LOVE YOUR SELFIE: Fall Reinvention

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REINVENT: verb 1. to invent again or anew,  2. to remake or make over, as in a different form 3. to bring back; revive.

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Typically, we discuss makeovers and reinvention on Jan 1st! Every magazine cover boasts headlines like “new year, new you”. But, I believe anytime is a good time to change it up, revive yourself and start anew. Are you afraid of change? Are you stuck in a rut? Are you sick of feeling blah? Are you enemies with the mirror? Do you cringe when you take a selfie? Are you sick and tired of hearing yourself complain about the same old, same old?

Sista, it’s time to s@*! or get off the pot…..as grandma would say!

Yes, that’s a Southern saying that’s a bit in your face, but you know me– I keep it real and am your instigator of change. Women keep themselves so busy taking care of everyone else that they neglect their basic needs, put their health and appearance on the back burner and ultimately end up miserable with themselves.

THAT STOPS NOW!

After the amazing yet challenging year I had, I was feeling blah and needed to shake it all up. What’s an easy solution? Chopping off my hair. I thought of it on a Monday, made the hair appointment and cut it on Wednesday. I didn’t hem and haw about it and just went for it.  Ba-bye 6 inches. Don’t miss ya! Big thanks to Holly Dear of Dear Clark for being part of my reinvention.

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I believe our hair holds energy and it’s the perfect way to revive – not only your look- but your spirit. Letting go of that old energy is freedom! You know I love long hair and I’ve let it define me at certain points in my life and career. Over the past 15 years, I’ve whacked my hair off twice and felt the same sense of freedom. I hear many women say they are so afraid to cut their long hair. If that’s you, what are you holding on to? It could be deeper than just the length of your hair. The beautiful thing about hair is that it always grows back. What can you do TODAY to let go of the old and embrace more freedom in your life?

Perhaps, it’s not your look or hair. It could be something to revive your health and energy! Making simple steps like starting the day with green smoothie and laying off the diet cokes. Honoring yourself with healthy food choices is truly life changing!

Maybe it’s being more diligent with time management and restricting your time on social media. We increase our confidence when we are efficient and get things done! I’m guilty of getting on Facebook, Twitter or Instagram and losing an hour of my life. For my brand and business, social media is an important tool, but it must be managed. Women thrive on being productive multi-taskers so if you’ve are in a time and scheduling rut– make some changes today. I’m an avid list maker and have note pads and spiral notebooks everywhere to help me stay on track. When I’m feeling inefficient, my self-esteem suffers. I’ve been diagnosed with ADD and have tried medication, but it was not for me. I’ve learned to keep my schedule doable and not allow myself to get overwhelmed with a full plate. Lists and time management are key to my sanity! Are you wasting time?

Scroll back up to the top of the page and read the definition of REINVENT again. Take some alone time to assess the areas you could remake, revive, reinvent. Fall is upon us and with every season change it brings both a sense of new beginnings and the end of the old.

DO THAT THING THAT SCARES YOU!

Take the baby step. It might be small, but it’s still a step forward.

It’s about time you take a selfie and really love what you see.

Nudging You With Love,

Xo Tiff

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Honored to walk in the ESTEEM Fashion Show benefitting The Elisa Project which celebrates and teaches healthy body image.

 

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12 Dont’s For Mental Strength + More Confidence

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Happy Humpday Hotties!

A twitter friend sent me this today and I just had to share. It’s perfect timing as we are shifting gears from summertime fun to fall and holiday responsibilities. I urge you to read each of these and give them some real thought.

Which apply the most to your life right now?

There are about 12 weeks until the beginning of Dec. Let’s focus on each one for a week and apply it to our life. For example, many women felt panic when the kids went back to school because the house would be empty and quiet again. Instead of the fear of being alone, shift it into time to focus on you, your health, your fitness, your hobbies, your dreams.

Turn that fear into power and ultimately,  you will feel more confident. You know that’s what SOS is about! Whether it’s spirit, beauty, style or health related — my mission is that you kick fear to the curb and live the life of your dreams. It takes confidence to do that!

Pass the confidence along and share this message with all your sisters!

Love & Ladyballs,

Tiff

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Hey DFW Girlfriends,

I am so honored and excited to walk in ESTEEM: A Fashion Show on Sept 17th at Tootsie’s for the 3rd year in a row. My dear friend Melissa Rountree (Level 3 Active) and her daughter are this years co-chairs. This special event benefits The Elisa Project :

Now in its’ 7th year – ESTEEM is a celebration of positive body image and self-esteem. Local celebrities will join girls women, and men of all ages and sizes, to embrace healthy, balanced lifestyles and self-acceptance. By helping to increase awareness about eating disorders and the importance of positive body image, ESTEEM encourages people to love themselves while striving to be healthy.

JOIN US!  Tickets are going fast>>> http://theelisaproject.causedrive.com

HELLO SEPTEMBER: Bring On The Confidence & Walk Tall

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Join me in welcoming September! (clap clap)

Let’s focus on our spirit today…

Many of you have made it through the first week of school getting the kids back on a sleeping schedule and finding your own new groove. CONGRATS!  The transition to Fall is always a bit wonky which can take a toll on our confidence. The lazy days of Summer are over and it’s time to get focused. You spent so much time on your family and making sure their Summer was memorable and now it’s time to nurture yourself a bit.

What activities do you want to participate in? You’ve filled up your kids after school schedules, but what about YOU?

Do you want to try a new workout program? Start a side business? Join a book club? Take an online class?

My job here at SOS is to…

nudge you,

broaden your scope,

instigate change,

get you to step out of your comfort zone…

all of which will build your confidence. 

Are you the type who thinks and talks about doing something, but you never get around to it? This actually wreaks havoc on your confidence! Do you notice that sense of disappointment in yourself when you shrink back or are just plain lazy?  I challenge you TODAY — on the first of the month to step into the new season with new habits.

Here are 3 ways to bring on the confidence:

1)RECALL A TIME YOU WERE CONFIDENT & POWERFUL: Remember that time you nailed that important business presentation or told a great joke during a speech that had the room in stitches or threw a perfect dinner party from the appetizer all the way to the after dinner coffee? Recalling these moments when you were proud of yourself actually triggers you to feel that feeling of confidence again. Often, we tend to focus on our shortcomings and losses instead of our wins. Every once in a while, I take a look over my resume and credentials to remind myself that I’m not doing so bad.

ACTION STEP: Make it a regular habit of taking time to focus on your accomplishments. 

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2)TRY SOMETHING NEW (even if it scares you): We are creatures of habit and my intention with this post today is to encourage a change in the bad habits that are holding you back. I set a goal for 2014 to book a minimum of three speaking engagements. Recently, I hit my goal. Woop! I didn’t tell anyone about the first two. They were at smaller venues and I considered it practice and no one would know if I completely bombed. I’ve spoken many times in public, but it still makes me a ball of nerves. It’s something I want to get better at. I have the ability to talk into the camera all day long with no problem. That’s where I feel “at home”. Recently, I spoke at a bigger event and thought I was going to puke. I didn’t. Stepping out of my comfort zone and doing something that scared me strengthened my confidence in a major way.

ACTION STEP: Set the goal. What is that thing you’ve wanted to do even if it terrified you? Build your confidence by setting the goal and completing it.  

3)WALK TALL: If you’ve been part of SOS for the past year or so, you’ve seen me say this in many videos and on the blog. Why did I start this? I began noticing my own terrible posture when I was out and about in public. On those days I felt “schleppy”, my shoulders would round forward and my eyeline was toward the ground. As I looked around, many women were doing the same thing. Their energy was “stand offish” instead of magnetic. So was mine! What the heck? It broke my heart to see so many women with such low self-confidence. I had to have a chat with myself as well. Sometimes it’s good to take yourself to the mirror and talk to yourself as if you were your BFF. We encourage our friends all the time and I want you to do that for yourself today. Being the researcher I am, I found this to be scientifically backed in a study by Scientific America. 

ACTION STEP: Focus on your posture. Stand tall, core tight, eyeline forward and shoulders back. Standing tall actually signals the body and mind to feel more powerful. 

Like my Grandma always said, “it’s time to S*@! or get off the pot”!  Don’t you just love Southern sayings? The new season is the perfect time to try some new things.

What will you step out and walk tall doing?

Please share this post with any friends who need the nudge. Perhaps, do this with a friend and create some accountability.

If you need more in-depth assistance, I have limited space for new private clients in September. Receive a complimentary 15 minute consultation via Skype to discuss your options. Serious inquiries only. Contact me here. 

WALK TALL SISTAS.

Love, Tiff

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If you’re in the DFW area, please join us on September 12th for the ESTEEM 2105 Fashion Show benefitting The Elisa Project. I’m honored to walk in this show again and I do so proudly for the teenage girls I have mentored with eating disorders. I also battled poor body image as a teen model and want to empower the next generation with the knowledge and education that I was not given when I was young.

TICKETS ARE GOING FAST!

GET YOURS HERE.

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WOMEN OF DALLAS EMPOWERING OUR YOUNG WOMEN: A Personal Invitation to the ESTEEM Fashion Show

 

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Remember back when you were a teenager?

What was your confidence and level of self-esteem when you were 17? 

Were you under the pressure to be a good girl and to always look good. Perhaps you didn’t feel that pressure- thank God, but the majority of teen girls feel the pressure so strongly that they commit a slow suicide by starvation and binging/purging. We all know it’s not about the food- it’s about feeling so out-of-control that the one thing they can control is their weight. There are many layers to an eating disorder. As a teen, I experimented and swung between bouts of starving myself and binging/purging. Many of the women in my family were overweight and constantly dieting so at an early age I learned what a laxative was and how to abuse it. At around 16, I had a Japanese modeling agent tell me that my legs were too big & muscular and if I wanted to have any kind of modeling career, I needed to have thinner legs. The self-loathing was amped up to a new level at this point. Even at my age and so many years passing since the go-see with that agent, I still have to keep myself ‘in check’ from disliking my legs. Luckily, around age 20- after a few years of experimenting with hard core diet pills from Mexico, starving and working out for hours, I couldn’t keep it up and decided I enjoyed good food more than I enjoyed modeling. I was never that super thin, gaunt model and was on the shorter side at 5’7″ so bikini and fitness modeling was the niche I worked best in. My curves and muscles were embraced and I could give up the diet pills! 

Now, let’s put ourselves in the shoes of this generation of teen girls and how they are bombarded with Instagram images and size zero celebrities to compare themselves to. I can’t begin to imagine the battle for perfection they are killing themselves to achieve. Because of my tumultuous teen years and knowing the pain girls suffer in silence, I began mentoring young girls who are dealing with issues from eating disorders, cancer, abuse, early pregnancy, drugs and more.  

Now that I’m in Dallas, I was introduced to The Elisa Project– founded in 1999 by Rick and Leslie McCall in memory of their daughter Elisa, who suffered from an eating disorder and ultimately took her own life. A 501(c)(3) nonprofit organization, The Elisa Project is dedicated to the prevention and effective treatment of eating disorders through support, awareness, education, and advocacy. We strive to be the premier knowledge resource on eating disorders and a proactive agent of change to ensure that all those affected by these diseases receive the treatment and support they need. via http://www.theelisaproject.org

Dallas sistas, I invite you to join us for the ESTEEM Fashion Show —now in its 5th year—is a celebration of positive body image and self-esteem. Local celebrities will join girls and women, of all ages and sizes, to embrace healthy, balanced lifestyles and self-acceptance. By helping to increase awareness about eating disorders and the importance of positive body image, ESTEEM encourages people to love themselves while striving to be healthy.

I am thrilled to be walking in the show in honor of my sweet Julie who is on the road to recovery from heart complications due to anorexia.  Hope to see you there!  Invite your friends!  

 

PURCHASE TICKETS HERE

 

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EVENT INFORMATION

Saturday, September 13, 2014 

10:30am // Doors Open

Tootsies

8300 Preston Center Plaza

Dallas, TX 75225

TICKET PRICES

$75 VIP Front Row Seating

$40 Adults

PURCHASE TICKETS HERE