LADYBOSSES USING THEIR LADYBALLS! #MondayMotivation

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There is nothing that lights me up more than seeing women step out of their comfort zone and use their ladyballs!  This past weekend I hosted another ladyboss only on-camera workshop and am still on a happy high. Like every woman, each of the beauties in the photo above has an amazing story and I was honored to experience their vulnerability, heart, humor, wisdom, gifts and talents.

Doing something that scares you is what the true definition of courage is. When you push past the fear and do it anyway, you expand yourself and your abilities. When we shrink back, we stay small. Period.  After coaching and hosting workshops since moving to Dallas, I see women revert to their small stance of shoulders rolled forward and hands clenched in front of them. I teach my clients to strike a power pose before any event, speaking engagement or on-camera appearance. Women transform right before my eyes with this exercise!

My challenge and motivation for this week is to be aware of situations that make you want to shrink. Stop, acknowledge it and immediately change up your physicality by doing the Wonder Woman pose and saying positive affirmations over yourself.  (I get it.. some of you just can’t seem to wrap your brain around affirmations or think it’s silly, but I promise you- the way you speak to yourself is crucial. I would NOT be where I am today without power words and affirmations!!) Just try it. What could it hurt.

POWER POSE: 

  • Take a long deep breath.
  • Get grounded and create a wide stance with your legs.
  • Pull your shoulders back.
  • Hands on hips.
  • Smile.

Affirm to yourself that you are capable, strong and courageous. Get a powerful list of “I Am’s”. I am a Warrior Princess! (Who was that.. Zena?)  I am a badass! I am intelligent, talented and beautiful! I am a world changer! I am ________________!  Leave a comment and fill in the blank.

 

 

For some of my clients,  doing something fun like flipping their hair, dancing, doing jumping jacks helps them. Whatever it is to shake it up to get out of your head!

 

Special shout out + thanks to the fabulous Whitney Kutch (stunning blonde making the peace sign) for her help in making this day a total success. Whit- I appreciate your crazy beautiful self, your generous heart to serve and uplift everyone around you! Love you! 

 

Grab that imaginary cape and go slay this week.

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My Favorite #Tiffirmation

 

Means stop allowing people to walk all over you. Stand up for yourself. Do that thing that scares you. Do the right thing for you. Be authentic. Be audacious. Take risks. Speak up. Live a bold life with intention.

Synonyms: Courage, Bravery.

 

Checking in to see if you have been using yours? Erin Dawn has and just had to share her message from Facebook:

I see your posts and watch you guys on RHOD and think ‘I wish I had that’. My relationship was so unhealthy because God wasn’t first. Then I started watching your videos and got a little bit of courage….and a little bit more until I left that relationship and started loving me. God sent me that person I was meant to be with and he was my best friend first. Thank you Tiffany for teaching me how to love myself. You are truly my angel. Thanks for being beautiful on the inside and out. Thanks for teaching me to ‘use my lady balls’.

I’m sitting here watching the blinking cursor trying to think of something profound to write, but I can’t. I’m just truly in awe- complete chills-up-the-spine, belly flip flop, jaw dropping awe-  of God. He can even use social media as a mission field!

My passion (really it’s an obsession) is for women to drop the fear and pick up more faith, lose the shame and gain more confidence.
I want that for YOU!

 

FREE YOURSELF: Share Your Secrets

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Hello Gorgeous!

This past Monday night, Access Hollywood aired my interview with Kit Hoover for the 3rd time. What a miracle! I know it’s God because that rarely happens. Kit Hoover has two daughters and she was so invested in my story. Proves that not all entertainment news is vapid nonsense.  Many of you who have been loyal SOS followers may have been shocked to hear the deeper story of my tumultuous past. Now you know the true meaning when I say “my mess has become my message” and why I am so passionate about enriching the lives of women. My mission is to provide resources of hope and inspiration like this blog and the YouTube ChannelBooks and more tools on vision and affirmations are next on the list! 

It’s not easy to reveal the gritty, ugly parts of yourself, but I do so bravely with the hope that other women will know they are not alone. Over the 5 year journey of SOS, I never felt God leading me to share my sexual assault story here with you all publicly. His timing is perfect. I probably wasn’t strong enough before to handle all the judgment and scrutiny that the media has put me under.

In my one-on-one mentoring, I have openly shared my story with women especially the teenage girls I have worked with. Several of them have been molested as little girls or raped in their teen years like I was. I do not want young women burying this and hiding secrets! Secrets are like poison to the spirit. I was raped at 16 and didn’t tell a single person until I was 31 years old. My entire existence in my 20’s was based in shame, fear and anger. I went from being the leader of my church youth group, head cheerleader, straight A student and overall confident girl to spiraling into alcohol, drugs, codependent relationships, promiscuity and mild eating disorders. Whatever I could do to either numb myself or abuse myself with destructive behavior – I tried it.

THEN THERE WAS GOD!

I believe there is a God shaped hole in all of our hearts. He is the only one that can fill it. Why do we put ourselves through the pain of constantly trying to fill it with everything but God?  Aside from the drugs and alcohol, I tried to fill it with horrible men, money, career, fame, etc. I truly believe He was watching over me all those years because I really should be dead. I’ve ended up in dark places in the middle of Hollywood doing drugs with people I didn’t even know. That night in 2002 on the bathroom floor, it took one simple prayer and God heard me. Did everything magically turn blissful that night? HECK NO! It’s been a long journey of healing. Growing out of the old behavior is gut wrenching hard, but freedom is on the other side and that’s my wish for all women. There’s too many living in bondage!

Is that you? I encourage you to acknowledge your pain, stop ignoring it, burying it or covering it up with the masks you wear. I was the queen of masks! I could be whatever you needed me to be. I was addicted to approval and got myself into toxic situations because I didn’t love myself and silenced my voice. It’s time for you to use your voice and begin loving yourself, sista. By no means am I totally empowered 24/7 and have my moments of weakness, but I’m proud of the woman I am today. I’m a work in progress and I’m ok with that. Use your lady balls and start strutting toward the path of freedom. The pain path will turn into the purpose path. I guarantee it.

Here’s the Access Hollywood interview if you missed it:

 

I want to be clear that I do not use being raped as a cop out for my decision to do topless love scenes on the Cinemax series. A few people have insinuated that on social media. Yes, I made several unwise decisions based in fear and I would never do an acting job like that now. I was desperate to work as an actress and own that I took my clothes off. Most of the actresses I admire have done much more explicit love scenes with full frontal nudity. It was a Rated R series and do not take on the media’s label of “porn star”. 

 

Are you ready to live in freedom on the path toward your purpose? Make a comment and let us know. There’s power in sharing it with others!

I will be private coaching again during the summer so if you’re interested send a request through the CONTACT PAGE. 

 

Also, get ready for the popular SOS Summer Beachbag Giveaway mid June! All of my favorites in one bag.

To celebrate the arrival of Summer, today through June 15th, all the #Tiffirmation Tee’s are 25% off. Go to http://thegivestore.myshopify.com  and enter discount code: JUNESALE25 at checkout. There’s a limited supply so don’t miss it!

Remember to take some time this week and refocus on your goals. We’re halfway through the year now and it’s important to check in with yourself to stay on track! Take action…

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Love & Ladyballs,

Tiff

 

 

TUNE IN NOTICE TONIGHT: My Past For A Purpose On Access Hollywood

 

Happy Monday Sistas!

You’ve heard me say a time or two that there are “no expiration dates on our dreams”.  I just experienced this in a major way! Tonight, you will hear how I am owning my past and using it all for a purpose on ACCESS HOLLYWOOD at 6:30 CST. What a surreal moment to be interviewed in my old stomping grounds by host Kit Hoover! It was such a blessed and heartfelt conversation about the sexual abuse I have overcome. Kit has two daughters and was totally invested in the interview and how we can empower young women with my story. Amazing how God can use a drama-filled reality show for His glory.

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The day was extra special because I shared this experience with my sister, Natalie. We moved to LA together and did the hustle and struggle together for years.

Also, make sure to tune in to Real Housewives Of Dallas tonight at 9pm CST. It gets really heated and I have had enough of all the drama. You will see a side of me you have and never will see on my videos! LOL. I’m human and this is a REALity show. I didn’t hold anything back, but please give me some grace when you watch! I even scare myself a bit. Eeeek.

If you’re on Twitter, make sure to tweet me and let me know your thoughts! @TiffanyHendra

 

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I must give a huge shout out to brilliant stylist Jeanette Chivvis of Chivvis Styles. She has gone above and beyond to make sure LeeAnne Locken and I look our best for all our press and appearances. She’s a fellow #SpiritualSpitfire too!

Have a fabulous week. 

Love & Ladyballs,

Tiff 

 

DO YOU HAVE THE LADYBALLS TO WEAR MY TEE’S?

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Now, I get that many of you may not be able to wear this tee to a PTA meeting although that’s actually THE perfect place you need to! Let’s be real.

USE YOUR LADYBALLS: Means stop allowing people to walk all over you. Stand up for yourself and use your lady balls. Basically, don’t take any BS that people try to throw at you! Synonyms: Courage, Bravery.

I am just tickled to death to finally launch my product line today in celebration of the Real Housewives Of Dallas premier tonight on Bravo. This has been a dream of mine since the conception of SOS! I do not consider myself a wordsmith by any means, but as we all know- Southern women have a way with blending sweet-as-pie sayings with in-your-face sarcasm. Then, you add my belief in the use of affirmations and you get “Tiffirmations”.

More styles are coming like HOT MESSAGE, WALK TALL, FIERCE/FEAR and a few others you will hear me say on the show, but I don’t want to give it away!

GET YOURS TODAY ON OUR SHOPIFY STORE>>> http://thegivestore.myshopify.com

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SPIRITUAL SPITFIRE is available in white v-neck & slouchy tank! 

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Keep using yours!

Keep walking tall!

Keep shining that light!

 

Love, Tiff

 

SNEAK PEEK: My Wearable Inspiration

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After years of sharing my heartfelt and somewhat sarcastic affirmations – now cleverly called #TIFFIRMATIONS– I’m tickled to death to finally launch my product line starting with T-shirts like any good Bravo housewife would. LOL!

On April 11th to celebrate the premier of Real Housewives Of Dallas, I’ll be launching a limited edition of the first 2 styles:

SPIRITUAL SPITFIRE & USE YOUR LADYBALLS (also available in V-neck) 

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If you’ve been a part of the sista’hood for a while, you know how passionate and down right obsessed I am with positive affirmations. I write them all over the place, put them on vision boards, hang them on my bathroom mirror so why not wear them too?!  It’s all about using every tool possible to help us keep our minds on track so we can be our MOST FABULOUS!

I’m so excited about this message too. No more fear, be fierce instead.  I’ll be releasing FIERCE & Hot Mess/Message later in April:

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This is the beginning of the product line I have been dreaming of and developing the past few years. It’s all an extension of what I’ve built with you all here on SOS!  ((Chills)) Can’t believe it’s finally happening. Many of you have been asking for tee’s and journals for a while. Thanks for your patience. Timing is everything! The time is NOW.

I must thank you all for inspiring me to grow and step out of my comfort zone. We’re all walking tall together! 

The first 2  #TIFFIRMATION TEE’S will be available on my Shopify store via http://www.tiffanyhendra.com on April 11th.

Go grab your lady balls and dare to be brave!

Love, Tiff