Can you believe we are half way through 2017? It’s exciting because we have 6 more months to kick some serious bootie by December. Last year was a challenging time for many of us, but I’m sensing this year is a time of rising above, gaining momentum and moving on.
Are there a few things on your goal list that you haven’t checked off yet? Are you struggling with a few intentions you’ve set? What is holding you back? Are you making choices out of fear or love? Do you play small?
For the remainder of the year, I challenge us all to be limitless in our thinking and get out of our comfort zone:
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[Rarely do I have time to go back and browse through my blog posts, but I’m glad I stumbled (well, let’s keep it real.. God led me to) this post from June 1, 2013. June is always special to me because it marks the halfway point of the year and I love to pause and reflect on how the year is unfolding. Also interesting– this week marked the 3 year anniversary of Maya Angelou’s passing. I pray you take some time to reflect and get even more intentional about how you want to rest of 2017 to play out.]
Last week I watched an episode of Oprah’s Super Soul Sunday with Maya Angelou. Have you seen it? Her story of courage, triumph, bravery and success has been resonating with me all week. In this interview with Oprah, Maya spoke of the concept of courage being the foundation of all other virtues (above quote) so it forced me to look inward at my own level of courage. Often throughout my life, I have been courageous and brave, but there are also many times I have tucked my tail between my legs and chose to shrink back. We all have a certain level of courage, but what is that special ingredient that gives us that little bit extra tenacity to tap into our inner Wonder Woman and push forward instead of shrinking back? Can you think of a time right now when you consciously chose to dig deeper and dust off your red + gold bustier? It’s a great exercise to reflect on those moments as a reminder for the next time we are tempted to be a coward instead of courageous.
I takes courage to walk down the aisle and make the vow. It takes courage to wake up everyday and raise your child. It takes courage to follow your dreams. It takes courage to walk away from a toxic relationship. It takes courage to speak your truth. It takes courage not to conform. It takes courage to let go of your past. So, yes– I definitely believe in Ms. Angelou’s concept that it takes courage to practice all the other virtues consistently. Cheers to all of us having more consistent courage this week, this month, this year. Even if you have to fake-it-till-ya-make it. You can be courageous even when you don’t feel like. I love John Wayne’s quote, “Courage is being scared and saddling up anyway”. Go lock yourself in the bathroom and do the Wonder Woman spin if it will help….
If you are raising daughters, mentoring young girls or need to be a braver woman… WATCH THIS:
I just spent the most magical two weeks in California (another blog to come later) and my younger sister, Natalie and I sat on the beach one gorgeous evening reminiscing about our tomboy upbringing. Can I just tell you how grateful I am that our parents embraced ALL the multifaceted sides of our personalities?!? We were pretty, but brave little tomboys who had to wear shorts underneath our dresses on Sunday because we would not let a dress stop us from the chance to climb the monkey bars or race that little boy across the church parking lot.
One day we wanted to…
go muddin’ in the ditches,
learn piano the next,
climb trees after that,
race bicycles up and down the street,
try out for cheerleader,
perform all the songs to Grease for the family,
go on mission trips,
swim in the horse trough,
build a Barbie city that covered my entire bedroom floor,
my bad New Waver phase and Flock of Seagulls haircut, (Lawdy, Lawd!!)
beauty pageants, (then with my Belinda Carlisle haircut)
and on and on and on.
Back then there were no screens to consume our time except for the television screen. We didn’t care much about TV except for watching reruns of Happy Days, Three’s Company, and Good Times. Oh wait, I did love American Bandstand on Saturday mornings. Anyone else? We loved playing outside! We loved getting sweaty! We loved sports! We truly thought we could do everything the boys did. Although, I did hate it when my dad made us help with the yard work! But, even that toughen us up and taught us not be afraid to use our hands and get a bit dirty. I never realized- until I saw the above TED Talk by Caroline Paul this morning- that all of that freedom to express our “gutsiness” would make such a huge difference in our life as women.
Natalie went all over the world as a teenager doing mission work and almost won Survivor: Micronesia in 2008. Not as adventurous, but still gutsy- I began modeling internationally at 17. I climbed down a Bavarian alp and rode a mountain bike from Germany to Austria. (Talk about an achy bootie…think about doing spin class for 8 hours! OUCH!) Flew on an Ultralight, which is basically a go cart with flimsy canvas wings, in Mexico. Slept in a rat infested cabin in Southern Sudan. Drove a Lamborghini up the PCH and got it to 160 MPH. Yeehaw! I should have been Danica Patrick. Just sayin’. Snorkeled off the coast of Africa in the Seychelle Islands and the Great Barrier Reef off the coast of Belize. Sang karaoke in Rappongi, the nightlight district of Tokyo. Lived in Milan, Italy for a Summer and rode a 10-speed to all my castings so I could see the city instead of being underground in the subway. Flown in a helicopter over the Great Ocean Road. Heck, moving to LA where I knew no one, took guts and independence. Seriously, driving around LA the past 2 weeks is gutsy. It’s like a bunch of ants texting while their trying to drive. Now I remember why my adrenal glands were shot from living there. Whew! #RoadRageOnCrack
Has life dulled your gutsiness? Life can make us fearful. I get it. Life can make us whimpy. I get it. Especially, the world we’re living in today, but SCREW THAT! Today, more than ever, we need to raise brave girls and be examples of brave women for them. The conversation with my sister sitting on the beach last week, then stumbling across this TED Talk was no coincidence. I’m here to encourage you to remember how brave you are. I love the ripple effect we can cause for good.
We become more brave by exercising our bravery. I don’t think I’ve ever made a list of all the cool and somewhat crazy things I’ve done in my life. My confidence and bravery is officially built up and sharpened. Never let anyone or anything, especially yourself, dull your gutsy, girlfriend.
Love to hear your thoughts or a specific gutsy moment you had.
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HAPPY SUNDAY SISTA!
I’m sure many of you are getting geared up for Superbowl Sunday, but I just had to share these 10 tips I stumbled upon. Last week, I celebrated a dear friend stepping boldly into a new endeavor by launching her YouTube Channel and new series called Whit’s Kitch. WHOOP! Make sure to check it out and subscribe! It was an honor to be Whitney’s first guest and we had a total blast doing special live videos to tell everyone about it. I’m thinking of doing special SOS Live videos now. It’s a fun way to engage with you ladies! Wanna?
Ok, back to the topic. I mentioned on Facebook Live how frustrating it is when some of those close to us can’t seem to encourage or acknowledge our accomplishments. I spoke about how important it is to surround yourself with women who have your back and speak life into your dreams. I especially realized the importance of this over the wild few years I just had! Whitney is a natural encourager and walks her talk in this area. She has a gift to point out and pull out your gifts. I just had to praise her and speak (well, it really was a rant) on the importance of this– especially for women.
I’m so grateful for the “tribe” of spiritually conscious women in my life who selflessly pat me on the back and highlight my strengths. Happy, strong women compliment others and know the power in lifting other women up. Confident women support your dreams and celebrate your wins.
When people have difficulty in this area it’s usually a projection of how unhappy they are in their own life. These people freely point out the weaknesses in others as a way of making themselves feel superior. We NEVER, ever, ever lift ourselves up by putting others down. I’ve learned to just pray for these people and focus on the people who confidently lift others up. May we all strive to speak life into others more this year. Stop speaking death. Everyone needs this, not just women. For example, stop tearing down your husband, praise him for all he does right instead of pointing out all the things he does wrong.
Sanctuary Of Style is all about building up women. I pray daily for this community and that it creates a ripple effect. If you want to grow in this area, here’s a great article I found:
We are living in a self-serving, self-centered, and self-obsessed modern day rush-rush society filled with negativity and constant tearing down of others. If you want to really differentiate yourself in this world, be people-oriented and start to focus on building others up.
Created as relational beings, it’s our greatest privilege to enjoy companionship with the people who truly matter in our lives. How can we then be a source of encouragement to our friends, family, and loved ones today?
Here’s 10 simple ways to build each other up:
Going one step further, visualize how and to whom you can build up and inspire changes for the better. Then work towards making that a reality.
Continue encouraging and building one another up. And start seeing growth and advancements in your relationship with people and to the ones who truly matter to you today.
This is an excerpt from Daniel Richard‘s latest ebook, Doing With LESS: Your journey as a new minimalist, and the art of stress-free living. He is a blogger, an author and a freelance writer. You can follow him on Twitter.
Hey Fellow Dream Chasers!
Have you started working on your goals and vision board yet? Over the past few weeks, I’ve set aside time to work on mine. It’s such a fun process! I have always loved empowering and inspiring quotes and love adding special ones to my vision board that are in alignment with my goals. Several jumped out at me that I wanted to share with you:
I highly recommend making an “empowerment pow wow” with a trusted friend who is a fellow dream chaser in the 1st few weeks of the new year. What you do in the beginning of the year sets the tone for the rest of your year. Share your highlights of 2016 and your dreams/goals/vision for 2017. Make sure not to share big dreams with small minded people who try to keep you in their small box! Choose a friend who is able to see gifts in you that you may not see for yourself, who is an encourager…not a discourager and who will be a lifter of your dreams throughout the year.
Another exercise I’m starting this new year is to imagine yourself on new year’s eve 2017. How does it feel? We are actually chasing after the feeling of joy, satisfaction, achievement and success. This will help ignite exactly what goals to set today.