HAPPY SUNDAY SISTAS!
Do you find yourself powerless and easily lured in to gossip? What’s up with that? There are so many layers to gossip, but let’s cut through the layers and call it what it is…. an ugly and destructive activity. The people I surround myself with do not participate in this lower level activity, but every once in a while, there’s someone who starts spewing that ugly diarrhea of the mouth. This happened recently and it gave me the heebie jeebies. Immediately, I felt uncomfortable and what’s even more uncomfortable is having to confront it and say, “I don’t feel comfortable discussing this”. The fear of confrontation is probably one of the biggest reasons we find ourselves sucked in to gossip. Also, people enjoy the “connection” they feel when they all join in on the people bashing. They feel part of the group, especially in a work/office atmosphere. Human nature is so funny like that. Bottom line is, gossipers are just insecure and find they lift themselves up by putting others down or airing other peoples dirty laundry. Reality is they are not lifting themselves up, but instead they are losing the respect of those around them.
I’m not saying I’m Miss Perfect Polly and of course, I have participated in my fair share of gossiping, but several years ago- after spending a lot of time with a few hardcore gossipers- God revealed to me that this destructive activity would block my blessings. I’m sorry, but I need all the blessings I can get! How about you? It brings to mind the simple principle of The Golden Rule. Treat others as you wish to be treated. You don’t want others going around airing your bizzzness or bashing you- so why would you do it to others?
HOW DO YOU HANDLE SOMEONE’S VOCAL DIARRHEA?
Let’s define it: Gossip is casual or unconstrained conversation or reports about other people, typically involving details that are not confirmed as being true. (YUCK!)
That’s why I love the above quote by E.R. ‘Nuff said! When you get together with friends, what do you find to be the topic of conversations? Women need to unite and lift one another up instead of constantly comparing and tearing each other down. It seems no matter how old we get, there’s always that sense of the cliques we dealt with in high school. If you find this is an issue in your life and it’s weighing you down, SISTA– it’s time to set yourself apart and live with more integrity. You will soar in life, unleash more blessings and enjoy more freedom. Being an eagle and rising above can feel lonely at times, but really- who wants to be in the henhouse pecking around in all that bird shizzle! Just sayin’.
THIS WEEK I WILL…..
- Focus on living by The Golden Rule.
- Lift others up with my words + actions.
- Not participate in gossip no matter how harmless it seems.
- Regain my power in this area!
- Discuss creative ideas not people.
- Put duct tape over my mouth if I have to.
- Not be afraid of confrontation. I will do the right thing!
- Be an encourager.
- Not block my blessings!
- Soar with the eagles instead of pecking with the chickens.
- Surround myself with other eagles!