FREE YOURSELF: Share Your Secrets

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Hello Gorgeous!

This past Monday night, Access Hollywood aired my interview with Kit Hoover for the 3rd time. What a miracle! I know it’s God because that rarely happens. Kit Hoover has two daughters and she was so invested in my story. Proves that not all entertainment news is vapid nonsense.  Many of you who have been loyal SOS followers may have been shocked to hear the deeper story of my tumultuous past. Now you know the true meaning when I say “my mess has become my message” and why I am so passionate about enriching the lives of women. My mission is to provide resources of hope and inspiration like this blog and the YouTube ChannelBooks and more tools on vision and affirmations are next on the list! 

It’s not easy to reveal the gritty, ugly parts of yourself, but I do so bravely with the hope that other women will know they are not alone. Over the 5 year journey of SOS, I never felt God leading me to share my sexual assault story here with you all publicly. His timing is perfect. I probably wasn’t strong enough before to handle all the judgment and scrutiny that the media has put me under.

In my one-on-one mentoring, I have openly shared my story with women especially the teenage girls I have worked with. Several of them have been molested as little girls or raped in their teen years like I was. I do not want young women burying this and hiding secrets! Secrets are like poison to the spirit. I was raped at 16 and didn’t tell a single person until I was 31 years old. My entire existence in my 20’s was based in shame, fear and anger. I went from being the leader of my church youth group, head cheerleader, straight A student and overall confident girl to spiraling into alcohol, drugs, codependent relationships, promiscuity and mild eating disorders. Whatever I could do to either numb myself or abuse myself with destructive behavior – I tried it.

THEN THERE WAS GOD!

I believe there is a God shaped hole in all of our hearts. He is the only one that can fill it. Why do we put ourselves through the pain of constantly trying to fill it with everything but God?  Aside from the drugs and alcohol, I tried to fill it with horrible men, money, career, fame, etc. I truly believe He was watching over me all those years because I really should be dead. I’ve ended up in dark places in the middle of Hollywood doing drugs with people I didn’t even know. That night in 2002 on the bathroom floor, it took one simple prayer and God heard me. Did everything magically turn blissful that night? HECK NO! It’s been a long journey of healing. Growing out of the old behavior is gut wrenching hard, but freedom is on the other side and that’s my wish for all women. There’s too many living in bondage!

Is that you? I encourage you to acknowledge your pain, stop ignoring it, burying it or covering it up with the masks you wear. I was the queen of masks! I could be whatever you needed me to be. I was addicted to approval and got myself into toxic situations because I didn’t love myself and silenced my voice. It’s time for you to use your voice and begin loving yourself, sista. By no means am I totally empowered 24/7 and have my moments of weakness, but I’m proud of the woman I am today. I’m a work in progress and I’m ok with that. Use your lady balls and start strutting toward the path of freedom. The pain path will turn into the purpose path. I guarantee it.

Here’s the Access Hollywood interview if you missed it:

 

I want to be clear that I do not use being raped as a cop out for my decision to do topless love scenes on the Cinemax series. A few people have insinuated that on social media. Yes, I made several unwise decisions based in fear and I would never do an acting job like that now. I was desperate to work as an actress and own that I took my clothes off. Most of the actresses I admire have done much more explicit love scenes with full frontal nudity. It was a Rated R series and do not take on the media’s label of “porn star”. 

 

Are you ready to live in freedom on the path toward your purpose? Make a comment and let us know. There’s power in sharing it with others!

I will be private coaching again during the summer so if you’re interested send a request through the CONTACT PAGE. 

 

Also, get ready for the popular SOS Summer Beachbag Giveaway mid June! All of my favorites in one bag.

To celebrate the arrival of Summer, today through June 15th, all the #Tiffirmation Tee’s are 25% off. Go to http://thegivestore.myshopify.com  and enter discount code: JUNESALE25 at checkout. There’s a limited supply so don’t miss it!

Remember to take some time this week and refocus on your goals. We’re halfway through the year now and it’s important to check in with yourself to stay on track! Take action…

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Love & Ladyballs,

Tiff

 

 

TUNE IN NOTICE TONIGHT: My Past For A Purpose On Access Hollywood

 

Happy Monday Sistas!

You’ve heard me say a time or two that there are “no expiration dates on our dreams”.  I just experienced this in a major way! Tonight, you will hear how I am owning my past and using it all for a purpose on ACCESS HOLLYWOOD at 6:30 CST. What a surreal moment to be interviewed in my old stomping grounds by host Kit Hoover! It was such a blessed and heartfelt conversation about the sexual abuse I have overcome. Kit has two daughters and was totally invested in the interview and how we can empower young women with my story. Amazing how God can use a drama-filled reality show for His glory.

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The day was extra special because I shared this experience with my sister, Natalie. We moved to LA together and did the hustle and struggle together for years.

Also, make sure to tune in to Real Housewives Of Dallas tonight at 9pm CST. It gets really heated and I have had enough of all the drama. You will see a side of me you have and never will see on my videos! LOL. I’m human and this is a REALity show. I didn’t hold anything back, but please give me some grace when you watch! I even scare myself a bit. Eeeek.

If you’re on Twitter, make sure to tweet me and let me know your thoughts! @TiffanyHendra

 

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I must give a huge shout out to brilliant stylist Jeanette Chivvis of Chivvis Styles. She has gone above and beyond to make sure LeeAnne Locken and I look our best for all our press and appearances. She’s a fellow #SpiritualSpitfire too!

Have a fabulous week. 

Love & Ladyballs,

Tiff 

 

POWER DRESS FOR PRESS

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[On set for our Entertainment Tonight interview with Brice Sander at Lisa Vanderpump’s SUR restaurant]

What a whirlwind it’s been the past few weeks! The awesome kind of whirlwind with plenty of ‘pinch me’ moments. I had a plush room at the Four Seasons and dinner at Mastro’s- my favorite LA steak place while sitting across from other fellow Bravo family members like Dorinda, Ramona & Jules from RHONY and Shep & Cameron from Southern Charm. When you’re told that you and your cast mates are heading to LA for a big press tour, the panic starts with what to wear! Thanks to the brilliance of superstar stylist Jeanette Chivvis– the panic turned to peace & power.

Jeanette has this intuitive aspect to her styling. She just knows what is going to look most fabulous on you. I squealed when she showed me this canary yellow dress by Pink Lucy! It fit me perfect and I just knew it was THE dress for our Access Hollywood and Entertainment Tonight interviews.  As part of SOS, you know I’m a firm believer in the power of color. I felt happy, radiant and strong in this yellow. Day 1- a total style success!

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[With Cast mates/friends Stephanie Hollman & Brandi Redmond]

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Day 2- We had a full day of press junkets and red carpet interviews at the NBC Universal Summer Press Day. About 200 media outlets from all over the world are there to get the latest scoop on NBC Universal’s new stars and programming. My bestie, LeeAnne Locken and I were paired together for all the interviews so we made sure to coordinate our ‘power’ outfits. Jeanette had this stunning red custom made for me from London and she pulled this amazing white jumpsuit from Escada. To finish my look, she added jewelry from local Dallas designer, Harper Hallam. Nailed it! Oh and talk about a pinch me moment- looking over at the press booth next to you to see Heidi Klum, Mel B and Howie Mandell. I know what you’re thinking and yes, Heidi Klum is even more statuesque, stunning and stylish in person!

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Back in Dallas, we started our local press tour with the lovely Meredith Land for NBC5 at the hotspot, Bistro 31.  Jeanette pulled this off-the-chain Elizabeth & James dress from Rent The Runway. Ok…seriously, I want to have this dress made in every color! It fit me like a glove and was super comfy. All about class, power and great fit.

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Then, we were off to Culturemap Dallas for a fun interview with the fab Dawn Neufeld. Can we talk about my ridiculously fabulous new nude Louboutin’s?  Your dress needs to feel powerful, but your shoes should as well. I treated myself to a new pair specifically for this press tour. A great nude open toe heel is a life saver! If you do not own a pair put that at the top of your shopping list for Spring. I also love Stephanie’s patent nude Loubou’s. Really the perfect shoe. Period.

To learn more about the fabulous cast and fun teasers of the show, go to Bravotv.com!

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Our final stop was back at Bistro 31 for a very interesting interview with the Dallas Observer. I decided to change up my look and absolutely love a great jumpsuit! Love this kelly green, twist neck jumpsuit by BCBG is going to be my go-to for 2016. The Loubou’s worked again!  Are you getting it now..the importance of color when you’re going to a special event? Cary, Stephanie and I just ‘pop’ in this photo. Whether it’s a job interview, a wedding, important event or hot date- YOUR power color is always best! A great LBD always looks chic, but I always go for color first.

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The cherry on top of my big day was running into my BFF, Heidi. I love that our outfits matched! She was there for a quick happy hour with her hubby. Her colorful scarf style maxi sundress was so fun, sexy and fresh. Great tip: Throw a light sweater over your shoulders for the unpredictable Spring weather.

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Our final Dallas press day began at the Dallas Morning News with the fun & sassy Dawn Burkes. We were told we could go more casual for this interview. I tried something I always want to do, but always forget. I added a contrasting shoe with my fabulous yellow blouse. It was so fun and I highly recommend it! Cary had an important surgery right after this interview and I love that she’s rockin’ her scrubs. It is REAL life!

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LeeAnne finished the day at CW-33. I chose this nude blush flowy dress by BCBG. Another great tip for doing on camera interviews or if you are on stage for a speaking engagement- more than likely you will be sitting in a tall directors chair or bar stool. Make sure to never wear a super short dress. Not flattering on the legs!

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WHAT WAS YOUR FAVORITE LOOK?

WILL YOU BE TUNING IN ON MONDAY, APRIL 11th for the premier of Real Housewives Of Dallas? 

I would love to hear your thoughts and thanks so much for all the support.

REMEMBER: My first #TIFFIRMATION TEE’S (sayings below) are launching on Monday to celebrate this big day!  They will be available on our GIVE STORE on Shopify. More styles coming soon.

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Go use your lady balls! 

Love, Tiff