ARE YOU USING YOUR #LADYBALLS?

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A few weeks ago, I had the honor of speaking at the 1st Annual Women Who Rock Event along with several authors and speakers. Talk about grabbing my own #Ladyballs and stepping out of my comfort zone. I’m still working toward getting more comfy doing speaking engagements. We’re really not exercising courage if we’re not shaking in our boots while we’re stepping out, right? I know God is calling me to it and I’m doing my best to be obedient! It’s not about me. It’s about the message.

I felt led to speak about the  #Ladyballs mentality and actually sense a book coming from it! After much prayer and meditation, a message for each letter of #Ladyballs began to take form. Here’s the brief version to inspire you and I plan to get the book finished over the summer. (hold me accountable!!)  When you work through each of these and truly take ownership of your life, you go on to soar, sista.

L- Lose The Labels

A- Always Be Authentic

D- Drop The Doubt

Y- Your Relationship With Yourself

B- Breakthrough Your B.S.

A- Adjust Your Attitude

L- Lift The Limits

L-Love Your Life

S- Step, Strut… SOAR!

 

Who’s ready to soar?

I would love to hear your thoughts about this mentality and which letter(s) seem to have you stuck.

Love & Ladyballs,

Tiff

 

P.S. Get your tee here before they’re all gone!

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DO YOU HAVE THE LADYBALLS TO WEAR MY TEE’S?

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Now, I get that many of you may not be able to wear this tee to a PTA meeting although that’s actually THE perfect place you need to! Let’s be real.

USE YOUR LADYBALLS: Means stop allowing people to walk all over you. Stand up for yourself and use your lady balls. Basically, don’t take any BS that people try to throw at you! Synonyms: Courage, Bravery.

I am just tickled to death to finally launch my product line today in celebration of the Real Housewives Of Dallas premier tonight on Bravo. This has been a dream of mine since the conception of SOS! I do not consider myself a wordsmith by any means, but as we all know- Southern women have a way with blending sweet-as-pie sayings with in-your-face sarcasm. Then, you add my belief in the use of affirmations and you get “Tiffirmations”.

More styles are coming like HOT MESSAGE, WALK TALL, FIERCE/FEAR and a few others you will hear me say on the show, but I don’t want to give it away!

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SPIRITUAL SPITFIRE is available in white v-neck & slouchy tank! 

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Keep using yours!

Keep walking tall!

Keep shining that light!

 

Love, Tiff

 

DEFLECT THE BS!

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Good Morning Gorgeous!

My spiritual mentor and sisterella, Dr. Melanie Ross Mills posted this yesterday and I just had to share it with you all.

May the force be with you today! You have the power to deflect bad vibes, bad moods, narcissistic behavior, manipulation and not take others BS on as your own. 

CHOOSE TO DEFLECT.

SET THE HARD BOUNDARY.

DON’T GET CAUGHT UP IN THE TORNADO OF DRAMA.

STAY CENTERED.

LET GO OF YOUR PEOPLE PLEASING WAYS & STAY TRUE TO YOU.

 

My tweet this morning:

To maintain honest relationships w/ others we must 1st be true to ourselves. Living a lie breeds inauthenticity in every area. 

Again, you have the choice not take on other people’s BS.

 

Ok, go about being fabulous and free.

Love, Tiff

 

 

HAPPY IS ON THE HORIZON: My 2016 Prayer For You

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Photo taken by me in Santa Monica. One of the highlights of 2015- going back to California for the first time since our move.

Sista, my prayer for you:

May every single day of 2016  be filled with the wonder of God’s special love for you.

I pray for your happiness, but also for a greater sense of fulfillment in your career and purpose, an ease of communication with those you love, and a sense of satisfaction in all that you have accomplished. Above all, may you rest secure in the knowing of God’s presence. Regardless of how lonely you feel or how difficult a situation- you are never alone. 

I pray for you to be happy and expectant about what is on the horizon in 2016.

I pray for smiles and love.

I pray for friends that are true and authentic.

I pray for kindness and compassion.

I pray for unexpected moments of joy and laughter.

I pray for you to be at peace. 

I pray you walk taller and shine brighter in the new year. I pray you shake off any self-defeating thoughts and truly own your beauty.  I pray you are healthy and whole- body, mind and spirit. I pray you stay spiritually centered.

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Sista, I am grateful you are on this journey with me and I picked up my favorite scented candle by Voluspa in honor of this final blog post of 2015. I lit it and wrote this prayer for you tonight.

May God keep you in touch with all that you are and all that you are meant to become. May you have the strength and discernment to remove any toxic person who does not celebrate and encourage the woman you are becoming. Keep believing. Keep moving forward. In His mighty name, Amen.

What are your goals and plans for 2016?

Share + Comment.

Love, 

Tiff

 

 

YOU ARE FABULOUS!

Happy Friday Fab Ones!

I’ve received many inquiries about private coaching over the past few weeks and a common theme I hear from women is they are exhausted, they’ve lost themselves and have no creativity to put together a stylish outfit.

Are you putting too much on your plate? Are you wearing too many hats? Are you neglecting YOU? Are you disconnected from your Spirit?

It’s the halfway mark of January. Have you slid back into old habits already after setting your new year’s resolutions? I’m here to grab you by the hand, kick ya in the toosh and motivate you to stick with your goals and make yourself a PRIORITY! Here are a list of my go-to reminders. I hope they keep your flame ignited! Shine On Sistas…   

Tiff’s Ingredients for a Happy, Meaningful & Successful Life:

  • Don’t let the Negative Nellie inside you strangle the Positive Polly in you! 
  • Treat others with respect & kindness…you get what you give.
  • Helping others is like a natural anti-depressant!  Feeling down?  Go find someone to help!
  • Work hard at everything you do. Laziness sucks!
  • Make learning a lifetime pursuit!
  • Laugh more & stop taking everything so serious.
  • Be present! The past is over.
  • Be flexible & open-minded!
  • Prioritize & use your time well. (and I do appreciate you taking the time to read this blog)
  • Eat right & exercise!  DUH!
  • Words are powerful…be mindful of what you say.
  • Always keep believing in yourself no matter the circumstance!
  • Take the high road!
  • Do not compare yourself to others…success to one person can be something totally different for another.
  • Be grateful for what you have…and you’ll get more of it! WooHoo!
  • Codependent relationships do not serve your highest good. You be you and let them, be them. Got it?  Good!
  • Your self-worth is not validated on anything external.  You are worthy of greatness simply because you are a precious Child Of God. 
  • Fake it till ya make it! If you do it long enough, eventually it becomes the real thing!
  • Live with purpose & NEVER GIVE UP!

…add a dash of leopard print and life will rock!

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I lived too many years with low self-worth, self-loathing and to put it plainly- I didn’t love myself.   I see many women today walking around with their heads hanging low and shoulders rolled forward which tells the world “I don’t think I’m worthy”.   I want this epidemic to STOP! You are worthy. You are beautiful. You are blessed. Go to the mirror and tell yourself that today.

Please share an ‘ingredient’ that you have found adds happiness to your life..comment below!

YOU ARE FABULOUS!

Love, Tiff

INTENTION CREATES REALITY {Sunday Affirmations}

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HAPPY SUNDAY SISTAS! 

How was your first week of 2014? Were you able to get in some quiet time to set your intentions, goals and/or resolutions? I spent several days working on mine. Remember, it’s great to take your time with this task- even if it takes you a few weeks. I also had an empowering 3 hour ‘mastermind’ meeting with a trusting friend so we could share our goals with each other. This creates accountability and sets you up for success in a bigger way! This also activates creativity in each of you to come up with ideas to help one another achieve these goals.

Are you wondering what it means to set an intention?  I believe it’s basically making up your mind what you want. How often do you hem & haw about things?  It is so powerful when we get clear, get focused and make up our minds. Then, the real power is in the follow through.  I also believe we are setting intentions when we pray and share with God what we want a desired outcome to be.  Let’s look at intentions without follow through.  How often do we say things like…Oh, I intended to call youOh, it was my intention to lose 5 lbs before summer…I’m sorry I hurt your feelings it was not my intent??  It feels pretty crappy, right?  Let’s get to following through, shall we?  

I see the word intention as a fancy name for GOAL– but, with an added oomph of Spiritual Power behind it.  Without intentions for our life, we tend to wander.  If you feel like you have lost direction and are wandering through life, here are 5 steps to setting intentions:

  1. DECIDE.  What do you want the outcome to be?  It’s as simple as that.  Making the decision is a huge first step!
  2. WRITE IT OUT.  Make it official by writing your intentions in your journal or putting up sticky notes in places you can see them on a regular basis.  I have sticky notes on the sides of my computer monitor, bathroom mirror and fridge.  This is a powerful daily reminder to keep your thoughts going in the right direction.
  3. SHARE.  Find a trusting friend/mentor or group to hold your intentions with you.  By sharing your desired outcome with others, you create a “mastermind” of positive thoughts.  One of my favorite books is “Think and Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill.  His definition of a mastermind is– “Coordination of knowledge and effort, in a spirit of harmony between two or more people, for the attainment of a definite purpose.”  Make sure to share with those of a like-minded spirit and steer clear of anyone who may try to sabotage your goals or be unsupportive.
  4. LIVE IT.  Act as if your outcome is here NOW!  Speak as if it’s here.  Your words and actions have a powerful effect so be mindful of what you are doing, thinking and saying.  Get committed!
  5. NEVER GIVE UP.  Period.

I know what you are thinking right now– Hey Tiff,  so what’s the difference between affirmations and intentions?  They are marriage partners, first cousins, Batman + Robin!  Affirmations are basically spoken intentions.  They are the daily statements we declare over our lives based on our intentions.  They help you course correct when you tend to wander.  Affirmations and intentions are the power combo to creating the life of your dreams!  Add in specific actions, prayer and a vision board then WATCH OUT– you are destined for success!

THIS WEEK I WILL….

  1. Really think about what I want.
  2. Make up my mind already.
  3. Stop hemming + hawing.
  4. Set intentions for 2014.
  5. Share my intentions with a trusting friend.
  6. Join or create a mastermind group.
  7. Act as if my goals/intentions are here now.
  8. Step out of fear into faith.
  9. Open myself to receive success.
  10. Pray for guidance.
  11. Claim that I am destined for..and deserve the life of my dreams!

What are your intentions for 2014?

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REMINDER: I will be taking new mentoring/coaching clients in January. If you are serious about committing and investing in yourself, please take advantage of my offer of COMPLIMENTARY 15 MINUTE SKYPE OR PHONE CONSULTATIONS through Wed, Jan 15th. If you are interested, please feel out the contact form on the SERVICES PAGE. Those who take advantage of this January consultation will receive a 25% discount on all packages or single sessions. *If you are not committed to your personal growth, a coach or mentor will not help you. Again, serious inquiries only!

I INTEND ON HAVING AN AMAZING YEAR!

Join me.

Love, Tiff

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Celebrate Every Tiny Success {SUNDAY AFFIRMATIONS}

HAPPY SUNDAY SISTAS!

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Today is the halfway mark of Dec. Can you believe it? We have 2 more weeks of 2013 and yesterday, I found myself heading down that slippery slope of negative thinking about a few goals I didn’t quite complete this year. When my mind begins heading in the gutter like this- I know it is a signal to check in with myself, get quiet, plug into my Spiritual practice and get refocused on God’s Plan for my life. It’s also productive to read back over your journal to see how far you’ve come.  Instead of dwelling on the marks I missed, I began celebrating the marks I hit and hit right in the bullseye! Woop! But, our mind plays tricks on us and we so easily dwell on our shortcomings. If you have been beating yourself up about not fulfilling certain 2013 goals- STOP TODAY!

Start focusing on your triumphs and it will reignite your confidence!

Perhaps you didn’t lose the last 10 pounds of your 30 pound weightloss goal, BUT you paid off that credit card finally. Woop Woop!  Celebrate your financial freedom and simply set the 10 pound weightloss goal. Evaluate WHY you didn’t lose those 10 pounds and make adjustments. Did you start slacking with your workout program? Maybe you stopped drinking enough water and started reaching for the sodas again? It is a new day and soon it will be a New Year! Reset the goals you missed and let go of the guilt or shame associated with it! 

This week I will….

  1. Tune out the holiday distractions + get quiet.
  2. Replay the goals I hit in 2013.
  3. Reset -with enthusiasm- any goals I missed.
  4. Stop beating myself up + show myself some love.
  5. Refuse to allow my mind to slide into the gutter.
  6. Celebrate every success no matter how small.
  7. Give myself a clean slate.
  8. Pray for God’s Will + Purpose to be revealed in my life.
  9. Let go of the guilt + shame.
  10. Make adjustments that are realistic + doable.
  11. Hold my head up high + MAKE MYSELF PROUD!

What 3 affirmations really resonated with you?

Always love hearing your thoughts.

Please like, + share this post with your friends if you think they need the inspiration!

Have a Fabulous Final Few Weeks of 2013.

Love, Tiff

HELLO NOVEMBER: Thanks + Gratitude

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Holiday season is upon us. Are you gearing up for some downtime with family and friends?  I love this time of year because everyone is getting in the holiday spirit and our attention is turned toward family and the important things in life.  Thanksgiving reminds us how fortunate we are and to give thanks for our blessings although my philosophy is we should live in a constant state of giving thanks, not just in November. 

What is your level of thanks + gratitude on a daily basis?  

Do you find yourself complaining about what you don’t have more often than you give thanks for what you do have?  Living with an ‘attitude of gratitude’ truly leads to a peaceful, joyful and abundant life!   This is an attitude adjustment I have been working on for the past 12-15 years or so and still struggle with it from time-to-time! (Especially when I’m PMS’ing.  Ladies, who’s with me?  I can work myself into a hissy fit of complaining when it’s that time of the month! God help Aaron!) 

My intention is always great first thing in the morning and I whisper “thank you” right when my feet hit the ground.  I also have a serious morning prayer practice and make it a habit of thanking God for all the things I’m grateful for before I give Him a to-do list for the day! LOL.  Then, as the day goes on, with it’s trials and circumstances, we can fall down that slippery slope of griping, moaning and complaining if we’re not careful.  The important thing to remember is you get MORE of what you focus on.  If we focus and complain about the things we don’t have, it keeps us in a prison of lack which is of our own creation.   We all have the key!  A simple flip of your ‘mental switch’ can change everything.  The minute you catch yourself about to gripe about what you don’t have…[STOP] and immediately think of a moment that brought you tremendous happiness.  You will literally feel your energy shift in that moment.  Then start meditating on all the blessings in your life! One of the first tools I teach my lifestyle mentoring clients is to start a daily gratitude list. This tool is highly effective in flipping the switch. If this is an area you struggle with, I encourage you to take a look at the 21 Days of Gratitude FREE online event which starts tomorrow. It could be life-changing! Go to ….

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THIS WEEK I WILL….

  1. Gage my level of gratitude + thanksgiving daily.
  2. Shut myself up before allowing a complaint to slip out of my mouth.
  3. Allow myself to indulge w/o guilt. (extra piece of pumpkin pie anyone?)
  4. Tell myself “thanks girl, you’re awesome!”
  5. Let go of any scarcity mindsets because there is always more than enough.
  6. Stop taking things for granted like my hot bath + all those shoes I never wear.
  7. Realize how fortunate I really am. (key part of the word= FORTUNE)
  8. Start a gratitude journal + watch the abundance begin to flow.
  9. Send a random “thank you for being my friend” text to a friend across the miles.
  10. Never  underestimate the power of those 2 little words, “thank you” even for the smallest of acts or favors.
  11. Do something for someone less fortunate. (It doesn’t have to be feeding the homeless. Perhaps a girlfriend is short on grocery money this month. Have her meet you at the grocery store and pay for her basket full.)

I want to thank YOU for being part of SOS.  We’re on this ‘growth journey’ together and I’m truly grateful for your love + support.

Love,

Tiff

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GREAT MINDS DON’T GOSSIP {Sunday Affirmations}

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HAPPY SUNDAY SISTAS!

Do you find yourself powerless and easily lured in to gossip? What’s up with that? There are so many layers to gossip, but let’s cut through the layers and call it what it is…. an ugly and destructive activity. The people I surround myself with do not participate in this lower level activity, but every once in a while, there’s someone who starts spewing that ugly diarrhea of the mouth. This happened recently and it gave me the heebie jeebies. Immediately, I felt uncomfortable and what’s even more uncomfortable is having to confront it and say, “I don’t feel comfortable discussing this”. The fear of confrontation is probably one of the biggest reasons we find ourselves sucked in to gossip. Also, people enjoy the “connection” they feel when they all join in on the people bashing. They feel part of the group, especially in a work/office atmosphere. Human nature is so funny like that. Bottom line is, gossipers are just insecure and find they lift themselves up by putting others down or airing other peoples dirty laundry. Reality is they are not lifting themselves up, but instead they are losing the respect of those around them. 

I’m not saying I’m Miss Perfect Polly and of course, I have participated in my fair share of gossiping, but several years ago- after spending a lot of time with a few hardcore gossipers- God revealed to me that this destructive activity would block my blessings. I’m sorry, but I need all the blessings I can get! How about you? It brings to mind the simple principle of The Golden Rule. Treat others as you wish to be treated. You don’t want others going around airing your bizzzness or bashing you- so why would you do it to others? 

HOW DO YOU HANDLE SOMEONE’S VOCAL DIARRHEA?

Let’s define it: Gossip is casual or unconstrained conversation or reports about other people, typically involving details that are not confirmed as being true. (YUCK!) 

That’s why I love the above quote by E.R. ‘Nuff said! When you get together with friends, what do you find to be the topic of conversations? Women need to unite and lift one another up instead of constantly comparing and tearing each other down. It seems no matter how old we get, there’s always that sense of the cliques we dealt with in high school. If you find this is an issue in your life and it’s weighing you down, SISTA– it’s time to set yourself apart and live with more integrity. You will soar in life, unleash more blessings and enjoy more freedom. Being an eagle and rising above can feel lonely at times, but really- who wants to be in the henhouse pecking around in all that bird shizzle! Just sayin’.

THIS WEEK I WILL…..

  1. Focus on living by The Golden Rule.
  2. Lift others up with my words + actions.
  3. Not participate in gossip no matter how harmless it seems.
  4. Regain my power in this area!
  5. Discuss creative ideas not people.
  6. Put duct tape over my mouth if I have to.
  7. Not be afraid of confrontation. I will do the right thing!
  8. Be an encourager.
  9. Not block my blessings!
  10. Soar with the eagles instead of pecking with the chickens.
  11. Surround myself with other eagles!

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I would love to hear your thoughts!

Fly high this week sistas! 

Love, Tiff

PEACEFUL IS POWERFUL {Sunday Affirmations}

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Happy Sunday Sistas!

Do you notice how so many things seem to go wrong when you are frazzled? It begins with burning yourself with the curling iron which makes you run late for work. Then, to add to the time crunch, you’re running around the house like a banshee looking for your keys. You speed out of the driveway and get ticked at every driver you pass who may actually be going the speed limit, but to you- it’s like they are trying to personally sabotage your day. You enter your place of work with an intense anxiety that has built up like Mt. St. Helens. WATCH OUT! Whoever crosses your path may get a dose of your hot lava! Your frenetic energy creates tension wherever you go. Your lack of peace is like a repellent and people steer clear of you. Your power is gone. 

WHAT WENT WRONG?

Do you hit the snooze button several times then barely have time to put on your makeup? What’s better… that extra 15 minutes of sleep or getting up on time and starting your day in peace and walking out of the house confidently? Do you look at your phone or check emails first thing in the morning? You know how that goes… you get an email from your drama queen co-worker which throws you into a tailspin before you even have your first cup of coffee. Are you allowing your kid’s cranky morning mood to set the tone for your day? Perhaps- all of the above? Sista- this is no way to live!

GET YOUR POWER BACK!

I lived my life in a continuous tailspin for years and got a bad case of ulcers from it. When you aren’t at peace, there is this constant rumbling in your spirit as if the dormant volcano is about to come to life at any moment. WHO FEELS ME? I made poor decisions when I was frazzled. I used the wrong tone of voice with people…which is SO not pretty. Being frazzled is not being FABULOUS. I gave my peace away…I gave my POWER away…and allowed others to control my emotional state. NO MORE!

It took years of reprogramming and changing my ways. From starting the day in prayer/journaling, giving myself plenty of time to get dressed and not allowing other’s emotions to trip me up- I can handle the day from a place of power instead of a place of anxiety, stress and turmoil. Of course, there are days that peace seems impossible to find and the banschee comes out in me and yep, I usually blame it on PMS…don’t you? (wink)

THIS WEEK I WILL….

  1. Recover from my addiction to the snooze button.
  2. Give gratitude for the day as soon as one eye opens in the AM.
  3. Be FAB not frazzled.
  4. Cherish myself with a moment of quiet before checking the phone.
  5. Not allow others to steal my peace…not even my kids!
  6. Stop the internal volcano by dousing it with a big helping of tranquility.
  7. Give myself plenty of time to get dressed.
  8. Say ba-bye to my banshee.
  9. Free myself from the control of others. It’s my choice! 
  10. Surrender + remember God is in control.
  11. Handle everything that comes my way because I am POWERFUL!

 

Did this resonate with you? I would love to hear your thoughts.

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Cheers to a peaceful + powerful week!

Love, Tiff