#MondayMotivation || To Raise Brave Girls, Encourage Adventure

Gutsy girls skateboard, climb trees, clamber around, fall down, scrape their knees, get right back up — and grow up to be BRAVE WOMEN.  Learn how to spark a little productive risk-taking and raise confident girls with stories and advice from firefighter, paraglider and all-around adventurer Caroline Paul.

If you are raising daughters, mentoring young girls or need to be a braver woman… WATCH THIS: 

 

I just spent the most magical two weeks in California (another blog to come later) and my younger sister, Natalie and I sat on the beach one gorgeous evening reminiscing about our tomboy upbringing. Can I just tell you how grateful I am that our parents embraced ALL the multifaceted sides of our personalities?!? We were pretty, but brave little tomboys who had to wear shorts underneath our dresses on Sunday because we would not let a dress stop us from the chance to climb the monkey bars or race that little boy across the church parking lot.

One day we wanted to…

go muddin’ in the ditches,

learn piano the next,

climb trees after that,

race bicycles up and down the street,

play basketball,

try out for cheerleader,

perform all the songs to Grease for the family,

go on mission trips,

summer camp,

swim in the horse trough,

build a Barbie city that covered my entire bedroom floor,

my bad New Waver phase and Flock of Seagulls haircut, (Lawdy, Lawd!!)

beauty pageants, (then with my Belinda Carlisle haircut)

and on and on and on.

 

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Back then there were no screens to consume our time except for the television screen. We didn’t care much about TV except for watching reruns of Happy Days, Three’s Company, and Good Times. Oh wait, I did love American Bandstand on Saturday mornings. Anyone else?  We loved playing outside! We loved getting sweaty! We loved sports! We truly thought we could do everything the boys did. Although, I did hate it when my dad made us help with the yard work! But, even that toughen us up and taught us not be afraid to use our hands and get a bit dirty. I never realized- until I saw the above TED Talk by Caroline Paul this morning- that all of that freedom to express our “gutsiness” would make such a huge difference in our life as women.

Thank you mom and dad for allowing us to be little adventurous explorers.

Natalie went all over the world as a teenager doing mission work and almost won Survivor: Micronesia in 2008. Not as adventurous, but still gutsy- I began modeling internationally at 17. I climbed down a Bavarian alp and rode a mountain bike from Germany to Austria. (Talk about an achy bootie…think about doing spin class for 8 hours! OUCH!) Flew on an Ultralight, which is basically a go cart with flimsy canvas wings, in Mexico. Slept in a rat infested cabin in Southern Sudan. Drove a Lamborghini up the PCH and got it to 160 MPH. Yeehaw! I should have been Danica Patrick. Just sayin’. Snorkeled off the coast of Africa in the Seychelle Islands and the Great Barrier Reef off the coast of Belize. Sang karaoke in Rappongi, the nightlight district of Tokyo. Lived in Milan, Italy for a Summer and rode a 10-speed to all my castings so I could see the city instead of being underground in the subway. Flown in a helicopter over the Great Ocean Road. Heck, moving to LA where I knew no one, took guts and independence.  Seriously, driving around LA the past 2 weeks is gutsy. It’s like a bunch of ants texting while their trying to drive. Now I remember why my adrenal glands were shot from living there. Whew! #RoadRageOnCrack

Has life dulled your gutsiness? Life can make us fearful. I get it. Life can make us whimpy. I get it. Especially, the world we’re living in today, but SCREW THAT! Today, more than ever, we need to raise brave girls and be examples of brave women for them. The conversation with my sister sitting on the beach last week, then stumbling across this TED Talk was no coincidence. I’m here to encourage you to remember how brave you are. I love the ripple effect we can cause for good.

  • Take a moment to reminisce on all the gutsy things you’ve done throughout your life. This will build confidence.
  • If you chickened out on many things you wished you had done, start a list.
  • Get busy being braver than ever and get out there. Check off the list. I want to hear about it!

We become more brave by exercising our bravery. I don’t think I’ve ever made a list of all the cool and somewhat crazy things I’ve done in my life. My confidence and bravery is officially built up and sharpened. Never let anyone or anything, especially yourself, dull your gutsy, girlfriend. 

 

Love to hear your thoughts or a specific gutsy moment you had. 

Share. Comment. Like. You know the drill.

 

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TUNE IN NOTICE TONIGHT: My Past For A Purpose On Access Hollywood

 

Happy Monday Sistas!

You’ve heard me say a time or two that there are “no expiration dates on our dreams”.  I just experienced this in a major way! Tonight, you will hear how I am owning my past and using it all for a purpose on ACCESS HOLLYWOOD at 6:30 CST. What a surreal moment to be interviewed in my old stomping grounds by host Kit Hoover! It was such a blessed and heartfelt conversation about the sexual abuse I have overcome. Kit has two daughters and was totally invested in the interview and how we can empower young women with my story. Amazing how God can use a drama-filled reality show for His glory.

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The day was extra special because I shared this experience with my sister, Natalie. We moved to LA together and did the hustle and struggle together for years.

Also, make sure to tune in to Real Housewives Of Dallas tonight at 9pm CST. It gets really heated and I have had enough of all the drama. You will see a side of me you have and never will see on my videos! LOL. I’m human and this is a REALity show. I didn’t hold anything back, but please give me some grace when you watch! I even scare myself a bit. Eeeek.

If you’re on Twitter, make sure to tweet me and let me know your thoughts! @TiffanyHendra

 

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I must give a huge shout out to brilliant stylist Jeanette Chivvis of Chivvis Styles. She has gone above and beyond to make sure LeeAnne Locken and I look our best for all our press and appearances. She’s a fellow #SpiritualSpitfire too!

Have a fabulous week. 

Love & Ladyballs,

Tiff 

 

LOVE Your Mother On Mother’s Day! By My Sister Natalie Bolton

She.
She is.
She is beautiful.
She is life.

This is a “skincare” blog, yes. But my work would be insignificant if I didn’t address the things that matter to me most. And those things are Spirit, Health, Family, Character, and Love. By cultivating and nurturing these things in others, external vibrant beauty for my clients is the easy part.
So this “beauty” blog today is dedicated to women.

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Mothers.
Goddess Warriors.
Protectors.
Visionaries.
Lovers.
And the Doers.

Mother’s Day is approaching this weekend and we all have different feelings and different experiences and reactions when we think of this day.
For some it causes pain. For others it brings forth gratitude. And for many it brings about anger and a sense of feeling motherless.

But we are in this together. We are all connected.

Let us celebrate the women who have poured into us strength of character, wisdom, and love. Personally, if it weren’t for my mother I don’t know how actually broken I would be.
If you are a woman, you are a mother. You may not have children walking around, playing, or asking you for advice, but you are a creator. We are all creators. Cherish and keep on incubating your dreams, visions, and beauty only you can give us. We need you.

If you can no longer call your mom to just say, “Hey” take a bit of comfort in knowing that woven into your beauty are fibers of her greatness. She is in you and she is with you.
To all the prayin’ mommas out there, “Thank You!” Today we celebrate your greatness. We delight in your power and strength. And all the beauty you pour into the world we want you to know that it flows from your heart and glistens through your skin. You are exquisite and you are Divine.”

The hand that rocks the cradle, rules the world.

“Cheers, pretty mommas!”

And as always, if you have any questions regarding skincare or would like to book an appointment you can email me at: natalie@beautyboutiquela.comor call (818) 506-6400.

 

With all my gratitude,

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Natalie Bolton, L.E.

TOGETHER WE CAN ROCK THE WORLD! Happy International Women’s Day

 

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I honor each of you today. Many thoughts have flooded my mind regarding International Women’s Day. Most of these are reposted from last year, but still hold true today:

  • My heart is filled with gratitude to my mother for instilling the “you can do anything you dream of” mentality in my sister and I.
  • Deep admiration & respect toward my mom for always working hard in her job and even harder at home to create a safe home for us as kids. She never hired a housekeeper and we rarely had a babysitter. She’s 67 and still happily working.
  • Deep admiration for my Japanese grandmother, Hannah, for choosing to leave her family and career as a clothing designer to raise her family in America.

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  • Pride and respect for my multi-talented younger sister who has followed her dreams and remained true to herself while finding her calling. It takes guts to try new things and change careers. She’s one of the gutsiest gals I know! If you’re in LA, make sure to go see her at the Beauty Boutique. Your skin will thank you!

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  • As a young woman living in the US, I’ve been able to work as an entrepreneur (I began modeling at 14 and started my 1st business at 16 doing graphic art, logos and designing T-shirts for companies), pave my own way and ask for the pay I’m worth all while trying to make a difference.  This overwhelms me! Again, I thank my parents for teaching us to fly and supporting all our crazy, but creative ideas. 
  • I’m more passionate than ever about instilling belief, vision, confidence and positivity in young women to prepare them for a successful future. There are several teenage girls that God has trusted me with mentoring. This has transformed my life probably more than it has theirs.
  • This blog is proof that we are blessed as women in the US with the ability to share our voice, ideas and thoughts.  Women in many countries are still forced to remain silent.
  • I echo the sentiment in an Instagram photo from Marie Forleo (one of my favorite biz mentors) which said, “Ambition is beautiful”. Her caption read, “You were born to create and contribute. Don’t let the noise of the world drown out the work your soul came here to do”. That goes for the boss lady doing the hustle and the stay-at-home mom raising future leaders. You do your thing and do it well!
  • I’ve been praying the Prayer Of Jabez (1 Chronicles 4:10) for several years and now- I have been given a larger platform and territory with the Real Housewives of Dallas. My intention is to inspire even more women to go for their dreams and the love they deserve. I have to share our latest commercial promo! Talk about Texas Girlpower..

 

TAKE A MOMENT TO THINK OF ALL THE WOMEN IN YOUR LIFE WHO HAVE MADE AN IMPACT ON YOU.

Silently say a prayer for them and send them love. 

May this love elevate us all to live a higher life and be so filled up that we have enough to give out to other girls and women.

Love, Tiff

International Women’s Day (March 8) is a global day celebrating the social, economic, cultural and political achievements of women. The day also marks a call to action for accelerating gender parity. www.internationalwomensday.com

BROTHELS OR AN EDUCATION: Help Give These Girls The Right Choice

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Hey Sistas! 

My sister Natalie is embarking on a life-altering mission trip and felt compelled to share her journey and vision with you. I believe you can appreciate the importance on the following subject: 

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I have the privilege in traveling to Bangladesh in August for close to 3 weeks to work with the beautiful little girls there. This is the most destitute country I will have been to thus far, and with this level of poverty comes a lot of opposing challenge. I have been preparing my heart for what I will be encountering there.

Many of the girls in Bangladesh are victim to being thrown into brothels as young as 8 years old all the way through university age. They are also forced into child marriage for multiple reasons. The country is so destitute that families seem to have no other choice but to “give their daughters away” resulting in one less mouth to feed and to lighten the family’s burden.

A burden these little girls are not. They are smart, capable, dreamers, artists, and full of love.

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Below is a short summary of what will be taking place during and after our stay:

▪ We will be working with these girls by fostering the space for their education. I have already been asked to write stories to have translated in Bengali and printed for their entertainment and education.

▪ I will be holding a poetry and creative writing course for the girls who are inclined toward getting their thoughts on paper.

▪ We are providing a well-rounded platform to “tap into” the natural talents and gifts these girls were born with.

▪ We have many other programs already set in motion such as leadership, the arts, and education. All areas will be resourced.

▪ We have partnered with contacts in Bangladesh. We will be working with an established facility there operated by an attorney who has dedicated his life to fighting for human justice there in Bangladesh. If you would like to check out the organization: http://www.speakupforthepoor.org.

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Educate

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Fight for women’s rights

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Empower

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Foster Dreams

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Defend Basic Human Rights

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Stop Child Exploitation

You may or may not know that I served as a missionary in my youth. From the age of 13-19 I dedicated my summer months to living abroad. I spent an entire year after high school as an intern helping to facilitate 2,000 teens travel to 14 countries. I was powerfully compelled to be of service to the world. From this early age the heartbeat of the world became my heartbeat. I could feel the pains and injustices and felt that I wanted to help by being a part of the relief.

By grace alone I am writing this email to you to let you know I have been reunited with my first love, to be of service, on a global scale. And this particular cause resonates with my heart deeply.

If this speaks to your heart, I would love for you to have your fingerprint on this trip.

If you would like to financially contribute to this trip you can do so at Natalie’s Crowdrise Appeal

It is important for me that you know I have and am continuing to financially contribute to this trip as well. I will be emailing progress and follow-ups so you can stay “in the know” with the impact you helped make.

If you have any questions or would just like to email me in regard to this trip, I would love to hear from you.

Thank you from the bottom of my heart-

Natalie Bolton.
Natalie@nataliebolton.com

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P.S. I would like to introduce you to Sraboni. She is 12 and in 6th grade. She is a little girl I will have the privilege of working with one on one. Her hobby is reading just like me, so we will get along famously.♥

Are You Proud To Be A Woman? I AM.

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Hey Sistas,

I honor each of you today. Many thoughts have come to me regarding International Women’s Day. I thought I would share what’s been running through my head all day:

  • My heart is filled with gratitude to my mother for instilling the “you can do anything you dream of” mentality in my sister and I.
  • Deep admiration & respect toward my mom for always working hard in her job and even harder at home to create a safe home for us as kids. She never hired a housekeeper and we rarely had a babysitter. She’s 66 and still happily working.
  • Deep admiration for my Japanese immigrant grandmother for choosing to leave her family and career as a clothing designer to raise her family in America.
  • Pride and respect for my multi-talented younger sister who has followed her dreams and remained true to herself while finding her calling. It takes guts to try new things and change careers. She’s one of the gutsiest gals I know! If you’re in LA, she’s setting up her skincare/esthetician practice at several locations including the Beauty Boutique.
  • As a young woman living in the US, I’ve been able to work as an entrepreneur (I began modeling at 14 and started my 1st business at 16 doing graphic art, logos and designing T-shirts for companies), pave my own way and ask for the pay I’m worth all while trying to make a difference.  This overwhelms me! Again, I thank my parents for teaching us to fly and supporting all our crazy, but creative ideas. 
  • I’m more passionate than ever to help instill belief, vision, confidence and positivity in our young women to prepare them for a successful future.
  • This blog is proof that we are blessed as women in the US with the ability to share our voice, ideas and thoughts.  Women in many countries are still forced to remain silent.
  • I echo the sentiment in an Instagram photo I recently shared from Marie Forleo (one of my favorite biz mentors) which said, “Ambition is beautiful”. Her caption read, “You were born to create and contribute. Don’t let the noise of the world drown out the work your soul came here to do”. That goes for the boss lady doing the hustle and the stay-at-home mom raising future leaders. You do your thing and do it well!

WHAT DOES THIS DAY MEAN TO YOU?

In case you aren’t aware of what IWD is all about, here is a description from the website:

International Women’s Day has been observed since in the early 1900’s, a time of great expansion and turbulence in the industrialized world that saw booming population growth and the rise of radical ideologies.

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Great unrest and critical debate was occurring amongst women. Women’s oppression and inequality was spurring women to become more vocal and active in campaigning for change. Then in 1908, 15,000 women marched through New York City demanding shorter hours, better pay and voting rights.

1909
In accordance with a declaration by the Socialist Party of America, the first National Woman’s Day (NWD) was observed across the United States on 28 February. Women continued to celebrate NWD on the last Sunday of February until 1913.

1910
n 1910 a second International Conference of Working Women was held in Copenhagen. A woman named a Clara Zetkin (Leader of the ‘Women’s Office’ for the Social Democratic Party in Germany) tabled the idea of an International Women’s Day. She proposed that every year in every country there should be a celebration on the same day – a Women’s Day – to press for their demands. The conference of over 100 women from 17 countries, representing unions, socialist parties, working women’s clubs, and including the first three women elected to the Finnish parliament, greeted Zetkin’s suggestion with unanimous approval and thus International Women’s Day was the result.

1911
Following the decision agreed at Copenhagen in 1911, International Women’s Day (IWD) was honoured the first time in Austria, Denmark, Germany and Switzerland on 19 March. More than one million women and men attended IWD rallies campaigning for women’s rights to work, vote, be trained, to hold public office and end discrimination. However less than a week later on 25 March, the tragic ‘Triangle Fire’ in New York City took the lives of more than 140 working women, most of them Italian and Jewish immigrants. This disastrous event drew significant attention to working conditions and labour legislation in the United States that became a focus of subsequent International Women’s Day events. 1911 also saw women’s ‘Bread and Roses‘ campaign.
 

1913-1914
On the eve of World War I campaigning for peace, Russian women observed their first International Women’s Day on the last Sunday in February 1913. In 1913 following discussions, International Women’s Day was transferred to 8 March and this day has remained the global date for International Women’s Day ever since. In 1914 further women across Europe held rallies to campaign against the war and to express women’s solidarity.

1917
On the last Sunday of February, Russian women began a strike for “bread and peace” in response to the death over 2 million Russian soldiers in war. Opposed by political leaders the women continued to strike until four days later the Czar was forced to abdicate and the provisional Government granted women the right to vote. The date the women’s strike commenced was Sunday 23 February on the Julian calendar then in use in Russia. This day on the Gregorian calendar in use elsewhere was 8 March.

1918 – 1999
Since its birth in the socialist movement, International Women’s Day has grown to become a global day of recognition and celebration across developed and developing countries alike. For decades, IWD has grown from strength to strength annually. For many years the United Nations has held an annual IWD conference to coordinate international efforts for women’s rights and participation in social, political and economic processes. 1975 was designated as ‘International Women’s Year’ by the United Nations. Women’s organisations and governments around the world have also observed IWD annually on 8 March by holding large-scale events that honour women’s advancement and while diligently reminding of the continued vigilance and action required to ensure that women’s equality is gained and maintained in all aspects of life.

2000 and beyond
IWD is now an official holiday in Afghanistan, Armenia, Azerbaijan, Belarus, Burkina Faso, Cambodia, China (for women only), Cuba, Georgia, Guinea-Bissau, Eritrea, Kazakhstan, Kyrgyzstan, Laos, Madagascar (for women only), Moldova, Mongolia, Montenegro, Nepal (for women only), Russia, Tajikistan, Turkmenistan, Uganda, Ukraine, Uzbekistan, Vietnam and Zambia. The tradition sees men honouring their mothers, wives, girlfriends, colleagues, etc with flowers and small gifts. In some countries IWD has the equivalent status of Mother’s Day where children give small presents to their mothers and grandmothers.

The new millennium has witnessed a significant change and attitudinal shift in both women’s and society’s thoughts about women’s equality and emancipation. Many from a younger generation feel that ‘all the battles have been won for women’ while many feminists from the 1970’s know only too well the longevity and ingrained complexity of patriarchy. With more women in the boardroom, greater equality in legislative rights, and an increased critical mass of women’s visibility as impressive role models in every aspect of life, one could think that women have gained true equality. The unfortunate fact is that women are still not paid equally to that of their male counterparts, women still are not present in equal numbers in business or politics, and globally women’s education, health and the violence against them is worse than that of men.

However, great improvements have been made. We do have female astronauts and prime ministers, school girls are welcomed into university, women can work and have a family, women have real choices. And so the tone and nature of IWD has, for the past few years, moved from being a reminder about the negatives to a celebration of the positives.

Annually on March 8th, thousands of events are held throughout the world to inspire women and celebrate achievements. A global web of rich and diverse local activity connects women from all around the world ranging from political rallies, business conferences, government activities and networking events through to local women’s craft markets, theatric performances, fashion parades and more.

Many global corporations have also started to more actively support IWD by running their own internal events and through supporting external ones. For example, on 8 March search engine and media giant Google some years even changes its logo on its global search pages. Year on year IWD is certainly increasing in status. The United States even designates the whole month of March as ‘Women’s History Month’.

So make a difference, think globally and act locally!  Make everyday International Women’s Day. Do your part to ensure that the future for girls is bright, equal, safe and rewarding.

Thank you for being part of this sisterhood. Women are powerful, especially in numbers!

With love & gratitude,

Tiff

No Whiners Allowed on SOS!

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Happy Weekend Sistas,

How was your first week of November? I am loving getting to experience an actual Fall and the change of seasons for the first time in many years. In LA, it still feels like Summer at this time of year. If you’re active on the SOS Facebook Page – you know I am posting 30 Days of Gratitude this month. Everyday I am sharing one thing I am grateful for. The intention for this exercise is to recalibrate our thinking, our level of joy and how we approach life. Please join us and if not, I encourage you to focus on your level of gratitude and thanksgiving on your own –  especially if you’ve allowed the busyness of life to keep you in a mode of complaining & whining. 

Be honest…

On a daily basis, do you find yourself living consistently in an attitude of gratitude or in the opposite realm of seeing the negative in everything and then complaining & whining about it? 

I am the first person to admit that I battled negative thinking for years. You could have called me Tiffany ‘Moan & Groan’ Hendra! Just like positivity, negativity and complaining is contagious. If you are raised around complainers, typically you will grow up complaining too. This is why it is vital to be conscious of the people you surround yourself with. I’ve mentioned the importance of gratitude several times on the blog and in my candid video blogs on my YouTube Channel. This is because I believe with every fiber of my being that living in a state of gratitude is life-changing. One of the first things I have my private coaching/mentoring clients begin doing daily is to create a gratitude list. It’s amazing how quick someone’s life can change when they realize how blessed they are. 

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 SOS is all about guiding and instigating changes we need to make in order to be the best women we can be. When I created SOS, I wanted it to empower women on many levels not just with beauty and fashion tips. Let’s face it, if you are resonating in a place of ingratitude – no amount of lipgloss or Louis Vuitton’s will bring you true joy.

Your outer reality corresponds to your inner reality! Gratitude creates a miraculous and beautiful inner reality that radiates outward. Then, our outer reality will inevitably change for the better.

Therefore, no whiners or negative Nellie’s are allowed on this internet real estate! It reminds me of that great saying Oprah has on a sign when you enter her office, “Please take responsibility for the energy you bring into this space”. Make sure to join us on the Facebook Page this month and together, we will raise our level of joy and blaze into 2015 with a beautiful, radiant, peaceful & powerful outer reality. Our light will shine brighter than ever and remember, the world needs YOUR unique light.

Never forget that! 

Love, Tiff

 

 

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Today, I’m grateful for my sis and that I get to be a big sister! Like most siblings, we’ve fought like cats & dogs and had the typical growing pains- but our bond keeps getting stronger & stronger as we get older. Natalie aka NatCat is a powerful soul and bright light in this world. I’m so proud of her! WHO ELSE IS GRATEFUL FOR THEIR SISTER (sibling) TODAY? 

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