How to Start 2015 with More Confidence by Guest Blogger Tina Hamilton

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There are a lot of excitements and pressures that women feel at the beginning of a new year. Every woman feels the need to instantly dump bad habits, make a lot of New Year’s Resolutions and suddenly be a different person once that clock strives twelve. Of course, this is just not realistic. Goal setting is a great idea to help any woman achieve her dreams, but no one can change completely overnight.

One of the most important traits that any woman needs in order to set realistic goals and achieve those goals is confidence. So many women struggle with not feeling like they are important or capable of achieving greater things, but this is not true! Every woman should create the power within herself to make 2015 her best year yet.

Here are some tips to help you gain more confidence in 2015:

Start with positive self-talk

Every woman is guilty of it from time to time. Putting oneself down and saying negative things is simply not productive. Every woman should focus instead on building herself up, not tearing down with negative self-talk. This can be a difficult process for a lot of women, but it is something that everyone should be working on constantly in order to become the best version of themselves.

Create a comfortable and expressive style

It may sound silly, but dressing cute actually does help a woman’s self-esteem. More importantly, the saying ‘dress the part’ still holds true. If a woman wants to be more confident to impress a man, get a promotion at work, or for any other reason, she should dress appropriately to help get to that goal. Women should forget about following trends and wear things that make them feel beautiful and comfortable, investing in t-shirt bra styles and well-fitting items that will last a lifetime.

Move every day

Exercise is an important aspect of staying healthy and happy. People who get regular exercise are not only happier with their lives, but they are also more confident and outgoing. Everyone should make a point to get up and move every single day. This can range from a ten minute walk around the block to a 2 hour sweaty yoga session.

Find a teammate

Women often feel like they have to do everything on their own, and there is no one out there who would be willing to help them even if they asked. This is an unfortunate misunderstanding. Every woman can and should work to find a teammate or partner who can help them feel better about themselves and achieve their goals this year. This can range from a life coach to a good friend.

Try something new

It sounds a little ironic, but it is true that one of the best ways to feel more confident is to do something that one is not confident doing! By getting outside of their comfort zone and trying new things, women can empower themselves and gain the confidence they need to take on any new challenge 2015 has to offer.

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Tina Hamilton is a journalist, blogger and social media guru. You can usually find her online or walking along one of Southern California’s beaches with her dog, Joey. Look for her on Twitter

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BE A BETTER GIRLFRIEND: Mid-Week Affirmations

Hey Gorgeous Girls,

 

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The past few days I’ve been reveling in the genuine friendships in my life. I am so grateful for the girlfriends who have stood by my side for over 20 years and excited about the new friendships I’m creating here in Dallas. Women need each other.. we have this innate need to feel connected and the minute we feel disconnected- all hell can break loose in our life. I realize that I’m a better wife, daughter, sister, etc- when my love tank is filled up from meaningful connection with my girlfriends. With all the hats we wear, it’s easy to allow the responsibilities of life to push ‘girl time’ on the back burner. Be intentional with scheduling quality time with your beloved girlfriends. From a shopping trip, happy hour or a powerwalk together, it really is the best therapy! Do not let too much time go by without this connection.

This was an important part of the foundation of SOS when I created it. During lonely periods in my life (LA could get very lonely at times), I realized I would look forward to watching Oprah or Sex and the City because it felt like some sort of connection and girl time. As sad as that sounds, it’s the truth. Then, after my YouTube Channel began to grow, many women would tell me they looked forward to the kids going to bed so they could jump on the computer and watch my latest video. For that 5-10 minutes they felt like they had some ‘girl time’ after a long day of juggling kids, career and life.  I completely understood and this truth fueled me to keep on keepin’ on with SOS. That’s what sparked the idea of it being a SISTERHOOD. Now, don’t get me wrong- watching TV or YouTube does not replace the in-person connecting we so desperately need, but it proved to me that this ‘connection’ should be a priority in every woman’s life. Make girl time a priority. You need it and deserve it.   

 

Affirm it today. I will…

  1. Schedule girlfriend time.
  2. Give gratitude for all the amazing women in my life.
  3. Be a better friend.
  4. Open up to a trusting friend, remove the mask + share my soul. 
  5. Release any toxic friendships once and for all.
  6. Pray for my girlfriends.
  7. Nurture all the women in my life no matter their age. (even your 9 yr old niece)
  8. Listen without “one-upping” (thanks Brene Brown)
  9. Reach out the minute I feel lonely. (stop the wallowing before it starts)
  10. Not take my genuine friendships for granted.
  11. Toast to the fabulous friends in my life!

 

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Thank YOU for being part of this cherished sisterhood.

YOU are loved & appreciated.

With gratitude,

Tiff

Thank God for Girl Time

Hello Gorgeous!

Happy Friday!  How was your week?  Any fun plans for this weekend? I just feel like a lil ‘girl talk’ this morning.  No style tip or beauty secret to offer today.  I’m sitting here in my robe sipping coffee, sorting through a zillion emails and getting life organized after my amazing trip.  Don’t you love that refueled feeling after a vacay?  Always, always take a good vacay every year or at least a few mini ones.  We all deserve a break now and then!  HOLLA!

Over the past few months, we have had so much stress and pressure with our other business that I was about to implode if I didn’t remove myself from it for a sec.  WHO FEELS ME?  I’m happy to report that I did not implode or totally go into freak out mode…almost, but not quite!  I’m so grateful to have dear girlfriends I can run to for solace in these times.  They don’t judge me for feeling weak.  They don’t judge me for needing a break from trying to be the West Coast Wonder Woman.  They don’t judge me, period.  They focus on my strengths and help me to see them when it all seems blurry.  I am tearing up right now thinking back over the years of fun, pain, growth, success, trials, heartbreak, wins and losses that my girlfriends experienced with me.  If you have even one girlfriend like that, consider yourself extremely blessed.  Women need to feel connected and when our real-life girlfriends may be unavailable, this community fills that void and provides support for many.  I thank God for giving it to us.  Girl time is vital- never deny yourself a good dose of it on a reg basis!

I have an excitement in my belly about the next few months and what’s to come in 2013.  SOS is my baby, my priority, my passion and I envision awesome things for us in the new year.  Daily, I receive heartfelt comments, questions, concerns and lots of encouragement from you ladies and this is what fuels me to keep going, keep building, keep growing this Sisterhood.  Thank you for taking the time to connect on a regular basis either here on the blog or on the Facebook Community.  Thank you for subscribing.  I know I really have to enjoy a blog or newsletter to actually take the time to subscribe and enter my email address.  Again, thank you.

Remember there are many ways to stay in the SOS loop:

FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/sanctuaryofstyle
YOUTUBE: http://www.youtube.com/user/tiffanybolton11
PINTEREST: http://pinterest.com/sanctuarystyle
TWITTER: https://twitter.com/#!/SanctuaryStyle
INSTAGRAM: @tiffanyhendra

Take the time this weekend to think about how you want the end of 2012 to look.   We’ve got 8 weeks left.  Let’s finish out the year STRONG!  Dig a little deeper, reach a little higher.  Also, start imagining how awesome 2013 is going to be!  Speak and act as if you have already arrived and attained your dreams!

CALL THINGS THAT BE NOT….AS THOUGH THEY ALREADY ARE!

Love, Tiff