DO THE WONDER WOMAN SPIN [Repost]

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[Rarely do I have time to go back and browse through my blog posts, but I’m glad I stumbled (well, let’s keep it real.. God led me to) this post from June 1, 2013. June is always special to me because it marks the halfway point of the year and I love to pause and reflect on how the year is unfolding. Also interesting– this week marked the 3 year anniversary of Maya Angelou’s passing. I pray you take some time to reflect and get even more intentional about how you  want to rest of 2017 to play out.] 

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Hey Wonder Woman!

Last week I watched an episode of Oprah’s Super Soul Sunday with Maya Angelou.  Have you seen it? Her story of courage, triumph, bravery and success has been resonating with me all week.  In this interview with Oprah, Maya spoke of the concept of courage being the foundation of all other virtues (above quote) so it forced me to look inward at my own level of courage.  Often throughout my life, I have been courageous and brave, but there are also many times I have tucked my tail between my legs and chose to shrink back.  We all have a certain level of courage, but what is that special ingredient that gives us that little bit extra tenacity to tap into our inner Wonder Woman and push forward instead of shrinking back?  Can you think of a time right now when you consciously chose to dig deeper and dust off your red + gold bustier?  It’s a great exercise to reflect on those moments as a reminder for the next time we are tempted to be a coward instead of courageous.

Courage is the ability to confront fear, pain, danger, uncertainty or intimidation.

I takes courage to walk down the aisle and make the vow. It takes courage to wake up everyday and raise your child.  It takes courage to follow your dreams.  It takes courage to walk away from a toxic relationship.  It takes courage to speak your truth. It takes courage not to conform.  It takes courage to let go of your past. So, yes– I definitely believe in Ms. Angelou’s concept that it takes courage to practice all the other virtues consistently.  Cheers to all of us having more consistent courage this week, this month, this year.  Even if you have to fake-it-till-ya-make it.  You can be courageous even when you don’t feel like.  I love John Wayne’s quote, “Courage is being scared and saddling up anyway”. Go lock yourself in the bathroom and do the Wonder Woman spin if it will help….

THIS WEEK I WILL:

  1. Reflect on my many courageous moments.
  2. Dig deeper when I feel my wimpy self taking over.
  3. Not shrink back.
  4. Dust off my imaginary red + gold bustier.
  5. Remember God is always on my side.
  6. Be brave!
  7. Never ever ever ever give up.
  8. Not allow anyone to intimidate me.
  9. Face my fears head on.
  10. Pray to have more courage.
  11. Do the right thing.
  12. Put my shoulders back + WALK TALL!

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Are you excited to see what new experiences and opportunities June will bring?  Let’s all focus on being more courageous than we’ve ever been.
I would love to hear your comments and two-cents on this topic even if it ticked you off and you are sick + tired of trying to put on your imaginary cape! 
Please like, share, tweet this post with your friends and share the affirmations.

WHO YOU ARE: A Message To All Women [Video]

Happy FriYAY!

All week, I have stumbled upon blessing after blessing. It’s like God’s little winks letting us know we are on the right track. I just love how He does that! I call it living in “flow”.  This morning someone sent me this AHHHHH-mazing video and of course, I had to share it with all of you. As a confidence builder, affirmation addict (hence, #Tiffirmations) and advocate for empowering women to live their most authentic life– this video gave me chills, brought tears to my eyes and fueled me up for the day ahead. Please do yourself a favor and watch it, but not only watch it allow the message to sink down into your spirit.

 

 

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P.S. Will I see you at Stix & Brix on March 25th? I hope so! There’s still a few tickets available HERE!

Ready, Set… GOALS!

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Hey Warrior Woman!

Can you believe we are a few days away from Christmas and 10 days from greeting 2017? I’m here to encourage and inspire you.. well, really to give you a good old fashioned kick in the butt to create a doable set of goals to ensure the coming year is a total success.  It’s such a special time of the year because we are closing one chapter and embarking on a new one. Write an amazing one, sista!

I also like to change out the word goal with “commitment” in certain areas. When you make a commitment, you alter and elevate your entire lifestyle! For example, “I commit to a healthy and fit lifestyle” and within that commitment you can make a goal like losing 10 lbs by doing spin, yoga and circuit training 4 times a week for the next two months.

LET’S DO THIS!

Think of the most important areas of your life and set goals and/or commitments for each of them along with specifics like timeframes, dates, dollar amounts and pounds. To get you started, here’s a list that I go by. Add any pertinent areas that are special to you:

  • Spiritual: Relationship with God. Do you give enough time to your spiritual life? Perhaps it’s setting a daily Divine appointment with God, a great devotional, book, Bible and journal. (I never cancel this appointment!)
  • Family: Do you want to become a parent? Pregnancy goals? Do you need to reach out to an estranged family member to heal that relationship?
  • Career: What do you wish to achieve in your career? Do you need to get a mentor in this area? Do you need to shadow someone successful in your field? Is there a class I need to take to learn more in my field?
  • Financial: Do you want to increase your yearly income? Save a certain amount? Pay off debt?
  • Physical: Do you need to get your hormones checked? Do you want to do yoga twice a week? Poor eating habits that need to be changed? Weight loss? New skincare routine?
  • Fun/ Pleasure/ Entertainment: Do you do entertaining things that make you laugh? Do you need to plan more girls nights? Have you been dreaming of a vacay to Cabo? Is there an art class you’ve been wanting to take? What’s the % of how serious and un-fun life is to how much your really enjoy life?
  • Attitude: Is there a mindset that you feel is holding you back? Are you negative Nellie? Do you come from a lack mentality or one of abundance? Are you a people pleaser?
  • Serving: Is there a charity you want to volunteer for? Could your church use your time in the nursery or leading a small group? Should I start a YouTube channel to share a message that will empower others?

Print out your goals and hang them wherever you will see them daily. Do a weekly and monthly “check in” to gauge your progress. It’s all about having a strategy for your life so you’re not wandering around aimlessly which creates low self-esteem and kills your confidence. I mean — don’t you feel like a total bada$$ when you achieve and check off a goal. Holla! 

Get a special calendar (aside from your iCal) or journal for your goals. One of my favorite things to do all year is picking up my new desk calendar. I get so excited about the new people I will meet, the new opportunities, the new experiences.

Set realistic and attainable goals! You have to believe that you can achieve it. For example, if you want to be in a body building competition you wouldn’t wait to start training 3 weeks before the date. That’s totally unrealistic.

Add in a vision board and positive affirmations to help keep you focused on the outcome and end results! Visualize yourself as already achieving these goals.

 

See yourself 10 lbs lighter.

See yourself happy and confident.

See yourself making an impact in the lives of others.

See yourself out of debt.

See yourself finishing the painting. 

See your YouTube Channel up and running. 

 

How does that make you feel? The feeling is really what you’re going after.

Goals are vital, but also keep an open heart so you will flow and enjoy the journey more. God usually has different plans for us that we have for ourself. Always invite Him into this process! This has been one of the biggest challenges of my life because as a former control freak — going with the flow was not something I did gracefully. Trust me, God’s plans are always bigger and better than my rinky dink plans.

 

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I AM… A BIT BOSSY // New Video

Hello Gorgeous!

It has been an amazing, life changing, sometimes frustrating, work in progress to build my brand and Sanctuary Of Style. The tool that has helped me the most is video!  I crack up when I look back at some of the very first SOS videos and how green I was. But, dang it— I had drive and passion! With those two things, we can accomplish anything even when all the pieces aren’t in place and things aren’t perfect. I shot my first video on my phone without a light kit or fancy editing.  Now, I not only coach/mentor women, but I also get to teach people how to get started sharing their message on video! Regardless of your career or ministry, video is a wonderful way for people to get to know you and your business.

With that said, I’m excited to finally have a new video sharing my mission: 

 

I would love to hear from you!

What have you learned on this journey with me?

Have you made lasting changes? Like what?

 

Did you get my FREE ebook? As a gift for joining the mailing list at TiffanyHendra.com, you will receive my ebook of 101 Affirmations and a list of “I Am’s”. I’m a firm believer in speaking powerful words over yourself on a daily basis.

You will be happy to know I am prepping the closet to film new videos! I know, I know…you girls have waited long enough! 

Love & Ladyballs,

Tiff 

WHATCHA SAYING TO YOURSELF? 3 Simple Steps To Positive Self Talk

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Hello Gorgeous!

That simple but powerful statement is today’s topic. A few days ago, I was sitting staring at this coffee cup and thinking how much I love to say this to my friends and I even open most of my SOS webisodes with it. I started wondering how many women actually say that to themselves.  I would bet it’s probably a terribly low percentile of about 10% and that’s on the high range.Think about it.

Do you ever look in the mirror and tell yourself you are gorgeous?

I admit, on most days I look in the mirror and focus on the sagging skin, circles under my eyes, that varicose vein that’s popping out on my leg and the list goes on. Sad this is how we start the day! That’s why I harp on positive affirmations so much. Our mental chatter goes on alllllllllllll day long! We are literally talking to ourselves all day every day. I’m not just referring to how we talk about our physical appearance either. We are either beating ourselves up for the past, feeling guilty about something we did today or have anxiety about the future. This is enough to keep you in a negative spiral 24/7. Who wants to live in freedom from the prison of your mind? ME! My hand is raised and this is what I try to practice every single day. Our minds are powerful and some days are harder than others. If we allow ourselves to spiral too long, we end up in a dark place that’s tough to get out of. I know! I battled depression for many years while I was hiding my secrets and self medicated with drugs. We all deserve to live in freedom. So, it’s up to us to change how we speak to ourselves. No one can do it for us.

Here are 3 simple steps I have found to stay above the dark zone: 

STEP 1: Acknowledgement. We have to take ownership and acknowledge that we’re thinking and saying negative things to ourselves.

STEP 2: Stop that crap. Don’t allow yourself to wallow and play that negative CD over and over in your head. Acknowledge it then stop the thought.

STEP 3: Replace. Once you stop yourself and that crappy thought you must immediately replace it with a positive one. I’ll give you an example of something I thought this morning. “I’m so lazy and feel chunky because I haven’t worked out in a week”… then replaced it with “Hey, I’m not lazy and have been working out hard all year and deserve a break for a few weeks. I’ll get back on the program next week. Enjoy some vacay time Tiff”. It’s all about seeing the positives instead of always focusing on the negatives. See how I turned a “beat myself up” thought into a positive one along with a praise for how hard I’ve worked out all year. We would say the same thing to our best friend. We extend grace to those we love all the time so why is it so difficult to give it to ourselves?

We can talk ourselves out of anything which will stall our goals and dreams. Positive self talk can change the entire direction of our life! This is why I’m a firm believer in using affirmations as a tool to stay on track. I have positive sayings, verses and quotes hanging all over my house.

If you are new to SOS and have not received my affirmations e-book, go to www.TiffanyHendra.com and join the mailing list. The book will come to your inbox for FREE! It’s a compilation for 101 of my favorite affirmations from my Sunday evening blog posts.

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GUESS WHAT?

I’m excited we are back in the sanctuary taping new videos!!! WooHoo!

Any topic you want to see? Comment and let me know. 

Love, Tiff

STRUT IT INTO THE HOLIDAYS! #Tiffirmation

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Hello Fabulous One!

How is your October going? The holidaze are around the corner and it can be a whirlwind of stress when it should be a relaxing celebration with loved ones. I’ve had an action-packed month so far myself and needed to reach in to my spiritual toolbox for some extra guidance last weekend. I realized I have slacked on using my daily affirmations! How dare I? It’s so important to me that I walk the talk and practice what I preach, but I admit- I’ve been a slacker.

Typically, I hang them everywhere (fridge, bathroom mirror, desk, etc) to keep them smack in front of my face. Not sure why, but my house is affirmation free right now.  I have a devoted prayer + mediation time in the morning, but sometimes life is so crazy we need the additional help to keep our mindset straight. If you have been following SOS for some time now you know how strongly I believe in the power of our words and the use of daily affirmations. I had to pull out my own affirmation ebook and printed out the whole spirit section and “declaration to myself”. It really works! If you are rolling your eyes and still on the fence about affirmations, I encourage you to try it for 21 days and see how your mood and attitude shifts.

Shortly after I started the blog, I began posting affirmations on Sunday to help women (and myself) get their mind and spirit prepared for the week ahead. It quickly became the favorite post of the week and women would write me saying they would print them out.  So in 2013, I compiled 101 of the best affirmations from those Sunday posts and put them in an easy to read Ebook. Did you get yours yet?  This may be repeat info for many of you, but there are several new blog subbies I wanted to get this gift to!

Here’s an excerpt from the spirit section. They are simple, but often simple is the most effective. There are also beauty and style sections:

  1. Read more + watch TV less.
  2. Give myself a pat on the back instead of beating myself up.
  3. Attend a movie, concert or seminar that inspires me.
  4. Go BIG and stop playing rinky-dink.
  5. Be my own biggest cheerleader.
  6. Stay excited with the expectation of what’s on the other side….even though I’m not sure what it is!
  7. Not base my identity on how I look, what I wear or what I own. I am a Child of God. Period!
  8. Use power words instead of wimpy words.
  9. Embrace that quirk about myself that I’ve always hated.
  10. Make more time for girltime.
  11. Remove the mask and be truly authentic.

For the entire affirmations Ebook, simply join the mailing list on the front home page of wwwTiffanyHendra.com

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“This ebook is dedicated to every woman who desires to overcome the obstacles holding her back from being her most fabulous. My hope and purpose for these affirmations & intentions is to help you clear the path and kick every obstacle to the curb. All while wearing your high heels, of course!”

SHARE. LIKE. COMMENT.

Please use the hashtag #Tiffirmation when you share! Thanks.

Also, take a moment to share this with your girlfriends who may need it and I would love to hear how affirmations have helped you in your life! 

STRUT IT SISTA!

Love, Tiff

HELLO AUGUST: Make Your Dreams Happen

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This summer is flying by and as we say hello to August, I want to remind you to set your mind and your intentions back on to your dreams. You’ve spent time making beautiful summer memories for your children and focused on fun and family. Now, I encourage you to dust off those dreams you put on the back burner. It’s not about being selfish, but about being the best you can be and living the life you dream of!

Here is a list that will help you get focused! This is a list I live by + practice: 

  1. Wake up each day in gratitude.
  2. Say your affirmations daily.
  3. Devote time every morning to prayer + connecting with God.
  4. Journal + write down your dreams, goals + intentions.
  5. Create a vision board or vision book.
  6. Practice positivity + see the bright side of every situation.
  7. Be generous + giving. (stingy blocks your blessings + keeps you in lack)
  8. Get quiet + listen to your inner voice.
  9. Compliment others instead of competing with them.
  10. Let go of fear + be a risk taker.
  11. Be conscious of the beauty + miracles around you everyday.
  12. Embrace change when you feel stagnant.
  13. Shut up the self-defeating inner dialog.
  14. Do things that inspire you + ignite your passion.
  15. Be purpose + mission-driven. (stop wavering)
  16. Stop numbing yourself with food, shopping, alcohol, internet, etc.
  17. Encourage yourself instead of constantly discouraging.
  18. Trust in God’s Greater Plan for you.
  19. Do things that scare you. (this builds confidence)
  20. Live in a constant state of gratitude instead of complaining.
  21. Quit worrying about what other’s think.

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HOW WILL YOU GO CONFIDENTLY INTO AUGUST?

Remember what I always say…

Dreams have no expiration dates. 

Cheers to an Amazing August!

Love, Tiff

HELLO DECEMBER! The Final Stretch Of 2014 Affirmations

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Hey Hey Gorgeous!

The final 31 days of 2014 are glaring at us. What emotions does this stir up in you? Excitement? Anxiety? Anticipation? Disappointment? Childlike wonder? Perhaps a mish mash of them all? December is a special month for so many reasons. I encourage you to take a deep breath and enjoy every single last day of this year.

The first day of any month is exciting to me because of the clean slate we are given to be better and do better. Take some time today- on December 1st- to get quiet and visualize how you want the month to look. Write out your intentions. Are you carrying resentment and unforgiveness toward a family member so you dread having to see them over the holidays? I encourage you to see yourself surrounded by a huge heart and filled up with so much love that it pushes out all resentment. Instead of dread, look at this as an opportunity to practice forgiveness and extend love to the most difficult people in your life. Say a prayer for them before you arrive and you will be shocked at what a great visit you will have. Remember, being peaceful is being powerful. Do not allow that crazy aunt or cousin to steal your joy and peace.

This experience will richly bless you, I promise.

Did you forget to save up or max out your credit cards all year long and now there’s no budget for Christmas shopping? What a great learning lesson right before the new year. I’ve been there and royally screwed up my credit in my 20’s from being irresponsible with credit cards. Big big learning lesson! It’s not fun to sit in our debt mess, but take it as motivation in the coming year to pay off your debt and by next Christmas you’ll feel proud of yourself and will be able to give without guilt.

THIS MONTH, I WILL….

  1. Extend love in every situation regardless how challenging.
  2. Focus on the merry & happy of the holidays.
  3. Indulge a little..not a lot.
  4. Be blessed not stressed.
  5. Stay on my workout program- NO MATTER WHAT!
  6. Carry over the attitude of gratitude from last month.
  7. Make the time to love, pamper & care for me.
  8. Not be a Scrooge.
  9. Be like a silly kid & enjoy the little things like twinkle lights & candy canes.
  10. Throw out those janky old slippers & get some new fancy ones covered in sequin. (I just did this and it’s amazing how good it feels!) Target has some cute ones under $18.

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I would love to hear your intentions for the month. Sharing and writing them out gives them power. Wishing you all an amazing month!

Make sure to keep an eye out for the popular SOS Stocking Stuffer Giveaway. Tell all your friends! 

As always, it will be filled with fabulous things.

Love, Tiff

FEELING STUCK? {New Candid Video}

Happy Sunday Sistas!

Transition.

New Chapter.

Change of Season.

These topics are being discussed quite a bit right now among my friends and colleagues. During a powerwalk yesterday, I was pondering why some people stay stuck and why other’s move toward change with boldness. I decided to share my thoughts in a Vlog…

  1. Make Up Your Mind: What do you really want? Make a decision and stop with the back & forth.
  2. Create A Strategy: What steps can you take every day, every week to making the change happen?
  3. Visualize The End Result: We are really searching for the “feeling” we get from attaining a goal/dream. See yourself already having made the change.

 

LET ME KNOW YOUR THOUGHTS.

Love, Tiff 

 

 

STRUT IT! Let’s Start a Mental Makeover Movement #SOSstrut

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Happy Friday Fashionistas! 

Ok, no small talk.. I’m cutting to the chase – who else had a crappy week? Is it safe to say that as we get older, that one little hour we lose to Daylight Savings has the power to wreck our world? I’v noticed many a Facebook Status with similar complaints and have even had a few friends say they are downright emotional and cranky. As  I sit and write this blog, I feel like a train wreck and as if I haven’t slept in days. Actually feels like I’m coming down with something. Let’s hope not.

I desperately need a nap. Let me hurry and finish work so I can get to that.

OK- enough of the whining.

Yesterday, I had a few important meetings and needed to be on my game. I was in a fog, felt frumpy and needed a sprinkle of fairy dust or a kick in the rear to get me moving. Yes, I have those days too sista! I’m finally getting to my point…I had to dig deep and use my own motivational tips and tools to get my “STRUT” mentality rockin! Are you wondering what that means? If you have been following SOS for a while, you know that I not only teach style tips and how to choose the best foundation, but it all starts with your mental makeover.

You know when you are tired…what is the thing we tend to keep repeating over and over like a psycho? I’M SO TIRED. I’M SO TIRED. Yawwwn, I’M JUST SO TIRED. I had to literally tell myself to shut up and start thinking of how positive the outcome of the days meetings would be. I thought of the women I would be helping because of the meetings. Then, I got a shot of energy and became excited about getting dressed and getting out the door.

STRUT IT. 

My attitude and thinking had officially turned around and I took it a step further as I entered my closet. A Facebook Follower made the comment last week that she has trouble wearing her new items and tends to keep wearing her worn out things. She was wondering what the mentality was behind that. I can relate or I just get lazy and tend to reach for the familiar. Is it that old way of being and low self-worth that tries to creep back in? Yesterday, in the closet- I thought of that Facebook comment and decided to rock a new sheer white blouse. It was one of the first warm days of Spring and I was meeting with some pretty fantastic people and wanted to look my best. It’s so easy to grab the things we’re most comfortable in and it may take a bit more effort to choose new fresh options. The outcome of walking out of the house feeling fabulous is so worth the extra effort.  Then, Oops!… I did it again (do you hear Britney in your head?)… I put one foot in my comfy “old faithful” black platforms and said to myself- Wait a minute, Tiff- quit going to the same old, same old. So, I reached for my power shoes, my happy over-the-top fuchsia heels that I discuss in my shoe webisode. I really do try my best to practice what I preach! 

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STRUT IT. 

By the time I drove to my first meeting, my entire day had changed and I felt like a million bucks. Everywhere I went, those power heels plus my positive attitude helped me envision that the world was my catwalk. Now, today- I had a casual morning meeting and was able to come straight back home to work in my yoga pants – even if I’m still cranky and needing a nap- I’m strutting on the inside because I am doing my part by posting this blog with the intention that it will help YOU. You may not be wearing power heels and running through the kitchen after your toddler, but in your mind- you can be strutting your stuff sista because you are a great mama! You may be stuck on the computer for hours at work, but instead of slumping over, pull those shoulders back and STRUT IT knowing that you are making your deadline! Wherever you are in life… STRUT IT!

IT’S A STATE OF MIND. 

Before we can ‘own it’ on the outside, we have to change the way we think and rise up on the inside.

WHO’S READY TO STRUT IT?

Let’s start a movement.. a mentality makeover movement. Share this and tweet with hashtag #SOSstrut! 

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Wishing you a beautifully blessed weekend. Unplug from technology and plug in to quality time with those you love.. and yourself. Take some time to pamper yourself.

Love, Tiff

P.S. Have you gotten your FREE affirmations book called “Set it, Say it, Strut it” yet? Don’t miss out! Hop over to www.tiffanyhendra.com and sign up to the mailing list.

PBO P.S.S Don’t forget, the Just Fabulous Event with Jessica Youngblood is only a week away on March 22nd in Plano. Click HERE to find out more!