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Did you get your ticket yet?

Hope to see you at the Stix & Brix Fundraiser to help build 10 homes in DFW for sex trafficked victims.

Get your tickets here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/stix-brix-fundraiser-benefiting-treasured-vessels-foundation-tickets-27444134144?aff=es2

KNIGHTS DO EXIST

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Happy Birthday to my knight! Some say there’s no such thing as a knight in shining armor — I beg to differ! I never really thought I would get married. I was too messed up, but God sent you @aaronhendra to protect me and help me fight my battles. Exactly what a knight does! Thank you for showing up for US every single day. May God continue to direct your steps, shower you with favor and open doors of opportunity that no man can shut. You are chosen. You are destined. I love you 

[Photos clockwise: Our wedding day at the end of the Santa Monica pier, Aaron installing an LED light panel in the orphanage in S. Sudan, our first scene on RHOD and Aaron on set of his music video for “Alive”]

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Hey Love Seekers!

The above Instagram post is to honor my husband on his birthday today. As I thought about him and our life together over the past 13 years, I was overwhelmed with gratitude. Gratitude to him for seeing past my brokenness to a girl who deserved to be loved.  See, when I met Aaron I had just embarked on a spiritual journey of healing from my past.

I was an emotional roller coaster.

I felt unlovable.

I was a hot mess.

I felt shame. 

Unworthy…was the label stamped across my heart! (so I thought)

But, in the few months prior to running into Aaron on Beverly Drive on the beautiful fall day in LA I had begun praying for him even though I didn’t know “he” was the one. For many years, I didn’t believe I was worthy of love much less an amazing husband. I had already hit 30 and started facing the fact that maybe marriage wasn’t for me. Growing up a Southern girl, of course- I thought I would be married with 2 kids by the time I was 25. Hello, that’s what most good Southern girls life plan was in my generation, right? Here I was 30 with no prospects and in a city like LA where it felt like finding a good man was like finding a pair of Louboutin’s 75% off at Marshalls. Impossible!  I came close to giving up on love.

BUT GOD.

In 2002, when I hit rock bottom on that bathroom floor in West Hollywood (hear more on Access Hollywood) God heard my simple pray of “help”.  Often we think we need these long poetic wordy prayers, but the simple prayers like “thank you” and “help” are just as powerful. The beautiful thing about hitting bottom is there’s no where else to go but up! This was the beginning of my relationship with God then my relationship with myself then ultimately my relationship with my husband. I had to embark on a love affair with God and myself before I could meet Aaron and allow him to love me. Period. Most of my 20’s, I had turned my back on God and basically shot Him the middle finger. But He was always there. I really should be dead in a ditch somewhere. I should have died on that bathroom floor or in some random person’s bathroom in the Hollywood Hills. But I didn’t.  I began journaling my crazy thoughts and praying for God to bring me a strong man. I filled up several spiral notebooks describing that strong man.  I began praying for him everyday in that prayer journal. With each passing day, my hope grew. Then a year later- BAM- I ran into Aaron on that street and we were married 4 months later.

Trust me, I made the first 2-3 years of our marriage a nightmare! When the fear and old shame-based Tiff would creep up, I would push Aaron away and resist his love. He never gave up on me. He stayed consistent. Aaron saw me as a beautiful, whole, strong, intelligent woman. Not as the weak, broken, messy girl I saw myself as. God knew I needed him to hold my hand as I continued on this healing journey.  God knew Aaron needed me as well.

I felt compelled to share that beautiful glimpse of our story to encourage any of you who are seeking true, real, lasting love. Knights really do exist! Don’t give up hope. Allow the love of God to transform your life first. If you’re like I was and feel unworthy, remember God sees you as His gorgeous daughter. You are the apple of His eye. When you grasp that truth down in your spirit– it begins to heal your broken heart. It renews you. It takes away all the shameful labels you or others have placed on you. Put on God’s label and wear it proudly like the most stunning custom-made dress.

 

You are lovable.

You are worthy.

You are strong, beautiful and filled with purpose.

Allow Him to lead you to your partner. His connections are Divine.  

 

Join  me in honoring Aaron today and if you are blessed with an amazing partner- tell them how grateful you are to be able to do life with them! It’s truly a gift.

 

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#MONDAYMOTIVATION: You Are

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Happy Monday Sistas!

Just a quick bit of inspiration and motivation for the week and month ahead…

Can you believe it’s the last day of October? We have about 60 more days of 2016 to finish the year strong. If you have been part of SOS for a while, you know I love the first of the month for reviewing the past month and setting intentions for the new month ahead.  Just as we do at the beginning to the year, instead of new year goals it’s new month goals. Make sense? How do you want the rest of 2016 to play out? How do you want November to look?

Also, I just had to share this powerful message from the Shine Conference I attended last night. Oneka Mcclellan had us say the above message to the women sitting next to us, “You are loved, You are valued. You are believed in”. I want to say it to you virtually today! I cherish this blog community and my mission it to help you realize your worth.

OWN IT!

Love & Light,

Tiff

AUDIENCE OF ONE: Who Are You Trying To Impress?

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Happy Sunday!

I’m just going to ramble for a minute. This has been on my heart this past week and I thought you ladies would be encouraged by it too.

Last week, a cool guy friend of ours – Jeff Peters – made a simple yet profound statement to me while Aaron was playing at a gig. The place was packed and everyone was engaged in my hubby’s performance. That’s what every entertainer wants, right? I was explaining how happy I was that the place was filled with loyal fans then my friend said something to the effect of, “Yes, that’s great, but we should all be more concerned with the audience of one” then he pointed his finger to the sky. God was who he was talking about.

WHOA!!!!!!!!  The place went silent and this hit me like a ton of bricks for a few seconds.

Don’t you love it when people around you are truly iron sharpening iron?!? (Thanks Jeff!!) This resonated with me all week.  We live in a world where so many people are trying to warp the perception about themselves on social media and make us all believe they are something they are not.  They are more concerned with how many followers they have and…so….

Are you more concerned with impressing people than you are about impressing God?

The silly thing is God knows who you are so it’s a slap in His face when you are being the fake, inauthentic version of yourself to the world. He created you to be exactly who you are with all your gifts, shortcomings, talents and flaws. He must shake His head when He sees someone put out a fake representation of themselves. I want to make Him proud. Don’t you?

As an influencer, I pray daily for God to enlarge my territory (Prayer of Jabez) which means, yes– grow my social media, but there is a mission and purpose behind it. Are you more concerned with feeling “popular” or are you more focused on the amount of people you could add value to? Again, God knows your heart!

Summer is behind us and as we head into Fall, take a look back at your 2016 goals. Have you hit them or missed the mark a few times? You still have time to create the best year yet!

 

I encourage you all to set your intentions toward impressing God more.

Please give me you 2-cents on this topic! 

The world wants and needs the authentic YOU! 

 

Love, Light, Ladyballs + Lipstick,

Tiff

 

It’s Time To Move On + Cross The Bridge

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Happy Humpday Hotties!

The aspect of SOS I love the most is when women who reach out sharing their heart and journey with me. It’s like a beautiful gift I get to unwrap when I open that email or message on social media. The love and inspiration exchanged comes back around to me full circle reminding me we are all in this together!

One message I received yesterday just had to be shared here with you all. The day after the #RHOD reunion aired, I posted the above bridge photo with the caption, “a walk in nature is all that’s needed sometimes to reset our spirit. This bridge is symbolic to me today…MOVING ON. What bridge do you need to cross over today and move on from?”

A lovely lady who follows me on Twitter began reading and watching my SOS content as the Bravo show was airing. She wrote me this yesterday and it touched me. It’s truly a testament on never giving up and how to face our circumstances head on with positivity and gratitude instead of getting stuck and depressed by them….

 

Hi Tiff!! First let me thank you for posting REAL pics on social media showing that you live what you teach and preach!  Not pics of you and Aaron partying or wearing fashions that women like me want, but can’t’ afford. You show us how to do it on a budget!

I get up everyday and look at the picture you posted of the bridge. 

I cross over it and forget about my broken heart, my relationship with my son and how I may never have one with him because I blew it and how my mom gets worse everyday with her MS.

I cross over the bridge and minute by minute forget the man who broke my heart and thank God for restoring my relationship with my son and thank Him that I can be here for my mom. 

It’s easier some days than others!

God has truly given me this time to get healthy and put my life in perspective and to prepare me for the man He has for me.

Like your tweet said a few days ago, “I’m a VESSEL not a VICTIM!” 

 

I pray this encourages you to pick up your feet and pick up your chin. I view God as the bridge toward our Destiny! Who wants to stay on the wrong side forever? Yes, moving on and crossing the bridge takes courage, trust and faith. Aren’t you curious what life is like on the other side? For me, it has been a life of more joy, more freedom, more love, more adventure. That’s my hope for us all.

Love, 

Tiff

 

 

ARE YOU USING YOUR #LADYBALLS?

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A few weeks ago, I had the honor of speaking at the 1st Annual Women Who Rock Event along with several authors and speakers. Talk about grabbing my own #Ladyballs and stepping out of my comfort zone. I’m still working toward getting more comfy doing speaking engagements. We’re really not exercising courage if we’re not shaking in our boots while we’re stepping out, right? I know God is calling me to it and I’m doing my best to be obedient! It’s not about me. It’s about the message.

I felt led to speak about the  #Ladyballs mentality and actually sense a book coming from it! After much prayer and meditation, a message for each letter of #Ladyballs began to take form. Here’s the brief version to inspire you and I plan to get the book finished over the summer. (hold me accountable!!)  When you work through each of these and truly take ownership of your life, you go on to soar, sista.

L- Lose The Labels

A- Always Be Authentic

D- Drop The Doubt

Y- Your Relationship With Yourself

B- Breakthrough Your B.S.

A- Adjust Your Attitude

L- Lift The Limits

L-Love Your Life

S- Step, Strut… SOAR!

 

Who’s ready to soar?

I would love to hear your thoughts about this mentality and which letter(s) seem to have you stuck.

Love & Ladyballs,

Tiff

 

P.S. Get your tee here before they’re all gone!

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HAPPY IS ON THE HORIZON: My 2016 Prayer For You

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Photo taken by me in Santa Monica. One of the highlights of 2015- going back to California for the first time since our move.

Sista, my prayer for you:

May every single day of 2016  be filled with the wonder of God’s special love for you.

I pray for your happiness, but also for a greater sense of fulfillment in your career and purpose, an ease of communication with those you love, and a sense of satisfaction in all that you have accomplished. Above all, may you rest secure in the knowing of God’s presence. Regardless of how lonely you feel or how difficult a situation- you are never alone. 

I pray for you to be happy and expectant about what is on the horizon in 2016.

I pray for smiles and love.

I pray for friends that are true and authentic.

I pray for kindness and compassion.

I pray for unexpected moments of joy and laughter.

I pray for you to be at peace. 

I pray you walk taller and shine brighter in the new year. I pray you shake off any self-defeating thoughts and truly own your beauty.  I pray you are healthy and whole- body, mind and spirit. I pray you stay spiritually centered.

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Sista, I am grateful you are on this journey with me and I picked up my favorite scented candle by Voluspa in honor of this final blog post of 2015. I lit it and wrote this prayer for you tonight.

May God keep you in touch with all that you are and all that you are meant to become. May you have the strength and discernment to remove any toxic person who does not celebrate and encourage the woman you are becoming. Keep believing. Keep moving forward. In His mighty name, Amen.

What are your goals and plans for 2016?

Share + Comment.

Love, 

Tiff