DAILY THANKS {Sunday Affirmations}

Hi Style + Spirit Sistas!

Are you gearing up for some downtime with family + friends over the Thanksgiving Holiday?  (I know there are several of you who are from different parts of the world and not celebrating Thanksgiving so please bear with me here)  Anyone cooking the bird?  I’ve only done it once before and a bit nervous about attempting it again, but will give it my best shot.  I’m a pro at all the sides, as I should be, being a Southern gal and all.   I make a mean greenbean casserole:-) 

I love this time of year because everyone is getting in the holiday spirit and our attention is turned toward family and the important things in life.  Thanksgiving reminds us how fortunate we are and to give thanks for our blessings although my philosophy is we should live in a constant state of giving thanks, not just in November.  What is your level of gratitude + thanksgiving on a daily basis?   Do you find yourself complaining about what you don’t have more often than you give thanks for what you do have?  Living with an ‘attitude of gratitude’ truly leads to a peaceful, joyful and abundant life!   This is an attitude adjustment I have been working on for the past 10 years or so and still struggle with it from time-to-time! (Especially when I’m PMS’ing.  Ladies, who’s with me?  I can work myself into a hissy fit of complaining when it’s that time of the month! God help Aaron!) 

My intention is always great first thing in the morning and I whisper “thank you” right when my feet hit the ground.  I also have a serious morning prayer practice and make it a habit of thanking God for all the things I’m grateful for before I give Him a to-do list for the day! LOL.  Then, as the day goes on, with it’s trials and circumstances, we can fall down that slippery slope of griping, moaning and complaining if we’re not careful.  The important thing to remember is you get MORE of what you focus on.  If we focus and complain about the things we don’t have, it keeps us in a prison of lack which is of our own creation.   We all have the key!  A simple flip of your ‘mental switch’ can change everything.  The minute you catch yourself about to gripe about what you don’t have…[STOP] and immediately think of a moment that brought you tremendous happiness.  You will literally feel your energy shift in that moment.  Then start meditating on all the blessings in your life!  This unlocks the door for more blessings to shower down on you!  Ready to get drenched? 

THIS WEEK I WILL….

  1. Gage my level of gratitude + thanksgiving daily.
  2. Shut myself up before allowing a complaint to slip out of my mouth.
  3. Allow myself to indulge w/o guilt on Thursday. (extra piece of pumpkin pie anyone?)
  4. Tell myself “thanks girl, you’re awesome!”
  5. Let go of any scarcity mindsets because there is always more than enough.
  6. Stop taking things for granted like my hot bath + all those shoes I never wear.
  7. Realize how fortunate I really am. (key part of the word= FORTUNE)
  8. Start a gratitude journal + watch the abundance begin to flow.
  9. Send a random “thank you for being my friend” text to a friend across the miles.
  10. Never  underestimate the power of those 2 little words, “thank you” even for the smallest of acts or favors.
  11. Do something for someone less fortunate. (It doesn’t have to be feeding the homeless. Perhaps a girlfriend is short on gas money this month. Have her meet you at the gas station on the corner and fill her car up!)

I want to thank YOU for allowing me to share my heart, thoughts + experiences on this blog.  It can be a bit scary and intimidating to put yourself out there on this type of platform, but I do so willingly (I am just a vessel) with the hope that one little thing I may say will help you, encourage you or inspire you.  We’re on this ‘growth journey’ together and I’m truly grateful for your love + support.

HAPPY THANKSGIVING!

Love,

Tiff

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What Are You Seeking? (plus need quick beauty video)

Hola SOS Senoritas!

(I’m making my famous guacamole for a party so I’ve got Spanish on the brain)

Are you ready to have another amazing week? I sure am. I adore weekends, but I’m also excited when a new week begins. New opportunities, new chances to be better, new obstacles to overcome, etc. Many of you sent me beautiful private messages expressing how touched, inspired and moved you were by my last post on GRATITUDE. I want to thank you all again for taking the time to write me and reveal your hearts. We’ve got some pretty darn extraordinary sistas in this bunch with big beautiful hearts. WOW! I want to reach through the computer and hug all of you. {{SQUEEZE}}

This morning I was thinking about the underprivileged young women I mentor and it’s such a shame that so many women are held back in life because they are seeking the APPROVAL of others. It’s like living in a cage. It can really be debilitating and prevent you from trying different things and just GOING FOR IT.  It typically stems from not getting the approval we needed as a child.  Looking back, I craved my Dad’s approval and never really felt like I got it. So, I was pretty much addicted to approval most of my life and I still have to “check myself” from time to time.  It has taken a loooooong time to figure out that looking inward for validation and self-acceptance was true FREEDOM! Woohoo! Yeehaw! Fly little birdie!  We all have the key within us to unlock the cage. How awesome is that to truly be able to live in freedom and not care what other people think about you?!? If you like you….. and you appreciate you……. and YOU APPROVE OF YOU………you are on your way to soaring as high as you possibly can.  WHO WANTS TO FLY? This week, be aware of the people and situations where you feel caged by this needless “seeking” of approval. When I’m feeling insecure, needy or PMS’ing, I can even get stuck seeking the approval of my own husband. Which is absurd because from day one- the man has accepted me just the way I am with all the baggage that I had and my many high-maintenance quirks! We all need to get out of our own way and love + accept ourselves EXACTLY the way God created us and get on with it already……get busy FLYING HIGH! 

How appropriate– I love that this week’s swag bag giveaway item from the fabulous LUSCIOUS SOUL is a glamorous “Couture Key” by Keys to my Castle.  Your own house key can be professionally cut on this beautiful key.

Now let’s totally switch gears here! In the latest webisode, I answer a beauty question from Melissa:

Make sure to join in on the FACEBOOK fun! There’s only a few more weeks of Swag Bag Giveaways.  Share this with your girlfriends too. I love that a few of you are having fun on SOS with your daughters. That’s exactly what I always dreamed of!  Women from all walks of life, best friends, moms, daughters, sisters, etc…..all joining the fun.  Getting better and building our confidence should be fun, right!?

Love, Tiff

GRATITUDE. A love note to you.

Hi Gorgeous Girls!

Over the past week or so, every fiber of my being has been flooded with HUMONGOUS GRATITUDE.  The kind that gives you that warm and fuzzy feeling complete with goose-bumps, hair raising on the back of my neck, girlie giddy excitement in my belly and a tear in my eye. Have you ever felt such bigtime gratefulness before?  Want to know the reason for mine? It’s because of YOU.  Yep, you girlfriend!

When I began a deep spiritual journey to figure out what the heck I was meant to do- it was exactly 10 yrs ago this month.  In the summer of 2002, I walked away from my TV career in LA, gave away most of my clothes and all my furniture and went back to Texas to get my head on straight. {GRATEFUL} That is when I birthed my idea (well, God really planted the seed) to help women through a community, website and TV show. Can you believe that was 10 years ago? I can’t! I had no idea how to get started or what the heck I was doing, but I just started putting it out there with child-like naivety. I laugh now because I thought I was ready to do a show back then and got totally pissed off that it wasn’t happening faster.  I had to go through MAJOR healing, changes and growth first.  I was a mess, but I had this BIG vision. After a 6 month sabbatical in Texas, I headed back to LA with this new dream!{GRATEFUL}

Within these 10 years, I have hosted several TV pilots geared for young women (one production company spent over $1 Million on our pilot) and they never went to air on TV.  Grrrr!  (This is where I give gratitude for the doors God closes!)  This was long before Facebook, YouTube, Blogs and the Flip camera. Now it’s easy for anyone to start taping their message and blast it to the world. Whew, I wanted to give up so many times, but a God-given dream just doesn’t leave you alone. It really is like you are pregnant with this idea/purpose/vision. I just couldn’t abort this dream!  I had this mad, crazy drive to help women…somehow, someway. I collaborated with several different producers with the hopes something would work. It never did.  When I finally realized it just wasn’t the right time, I decided I had to do something…..ANYTHING! I started teaching a self-development class and created a curriculum for 13-17 year olds as well as working in a fun, girlie boutique on the weekend. Gals would come sit in the boutique and chat about all the different life issues we girls love to talk about. Wish I had a camera in that boutique back then. It was like a talk show in there! Little did I know, these opportunities turned out to be an amazing training ground and preparation. {GRATEFUL} I still hoped and prayed to work on camera again, but shelved my show idea for a while (true surrender) and just lived life…WITH EXPECTANCY!

The reason I’m telling you all of this is the seed has grown slowly over the years (a little too darn slow at times) into a bud and then 2 years ago-this month- I pitched my show idea in front of one of the biggest television producers, Mark Burnett of The Apprentice, The Amazing Race and Survivor, for a show he was producing for Oprah.  Holla!  Yes, I almost crapped my pants that day, but…. I DID IT!  It’s as if it made it all REAL. It was no longer this concept that swirled around in my head driving me coocoo for coco puffs.  I put it out there! There was no taking it back. The universe had a hold of it. I went all the way to the last 20 finalists, but wasn’t chosen for the show. Again, thank God for the closed doors. After I caught my breath from that 3 month audition process, I finally had the guts to start taping my ideas. The only video camera I had at the time was the one on my blackberry. I had no idea what I was doing (I still don’t really), but I had to start somewhere. Then my brave hubby offered his help as camera man and we got a decent little video camera. Our first attempt at a light set up was a nightstand lamp with a white sheet as a reflector. Ha! We have come a loooooong way! {GRATEFUL}

Here we are today. I’m grateful for the ease of Facebook, WordPress, YouTube and the ability to create the community that we have.  I had to stop and send YOU a heartfelt thank you for sharing, joining, watching, subscribing, and reading. Thank you for allowing me to try different things and discuss different topics, all with the pure intention of helping you build confidence, believe in yourself and truly love yourself and your own unique beauty + style. My dream of creating a SISTERHOOD is becoming a reality. Thank You God. Thank You Aaron (my hubby). Thank You Girls.

WHAT ARE YOU TRULY GRATEFUL FOR TODAY?

I highly recommend making gratitude lists on a regular basis. It will change your life. It’s simple:

I AM GRATEFUL FOR___________________.

I AM GRATEFUL FOR___________________.

I AM GRATEFUL FOR___________________.

I AM GRATEFUL FOR___________________.

I AM GRATEFUL FOR___________________.

I AM GRATEFUL FOR___________________.

I hope you can also be grateful for your journey and remember, never give up.

Love, Tiff

Why did I create SOS? (Plus a few updates)

A LIL ONE-ON-ONE WITH TIFF…

If you have been watching my webisodes and reading my blog for a while now, you probably have a good idea what I’m all about, right!?  There’s still a few things I haven’t shared publicly YET and over time I will be more open and transparent.  There’s a time and place for everything!   I’m actually going to write a book!

In Part 2 of my hike up Runyon Canyon, I take a moment to say a few positive affirmations and give thanks for all of you and this mission through Sanctuary Of Style.

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I recently experienced first hand the truth of Oprah’s saying, “Success come when Preparation meets Opportunity”.    I was booked as the host, image coach, mentor and counsler to young women needing a serious life change!    This role was custom-made for me.   So grateful for the experience!   Unfortunately, I can’t give too many details, but let’s just say- this is a show we’ll all love to watch.

(Here’s a pic of me giving the ladies a few etiquette and dating tips)

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

You have heard me rave about Entrepreneur Mentor for Women, Ali Brown.  I have been diving into her telecourses and learning so much- not only about business, but personal growth!   Even coaches need to be coached!   She’s a fellow Lioness and on the day I wrapped my show, she invited me to her personal birthday party with a handful of powerful entrepreneur ladies.  It was the perfect way to wrap a perfect experience!   If you are interested in taking your business to the next level, I highly recommend checking out her teaching products at www.alibrown.com.   I am planning to attend her exciting 3 day conference called SHINE in Dallas on Nov 2-4th.  I hear it’s life-changing!   I know many of you are in Dallas so check into it at this link: SHINE 2011 INFO.   Could be fun to catch up there!

 

 

 

 

I want to give a special SHOUT OUT to the extraordinary ladies who were so generous with their participation on the July Swag Bag Giveaway, Carla Masley and Shelley Goodstein. You gals rock!

Last thing, if you are planning to clean out your closets this summer to make room for fall- please consider donating your gently used items to DIVA’S CLOSET! 

A TOPIC YOU WANT TO SEE A WEBISODE ON?  Let me know! 

Sharing the love, style+inspiration,

Tiff

TIFF’S TWENTY TIPS for a happy life… take it all with a grain of salt~

1. Cut the crap…keep it real

2. You get what you give…you want respect, give respect

3. Make learning a lifetime pursuit

4. Be present..the past is o-v-e-r

5. Be flexible & open minded

6. Keep an attitude of gratitude

7. Create a vision board…keep your goals & dreams in plain sight

8. Words are powerful…be mindful of what you say

9. Exercise & move your body

10. Learn the power of saying NO

11. Do the right thing and take the high road

12. Giving & helping others is like a natural anti-depressant

13. Always keep believing in yourself no matter the circumstance

14. Do not compare yourself to others

15. Ignore other people’s drama. What you focus on expands~

16. Admire your strengths and embrace your weaknesses

17. Do the thing that scares you!  It will instantly banish the fear~

18. Try to put yourself in the other person’s shoes. A different perspective is always a good thing~

19. Prayer is powerful and can be done anytime, anywhere~

20. NEVER GIVE UP!!!

If you have a great tip, please share and inspire others!  Post a comment below~

WHAT ARE YOU GRATEFUL FOR TODAY?

Sorry there’s no beauty tip or fashion fauz pas to discuss today!  My heart and thoughts are focused on the devastation in the South.   The awesome thing about having a blog is that you can use it to share your expertise and info with others as well as some self-indulgent mind-spewing! 

So bear with me,  I’m in the mood to spew…

Finally the media has shifted from all the hype surrounding the Royal Wedding (‘m SO over it..yawwwn) to more important events like the crazy massive tornadoes that have wrecked havoc on the South.    It really humbled me this morning because yesterday I was in a funky mood–you know that “mood” you find yourself in for no apparent reason– it’s not PMS, nothing has pissed you off, you got a decent nights sleep–yet, you feel like your heads about to explode and the littlest things just grate on your last nerve (like the sound of your lawn guy’s weed-eater…buzzzzzzzzzzzzz).   You go through your list of positive affirmations…give it to God…cast your cares–and the more you try to ‘SNAP OUT OF IT’, the more agro you become!

Thank you CNN– for being the catalyst to help me get out of my 24 hour bubble of ME-itis.   This morning as I was having my first cup of joe (that my wonderful hubby brought to me in bed..yes, I know–he’s beyond amazing) we were trying to find a news channel that was NOT talking about that dang wedding on the other side of the pond.   I mean seriously, if I see that 2nd kiss on the balcony one more time I think I’m gonna puke!   Luckily, CNN was covering the devastation in Alabama.  The death toll is over 340 now.  They interviewed a woman who could not reach her mother for 48 hours.  Now, can you personally imagine yourself living in that terror for a whole 2 days???   

Wondering..

Is my mom hurt?  Dead?   Stuck underneath pieces of her home and belongings?   Is she safe and warm?  Has anyone helped her?  Is she hungry?   You know how powerful our minds are!?   Thank God her mother was rescued and staying with a sweet neighbor.  Unfortunately, many people do not have the same happy ending.

With the recent catastrophic events in Japan and now this…how do you think, feel, react?

Does it put things into perspective?

Do you stay in your comfy little bubble of a life and try not to think about it?

Does it draw you closer to something bigger outside of yourself?  God?

Do you feel an immense feeling of gratitude?

Wikipedia says:   Gratitude is thankfulness or appreciation.   A positive emotion or attitude in acknowledgment of a benefit that one has received or will receive.

Whatever you are going through today– and we are ALL dealing with something— take a moment to GIVE GRATITUDE that you are alive!   You’re here!  You’re breathing!   You have eyes to read this post right now!

Thank you for hearing me out!    If you have time this weekend, let’s join together and light a candle and say a prayer for those effected by the tornadoes. 

Gratefully~  Tiff