As women, we thrive and function at our best when we have a supportive sisterhood of like-minded friends. This all began for me when I was very little. Whether it was playing with my cousins (who were all girls except for one) or my sports teams or cheerleading squads, I was always blessed to have a great group of girlfriends. Back then, we loved throwing slumber parties and giggling about boys and dancing around my parents living room. Not much has really changed. If you catch a group of my girlfriends at my BFF’s house in Dallas….before the end of the night– the furniture is moved and the living room is turned into a dance floor! When women connect, it does something differently to our spirit than connecting with our boyfriends/husbands or children does for us. If we go too long without “girltime” or hashing out life over a cup of coffee with a dear friend, our spirit suffers a bit. Don’t you notice how your spirit is lifted after a good dose of fun with a great group of girlfriends? You have a pep in your step and that warm & fuzzy feeling resonates with your for a few days after. Encouraging and supportive female energy is a mighty force that we all need in our lives.
When I began healing and growing in my late 20’s, I went through a dark and lonely time. I began to “outgrow” friends and was too emotionally raw to get out there and make new ones. Of course, I am so grateful for this period in my life because that’s when I got to know God. He truly is the greatest Positive Force, Friend and Father. I also starting watching “The Oprah Winfrey Show” much more and noticed it gave me that “lift” I was missing. I felt connected and that hour episode on TV had become my “girltime”. I kept this in mind as I began to create my talk show ideas and figuring out how I could use the power of video to help women. I knew if I felt lonely then there had to be so many women around the world who felt disconnected like I did. One of the best comments I receive about my webseries, this blog, and the Facebook community is how it gives you Mom’s a sense of girltime once the kids are in bed and you have some time alone on the computer. MISSION ACCOMPLISHED!
Over time, I was blessed to connect with new, like-minded, spiritually conscious girlfriends and have created deeper friendships than I’ve ever had before. Whether it is online with social media or offline in real life, I encourage you to connect and reach out if you are in that lonely space. Ask about groups in your community or church. If you can’t find one, start one of your own. My girlfriends and I here in LA did just that and it has made a huge difference in all of our lives. LA can be a very disconnected place because there is not the same sense of community as in more family-friendly cities. We have done a great job of creating our own surrogate LA family/sisterhood. We can get a brief shot of connection and friendship on Facebook, but nothing can take the place of feeling a friends hug, sharing a laugh (or cry) and making eye contact. A sisterhood gives you a sense of belonging and a knowing in your spirit that “I am not alone”. I swear, it has to help with your immune system and overall health & wellness too!
MAKE THAT CALL
JOIN A GROUP
START A GROUP
SCHEDULE WEEKLY COFFEE/LUNCH DATES
I’m filled with gratitude today for all the amazing women in my life including this SOS Sisterhood.
Are you a worrier? Or are you a happy girl, naturally? Of course, at different seasons in our lives we may tend to be one over the other. Really, we all have so much to be happy about in the grand scheme of things, but why is it we so often battle with unnecessary worry which drains us of energy, vibrance and joy. When I’m worried, I feel as if I have a dark cloud over my entire life. NO THANK YOU! Bring on the blue skies and sunshine please! Which sounds better to you? HAPPY(adj.) enjoying or characterized by well-being and contentment. WORRY (v.) to torment oneself with or suffer from disturbing thoughts; fret. It is truly a conscious choice to stop worrying and choose happiness.
P.S. You girls who have won the AHP limited-edition EP, my hubby wrote a song on this very subject called “Nothing But Blue”- Enjoy!
There’s been lots of talk of HAPPINESS lately and Oprah’s even launching a “Celebrate 30 Days of Happiness” campaign to get us all focusing on our happiest moment of each day. I love this and I’m joining in! I have to admit, I’ve been pretty lazy with my journaling and this is exactly the kick-in-the-bootie I need to get back to it. I know myself and I am much more peaceful and joy-filled when I write down happy moments and things I’m grateful for. Some people think journaling is just a venting session and a cathartic vomit of the negative junk in our heads. Ok- yes, someday’s that is what’s required to keep our sanity, BUT for the month of August– let’s all join Lady O and celebrate the things that make us happy. I want to see some comments below and on Facebook saying YES, I’M IN TIFF!
Here’s my A’s to Shannon’s Q’s:
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I’m sad to say this friday is the last full SOS Summer Swag Bag Giveaway. It has been such a blast giving away such awesome products and helping promote these fabulous companies! We will have a few more smaller giveaways with great books from SOUND WISDOM plus a few surprise goodies from me! Make sure to check in on the FACEBOOK COMMUNITY and make comments. This has been such a fun way for us all the get to know one another better and strengthen our Style Sisterhood.
After a much needed vacay and short hiatus- SOS is back with a fresh batch of beauty & style love! I take an annual trip to Texas to refuel, connect with my BFF’s and spend QT with my folks. This ALWAYS helps me recharge and refocus! Thank God my skinny jeans still fit after 10 days of TexMex, Mom’s biscuits and gravy and many decadent meals in Dallas!
I am SO excited about the new webisodes and I’m busy editing them as we speak. This week’s topic is all about the key foods we should be eating to keep our skin healthy & glowing. I’ve introduced you to my stunning girlfriend, professional model- Julianna Geldien in previous blogs (remember she took an awesome missionary trip to Peru and then shared a yummy recipe for kale salad) and I’m thrilled she stopped by to share her tips for keeping her gorgeous glow!
REMEMBER! There’s one more day to enter to win my new find- Voluminous False Lash Mascara. I’m giving 2 fashionistas a tube! ENDS WED, NOVEMBER 16th.
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I’m reading an amazing book by Iyanla Vanzant called “One Day My Soul Just Opened Up” and I highly recommend it! I’ve been watching her on Oprah’s Life Class and her insight is life changing…
“Everything that happens to you is a reflection of what you believe about yourself. We cannot outperform our level of self-esteem. We cannot draw to ourselves more than we think we are worth.” ― Iyanla Vanzant