No Whiners Allowed on SOS!

SOS_30 days of gratitude

Happy Weekend Sistas,

How was your first week of November? I am loving getting to experience an actual Fall and the change of seasons for the first time in many years. In LA, it still feels like Summer at this time of year. If you’re active on the SOS Facebook Page – you know I am posting 30 Days of Gratitude this month. Everyday I am sharing one thing I am grateful for. The intention for this exercise is to recalibrate our thinking, our level of joy and how we approach life. Please join us and if not, I encourage you to focus on your level of gratitude and thanksgiving on your own –  especially if you’ve allowed the busyness of life to keep you in a mode of complaining & whining. 

Be honest…

On a daily basis, do you find yourself living consistently in an attitude of gratitude or in the opposite realm of seeing the negative in everything and then complaining & whining about it? 

I am the first person to admit that I battled negative thinking for years. You could have called me Tiffany ‘Moan & Groan’ Hendra! Just like positivity, negativity and complaining is contagious. If you are raised around complainers, typically you will grow up complaining too. This is why it is vital to be conscious of the people you surround yourself with. I’ve mentioned the importance of gratitude several times on the blog and in my candid video blogs on my YouTube Channel. This is because I believe with every fiber of my being that living in a state of gratitude is life-changing. One of the first things I have my private coaching/mentoring clients begin doing daily is to create a gratitude list. It’s amazing how quick someone’s life can change when they realize how blessed they are. 

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 SOS is all about guiding and instigating changes we need to make in order to be the best women we can be. When I created SOS, I wanted it to empower women on many levels not just with beauty and fashion tips. Let’s face it, if you are resonating in a place of ingratitude – no amount of lipgloss or Louis Vuitton’s will bring you true joy.

Your outer reality corresponds to your inner reality! Gratitude creates a miraculous and beautiful inner reality that radiates outward. Then, our outer reality will inevitably change for the better.

Therefore, no whiners or negative Nellie’s are allowed on this internet real estate! It reminds me of that great saying Oprah has on a sign when you enter her office, “Please take responsibility for the energy you bring into this space”. Make sure to join us on the Facebook Page this month and together, we will raise our level of joy and blaze into 2015 with a beautiful, radiant, peaceful & powerful outer reality. Our light will shine brighter than ever and remember, the world needs YOUR unique light.

Never forget that! 

Love, Tiff

 

 

photo-300Example of 30 Days of Gratitude: 

Today, I’m grateful for my sis and that I get to be a big sister! Like most siblings, we’ve fought like cats & dogs and had the typical growing pains- but our bond keeps getting stronger & stronger as we get older. Natalie aka NatCat is a powerful soul and bright light in this world. I’m so proud of her! WHO ELSE IS GRATEFUL FOR THEIR SISTER (sibling) TODAY? 

#30daysofgratitude

 

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What is your PMS like? Not the kind you’re thinking…

Hello Kindred Spirits!

My head is spinning with the idea that November is around the corner.  I do hope you all have had an Outstanding October! 

  • Have you been running on fumes in over-drive all year?
  • What have you been chasing?  Money….A Guy….Your 2 Year Old….Your Dream….Your Tail?
  • Are you focused and living with purpose?  Or are you all over the place with little direction?

Once November arrives, we will have just 60 days left in 2011 which gets me thinking about the New Year on the horizon.   Whoa- 2012 is almost here ladies!  The thought of this has put me in a reflective mode.  I am clearing the clutter of life and getting focused on my PMS to make sure I am in alignment with it and making the right choices to support it.   You’re probably wondering “what the heck is Tiff talking about, right”?  Of course, I’m not talking about that dreaded week every month when all hell breaks loose, your skinny jeans fit a bit too snug and our head seems to be detached from our body- I’m talking about my PERSONAL MISSION STATEMENT!

DO YOU HAVE A PERSONAL MISSION STATEMENT?

We should all be able to clearly verbalize our PMS in one sentence.  Whether you are a stay-at-home mom dedicated to raising healthy children or you are climbing the corporate ladder or volunteering your time to a non-profit organization close to your heart- living our lives with intention and knowing, without a doubt, what our mission in life is- gives us purpose and keeps us from just meandering through life.  Our PMS keeps us focused, brings us joy and gives us the guidance we need on those days when we feel unsure! 

WE WERE ALL PUT ON THIS EARTH FOR A PURPOSE!

A personal mission consists of 3 parts:

  1. What do I want to do?
  2. Who do I want to help?
  3. What is the result? What value will I create?

Do you know your PMS?  Awesome!  Please share it with us with a comment below.

If not,  here’s  a fun exercise to help you open your heart and mind before attempting to write your PMS:

Sit in a comfortable, quiet space.  Close your eyes and clear your mind.  Imagine you are 90 years old- healthy, fulfilled and content- sitting in a porch swing with the sound of birds chirping and the wind rustling the trees.  You look back on your life and list all the miraculous things you did, places you visited and people you blessed by living FULLY IN YOUR PURPOSE.  Is there anything you regret not doing?   What were the things that mattered most to you over your lifetime?  When did you feel most alive?  What were you doing when you were effectively helping others?  Remember, this is not about how much money you earned in your life either!

Write all these things down.  At 90, our life is nearly over- that is if we actually make it to 90!   Do you want to be able to look back on it and know beyond a shadow of a doubt that you TRULY LIVED YOUR PURPOSE?   You may not be able to write your PMS just like that- SNAP- in one day.  Give yourself time and you may have to do some serious soul searching.

TIFF’S PMS  (Haha…my hubby, Aaron could give you an ear full about my “other” kind of pms:-)

I am going to make this story short and sweet.  There is really A LOT more to it which I will share another time!  In 2002, after booking plenty of TV shows and building a decent resume as an actress and TV host, I sensed something was missing.  I had come to LA and achieved what I “thought” would make me happy and fulfilled.  It didn’t.  I knew God had more for me to do on this Earth and I had felt that from the time I was a little girl, but I wasn’t quite sure what it was.  I always knew I loved to help people, but “people” is very broad.  

In June 2002, with some money in the bank after wrapping a show,  I left LA and went back to Texas for six months of serious soul searching.   I am so grateful I had the luxury to do this and not worry about working!  After 3 months of getting “still” and pretty much locking myself away from all the things that had always distracted me before- I received TOTAL CLARITY on what my PURPOSE was and wrote out my PMS.  I tear up as I write this now because that was such a profound time in my life.   I knew that I was here to “Empower, Educate and Inspire women- through my testimony and experiences- to live their most confident, fulfilled and powerful lives”.   I spent 3 more months in Texas writing my first treatment for a women’s talk show and taped a pilot!   This was the most amazing 6 months!  When we clear the clutter of life and get through the storms, follow the rainbow and look within at the beautiful loving nature’s God gave us all- we find our pot of gold!  We waste so much time looking everywhere else for the gold, but it’s within each of us.  Then when we share that gold with others- WE HAVE FOUND OUR PURPOSE!

“Writing or reviewing a mission statement changes you because it forces you to think through your priorities deeply, carefully, and to align your behaviour with your beliefs”
– Stephen Covey, ‘7 Habits of Highly Effective People’

PLEASE SHARE YOUR PMS WITH THE SOS FAMILY! 

We should all support one another on our mission in life.  Thank you for being part of mine!

Sharing the beauty, style + inspiration,

Tiff xoxo