wings, but it’s virtually impossible to do so without first spending the necessary time we need in our cocoons. Transformation is amazing, but it is definitely not easy. It doesn’t happen over night either. We need times of stretching and we need times of cocooning in order to change. IT’S A PROCESS. TRUST THE PROCESS. Many fear being alone to face their issues, but what you achieve on the other side is SO worth it. The STRUGGLE to emerge and break through the cocoon is what builds our STRENGTH. We all know that the butterfly will die if it comes out of the cocoon too early. That’s why it is so important to be patient with ourselves during these times of growth. Don’t rush it! We are different when we emerge (Hallalujah) so we have to really be in tune with ourselves and perhaps learn a new way of doing things. You will relate to the world differently and vice-versa. Some friends may adapt to the new you and some may not. When you make the decision to become ALL you can be and set out on a serious self-development journey, your friends may change. You will outgrow people and that’s ok. Those people have the same right to stay where they are and yes, that’s ok too.
Many mothers have expressed to me that they don’t have time to focus on their spiritual growth because they are too busy focusing on their children’s growth. Hey– I totally get it, but I say you have to make the time! You owe it to yourself. Don’t stunt your growth just because you are raising your kids. I know busy mothers do not have the luxury of taking a month to hibernate and decline social engagements, but you can take a 1/2 hour in the mornings or a few hours on the weekends. Little moments of cocooning are better than none at all.
THIS WEEK I WILL:
- Let go of the fear of looking inward.
- Spread my wings when I’m ready to fly.
- Embrace my transformation and never compare it to others.
- Be unapologetic in my choice to grow.
- Not rush it.
- Trust the process.
- Respect where others are on their journey.
- Be happy where I am whether I’m stretching or in the cocoon.
- Release those friends who do not celebrate the new me.
- See my potential and nurture it.
- Stay excited with the expectation of what’s on the other side….even though I’m not sure what it is!
I celebrate you!
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Whether you are currently in the cocoon or out there flying high, I hope your week is full of amazing moments.
Love You Sister,
Is everyone having a great week so far? The weather has been gorgeous here in LA with temps between 75-80. (Sorry East Coast Sistas) I am a summer girl and battle a bit in the winter with staying positive and upbeat so the sunshine and Vitamin D have been a nice boost this week. Do you get a touch of the winter blues? I have grown to expect the lull in my energy when Fall rolls around so I kick it into high gear with my prayer time, reading spiritually nourishing books and simply cutting myself some slack. I know you girls up North are giggling at me because our temps rarely fall below 50 here in Cali, but when you grow up in a hot, humid climate like Houston– I guess geography and atmosphere truly effects your personality for the rest of your life. (Yes, I just made that up! Ha Ha!) I thrive when it’s hot and wilt when it’s cold. I know lots of people who will go to the tanning bed in winter just to get the ‘sunshine’. Ok, my post today wasn’t suppose to be chatting about the weather…..
I want to know if you are checking in with yourself on a regular basis. Much like you ‘check in’ with your Mom, or a personal trainer, co-worker, client, etc……how often do you check in with yourself? I guess that’s why I brought up winter being a challenge for me because I find myself being more in-tune with what’s going on inside my head, heart, and spirit at this time of year. I’m a very sensitive person, but seem to be even more hyper-sensitive in the winter. Although I prefer the summer, this winter I’ve embraced being forced to stay indoors (we had lots of rain) cuddled up with my journal and being more introspective. Whew, talk about checking in with yourself and feeling the growing pains. It’s such a beautiful thing when we spend quality time alone with our thoughts and feelings. So, when was the last time you truly checked in and asked yourself… how you are doing and really examined your feelings? Women are so crazy busy asking how others are doing and they’re taking care of everyone else’s needs that they never really take the time for themselves.
Please love yourself enough to do regular check in’s with YOU! If we gloss over issues and make up excuses for not taking the time for ourselves we stunt our growth. Some people simply don’t want to feel the pain of growing and can’t sit still with themselves long enough to face their issues. I’m sorry, but bring on a little pain in order for me to keep getting better, stronger and healthier. One of my fave Spiritual teachers, Joyce Meyer always says, “I’m not where I want to be, but thank God I’m not where I use to be”. I didn’t always love myself in fact, it’s been a long journey for me. On the outside, I appeared to have an exciting life and a great career, but the reality was I didn’t know even know who I was much less truly love myself. I was too busy trying to be what everyone else wanted me to be. I’m still on the journey and yes, I slip up sometimes and beat myself up, but it’s few and far between now. The minute we all know and believe that we are a precious child of God we change our perception of ourselves. I hope you realize that truth today!
- Love yourself enough to take “me” time.
- Love yourself enough to set boundaries and let go of toxic relationships.
- Love yourself enough to eat nutrient rich organic foods instead of junk.
- Love yourself enough to rock a great outfit instead of “schlepping” around.
- Love yourself enough to treat yourself like a queen instead of a pauper.
- Love yourself whether they are a size 4 or a 24.
- Love yourself enough to speak up and say “no”… and on and on! I could go on for days. You get the point!
Enjoy the rest of your week and as always, I am interested to hear your thoughts on this topic.
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Happy Humpday Hotstuff,
I trust your week is going great. Mine just got a whole lot better this morning. I awoke to the most precious iPhone video from my BFF’s triplets. Heidi knows the stress I’ve been under and she always knows EXACTLY how to lift my spirits! Thank God for loving friends. The video shows three beautiful 2 year olds in their jammies running around saying, “Good Morning Aunt TT”. Let’s all collectively say, AWWWWW! They are so adorable and always in total wonder and amazement of the cell phone. Talk about feeling the love and warming my heart today. This was such a gift and I am so grateful for this family.
It was a simple reminder of how VERY important it is to stay in a state of wonder about life. As adults, we carry the weight of the world on our shoulders and too easily become bitter, cynical and jaded. Today, if the pressure of life and a massive stack of responsibilities has zapped your zest for life, try to be as present as possible, take a deep breathe and open your eyes to the fun, colorful, magical moments that are all around you. Make this a daily practice and you will get your zest back and then some. When we look through jaded eyes, we miss the best moments in life.
FUN + SILLY STYLE TIP:
Of course, I can manage to incorporate a style tip into today’s inspiration… One way I have fun with fashion and keep the sense of wonder alive with my personal style is choosing funky pieces like platform sneakers, a leopard coat or painting my nails a fun color. Last week, I wore a new pair of black skinny jeans with a hot pink tuxedo stripe down the leg and felt spunky all day! Don’t take fashion too seriously. Don’t take yourself too seriously for that matter.
Do you have a whimsical item that makes you feel spunky and fancy free?
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Celebrate the Wonder!