The Spiritual Spitfire Keepin’ It Real [Podcast with Joel Boggess]

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Hello Gorgeous!

It was an honor to chat with podcast king Joel Boggess again on his hit show ReLaunch and share my heart about RHOD, marriage in Hollywood, our faith foundation, my purpose and more!  Grab a cup of coffee and listen tonight when the kids go to bed or when you’re on your commute to work.

The interview is on iTunes, Soundcloud, iHeartRadio>>> http://relaunchshow.com/real-housewives-tiffany-hendra/

What you will hear in our discussion with Tiffany Hendra:

  • God’s plan in show business
  • Avoid fear-based choices
  • Broken Hollywood dreams
  • Prayer in Hollywood
  • Build your Confidence
  • “I was marinating in my own BS”

 

Your Spiritual Spitfire,

Tiff

 

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AUDIENCE OF ONE: Who Are You Trying To Impress?

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Happy Sunday!

I’m just going to ramble for a minute. This has been on my heart this past week and I thought you ladies would be encouraged by it too.

Last week, a cool guy friend of ours – Jeff Peters – made a simple yet profound statement to me while Aaron was playing at a gig. The place was packed and everyone was engaged in my hubby’s performance. That’s what every entertainer wants, right? I was explaining how happy I was that the place was filled with loyal fans then my friend said something to the effect of, “Yes, that’s great, but we should all be more concerned with the audience of one” then he pointed his finger to the sky. God was who he was talking about.

WHOA!!!!!!!!  The place went silent and this hit me like a ton of bricks for a few seconds.

Don’t you love it when people around you are truly iron sharpening iron?!? (Thanks Jeff!!) This resonated with me all week.  We live in a world where so many people are trying to warp the perception about themselves on social media and make us all believe they are something they are not.  They are more concerned with how many followers they have and…so….

Are you more concerned with impressing people than you are about impressing God?

The silly thing is God knows who you are so it’s a slap in His face when you are being the fake, inauthentic version of yourself to the world. He created you to be exactly who you are with all your gifts, shortcomings, talents and flaws. He must shake His head when He sees someone put out a fake representation of themselves. I want to make Him proud. Don’t you?

As an influencer, I pray daily for God to enlarge my territory (Prayer of Jabez) which means, yes– grow my social media, but there is a mission and purpose behind it. Are you more concerned with feeling “popular” or are you more focused on the amount of people you could add value to? Again, God knows your heart!

Summer is behind us and as we head into Fall, take a look back at your 2016 goals. Have you hit them or missed the mark a few times? You still have time to create the best year yet!

 

I encourage you all to set your intentions toward impressing God more.

Please give me you 2-cents on this topic! 

The world wants and needs the authentic YOU! 

 

Love, Light, Ladyballs + Lipstick,

Tiff

 

It’s Time To Move On + Cross The Bridge

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Happy Humpday Hotties!

The aspect of SOS I love the most is when women who reach out sharing their heart and journey with me. It’s like a beautiful gift I get to unwrap when I open that email or message on social media. The love and inspiration exchanged comes back around to me full circle reminding me we are all in this together!

One message I received yesterday just had to be shared here with you all. The day after the #RHOD reunion aired, I posted the above bridge photo with the caption, “a walk in nature is all that’s needed sometimes to reset our spirit. This bridge is symbolic to me today…MOVING ON. What bridge do you need to cross over today and move on from?”

A lovely lady who follows me on Twitter began reading and watching my SOS content as the Bravo show was airing. She wrote me this yesterday and it touched me. It’s truly a testament on never giving up and how to face our circumstances head on with positivity and gratitude instead of getting stuck and depressed by them….

 

Hi Tiff!! First let me thank you for posting REAL pics on social media showing that you live what you teach and preach!  Not pics of you and Aaron partying or wearing fashions that women like me want, but can’t’ afford. You show us how to do it on a budget!

I get up everyday and look at the picture you posted of the bridge. 

I cross over it and forget about my broken heart, my relationship with my son and how I may never have one with him because I blew it and how my mom gets worse everyday with her MS.

I cross over the bridge and minute by minute forget the man who broke my heart and thank God for restoring my relationship with my son and thank Him that I can be here for my mom. 

It’s easier some days than others!

God has truly given me this time to get healthy and put my life in perspective and to prepare me for the man He has for me.

Like your tweet said a few days ago, “I’m a VESSEL not a VICTIM!” 

 

I pray this encourages you to pick up your feet and pick up your chin. I view God as the bridge toward our Destiny! Who wants to stay on the wrong side forever? Yes, moving on and crossing the bridge takes courage, trust and faith. Aren’t you curious what life is like on the other side? For me, it has been a life of more joy, more freedom, more love, more adventure. That’s my hope for us all.

Love, 

Tiff

 

 

HAPPY THANKSGIVING! My Gratitude List A to Z

 

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Who is excited for Thanksgiving week? ME! We get a short work week, quality time with those we love, yummy food, naps without guilt and time to focus on what we are truly grateful for. I’m looking forward to sitting on my mom’s couch, turning off my brain and catching up on magazines together. Have I mentioned how much I love being in Texas and able to jaunt down to Houston to see my folks? This Thanksgiving Day marks our 2 year anniversary living in Dallas.

Time has flown.

So much has happened.

Amazing doors have opened. 

My heart is full.

I have to say, this is one of the greatest gifts I am grateful for this week. Like any big move, we’ve had our share of wonky moments- but Dallas has become home and we are grateful for the beautiful souls in the city who have embraced us with open arms. It proves stepping out into the unknown is always rewarding.

Thanksgiving week is the perfect lead in to the holiday season and end of the year. What’s better than ending the year full of gratitude?!? This mindset and practice will set you up for success in the new year. Hello 2016!

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Does expressing gratitude come easy to you or do you find it difficult to focus on your blessings in the midst of your burdens?  Practicing gratitude has become a daily part of my life, but it wasn’t always that way. I was a chronic complainer and my life was a reflection of it. I was a mess, my life was a mess and my thoughts were a mess. It all starts with your thoughts so if you need a little help getting started on living a life of gratitude and changing the way you think- keep it simple with an A to Z list. We all have so much to be grateful for and the more you focus on those things,  you’ll unlock an abundance of blessings to flow to you and chase you down.

Join me in creating a fun list. I am grateful for:

A- Accessories. They are my obsession and add an exclamation point to any outfit.

B- Bible. My favorite ‘self help’ book! Joyce Meyer has a great amplified version:

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C- Coats. They keep us warm on chilly days like today. (If you live in DFW, please drop off your gently worn coats to the Campbell Agency on Oak Lawn & Blackburn for their coat drive)

D- Dogs. My little Zoe has been the best companionship. She’s also been in a pain in the butt, but I love her. She’s a bundle of love.

E- Encouragement. Just this morning I received the most heartfelt email from my Spiritual mentor. Not sure what I would do without her encouragement! #GodSend

F- Faith. Without it, we remain in a hopeless state. Being filled with Faith gives you strength to face each day.

G- God. Without Him, I would be a drug addict, dead, depressed and totally defeated.

H- _________________( fill in the blank)

I- Independence. At times I can be too independent, but I’m so grateful my parents raised me to be an independent woman. It’s important to know you can rely on yourself!

J- _________________(fill in the blank)

K- Kale. It makes my morning smoothie super yummy and packed with antioxidants.

L- Love. My life is overflowing with it. #Blessed

M- ________________ (fill in the blank)

N- Naps. I love them and will take them any time I can!

O- “Oceans”. My all time favorite song by Hillsong.

P- Patience. I’m always running low on it, but getting better with age. Being patient takes away so much stress!

Q- Quinoa. It’s healthy, yummy and a great rice replacement.

R- _________________(fill in the blank)

S- Sisterhood. The women in my life who love me just as I am, call me out on my s@&*, help me shine brighter and pray for me when I’m weak are the sisters God let me choose. Also, this SOS Sistahood has changed my life!

T- Truth. Authenticity and honesty in people are the most attractive attributes to me. I’m always so grateful for people who keep it real!

U- Underwire Bras. Go ahead and LOL… gravity is taking over and they help the “girls” stay cute and perky! Here’s my favorite daily bra by DKNY:

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V- ________________(fill in the blank)

W- Walks. My natural anti-depressant. I started taking long power walks around 12 or 13 when I was approaching my treacherous teen years. Helps keep me sane and organize my crazy creative thoughts.

X- ________________(good luck with that one..fill in the blank)

Y- Yellow. One of my favorite colors. Brightens even the most dreary day.

Z- Zzzz’s. Did I mention I love to sleep? I’m so grateful when I can catch up on sleep on the weekend.

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You’re probably thinking,

“Only on Tiff’s blog can you talk Bibles AND Bras !!” 

Hey, I keep it real. They are 2 things we can’t live without.

Please share your ideas and what you filled in the blanks with! 

Wishing you all a very blessed Thanksgiving week.

I am grateful for YOU!

Love,

Tiff

 

 

Free Yourself With The Gift Of Forgiveness

Happy September Sistas!

We have all made poor choices which can leave a trail of emotional destruction…within us.  I know I sure have!  Can you recall making a choice like this? The type of choice that leaves that trail along with wounds of shame, self-loathing, anger and disappointment. When you add all of those things together.. whew, talk about a recipe for destruction! Yesterday, I realized that this week-the week after Labor Day- 15 years ago I made this type of choice. A choice based solely out of fear. I had an abortion. There I said it. The Positive Polly, Style Coach and Spiritual Mentor you all know made one of the poorest choices EVER and is admitting it. I do so freely because I know many of you reading this right now have also made this choice. Often, I share this story with my on-on-one coaching clients and in workshops, but today- I feel it may help many of you here on this community. 

At that time in my life, I had turned my back on God, buried the trauma from my past and was on a path of self-destruction with any type of substance, toxic relationship or emotion numbing activity I could find. The last thing I could do was be a good mother. I had always said, “I will not be a screwed up girl raising a screwed up child.” On my birthday that year, I stood in my bathroom alone and looked down at 2 positive pregnancy tests. Happy Freakin’ Birthday Tiff.  Honestly, I did not even contemplate ANY other option than abortion. I was not in a serious, healthy relationship with the father and I had already planned to move to LA the following January. This was NOT in my plans. The internal butt-kicking began. “How could I be so stupid to have unprotected sex? You idiot! Mama will be so disappointed in you. No, I can’t tell her. I can’t tell anyone! Not even my best friend!” I decided I would carry this choice all alone. I wouldn’t want to shatter their “Miss Perfect” image of me. 

The day came to have the procedure and it was like a bad nightmare. I was dropped off at the front door alone with not a soul to escort me in and hold my hand. This was my choice. Although it was 15 years ago, it feels like yesterday as I recall the whole thing. When I woke up, there were several other girls of all ages in one recovery room. Every head hung low and eyes filled with shame. No one would look at each other directly in the eye. The shame I carried from my past was intensified to a whole new level which was out of this stratosphere. I will bury it. I will add a new mask to my collection. FEAR FEAR FEAR.. the worst F-word there is was officially the leader of the pack now. There was no room for self-love, acceptance, Faith, hope or happiness. They were all shoved to the back of the line for a very long time.

THEN THERE WAS GOD!

As I write this today, I can honestly admit that I am free….yes, one of the greatest F-words…FREE! When I slowly began turning my life back to God, which was just a glance over my shoulder for a while, I began understanding the Power of Forgiveness. “Psychologists generally define forgiveness as a conscious, deliberate decision to release feelings of resentment or vengeance toward a person or group who has harmed you, regardless of whether they actually deserve your forgiveness.” [via http://greatergood.berkeley.edu]  

I asked God to forgive me of this poor choice, this sin- but it was imperative that in order to have true freedom, I had to also forgive myself. I had to…yes, HAD TO release the toxic feelings of resentment and hatred towards myself. A deliberate decision, not half-heartedly, but completely and without restraint- the decision to give myself the gift…the freedom of forgiveness. In order to heal and move on with life we MUST give ourselves this gift. God forgives us so let’s take His example and do the same for ourselves. Unforgiveness keeps you stuck like your feet, your heart and soul are in hardened concrete. When I forgave myself, the concrete shattered. HELLO FREEDOM! I have moved on! That deserves repeating.. I HAVE MOVED ON! 

OUR POOR CHOICES DO NOT DEFINE US!

Many of us allow our past and poor choices to define us. It’s time to redefine YOU! Is there a choice you’ve made that you are holding unforgiveness toward yourself for today? Are you allowing it to destroy you, your life and your happiness? Do you feel stuck? Give yourself Grace today. Give yourself the Gift of Forgiveness. Give yourself Love. Do not allow the unforgiveness to rob you of one more day. You are more courageous than you realize. Take a sledge hammer to the concrete and…..

FREE YOURSELF! 

Love, Tiff

WHAT ARE YOU AFFIRMING THIS WEEK? [Special Sunday Affirmation]

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If you’ve been following this blog for a while, you know that Sunday is usually designated to lifting your spirit and setting your mind toward a successful week ahead. Today, I would love for you to write your own affirmation and share it with the community. Comment below…your affirmation could be just the inspiration another sista may need this week.

Here’s mine:

I WILL RELEASE MY FAITH AND IGNORE ANY FEARS! 

The definition of FAITH: Complete trust or confidence in someone or something. Strong belief in God or in the doctrines of a religion, based on spiritual apprehension rather than proof.

Synonyms:  Belief – Trust – Confidence

 

Please share your affirmation.  I would love to hear!

 

Wishing you all a FAITH-FILLED week.

Love, Tiff

SHARE THE PRAYER!

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Our Father who art in heaven, hallowed be Thy name,

Thy kingdom come,

Thy will be done, on earth as it is in heaven,

give us this day our daily bread and forgive us our trespasses as

we forgive those who trespass against us and lead us not into temptation,

 but deliver us from evil, for Thine is the kingdom and the power

and the glory, now and forever Amen.

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Hello Fab Friends,

Today, I invite you to join me in prayer.  Regardless of your Faith– we can all join as sisters and brothers in prayer.  It is truly powerful and I had to share this email prayer I received a few weeks ago.  My heart was touched and I trust yours will be too!  I thought it was fitting to share this prayer on Memorial weekend.  Let us unite in sending love and prayers to all the families who have lost a loved one while serving our country.  We honor them all by bowing our heads in gratitude for their sacrifice.

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It shall be well with you the remainder of the year. No matter how much your enemies try this year, they will not succeed.
 You have been DESTINED to make it and you shall surely achieve all your goals this year.


Your agonies will be diverted and victory and prosperity will be incoming in abundance.  Today, God has confirmed the end of your sufferings sorrows because He will take away your hardships and give you JOY.  He will never let you down.
 Just ask, believe and receive.

Let’s pray for one another and continue to ask for Gods Will to be done here on earth.

GOD LOVES YOU!

  
He has seen you struggling with something and He says it is over. 

Blessings are coming your way!

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Love, Tiff