STRIVE FOR EXCELLENCE {Plus Sunday Eve Affirmations}

Hey Style + Spirit Sisters!

How was your week?  Are you gearing up for Halloween costumes and Trick or Treating with your lil monsters?  I am sending lots of love from my home state of  Texas.  I was a lucky duck and got to take a MUCH needed last minute vacay due to a delay in my hubby’s tour.  Getting some QT with my BFF’s complete with– a spa day, girlie lunches, shopping , speaking to a group of lovely pageant contestants, seeing Madonna in concert and cuddling with the most presh 2 year old triplets you’ve ever seen– was just what the doc ordered and the yummy TexMex is a major added bonus!   My love tank is full (so is my belly) and I have been truly blessed by all the  Southern hospitality!

Speaking of Southern hospitality, can I just say how refreshing it is!  The women here take the time to chat and acknowledge others whether it’s in pilates class, in the check out line at the grocery store or at the hair salon.  People in LA are so rushed and in their own little bubbles, that you rarely have a chat in the grocery line.  I make it a point to speak to people and usually get a raised eyebrow like I’m some foreign weirdo.  I am proud to be a TEXAS GIRL,  so if that means I’m a bit weird in other parts of the world- so be it.  Mama raised me right!  It also brought to my attention how special you can make someone feel just by asking the three little words, “How are you?”    Think about it, how often do you walk away from a convo and realize that the other person was so busy telling you all about themselves (usually without even taking a breath) that they never asked how YOU were doing?  Can we say NARCISSIST?  Not a fan!   Women of Excellence are the opposite.  They slow down and take the time to genuinely show interest in others and their lives.  I think a woman is at her most beautiful when she is striving to live a life of excellence and  showers love + compassion on others.  Don’t get me wrong, we are all a work-in-progress and the demands of life can have us leaning towards mediocrity more than excellence somedays.  The key is to always STRIVE!   Let’s go into the week ahead with this in mind!

THIS WEEK I WILL…..

  1. Turn my back on mediocrity.
  2. Be fabulous not frazzled.
  3. Slow down and sit to enjoy my meals and not eat over the sink.
  4. Call (not email) an old friend and ask “How are you? How have you been?”
  5. Not base my identity on how I look, what I wear or what I own. I am a Child of God!
  6. Book a spa day + massage because I deserve it.
  7. Check something fun off my bucketlist.
  8. Rock a leopard shoe, scarf, handbag or hat.
  9. Focus on being healthy instead of the number on the scale.
  10. Surround myself with other women of excellence.
  11. STRIVE FOR EXCELLENCE IN ALL THAT I DO + SAY!

HOWDY FROM TX….

A FEW PICS FROM MY TRIP…..

{Rock Leopard}

{Girls Night Out at Marquee}

{Dinner with LeeAnne}

{Madonna in Concert- check it off the bucketlist}

{Spa Day}

{Shoe Shopping with Heidi }

Is there an area in your life where you tend to be more mediocre?  Cheers to coming up higher + striving this week.  I would love to hear your thoughts on this week’s topic.

Comment, share, tweet and like it!  I really appreciate it.

Remember what you put out into the world comes back to you a hundred fold.

Love, Tiff

P.S. To all you mamas out there…YOU ROCK SISTAS!    I typed up this post while three toddlers were running around giggling and playing along with four adults and a doggie.  I have a whole new respect for the multi-tasking mothers of the world.  God Bless You Wonder Women!  May you all get a good catnap or two this week.

I also want to wish Mila Grace, Liam + Blake Leigh a very Happy 2nd Birthday today!  Auntie TT loves you!

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FLICKER TO A FLAME {Sunday Eve Affirmations}

One of my favorite things in the world to witness is women stepping into their DESTINY + SHINING as they should!  It’s exactly the reason I do what I do.  Too often women shrink and play the martyr or victim.  WHY?  What purpose does it serve to live a life below what God has destined for you?  NONE!  ZILCH! ZERO!  Why live life giving out a tiny flicker of your light when there is a MASSIVE FLAME inside you.  We are like the sun and meant to shine our warmth on the world.  You honor God when you step into your greatness.  That’s what you were created to do!  Stop playing so small and rinky-dink!  Ignite the flame, fan it and show the world what you got, baby!  

{You were made to shine + be hugely fabulous}

Can you OWN IT this week?  Do you have only brief moments when you feel yourself radiating with love and light and it quickly fades because of some negative circumstance that gets your head spinning or wallowing in your own fear or you allow a toxic relationship to control you?  This week I want you to focus on keeping that flame lit.  FIGHT FOR IT!  My wish is that you all experience more powerful moments than weak ones, more moments when you feel yourself radiating like a flame rather than just a flicker, more moments of clarity rather than confusion that you are right where you are meant to be.   Are you ready?

THIS WEEK I WILL:

  1. Step into my greatness…even if it’s one baby step in that direction.
  2. Stop abusing my body with poor sleep + a poor diet.
  3. Clean out my closet + give things to people who need it. (especially coats + shoes for winter)
  4. Read more + watch TV less.
  5. Set goals to make the final 2 1/2 months of 2012 totally ROCK.
  6. Buy the boots I’ve been drooling over.
  7. Give myself a pat on the back instead of beating myself up.
  8. Attend a movie, concert or seminar that inspires me.
  9. Lift light weights regularly. It helps my bone density!
  10. Not play rinky-dink.
  11. Fight for my flame + RADIATE!

I want to congratulate you for taking a stand for yourself this week.  This is true empowerment!  The definition of em·pow·er is “give power or authority to; to authorize”.  You are authorizing yourself to soar, live the life of your dreams and become ALL (not just a little), but all that you are destined to be!  I salute you girlfriend!

Please make a comment, like, tweet and share these affirmations if you found them inspiring!  Share the love + light with your friends!  Much thanks!

WALK TALL!

Love, Tiff

I AM…. {Sunday Eve Affirmations}

Question? What do you think about yourself?

If someone asked you to describe yourself with brutal honesty- would you shock yourself with your answers?  Do you truly own your strengths and love yourself or do you focus on your weaknesses and beat yourself up on a daily basis?  Just as important as it is to be non-judgmental towards others, we also need to stop judging ourselves so harshly.  So for this week’s affirmations, instead of the usual “I WILL….” list, I have created a long list of positive adjectives for us to read closely and really think about how each word applies to us and how we view ourselves.  If you tend to think negatively about yourself, it’s time to stop it and start focusing on your strengths and unique abilities!  

I AM….

  • Confident
  • Brave
  • Powerful
  • Determined
  • Intelligent
  • Wise
  • Strong
  • Courageous
  • Blessed
  • Amazing
  • Healthy
  • Whole
  • Happy
  • Optimistic
  • Successful
  • Hopeful
  • Graceful
  • Wonderful
  • Lovable
  • Valuable
  • Deserving
  • Worthy
  • Compassionate
  • Thoughtful
  • Kind
  • Humble
  • Cheerful
  • Fabulous
  • Fearless
  • Free
  • Magnetic
  • Attractive
  • Beautiful

So, how do you feel about that list?  I’m sure we all have a few that we can completely own and feel confident about and a few that we are unsure of and may have a hard time seeing ourselves fitting that specific description.  I’ll be open and share that often times I feel totally scared, completely insecure, not so graceful and want to make wiser decisions.  Of course, when I am feeling like this it is usually when I’m coming from a fear-based place of ego and in a silly pitty party.  I have learned the tools to get myself back on track when I falter and  have realized it serves no purpose to constantly beat myself up for my short-comings.    We all need to be proud of who we are and who we are BECOMING!  I encourage you this week to start believing in yourself more than ever!  We are all a WORK IN PROGRESS and it takes focus, courage and determination to make the necessary changes in order to grow and become all that you are DESTINED TO BE!  I love the quote below!  Such truth.  I challenge you to be conscious of what you are thinking of yourself.  If you catch yourself thinking a bad thought – STOP- and replace that description with a positive one!  It’s a simple exercise that can completely transform your self-esteem!

I BELIEVE IN YOU!

Love, Tiff

SINGLE, SMART + SPIRITUAL

Happy Sunday Sistas!

Many of you fabulous fashionistas are single and I wanted to take a minute to encourage you and remind you of something VERY important- if you truly desire a healthy relationship with your “soulmate”, then you must remember the best matchmaker is God and one of the most important qualities in a man is that he has a strong Faith.  Most of the time, it’s us gals who place our Spirituality as a priority because we are more intuitive, nurturing creatures. Who knows- I’m just guestimating that.  We all have different Spiritual beliefs and I respect everyone’s Faith.  I am only speaking my Truth and sharing my experiences with the hope that it encourages you.  I always had the dream of being married (in the back of my head and hidden deep down in my heart), but like many of us- I had been cheated on and my heart smashed to pieces a few times which altered my views on what a healthy relationship was.  I dated the gamut of men from broke screenwriters to narcissistic male models to sports fanatics to grown men who acted like a 12 year old to wealthy businessmen with bad drug habits.  Then add my “daddy issues” and it seemed like a far-off-impossible dream that I could ever find….. someone I trusted with all of me (the good stuff AND the baggage), genuine love, a partner who had my back, a cheerleader who nurtured my dreams AND a real man who loved God. Was it possible? Is “he” out there?

Ok, I admit it– I was one of those gals who had the ‘lap over’ relationships.  You know what I’m talking about, find a new one before you really leave the last one. Shame on me, I know!  I didn’t know how to be alone.  Before I could allow “the one” to appear in my life, I had to begin a relationship with “The One”- God.  I had to allow myself to be alone (I hated that) and start falling in love with me as well.  It was like I was dating God. I know that sounds weird, but it’s true.  I actually started a list of what I wanted in my “dream man”.  I wrote every little detail down and prayed for him. Yes, I started praying for him before I even met him.  I had to become content and comfortable with ME!  Being single is actually a liberating and beautiful time of growth.  For the first time, I actually liked me, my single status and embraced the excruciating growth period. Then, after about two years of this introspection, praying, believing and lots of “Tiff Time”….God brought along my Knight. So yes, to answer my own question….IT IS POSSIBLE!  HE IS OUT THERE!

If you have the dream of sharing your life with the “man of your dreams”, TODAY- I recommend writing down every single characteristic you want in him and begin asking God (the ultimate matchmaker) to prepare you both and bring you together at the RIGHT TIME.  My wish for all of you– who desire a healthy, loving relationship– is that you are able to experience how truly remarkable it is to feel real love and support from the PERFECT MATCH that God has for you.

With love,

Tiff

{Aaron Hendra- My Knight}