KNIGHTS DO EXIST

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Happy Birthday to my knight! Some say there’s no such thing as a knight in shining armor — I beg to differ! I never really thought I would get married. I was too messed up, but God sent you @aaronhendra to protect me and help me fight my battles. Exactly what a knight does! Thank you for showing up for US every single day. May God continue to direct your steps, shower you with favor and open doors of opportunity that no man can shut. You are chosen. You are destined. I love you 

[Photos clockwise: Our wedding day at the end of the Santa Monica pier, Aaron installing an LED light panel in the orphanage in S. Sudan, our first scene on RHOD and Aaron on set of his music video for “Alive”]

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Hey Love Seekers!

The above Instagram post is to honor my husband on his birthday today. As I thought about him and our life together over the past 13 years, I was overwhelmed with gratitude. Gratitude to him for seeing past my brokenness to a girl who deserved to be loved.  See, when I met Aaron I had just embarked on a spiritual journey of healing from my past.

I was an emotional roller coaster.

I felt unlovable.

I was a hot mess.

I felt shame. 

Unworthy…was the label stamped across my heart! (so I thought)

But, in the few months prior to running into Aaron on Beverly Drive on the beautiful fall day in LA I had begun praying for him even though I didn’t know “he” was the one. For many years, I didn’t believe I was worthy of love much less an amazing husband. I had already hit 30 and started facing the fact that maybe marriage wasn’t for me. Growing up a Southern girl, of course- I thought I would be married with 2 kids by the time I was 25. Hello, that’s what most good Southern girls life plan was in my generation, right? Here I was 30 with no prospects and in a city like LA where it felt like finding a good man was like finding a pair of Louboutin’s 75% off at Marshalls. Impossible!  I came close to giving up on love.

BUT GOD.

In 2002, when I hit rock bottom on that bathroom floor in West Hollywood (hear more on Access Hollywood) God heard my simple pray of “help”.  Often we think we need these long poetic wordy prayers, but the simple prayers like “thank you” and “help” are just as powerful. The beautiful thing about hitting bottom is there’s no where else to go but up! This was the beginning of my relationship with God then my relationship with myself then ultimately my relationship with my husband. I had to embark on a love affair with God and myself before I could meet Aaron and allow him to love me. Period. Most of my 20’s, I had turned my back on God and basically shot Him the middle finger. But He was always there. I really should be dead in a ditch somewhere. I should have died on that bathroom floor or in some random person’s bathroom in the Hollywood Hills. But I didn’t.  I began journaling my crazy thoughts and praying for God to bring me a strong man. I filled up several spiral notebooks describing that strong man.  I began praying for him everyday in that prayer journal. With each passing day, my hope grew. Then a year later- BAM- I ran into Aaron on that street and we were married 4 months later.

Trust me, I made the first 2-3 years of our marriage a nightmare! When the fear and old shame-based Tiff would creep up, I would push Aaron away and resist his love. He never gave up on me. He stayed consistent. Aaron saw me as a beautiful, whole, strong, intelligent woman. Not as the weak, broken, messy girl I saw myself as. God knew I needed him to hold my hand as I continued on this healing journey.  God knew Aaron needed me as well.

I felt compelled to share that beautiful glimpse of our story to encourage any of you who are seeking true, real, lasting love. Knights really do exist! Don’t give up hope. Allow the love of God to transform your life first. If you’re like I was and feel unworthy, remember God sees you as His gorgeous daughter. You are the apple of His eye. When you grasp that truth down in your spirit– it begins to heal your broken heart. It renews you. It takes away all the shameful labels you or others have placed on you. Put on God’s label and wear it proudly like the most stunning custom-made dress.

 

You are lovable.

You are worthy.

You are strong, beautiful and filled with purpose.

Allow Him to lead you to your partner. His connections are Divine.  

 

Join  me in honoring Aaron today and if you are blessed with an amazing partner- tell them how grateful you are to be able to do life with them! It’s truly a gift.

 

sign_xo

 

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FEELING STUCK? {New Candid Video}

Happy Sunday Sistas!

Transition.

New Chapter.

Change of Season.

These topics are being discussed quite a bit right now among my friends and colleagues. During a powerwalk yesterday, I was pondering why some people stay stuck and why other’s move toward change with boldness. I decided to share my thoughts in a Vlog…

  1. Make Up Your Mind: What do you really want? Make a decision and stop with the back & forth.
  2. Create A Strategy: What steps can you take every day, every week to making the change happen?
  3. Visualize The End Result: We are really searching for the “feeling” we get from attaining a goal/dream. See yourself already having made the change.

 

LET ME KNOW YOUR THOUGHTS.

Love, Tiff 

 

 

How do you make it work?

HAPPY DECEMBER LOVELY LIGHTS!

I seriously cannot believe 2011 is nearly over, but I’m so excited and completely giddy with the Holiday Spirit!  How about you?

Speaking of giddy- after 8 years of marriage, I still get giddy when my hubby walks in the room!  So, in this weeks webisode I give my newly engaged girlfriend, Julianna, a few simple tips that I have found to make my marriage work!  Now obviously- there is SO much more to it, but hey- we’re not taping an hour, full- length talk show here…

 

I have to share some of the fabulous and enlightening comments we’ve received on Facebook and YouTube:

Bonnielee Cuevas says, “Marriage is a bundle of amazing things. One must take the time to nurture, listen, love, and remember it was for better or for worse, for richer or poorer. As long as there is an abundance of communication and God in your marriage it will last a lifetime. After 10 years of marriage I am still in love with my husband and could ask for nothing more”.

Marcella Mathot-Dewis shared, “I have been married for 20 years. I have a husband who I believe always has my best interests at heart. when he has upset me, I give him the benefit of the doubt… because he is a good, unselfish man and I trust him. This works both ways. When the storms come (and they will come) It is important to know Gods GRACE. We both understand GODS GRACE. We understand it and apply it. Gods grace makes us right with God, but it is the most powerful tool in making us right with each other”.

Jon Welch said, “You have to be willing to give more than you take, the little things matter most, and never let your battles become a war! ( nothing is that bad ) 20 years in September 2012. She completes me and still makes me want to be a better man”!

Anna Rachocki shared,  “Something we were told before we got married was “to always be competing for sacrifices.” Everyone always talks about compromise, but take it one step further!  Someone also told us that when they asked a couple celebrating their 60th wedding anniversary what their secret was, the husband replied, “Never fall out of love at the same time.” A relationship should always be a “give and take” and when one person is weak, the other is strong”.

A few great comments from SOS YouTube subscribers:

“Great advice! And congratulations Julianna. It’s good to hear this as a beginner and as someone that has been married many years. We do NOT want to lose sight of these principles”.

“Being married 10 year and 3 kids later , communication is a big factor like you said I am happy to say I am happy and bless with a wonderful man that I love more than ever!”

Please tell me your thoughts!  This was the first “talk show” style webisode and I would love your feedback.  So far, we’ve received an amazing response!  Remember SOS is all about EMPOWERMENT in every area of your life- not just fashion, makeup and accessorizing.  But don’t worry, we have fantastic beauty & style webisodes slated to tape this month so you can get your “fabulous fix”!

It’s all about giving you the tools to be YOUR MOST FABULOUS YOU!

Love, Tiff xoxo