Unfulfilled Potential Sucks

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Just saying the words “unfulfilled purpose” makes me cringe! Who wants to die with their music still inside them? NO ONE! Finding our purpose is a common topic these days in the self-development world. We are all longing and searching for more fulfillment in our life. We crave a sense of purpose and want that fire in our belly when we wake up in the morning. We usually find our purpose on the road (usually a very bumpy, winding one) of growth.

How about you?

Are you living fully in your purpose or are you on a journey of seeking it? 

Do you place your personal growth as a priority? 

Are you intentional about it or are you meandering through life?

If you have been part of SOS for a while, you know I am mega-passionate about my personal growth journey. I adopted the philosophy that if you’re not growing you’re dying. At this stage of my journey, it’s more excruciating for me to stay stagnant than it is to go through the pain of growth and change. I’ve often written and spoken about vision, goal and intention setting, affirmations and just about every tool that will help us move forward. Ok, I’m a bit obsessed. Maybe it’s because I’m a late bloomer and I’m trying to make up for many lost years when I was fooling around and chasing all the wrongs things. I digress.

I see the greatness in people. I see their potential. I want to yank it out of them. But, as much as I can encourage others and give them tools- ultimately, they have to do the work just like I have to do my work. I don’t know about you, but I want to become ALL not some, not a little, not a glimpse, but all that God created me to be. I believe when we embrace that and move confidently toward it — we honor Him.

For the past six or seven years, I take the month of January to focus on this work. It’s important to me that I seek God for guidance and reveal the areas that I really need to focus on. Remember, everyone’s journey is different. At times we are white knuckled and scaling the mountain then we are tip toeing through the daisies in the valley. So, please never judge where you are in your journey to someone else. I read something the other day to the effect of “don’t judge your chapter 2 to someone else’s chapter 22”. Give yourself grace in this process. Heck, just be glad you are in the process, period.

I’ve been reading a ton this month and just had to share this ah-mazing book by John C. Maxwell called THE 15 INVALUABLE LAWS OF GROWTH. His books are always filled with nuggets of wisdom, but this one has especially made an impression on me. He has taken everything he has garnered over 50 years in the personal development industry and shares it in this one book. IT’S SO FREAKIN’ GOOD!!!

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Here’s a few of the Laws:

  • The Law of the Mirror: You Must See Value in Yourself to Add Value to Yourself
  • The Law of Awareness: You Must Know Yourself to Grow Yourself
  • The Law of Modeling: It’s Hard to Improve When You Have No One But Yourself to Follow
  • The Law of the Rubber Band: Growth Stops When You Lose the Tension Between Where You are and Where You Could Be
  • The Law of Contribution: Developing Yourself Enables You to Develop Others

 

This is the perfect book to read at the beginning of the year to set your mind in the right direction! Get it on Amazon then grab a highlighter, a cup of coffee and get to work.

Don’t prolong the pain of being stagnant and your potential being unfulfilled. Growth and change is a choice.

WHAT DO YOU CHOOSE TODAY?

Please share this with any girlfriends who are also serious about growing on purpose.

If you read the book, please stop back by and let me know what you think!

 

Love, Tiff

 

 

 

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BEING MISS THRIFTY IS STYLISH & SMART: A Day In My Life

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Happy Sunday Sistas!

Since moving to Dallas, my husband has been in and out of town every month with his CD launch and we haven’t had much time to explore this fab city. Since he was in town for the 4th of July weekend, I decided to introduce him (and reintroduce myself) to all that Dallas has to offer. I love to just get in the car and go on excursions without a hard set schedule. We knew we wanted to have a chill day with some browsing, nibbles and I wanted to get in some thrift shopping.

We started at Bishop Arts District which has changed and grown since I last lived here. This charming, Austin-esque area has some of my favorite eateries as well as eclectic shops and vintage stores. Grab brunch at Oddfellows or dinner at Tillman’s Road House. Tillman’s private dining room is amazing with real trees lining the walls. One of the best meals I’ve ever had. Put this on your to-do list when visiting Big D!  

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One of my favorite things to do when I lived in Dallas 15 years ago was thrift shopping. The greater DFW area has fantastic thrift and vintage stores. Yesterday was my first opportunity to go hunting – and bless my hubby’s heart – he was so patient. I’m sure thrift shopping is comparable to getting teeth pulled without anesthesia for a man. He was not only patient, he asked Siri where the best locations were!

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One of my intentions for the Summer is making the time to read more. I have ordered a few new titles off Amazon, but the very best place to get books is Goodwill. I’ve mentioned this on the blog before and several of you commented that you also shop there for your books. Well, yesterday – my thrifty shopping angels were on it and led us to a gigantic Goodwill where I found 13 hardcover books at only $2 a pop. HOLLA! I found books to fill many of my interests from leadership and spirituality titles from John C. Maxwell, Max Lucado, Sarah Ban Breathnach, M.Scott Peck MD, Thomas Moore and John Eldredge to Suze Orman’s financial wisdom to a few biographies of successful female TV hosts. I also love giving away the small, but powerful reads by Bruce Wilkinson on the message of John 15 and the Prayer of Jabez so I pick up extra copies whenever I find them. 

I was excited to find that my favorite Dallas Salvation Army on Harry Hines was still open and guess what I found there? Three beautiful silk scarves in gorgeous Summer colors for a whopping $8 total. Can I get a double… Holla, Holla! Although thrift shopping takes some skill, a good eye and high tolerance for that funky “vintage smell” – it is so fun and rewarding when you score! Most books average $26 retail and I got 13 for the same price. A good quality silk scarf will run you from $30-300 depending on the brand. So, being thrifty is both stylish and smart, sista! 

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We still have so much to explore in Dallas, but for our first jaunt around town- it was a total success!  We ended the day hydrating and snacking on the best chips & salsa on the planet at Rafa’s on Lovers Lane. Add it to your list when visiting! You can’t visit any city in Texas without indulging on their best Tex Mex.

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I would love to hear your favorite spots for thrift shopping!

Comment, share, tweet and let me know.

Love, Tiff