#MondayMotivation || To Raise Brave Girls, Encourage Adventure

Gutsy girls skateboard, climb trees, clamber around, fall down, scrape their knees, get right back up — and grow up to be BRAVE WOMEN.  Learn how to spark a little productive risk-taking and raise confident girls with stories and advice from firefighter, paraglider and all-around adventurer Caroline Paul.

If you are raising daughters, mentoring young girls or need to be a braver woman… WATCH THIS: 

 

I just spent the most magical two weeks in California (another blog to come later) and my younger sister, Natalie and I sat on the beach one gorgeous evening reminiscing about our tomboy upbringing. Can I just tell you how grateful I am that our parents embraced ALL the multifaceted sides of our personalities?!? We were pretty, but brave little tomboys who had to wear shorts underneath our dresses on Sunday because we would not let a dress stop us from the chance to climb the monkey bars or race that little boy across the church parking lot.

One day we wanted to…

go muddin’ in the ditches,

learn piano the next,

climb trees after that,

race bicycles up and down the street,

play basketball,

try out for cheerleader,

perform all the songs to Grease for the family,

go on mission trips,

summer camp,

swim in the horse trough,

build a Barbie city that covered my entire bedroom floor,

my bad New Waver phase and Flock of Seagulls haircut, (Lawdy, Lawd!!)

beauty pageants, (then with my Belinda Carlisle haircut)

and on and on and on.

 

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Back then there were no screens to consume our time except for the television screen. We didn’t care much about TV except for watching reruns of Happy Days, Three’s Company, and Good Times. Oh wait, I did love American Bandstand on Saturday mornings. Anyone else?  We loved playing outside! We loved getting sweaty! We loved sports! We truly thought we could do everything the boys did. Although, I did hate it when my dad made us help with the yard work! But, even that toughen us up and taught us not be afraid to use our hands and get a bit dirty. I never realized- until I saw the above TED Talk by Caroline Paul this morning- that all of that freedom to express our “gutsiness” would make such a huge difference in our life as women.

Thank you mom and dad for allowing us to be little adventurous explorers.

Natalie went all over the world as a teenager doing mission work and almost won Survivor: Micronesia in 2008. Not as adventurous, but still gutsy- I began modeling internationally at 17. I climbed down a Bavarian alp and rode a mountain bike from Germany to Austria. (Talk about an achy bootie…think about doing spin class for 8 hours! OUCH!) Flew on an Ultralight, which is basically a go cart with flimsy canvas wings, in Mexico. Slept in a rat infested cabin in Southern Sudan. Drove a Lamborghini up the PCH and got it to 160 MPH. Yeehaw! I should have been Danica Patrick. Just sayin’. Snorkeled off the coast of Africa in the Seychelle Islands and the Great Barrier Reef off the coast of Belize. Sang karaoke in Rappongi, the nightlight district of Tokyo. Lived in Milan, Italy for a Summer and rode a 10-speed to all my castings so I could see the city instead of being underground in the subway. Flown in a helicopter over the Great Ocean Road. Heck, moving to LA where I knew no one, took guts and independence.  Seriously, driving around LA the past 2 weeks is gutsy. It’s like a bunch of ants texting while their trying to drive. Now I remember why my adrenal glands were shot from living there. Whew! #RoadRageOnCrack

Has life dulled your gutsiness? Life can make us fearful. I get it. Life can make us whimpy. I get it. Especially, the world we’re living in today, but SCREW THAT! Today, more than ever, we need to raise brave girls and be examples of brave women for them. The conversation with my sister sitting on the beach last week, then stumbling across this TED Talk was no coincidence. I’m here to encourage you to remember how brave you are. I love the ripple effect we can cause for good.

  • Take a moment to reminisce on all the gutsy things you’ve done throughout your life. This will build confidence.
  • If you chickened out on many things you wished you had done, start a list.
  • Get busy being braver than ever and get out there. Check off the list. I want to hear about it!

We become more brave by exercising our bravery. I don’t think I’ve ever made a list of all the cool and somewhat crazy things I’ve done in my life. My confidence and bravery is officially built up and sharpened. Never let anyone or anything, especially yourself, dull your gutsy, girlfriend. 

 

Love to hear your thoughts or a specific gutsy moment you had. 

Share. Comment. Like. You know the drill.

 

STOP SPEAKING DEATH: 10 Ways To Build Others Up

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HAPPY SUNDAY SISTA!

I’m sure many of you are getting geared up for Superbowl Sunday, but I just had to share these 10 tips I stumbled upon. Last week, I celebrated a dear friend stepping boldly into a new endeavor by launching her YouTube Channel and new series called Whit’s Kitch. WHOOP! Make sure to check it out and subscribe! It was an honor to be Whitney’s first guest and we had a total blast doing special live videos to tell everyone about it. I’m thinking of doing special SOS Live videos now. It’s a fun way to engage with you ladies! Wanna? 

Ok, back to the topic. I mentioned on Facebook Live how frustrating it is when some of those close to us can’t seem to encourage or acknowledge our accomplishments. I spoke about how important it is to surround yourself with women who have your back and speak life into your dreams. I especially realized the importance of this over the wild few years I just had! Whitney is a natural encourager and walks her talk in this area. She has a gift to point out and pull out your gifts. I just had to praise her and speak (well, it really was a rant) on the importance of this– especially for women.

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I’m so grateful for the “tribe” of spiritually conscious women in my life who selflessly pat me on the back and highlight my strengths. Happy, strong women compliment others and know the power in lifting other women up. Confident women support your dreams and celebrate your wins.

When people have difficulty in this area it’s usually a projection of how unhappy they are in their own life. These people freely point out the weaknesses in others as a way of making themselves feel superior. We NEVER, ever, ever lift ourselves up by putting others down. I’ve learned to just pray for these people and focus on the people who confidently lift others up. May we all strive to speak life into others more this year. Stop speaking death. Everyone needs this, not just women. For example, stop tearing down your husband, praise him for all he does right instead of pointing out all the things he does wrong.

The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.

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Sanctuary Of Style is all about building up women. I pray daily for this community and that it creates a ripple effect. If you want to grow in this area, here’s a great article I found:

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We are living in a self-serving, self-centered, and self-obsessed modern day rush-rush society filled with negativity and constant tearing down of others. If you want to really differentiate yourself in this world, be people-oriented and start to focus on building others up.

Created as relational beings, it’s our greatest privilege to enjoy companionship with the people who truly matter in our lives. How can we then be a source of encouragement to our friends, family, and loved ones today?

Here’s 10 simple ways to build each other up:

  1. Esteem others higher. Leaders esteem others higher than themselves. Have high regards, great respect, and favorable thoughts of the people in your circle of trust and influence.
  2. Be wise in your speech. Communicate more effectively by thinking before you speak. If there’s a word that’s more appropriate in a conversation, use it. Start with a praise. Never confront others. Instead, point out on how both of you can make things better. Speak at the same level as your audience; giving them due respect. There’s no need to come in with an authoritarian voice to get your message heard.
  3. Be encouraging. Encouragement is an expression and assurance of one’s hope and future in words, presence, and sincerity.
  4. Be quick to forgive. When others make a mistake, be quick to forgive and forget; releasing them from guilt and shame that may take root in one’s heart when not dealt with over time.
  5. Be understanding. Wisdom and understanding go hand in hand. Understanding starts by being an active listener (not planning a reply as one is speaking), asking intelligent questions to gain further insights, and being accepting of what the speaker is sharing. Then, answer without condemning. Or don’t answer at all and decide to just be a listening ear.
  6. Zero gossip. Keep others’ secrets. Never speak stuff that causes unnecessary hurt to others by speaking unclaimed rumors behind their back.
  7. Share knowledge. Found an article or book that’s useful? Share it with your friends. Sharing has been made easier thanks to the accessibility of sharing tools on the web, along with help from social media sites such as Twitter and Facebook. Sharing knowledge helps us learn, discover, and understand things that are interesting. They have immediate application for better results in our work and life, edifies our soul, and improves our daily conversations.
  8. Stay humble. Humility and maturity are synonymous. A dignified person accomplishes much, but brags little. They are secure in their standing without needing to make noise, often treating everyone with tremendous respect, regardless of position.
  9. Be positive! Positive thinking goes beyond having the drive and motivation for personal success. Positive thinking is explicit, definite, and outspoken. It’s contagious. Build up your loved ones with your positiveness, allowing them to be open for better things to come.
  10. Love. Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails … And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.” (1 Corinthians 13, NIV). Building up a person with the 9 ways mentioned is only made effective when done so together with love. Care for your loved ones how you would want to be cared for. Build up one another how you would like to be inspired. As a result, you will move up to a whole new level of breakthroughs in life.

Going one step further, visualize how and to whom you can build up and inspire changes for the better. Then work towards making that a reality.

Continue encouraging and building one another up. And start seeing growth and advancements in your relationship with people and to the ones who truly matter to you today.

“You need to be aware of what others are doing, applaud their efforts, acknowledge their successes, and encourage them in their pursuits. When we all help one another, everybody wins.” – Jim Stovall

This is an excerpt from Daniel Richard‘s latest ebook, Doing With LESS: Your journey as a new minimalist, and the art of stress-free living. He is a blogger, an author and a freelance writer. You can follow him on Twitter.

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If you’re in the DFW area and want to get over your fear of speaking on camera– JOIN US FEB 25th! Early bird savings until 2/10.

Seating is limited.

Register here >>> https://www.eventbrite.com/e/ladyboss-only-on-camera-confidence-workshop-tickets-31582476036?utm_term=eventurl_text

Stop Freezing Up + Rock It

 

 

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Do you freeze up in front of the camera?

Could your biz benefit from sharing a product or message on Facebook Live?

Do you need more confidence speaking in front of a group? 

 

If you answered YES to any of those questions, I invite you to join us for the 1st LADIES ONLY on-camera and confidence building workshop. Here are the topics we will cover:

 

  • Delivery to camera with clarity + authenticity
  • Image: what to wear on camera + best makeup
  • Confidence building tips
  • Media prep (for when The Today Show calls)
  • Voice projection
  • Power of the smile (we get nervous and forget it’s the magic tool)
  • YouTube basics (how to open and close a video to land customers)
  • Facebook Live + Instagram video basics
  • Branding basics

Hey, you’re part of the SOS tribe and that makes you a VIP in my book! A perk to being part of my online world means you are receiving this invitation before the public (Lucky duck!!) and I’m pleased to offer you $15 OFF with promo code VIP15! You’re welcome. 

We’re keeping this group small and intimate so there are limited seats available. Don’t miss it! 

GO TO THE LINK TO REGISTER>>> https://www.eventbrite.com/e/ladyboss-only-on-camera-confidence-workshop-tickets-31582476036

FOR QUESTIONS, please contact info@tiffanyhendra.com

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I’m so excited to host my 1st workshop for ladies only! After doing these workshops over the past 3 years, I have found that they are filled with like-minded women (and only a few men) who have a deep sense of purpose and desire to live with more confidence. With the ever changing world of social media, everyone needs to sharpen their on-camera skills. It’s a powerful tool to share your message, brand, products and business. I look forward to pulling out your greatness and helping you soar! 
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HAPPY NEW YEAR: 17 Empowering Quotes for 2017

Hey Fellow Dream Chasers!

Have you started working on your goals and vision board yet? Over the past few weeks, I’ve set aside time to work on mine. It’s such a fun process! I have always loved empowering and inspiring quotes and love adding special ones to my vision board that are in alignment with my goals. Several jumped out at me that I wanted to share with you:

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Which quote hit home with you the most?

Make sure to share this inspiration with your girlfriends.

I highly recommend making an “empowerment pow wow” with a trusted friend who is a fellow dream chaser in the 1st few weeks of the new year. What you do in the beginning of the year sets the tone for the rest of your year. Share your highlights of 2016 and your dreams/goals/vision for 2017. Make sure not to share big dreams with small minded people who try to keep you in their small box! Choose a friend who is able to see gifts in you that you may not see for yourself, who is an encourager…not a discourager and who will be a lifter of your dreams throughout the year.

Another exercise I’m starting this new year is to imagine yourself on new year’s eve 2017. How does it feel? We are actually chasing after the feeling of joy, satisfaction, achievement and success. This will help ignite exactly what goals to set today.

“Go girl! The world is waiting for your special brand of awesomeness. Go take charge of your calling!” ~Lysa Terkeurst The Best Yes

 

HAPPY 2017!

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EXTENDING! BOGO Coaching Sessions With Tiff

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Happy Christmas Week Lovies!

Several of you have taken the step to invest in yourself by booking sessions with me. Thank you for taking a stand for YOU and your own greatness! It is such an honor to walk side by side with you on this journey. Iron sharpens iron and none of us can become our best selves by ourselves!

A few of you have messaged me saying they needed a little more time because of the holiday budget. I GET IT and do not want anyone to miss this opportunity so I’m extending this offer.

Do not allow another year to go by in the same place you’re in now? 2017 is right around the corner and I know you have those goals to set, fears to overcome and a breakthrough waiting for you.

Do you feel fulfilled? What’s missing in your life?
Have you lost passion? What are you passionate about?
Can you visualize yourself as your very best (and most powerful) self? 

I can help you get ready. I can help you get motivated. I can help you build more confidence!

To make it easier on you to take that step forward, I’m offering a holiday special on private sessions. Buy one private session and get one session. ($300 Value for $150) Let’s work together for 2 hours for the price of 1 hour. 

Special offer ends Dec 31, 2016.
Sessions must be used by March 31, 2017. 

Skype sessions available for out of towners.

SIMPLY USE THIS SPECIAL PAYPAL LINK TO PLACE YOUR ORDER NOW: https://www.paypal.me/TiffanyHendra/150

LOVE YOUR SELFIE: Fall Reinvention

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REINVENT: verb 1. to invent again or anew,  2. to remake or make over, as in a different form 3. to bring back; revive.

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Typically, we discuss makeovers and reinvention on Jan 1st! Every magazine cover boasts headlines like “new year, new you”. But, I believe anytime is a good time to change it up, revive yourself and start anew. Are you afraid of change? Are you stuck in a rut? Are you sick of feeling blah? Are you enemies with the mirror? Do you cringe when you take a selfie? Are you sick and tired of hearing yourself complain about the same old, same old?

Sista, it’s time to s@*! or get off the pot…..as grandma would say!

Yes, that’s a Southern saying that’s a bit in your face, but you know me– I keep it real and am your instigator of change. Women keep themselves so busy taking care of everyone else that they neglect their basic needs, put their health and appearance on the back burner and ultimately end up miserable with themselves.

THAT STOPS NOW!

After the amazing yet challenging year I had, I was feeling blah and needed to shake it all up. What’s an easy solution? Chopping off my hair. I thought of it on a Monday, made the hair appointment and cut it on Wednesday. I didn’t hem and haw about it and just went for it.  Ba-bye 6 inches. Don’t miss ya! Big thanks to Holly Dear of Dear Clark for being part of my reinvention.

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I believe our hair holds energy and it’s the perfect way to revive – not only your look- but your spirit. Letting go of that old energy is freedom! You know I love long hair and I’ve let it define me at certain points in my life and career. Over the past 15 years, I’ve whacked my hair off twice and felt the same sense of freedom. I hear many women say they are so afraid to cut their long hair. If that’s you, what are you holding on to? It could be deeper than just the length of your hair. The beautiful thing about hair is that it always grows back. What can you do TODAY to let go of the old and embrace more freedom in your life?

Perhaps, it’s not your look or hair. It could be something to revive your health and energy! Making simple steps like starting the day with green smoothie and laying off the diet cokes. Honoring yourself with healthy food choices is truly life changing!

Maybe it’s being more diligent with time management and restricting your time on social media. We increase our confidence when we are efficient and get things done! I’m guilty of getting on Facebook, Twitter or Instagram and losing an hour of my life. For my brand and business, social media is an important tool, but it must be managed. Women thrive on being productive multi-taskers so if you’ve are in a time and scheduling rut– make some changes today. I’m an avid list maker and have note pads and spiral notebooks everywhere to help me stay on track. When I’m feeling inefficient, my self-esteem suffers. I’ve been diagnosed with ADD and have tried medication, but it was not for me. I’ve learned to keep my schedule doable and not allow myself to get overwhelmed with a full plate. Lists and time management are key to my sanity! Are you wasting time?

Scroll back up to the top of the page and read the definition of REINVENT again. Take some alone time to assess the areas you could remake, revive, reinvent. Fall is upon us and with every season change it brings both a sense of new beginnings and the end of the old.

DO THAT THING THAT SCARES YOU!

Take the baby step. It might be small, but it’s still a step forward.

It’s about time you take a selfie and really love what you see.

Nudging You With Love,

Xo Tiff

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Honored to walk in the ESTEEM Fashion Show benefitting The Elisa Project which celebrates and teaches healthy body image.

 

12 Dont’s For Mental Strength + More Confidence

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Happy Humpday Hotties!

A twitter friend sent me this today and I just had to share. It’s perfect timing as we are shifting gears from summertime fun to fall and holiday responsibilities. I urge you to read each of these and give them some real thought.

Which apply the most to your life right now?

There are about 12 weeks until the beginning of Dec. Let’s focus on each one for a week and apply it to our life. For example, many women felt panic when the kids went back to school because the house would be empty and quiet again. Instead of the fear of being alone, shift it into time to focus on you, your health, your fitness, your hobbies, your dreams.

Turn that fear into power and ultimately,  you will feel more confident. You know that’s what SOS is about! Whether it’s spirit, beauty, style or health related — my mission is that you kick fear to the curb and live the life of your dreams. It takes confidence to do that!

Pass the confidence along and share this message with all your sisters!

Love & Ladyballs,

Tiff

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Hey DFW Girlfriends,

I am so honored and excited to walk in ESTEEM: A Fashion Show on Sept 17th at Tootsie’s for the 3rd year in a row. My dear friend Melissa Rountree (Level 3 Active) and her daughter are this years co-chairs. This special event benefits The Elisa Project :

Now in its’ 7th year – ESTEEM is a celebration of positive body image and self-esteem. Local celebrities will join girls women, and men of all ages and sizes, to embrace healthy, balanced lifestyles and self-acceptance. By helping to increase awareness about eating disorders and the importance of positive body image, ESTEEM encourages people to love themselves while striving to be healthy.

JOIN US!  Tickets are going fast>>> http://theelisaproject.causedrive.com