Better Than Thin Thighs

Hello Fellow Kindness + Beauty Seekers!

A few days ago I opened my new May devotional from the legendary preacher, Dr. Charles Stanley. His opening message on kindness really grabbed my heart so I wanted to blast it everywhere!

“Our culture is obsessed with external beauty, but as hard as we may try to improve our outward appearance, we all eventually experience the effects of aging. (True Dat!!) Far more important is inner character, which lasts into eternity. And one of the most attractive inward qualities is kindness. 

People characterized by kindness are considerate, loving, tenderhearted, helpful, and gentle. Those on the other end of the spectrum are quick-tempered, bitter, crude, and demanding. (Ugh- we all have crossed paths with these toxic types!) Basically, the difference has to do with whether one’s focus is on self or others. (I’ve had to deal with one too many narcissists in my day and I’m pretty much allergic to them now! You??) 

God is characterized by kindness and we should “put on” this attractive quality. Kindness is God’s fruit displayed in our worlds and actions. Authentic (let me repeat that.. authentic! Meaning not fake!) kindness does not depend on how others treat us, not is it a manipulation to get what we want.” – Dr. Charles Stanley

Let’s think about that final sentence. OUCH! Spiritual maturity truth bomb right there. When someone does you wrong– our ego and human nature wants to treat them the same way back. Taking the higher road and rising above the immaturity will reap beautiful rewards like peace. No drama. A clear conscience. Ahhhh, this rewards bring such a wonderful life that unlocks the flow for blessings, miracle and pure joy!  The stronger person is the one who has self-control and instead of lashing out when mistreated, they choose the Kindness High Road.

You know the foundation of SOS is true beauty from the inside out. It’s such a blessing to encounter someone who walks in love and kindness! Although I am a total beauty and style junkie, I would rather be known for being a kind and loving woman than for thin thighs and a great handbag. Kindness is so stylish! 

One of my favorite Audrey Hepburn quotes is in alignment with this message:

May we all “put on” more kindness today.
Please share this with your friends so we can see the ripple effect.

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P.S. Reminders for 2 amazing events I am honored to be part of!

Tomorrow at 5:30 meet + greet then a panel with other RHOD cast members at the Indie Beauty Expo.

Get tickets here! Get 20% OFF with code TIFFANY4IBE

Also, come network and celebrate with fellow Faith-filled entrepreneurial women at the 2017 Polished Fashion Show on May 18th at Belk Galleria.  I am honored and super excited to be walking in the show!

Get tickets here!

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Do You Need To ReLaunch Your Life?

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Do you feel stuck? I did for a long time!

Do you sense that the path you’re on is taking you in the wrong direction? Whew, I was way off track! 

Do you secretly desire a new career path, but the fear of the uncertainty paralyzes you? Fear was my middle name for years! 

Do you numb yourself and the fear with over spending, food, alcohol or too much television? I did all of the above! 

 

I’m honored to have been asked to share my life experience and a few deeper parts of my journey to creating SOS – on the hit iTunes radio show, RELAUNCH! with Joel Boggess and Dr. Pei Kang. Joel is a life coach and the author of the #1 Amazon bestselling book – Finding your Voice.  Pei is a business executive and a gifted endodontist (root canal specialist) and yoga instructor.

I know Joel and Pei would love it if you subscribed and shared their iTunes show with your friends who need this type of inspiration! 

As much I love working on camera, radio sure was fun and can be done without makeup! Holla!  This is a special episode to me as I have only shared some of these experiences here on the blog with you…so I would really appreciate if you made a comment and let me know your thoughts on the subject. I know God is opening the door and giving me the courage to share more of my story publicly.  

Please don’t go another day living with your dreams dormant inside you! 

Release the fear & relaunch, sista. If you need my personalized, private mentoring to guide you in this area- please contact me for details and pricing. Serious inquiries only. If you are not ready to do the work it takes to create lasting results – a coach or mentor will not help you!  

CLICK TO LISTEN TO PODCAST NOW! 

 

Love, Tiff

 

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STRESS: Make It A Manageable Beast

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Question- What’s your stress level on a regular basis?  You are probably wondering, “Tiff, what does that have to do with beauty, style or inspiration?”…well, it has a lot to do with how healthy, vibrant, aware, sharp, peaceful and powerful you feel.  Constant stress is carried on your face and will dull your light and not to mention over time it can cause serious dis-ease in your body. So, let’s discuss this because I am personally checking in with myself and my own stress levels on a regular basis and I find everywhere I turn people are just out-of-their-mind STRESSED OUT!  This is no way to live ladies. LIFE IS SHORT!

I’m about to keep it very real here…

In the past I lived in a constant state of high anxiety because I had not healed through my issues and like many people I numbed myself with drugs and alcohol. A friend convinced me to see a doctor and of course, they put me on anti-depressants, anti-anxiety pills and ambien to sleep because I would be so amped up from the other pills.  WHEW! It’s a vicious cycle with this stuff and I couldn’t function long on all these RX’s.  For me, the only thing that worked to calm the nerves was to turn to God, begin red flagging my stressors and begin a serious spiritual practice of prayer & journaling. As I began to crack open my spirit and face my issues, I was more in tune with myself and the things, situations and PEOPLE that stressed me out. Learning to manage your stress will change your life and the lives of those around you!  It truly effects every area of our lives:

  • Sleep Difficulties
  • Loss of Appetite or Over-eating
  • Lack of Concentration
  • Sloppy performance on the job
  • Anti-social Behavior
  • Abusing Alcohol or Drugs
  • Nervous Habits
  • Short Temper
  • Poor Memory

Does that sound about right? Make it a priority to check in with yourself on a regular basis and deal with the stress so it doesn’t grow into an unmanageable beast.

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Here’s 20 tips I have found to help:

  1. Do not keep things bottled up! Talk to someone you trust to help you work through it.
  2. Spend time daily doing an activity you love. (I clear my head with a long powerwalk)
  3. Improve your diet! Eating vitamin rich foods and avoiding junk with preservatives will keep your nervous system functioning properly. Add a B complex supplement too!
  4. Simplify! This is so important but very difficult for “busy bodies”. Stop taking on too many activities at once. You know the popular saying, “my plate is so full”. Well, change that!
  5. Stop rushing! When you feel panicked or rushed, STOP- sit quietly, take a deep breath and regain your composure.
  6. Keep a zen-like peaceful environment at work and at home.
  7. Be present! Don’t put too much thought into the future or the past. Enjoy the NOW!
  8. Avoid unrealistic expectations on yourself and others! Whew- this will alleviate a ton of stress.
  9. Get enough sleep!
  10. Exercise  more! It produces “feel good” chemicals.
  11. Take note of your moods! Ladies, we have those pesky hormones to deal with so be aware of how you’re feeling emotionally and cut yourself a break when you need to.
  12. Explore relaxation methods: Yoga, walking, journaling, listening to soothing music, hiking, etc.
  13. Express yourself! If you feel sad, allow yourself a good cry. If you’re angry, express it constructively. (Breaking plates not allowed)
  14. Love people and use things! Not the other way around. Walking in love is a huge stress reducer. Drop the ego.
  15. Take a techno break! Unplug the phone, stay off the computer, don’t watch TV. Often these things bring major stress into our life and we don’t even realize it.
  16. Learn the power of saying “NO”.  This brings tons of stress on many woman. Being a ‘people pleaser’ will ultimately stress you out and build resentment!
  17. Do not use crutches! Food, cigarettes, drugs or alcohol will also ultimately add to your stress instead of the temporary relief of it.
  18. Avoid boredom! Period.
  19. Surround yourself with positive peeps!  Stress and negativity are contagious so hang out with positive, uplifting friends.
  20. Get in touch with the little kid inside you on a regular basis!  Try to have more fun and find things that give you a good belly laugh every once in a while.

Most important thing of all – GRACE!  It gives you the strength and power to get done what you need to even when you think you can’t. Tap into it.

Have a beautiful weekend sistas!

Love, Tiff

EASTER- New Beginnings, New Life!

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Easter is a miraculous time of new beginnings and new life.  So, I would like to start off wishing all of you who celebrate it…. A Very Happy and Blessed Easter!  I love this time of year for so many reasons, but especially on a Spiritual level.  Everywhere you look there are signs of new life from the greener grass to the budding flowers and trees.  The birds are singing again and the squirrels are playing.  How amazing is God’s Creation!?  On my powerwalk a few days ago, I was thrilled to see the blooming Jacaranda trees (one of my favorite trees) lining several streets in Beverly Hills.  The bold purple color always takes my breath away and  I am filled with excitement that SPRING HAS OFFICIALLY ARRIVED!

Winter is a time when everything appears to die and lies dormant or is intentionally pruned back in order to grow bigger and better come Spring.  We can feel like that at times as well.  Have you felt pruned back at bit and are now ready to BLOOM?!?  Part of that pruning back is the “letting go” I spoke about a few weeks ago.  In order to bloom and become who you are truly meant to be and step into a new life, you have to snip some dead things off.   Grab those Spiritual gardening shears sista.  Cheers to a fresh start and new beginning!

A MUST SEE!

Are you watching The Bible Series on The History Channel?  I highly recommend it.  It’s a beautiful Mini-Series produced by Roma Downey (Touched By An Angel) and her husband, Mark Burnett (Survivor, The Apprentice).   It’s been the #1 rated show every week since it debuted.  Last week’s episode on Palm Sunday especially impacted me as we watched Jesus begin His journey to the cross.  The final episode is this Easter Sunday with the Crucifixion.  If you do not have cable, you can view it online at the same time as it would appear on TV in  your area.  They entire series will also be available on DVD. Go to http://www.history.com.

Here’s a sneak peek of the finale:

There will be no Sunday Affirmations this week instead I encourage you to celebrate the special day, celebrate your life, celebrate your family + friends and celebrate a fresh start + the opportunity to bloom.

Love, Tiff

 

BEAUTY TIPS FOR HOLIDAY FATIGUE {Plus Inspirational Vlog}

Hi Pretty Poinsettia!

Is the holiday overindulging leaving you with red, puffy eyes and an overall fatigued look?

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Because I work in front of the camera and have to look bright-eyed at a moments notice, I have found the following tips give me an instant well rested look even after a night of little sleep, high sodium meals, sugary treats and one glass of wine too many!  On top of that, I have hereditary dark circles and puffy eyes (Thanks Daddy).  Plus, the use of heaters and all the nasal issues we deal with during the winter can add to the puffy eye problem.  The combination of all these tips will give you the appearance of being bright-eyed and bushy-tailed and as if you slept a full 8 hours, I promise!

1. HYDRATE: Drink a large glass of water with juice from half a lemon. This helps with relieving a puffy face and cleanses the body of toxins. I actually down a big glass of lemon water first thing EVERY a.m.

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2. NATURAL DIURETIC: Puffiness is due to a build up of fluid under the eye.  Eat a bowl a strawberries to flush out water retention.  They are loaded with calcium, potassium and arginine which have diuretic properties.

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3. TEA BAGS: Chill used tea bags in the fridge and apply to eyes for 10 minutes to reduce swelling. Cold spoons work as well, but aren’t as comfortable.

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4. UNDER EYE CREAM WITH CAFFEINE:  Look for eye creams and serums with caffeine which shrinks fluid buildup under the eye. I use Garnier anti-dark circle rollerball with tint on days my eyes are extra dark and puffy. The caffeine plus the rollerball help de-puff the under eye area super quick.   **I will be giving this tinted rollerball in this week’s stocking stuffer!

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5. EGG WHITE MASK: Using approximately 1 teaspoon of an egg white as a facial mask will tighten the skin and shrink swelling and pore size. Wakes up your skin and gives you an instant glow.
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6. HIGHLIGHTER IN CORNER OF EYES: Adding a brightening white, beige or peach eyeshadow to the inner corner of the eye adds a youthful look and widens the appearance of the eyes giving a more rested look.

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7. VISINE: A ‘must do’ to whitens the eyes.

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8. RAISE YOUR HEART RATE: Doing 50 jumping jacks or taking a brisk 15-20 minute walk instantly increases the circulation in the body which adds a flush to the cheeks helping you look more awake.

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Plus, if you can get in a few 15 minute power naps here and there during the holidays it will help you get through all the parties and activities and try to stay away from sodium rich foods too.

CANDID VLOG: I share my thoughts on prayer.  I would love to hear your comments on the topic!

We’ve only got a few more days left until the final stocking stuffer winner is announced!  See you on the Facebook Page.

Love, Tiff

SNEAK PEEK AT THE GOODIES

Hey Sistas!

Here’s a sneak peek of the goodies going in the stocking stuffer giveaways.  There’s a lil something for your style, beauty, spirit + health.  WooHoo!  I taped a new webisode today (stay tuned) and decided to show you girls some of the stocking stuffers in a quick candid video…

 

http://steelejewel.com

http://libertyemma.com

http://www.aaronhendra.com

http://www.joycemeyer.org

http://www.loveforpink.com

http://www.drinkchianow.com

http://www.luscioussoul.com

+PLUS+

I will be adding a few personal faves each week like Voluminous Mascara, Accessories, etc.

One winner announced every Friday!  Gook Luck!

Love, Tiff

Total value of each stocking is approx $200-250.

Sunday Eve Affirmations: I WILL…..

Hey Lovely Ladies,

When you close your eyes and think of the word, ABUNDANCE, what comes to mind?  Here is Webster’s definition:

a·bun·dance [noun]
1.an extremely plentiful or oversufficient quantity or supply.
2.overflowing fullness

This week, my wish for all of us, is that we stop and appreciate the abundance in our lives. It is not about how fat our bank account is or the “things” we acquire.  Abundance is feeling vibrant, alive and fully living each day with love and passion. It’s about enjoying the simple moments, the unexpected blessings that make life beautiful and most importantly, being grateful for what we have!  Life is short.  I watch so many people wasting their lives away trying to get more, do more and earn more money– yet they can’t maintain healthy relationships and their aging themselves too quickly because they are all work and no play.  I was one of those people and almost became a drug addict because of it.  My resume, the networks and producers I worked for, the size of my paycheck, the Gucci hangbag on my arm and the SUV I drove was my definition of abundance….BOY, did I have it all wrong! 

THIS WEEK, I WILL….

  1. Not lower myself by participating in gossip.
  2. Be an encourager instead of a critic.
  3. Get my glow on by eating a serving of blueberries every morning.
  4. Dance, paint, sing or do whatever that makes me feel free.
  5. Rock a dash of leopard print.
  6. Shine my light because the world needs it.
  7. Schedule my workouts as if they are an important meeting.
  8. Simplify my life + clear the clutter wherever it needs it.
  9. Drink a glass of lemon water upon rising before my coffee or tea.
  10. Say a prayer of gratitude for my abundant life.
  11. Release all fears + doubts and GO FOR IT!

{Daily Serving of Blueberries}

{Dash of Leopard Print}

{Shine On}

 

I would love to hear your comments on how these weekly affirmations have been effective in your life.

We’re in this together!

If you see a sister who’s spark is dim this week, help her out by fanning her flame and be an encouragement instead of a critic.

RADIATE LOVE,

Tiff