DON’T GO BACK

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If you have subscribed to SOS, more than likely you are serious about your personal growth and development, spiritual healing, image and purpose in life. Often, I refer to the cocoon and the butterfly as a symbol of beauty, growth and transformation. The butterfly has intrigued me since I was little and it’s meaning became even more powerful to me as I began my journey of transformation. We are all striving to gain our wings.

Wherever you are in your journey today, remember that some people will not accept, appreciate or support your growth. This is unfortunate, but it’s the truth. Do not -under any circumstances – allow their insecurity to keep you from moving forward. Putting in the work takes guts, grit, courage, lady balls, focus and ALL of your will power. Throughout my journey, I’ve experienced a resistance to my growth by others. I’ve been made fun of for being “too airy fairy” or too motivational, cheerleadery and positive. At first, this would cause me to pull back and dummy myself down. No one likes to be made fun of so we go against our authenticity by trying to fit in. This has never worked for me! I had a deep longing to become the best I could be and to overcome the issues in my life. We make ourselves miserable trying to make others feel more comfortable. How stupid is that?!? 

NEVER EVER EVER ALLOW ANYONE TO DULL YOUR SHINE!

Ultimately, we dull our shine or clip our wings by allowing others opinions to overrule our own thinking. We need to take responsibility for what we allow. Personal growth and becoming who God created us to be takes work and major cooperation with Him. The work can be very painful at times, but what you gain on the other side is beyond worth it.

SO, WHY WOULD YOU EVER GO BACK?

People only want you to stay broken and in the same place because they aren’t doing their work to move forward. It’s time to limit your time with these types of people and your true friends will celebrate your growth. They will help you claim your wings and even be the wind beneath your wings. I’m so grateful for those friendships. I look at how much my life has changed (for the WAY better) so if being too cheerleadery or positive is weird, then I’m happy to be a total weirdo and I adore those who choose to be weirdos with me.

Have you experienced this? Do you “dummy down” to please others?

Go enjoy the clouds today!

SOAR.

Love, Tiff

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YOUR DESTINY IS CLOSER THAN YOU THINK [New Motivational Video]

Ok, ok.. I know.

It’s been too long, but here I am.

Are you taking up permanent residency in your comfort zone?

Do you feel safe in the bubble or are you itching to break free?

What’s holding you back?

Your destiny is closer than you think!

BLOOM AT YOUR OWN PACE: Stop Trying To Prove Yourself

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Happy Sunday Sistas,

As you all know, I am in a new season of life, in a new city and loving the fresh start. With that comes moments of both anxiety and excitement. Anxiety because I’m getting reacquainted with a city that has changed SO much from when I previously lived here, but more so- I think it’s because I have changed. I admit it is a good kind of anxiety- if there is such a thing. Excitement because I am connecting with wonderful women who are full of purpose, passion and integrity. Plus, the fact that I can drive down to visit my parents gives me tremendous peace that I haven’t felt in years.

Over the past few weeks, I have had several convo’s with women from all walks of life- single career women, wealthy stay-at-home moms and women in ministry. These conversations were some of the most authentic, genuine and flat out no B.S. talks I’ve had in a while. A great take-away from each encounter was the realization that I was free from the need to prove myself to any of these women. After years of searching for approval from others and desperately trying to prove myself and my worth- here I am…Tiff, no labels, no titles, no resume, take it or leave it, just as I am…

ME.

Everyone is climbing that mountain and running the race to see who can get to the top or cross the finish line first. Our ego’s want to be fed with that false need to prove something and say “Hey, look at me!” The flowers don’t beg for attention and open up when they are ready….when they have had adequate water and sunlight. It’s a simple analogy, but we could learn a lesson or two from them. They are all equally beautiful so does it really matter which one blooms first? We hear “enjoy the journey” on a regular basis, but are we all so consumed with that finish line or mountain top that we keep ourselves in a state of misery, comparison and competition? The beauty of the journey, the climb- is the growth and strength that’s achieved. Do not try to bypass it or you’ll miss out on your Destiny. There’s really no fun or sense of adventure in life if you went straight to the mountaintop. Sting made a profound comment in the documentary “Twenty Feet From Stardom” about the kids that win “American Idol” at an early age. They are given instant fame, recognition and money- BUT, if they have not had some degree of personal growth they will not sustain a lasting career. They do not have the tools or Spiritual growth to keep them at the top for long. (I’m paraphrasing, but that’s the gist of it) 

Often, I call myself a “late bloomer” and I’m okay with it. My entire 20’s were a time of seeking, self-loathing, fear based decision making and complete confusion. I didn’t start understanding myself…forgiving myself and others…until I was in my early 30’s and allowed God to take over. Remember, before a flower can bloom- it has to first grow underneath the soil, in the darkness and start out as a sprout. Whether you are fully bloomed or barely a sprout today- appreciate where you are and do not compare yourself to others. Don’t try to rush your growth and bypass some of the essential healing and lessons that MUST be learned. That’s a recipe for disaster. Each season, each stage of growth reveals amazing aspects of ourselves. Many stages are downright painful and challenging, but oh so glorious on the other side. That’s how we truly understand who we are, what we want to do and how we want to live our life. We have to go through the dark times in the dirty parts of life in order to really appreciate when we are…

standing tall and blooming like the tulips above.

If life is to be compared to a race- I’m in it for the long haul, the marathon. Not a sprint. I know I used several analogies from a race to a mountain climb to flowers, but I trust it helped to drive the point home. I see so many women who are wearing themselves out trying to prove they are successful, prove they are superwoman or the world’s greatest mom. Do not live your life by someone else’s definition of success. I may not have the biggest bank account, but I have a thriving marriage and healed relationships within my family. God is leading me every single day in my purpose to empower women. Heck, the fact that I’m even alive and breathing and not strung out on drugs somewhere…that is success to me, HOLLA! 

How has the need for approval derailed you? What is stopping you from living life at your own pace, on your terms? Are you distracted by the need to keep up with the pace of other’s? Are you disconnected from your Spirit and trying to take the wheel away from God? It is so exhausting and you’ll stay on the “road always traveled” then end up living someone else’s life. If that’s you today, please put it in “park” and reevaluate your route.

I would love to hear your thoughts.

Cheers to blooming when you are good and ready!

Love, Tiff

 

 

 

 

FLICKER TO A FLAME {Sunday Eve Affirmations}

One of my favorite things in the world to witness is women stepping into their DESTINY + SHINING as they should!  It’s exactly the reason I do what I do.  Too often women shrink and play the martyr or victim.  WHY?  What purpose does it serve to live a life below what God has destined for you?  NONE!  ZILCH! ZERO!  Why live life giving out a tiny flicker of your light when there is a MASSIVE FLAME inside you.  We are like the sun and meant to shine our warmth on the world.  You honor God when you step into your greatness.  That’s what you were created to do!  Stop playing so small and rinky-dink!  Ignite the flame, fan it and show the world what you got, baby!  

{You were made to shine + be hugely fabulous}

Can you OWN IT this week?  Do you have only brief moments when you feel yourself radiating with love and light and it quickly fades because of some negative circumstance that gets your head spinning or wallowing in your own fear or you allow a toxic relationship to control you?  This week I want you to focus on keeping that flame lit.  FIGHT FOR IT!  My wish is that you all experience more powerful moments than weak ones, more moments when you feel yourself radiating like a flame rather than just a flicker, more moments of clarity rather than confusion that you are right where you are meant to be.   Are you ready?

THIS WEEK I WILL:

  1. Step into my greatness…even if it’s one baby step in that direction.
  2. Stop abusing my body with poor sleep + a poor diet.
  3. Clean out my closet + give things to people who need it. (especially coats + shoes for winter)
  4. Read more + watch TV less.
  5. Set goals to make the final 2 1/2 months of 2012 totally ROCK.
  6. Buy the boots I’ve been drooling over.
  7. Give myself a pat on the back instead of beating myself up.
  8. Attend a movie, concert or seminar that inspires me.
  9. Lift light weights regularly. It helps my bone density!
  10. Not play rinky-dink.
  11. Fight for my flame + RADIATE!

I want to congratulate you for taking a stand for yourself this week.  This is true empowerment!  The definition of em·pow·er is “give power or authority to; to authorize”.  You are authorizing yourself to soar, live the life of your dreams and become ALL (not just a little), but all that you are destined to be!  I salute you girlfriend!

Please make a comment, like, tweet and share these affirmations if you found them inspiring!  Share the love + light with your friends!  Much thanks!

WALK TALL!

Love, Tiff