GET OFF YOUR LAZY BOOTIE: 2 Steps To Changing Habits

 

Breaking bad habits

“Your beliefs become your thoughts, 
Your thoughts become your words,
Your words become your actions,
Your actions become your habits, 
Your habits become your values, 
Your values become your destiny.” 

― Mahatma Gandhi

 

Hey Hey Beautiful!

It’s the first day of December and I’ve started my end-of-year ritual of reflection and introspection. With exactly 30 days left in 2016 and 2017 around the corner, it’s easy to go into freak out mode because we may have missed the mark and didn’t achieve all that we had planned for the year. I admit, I felt a mini panic coming on yesterday so I forced myself to reflect on how much I did achieve. It’s all about what you focus on! 2016 was a BIG year for my husband and I, but how easily do we focus on what we didn’t get done. Today, I awoke with a better perspective and look forward to the new opportunities 2017 will offer.

Over the next month, I challenge you to reflect on how the past year turned out, before jumping into something new.

Think about this… your life this past year has been a result of all of your habits, both good and bad. (OUCH!!)

And the habits you decide to eliminate, change, and improve upon will ultimately determine your level of success in 2017.

Now ask yourself this…

What habits are keeping you from achieving your goals and becoming the person you want to be?

I really want you to be honest with yourself and think about this. For example: I admit, due to building my brand myself without a team (getting a team together is one of my 2017 goals) I spend too much time on social media. It’s been a challenge to schedule my social media time.  I always plan to post content and get off, BUT how often do we see a post that leads us to whatever is tagged then you go over to that account and on and on. Yikes, you’ve lost 30 minutes and you could have used that time to get in that cardio you’ve been meaning to do. Who feels me? Another example of a habit I need to change– getting in enough cardio! I swear, I talk to myself sometimes and say, “Tiff get off your lazy a$$”.  Seriously.

I’ve been diving into great books and listening to my favorite motivators and thought leaders. This morning I opened this email from Jack Canfield and was absolutely meant to read his latest blog– see below. Thought you would enjoy the kick in the bootie too!

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The reality is that you – and the life you lead today – are the result of your habits. Changing habits can seem difficult to accomplish at first, but success is a result of your habits.

If you think about it, you’re living out your habits every day. From how early you get out of bed, to your morning routine, how you dress, walk, exercise, interact with others and even what you habitually think about and how you respond to the world.

These habits got you to where you are today…

The fact is that habits are necessary. They free up your mind so you can concentrate on how to survive day to day. For instance, you don’t have to think about how to drive your car – which allows you instead to be on the lookout for danger while you’re driving.

Unfortunately, habits can also keep you locked in self-destructive patterns, which limit your success. Becoming successful is a result of changing habits. You’ll need to eliminate bad habits and develop new ones that are in alignment with the life you want to live.

The life you want to live won’t just materialize one day… your habits determine your outcomes!

What is Keeping You From Achieving Your Goals?

What are the habits that you live with every day that are keeping you from achieving your goals?

What habits are keeping you from achieving your goals?

I encourage you to be really honest with yourself here…

  • Are you always running late?
  • Do you forget to return phone calls within 24 hours?
  • Do you stay up late and never get enough sleep?
  • Do you often break promises to your friends and family?
  • Do you resist planning out your day?
  • Do you spend money you don’t have?
  • Do you avoid putting important tasks and events in your calendar?
  • Do you drink alcohol more than once a week – and do you have more than two drinks per day?

Imagine the Result of You Changing Habits

  • What would your life be like if you ate healthy meals, exercised and got enough sleep?
  • What if you saved your money, stopped using credit cards, and paid cash for everything?
  • What if you stopped procrastinating, overcame your fears, and began networking with people in your field?
  • What if you created a detailed annual plan for success – then chunked it down into monthly, weekly, and daily plans to ensure you stayed on track to achieving your goals?

Would your life be different if you changed your habits? I bet it would!

The 2 Steps to Changing Habits

My suggested action step for you is to write down some productive habits you couldvisualize, then adopt in your life. Step two is to ‘act as if’ you were living these new habits right now!

To help you get moving toward creating more successful habits right away, I’d like to recommend that you develop four new success habits each year, one for each quarter.

Once you determine the new habit you’re ready to adopt, next you’ll want to create a method that will support your new habit.

Here are some ideas to get you started:

  • You could write it down on a card that you keep with you and read several times a day.
  • You could make it a part of your daily visualization.
  • You could also enlist the help of an accountability partner who has habits they also want to change, or work with a personal coach who can keep you on track.

Make a 100% Commitment to You New Habit

It’s important to make a 100% commitment to your new habit, so be specific about the steps that you’re willing to take in order to drop an old habit and adopt a new one. Don’t be vague about how you will change your habits. Spell it out for yourself so you can put yourself in situations that will motivate you to act upon your new habit.

Just developing four good habits a year will dramatically shift your life to be more in line with achieving your vision. And the more focused you are, the easier your other, not-so-good habits will be to replace. Your perspective will shift and you’ll see more clearly how your old habits just aren’t serving you anymore.

Make the decision. Make the commitment. Then watch your new, positive life unfold!

I want to leave you with a bit of homework to complete after you’re done reading. Write down the four habits that you want to develop over the next year. Make a 100% commitment to each of your new habits and watch great things happen.

Leave a comment below and tell me which new habit you have in mind to develop first.

Changing habits in 2017 starts with a fresh set of goals using my 12-Month Success Planner. I designed this planner to help you plan exactly how to tackle daily challenges and achieve your goals. Use it to get a jump on the new year.

To your new habits in 2017,

Jack Canfield


Jack Canfield, America’s #1 Success Coach, is founder of the billion-dollar book brand Chicken Soup for the Soul® and a leading authority on Peak Performance and Life Success. If you’re ready to jump-start your life, make more money, and have more fun and joy in all that you do, get FREE success tips from Jack Canfield now at: www.FreeSuccessStrategies.com

FOCUS. DECIDE. GO FOR IT. Your March Pep Talk From Tiff [Candid Vlog]

Hey Sista,

The vlog says it all.

WATCH THIS>>>

What part do you need to work on? Focusing? Making a decision already? Going bigger?

Love to hear how your first 2 months of 2015 have been!

MARCH IS GOING TO ROCK!

Love, Tiff

As A Woman Thinketh, So Is She

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Every word spoken and action taken – all begins with a thought. We mold and design our lives with the way we think. Our thoughts have both creative and destructive power.

Are you creating the life of your dreams or do you sabotage and destroy anything good that comes your way?

What are the dominant thoughts you have toward yourself?

Regardless if we are conscious of it or not, our underlying beliefs about ourself shape our character, our health, our appearance, our relationships, our circumstances, and our destiny. No matter what their age, self-love is a sensitive subject with the women I mentor. Too many women are living life with a deep sense of hatred, shame and disappointment toward themselves. The choices we make, the men we date, our level of passion and purpose are all a product of either loving or hating ourselves.

What do you really think about you?

Since the beginning of SOS, I’ve shared how throughout my 20’s I lived in shame, fear and brokenness. I was trying my best to carry a ton of baggage that nearly broke my spirit all while appearing like I had it all together. I know many of you relate. Women are numbing themselves with dangerous things that appear to be harmless like self- medicating with alcohol, prescription meds, shopping and food. I know, I did it all.

Most of my decisions and actions came from a negative viewpoint of myself. I was not conscious of my thought patterns at all and would wallow in anxiety, complaining and misery. When I was tired of wallowing, I would numb myself. It’s simple – if we think high, noble and pure thoughts our lives will go that direction. On the opposite hand, if we think lowly, dark and hateful thoughts- well, you get the picture. It took years to realize I had to begin by forgiving myself for some of the stupid choices I made.

I did not think very highly of me. 

Because my mind was so polluted, it took a lot of work and God’s Love & Grace to clear it out. It reminds me of a car that has been smoked in for years. Yuck! It takes so much work and fumigating to clear it out and there’s always that tiny bit of residual smoke smell. So, you’re always spraying perfumes and hanging deodorants to mask the smell. My mind needed serious fumigating to get rid of the pollution I had accumulated over the years.

Love really was the ultimate fumigation system. My broken, shame-ridden heart had to be so filled with love again that it squeezed out all the pollution in my mind. Psalm 23:7 is a short, but profound verse, “For as a man thinks in his heart, so is he”. Get it? The verse is referring to the heart thinking when we typically view our mind as the starting point of our thoughts. God loved me all along, but I didn’t realize it. I had to learn to receive it.

The truth that you cherish about yourself in your heart (your private thoughts) create the vision in your mind then determines what you become.

Loving yourself and allowing God’s Love into your life is the foundation of you becoming who you are destined to be. What can you begin doing today to fumigate any lingering pollution? M. Scott Peck, M.D. – author of The Road Less Traveled describes self-love so clearly. “Self-love implies the care, respect and responsibility for the knowledge of the self. Without loving one’s self one cannot love others. But do not confuse self-love with self-centeredness.” 

  • Begin with forgiving yourself.
  • Take better care of your basic needs. Eat & sleep well, exercise, interact in healthy activities.
  • Set healthy boundaries in your relationships.
  • Learn to say no.
  • Live with intention & purpose. 

LET THE LOVE IN.

Xo, Tiff

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No Whiners Allowed on SOS!

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Happy Weekend Sistas,

How was your first week of November? I am loving getting to experience an actual Fall and the change of seasons for the first time in many years. In LA, it still feels like Summer at this time of year. If you’re active on the SOS Facebook Page – you know I am posting 30 Days of Gratitude this month. Everyday I am sharing one thing I am grateful for. The intention for this exercise is to recalibrate our thinking, our level of joy and how we approach life. Please join us and if not, I encourage you to focus on your level of gratitude and thanksgiving on your own –  especially if you’ve allowed the busyness of life to keep you in a mode of complaining & whining. 

Be honest…

On a daily basis, do you find yourself living consistently in an attitude of gratitude or in the opposite realm of seeing the negative in everything and then complaining & whining about it? 

I am the first person to admit that I battled negative thinking for years. You could have called me Tiffany ‘Moan & Groan’ Hendra! Just like positivity, negativity and complaining is contagious. If you are raised around complainers, typically you will grow up complaining too. This is why it is vital to be conscious of the people you surround yourself with. I’ve mentioned the importance of gratitude several times on the blog and in my candid video blogs on my YouTube Channel. This is because I believe with every fiber of my being that living in a state of gratitude is life-changing. One of the first things I have my private coaching/mentoring clients begin doing daily is to create a gratitude list. It’s amazing how quick someone’s life can change when they realize how blessed they are. 

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 SOS is all about guiding and instigating changes we need to make in order to be the best women we can be. When I created SOS, I wanted it to empower women on many levels not just with beauty and fashion tips. Let’s face it, if you are resonating in a place of ingratitude – no amount of lipgloss or Louis Vuitton’s will bring you true joy.

Your outer reality corresponds to your inner reality! Gratitude creates a miraculous and beautiful inner reality that radiates outward. Then, our outer reality will inevitably change for the better.

Therefore, no whiners or negative Nellie’s are allowed on this internet real estate! It reminds me of that great saying Oprah has on a sign when you enter her office, “Please take responsibility for the energy you bring into this space”. Make sure to join us on the Facebook Page this month and together, we will raise our level of joy and blaze into 2015 with a beautiful, radiant, peaceful & powerful outer reality. Our light will shine brighter than ever and remember, the world needs YOUR unique light.

Never forget that! 

Love, Tiff

 

 

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Today, I’m grateful for my sis and that I get to be a big sister! Like most siblings, we’ve fought like cats & dogs and had the typical growing pains- but our bond keeps getting stronger & stronger as we get older. Natalie aka NatCat is a powerful soul and bright light in this world. I’m so proud of her! WHO ELSE IS GRATEFUL FOR THEIR SISTER (sibling) TODAY? 

#30daysofgratitude

 

FEELING STUCK? {New Candid Video}

Happy Sunday Sistas!

Transition.

New Chapter.

Change of Season.

These topics are being discussed quite a bit right now among my friends and colleagues. During a powerwalk yesterday, I was pondering why some people stay stuck and why other’s move toward change with boldness. I decided to share my thoughts in a Vlog…

  1. Make Up Your Mind: What do you really want? Make a decision and stop with the back & forth.
  2. Create A Strategy: What steps can you take every day, every week to making the change happen?
  3. Visualize The End Result: We are really searching for the “feeling” we get from attaining a goal/dream. See yourself already having made the change.

 

LET ME KNOW YOUR THOUGHTS.

Love, Tiff 

 

 

Negative Nellie, shut up girl!

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We all remember the blonde ringlets and sour attitude of Nellie Oleson on “Little House on the Prairie”.  Do you feel like you wake up with her persona some mornings for no apparent reason?  What’s up with that?  It could be hormones, a bad dream, carrying over yesterday’s worries into today or simply….you woke up on the wrong side of the bed.  I felt like that today.   I had a beautiful day yesterday.  No particular drama or stress.  Then, out of the blue– BAM– I woke up to Negative Nellie’s reflection in the mirror.  Ugh.   I quickly go to all my tools to SHUT HER UP FAST!   Have you honed your tools to keep this sour attitude under control when she rears her ugly head?

Here’s my tips:

1. RECOGNIZE.  First, we cannot confront what we do not acknowledge or recognize.  As I wiped the sleep from my eyes and focused on the fact that Miss Negative Nellie made an appearance this morning, I said to myself- Ok, here we go.  Bring it on girlfriend.  You will NOT control my entire day.  (I’m sounding like a crazy lady here, but I know I cannot be the only one who deals with this.  Therefore, I share my struggles in order to help you.)

2. GET QUIET…then shut her up!  Instead of running to the phone or computer to see who’s called or emailed first thing in the morning, be still and quiet with yourself.  Go lock yourself in your room or the bathroom if the kids are running around the house.  You deserve this time to regain peace and get your day started right.

3. PRAY.  Ask for guidance, clarity and help.  Pray for any blocks, worries, frustrations or anger to be removed.  Casting your cares on God means you do not have to carry it all by yourself. How awesome is that?!?  Woohoo!

4. WRITE IT OUT.  I started journaling about 12-13 years ago and it’s a beautiful, cathartic exercise to get your thoughts out of your head.  This morning when Negative Nellie tried to test my self-worth and confidence, I put pen to paper and started writing out the things I appreciated about myself.  From my compassionate heart to my quirky artistic nature, I wrote down all the things that made me unique and then thanked God for creating me this way.  I highly recommend doing this exercise on a regular basis.  It’s a powerful confidence building tool!

5. GO HAVE A GREAT DAY.   We can be our own worst enemies especially when we wake up to Negative Nellie instead of Positive Polly.  It’s all in our power who will win and control our day.  Make the choice to shut her up and declare, “Today is going to be a great day”!

Do you have any great tips for shutting up your Negative Nellie? 

Please share, tweet, like or comment.

Now that my cameraman is back in town, we will be starting on a fabulous Spring Style Series of webisodes.  Since I provide these videos to all of you for free, I can only tape when I’m not busy with my coaching clients or booked hosting other projects and when my rocker hubby is available, of course.  I’m so blessed to have his help and support.  Thank you for your patience. 

Cheers to making it a GREAT DAY!

Love, Tiff

Prayer, Positivity + Patent Leather

Happy Humpday Hotstuff!  Today’s post has a dash of everything to jazz up your heart-space, your mind and your wardrobe!  Ready? Let’s get started….

For the past few weeks I’ve felt a beautiful shift and the urgency to go even deeper in my Spiritual life. I feel like a Spiritual Sponge and want to soak up new teachings, ideas, tools and practices in order to keep growing and understanding my true purpose and what God has planned for me.  I believe we are a “work-in-progress” until we take our final breath and there’s still so many old mindsets from the past that I wish to overcome and concepts that no longer serve me and my highest good.  Woohoo for outgrowing old mindsets!  It’s a liberating time as well as a challenging one and many times, we get bogged down in the complexity of it all.  I often judge myself and over -analyze what I’m thinking.  But, the truth is…it is all quite simple.  We need to just open our hearts, be like a little innocent child and then just LISTEN.  Have you felt what I’m describing?   All of these concepts are brilliantly taught by one of my fave Spiritual teachers, Marianne Williamson.  She has a gift for articulating profound Spiritual principles into easy-to-comprehend teachings to apply to your life.  I recently watched older episodes of her appearances on the  “The Best of The Oprah Show”  on OWN and I highly recommend that you do yourself a favor and watch it!  Life-changing.  I have read many of Marianne’s books and they are the type you need to read every few years.  I wanted to share this beautiful Morning Prayer from her book, ILLUMINATA.  If you struggle with getting your day started right and then continuing to come from a place of Love VS. Fear throughout the day, I encourage you to print this out and read it every morning:

Dear God,
I give this day to You.
May my mind stay centered on the things of spirit.
May I not be tempted to stray from love.
As I begin this day, I open to receive You.
Please enter where You already abide.
May my mind and heart be pure and true, and may I not deviate from the things of goodness.
May I see the love and innocence in all mankind, behind the masks we all wear and the illusions of this worldly plane.
I surrender to You my doings this day.
I ask only that they serve You and the healing of the world.
May I bring Your love and goodness with me, to give unto others wherever I go.
Make me the person You would have me be.
Direct my footsteps, and show me what You would have me do.
Make the world a safer, more beautiful place.
Bless all Your creatures.
Heal us all, and use me, dear Lord, that I might know the joy of being used by You.
Amen.

Here’s a candid video sharing my thoughts on not beating yourself up if you have negative thoughts– because they can actually be a GREAT MOTIVATOR!

Quick style tip to keep in mind when you start shopping for new fall items: Rock patent leather preferably in the Burgundy, Wine + Red family!  Either a great jacket, boots or handbag will jazz up your wardrobe for Fall 2012!

Please invite your girlfriends to join the Style Sisterhood!  We are all growing and getting more fabulous together.

Walk Tall.  Be Unapologetic for Your Fabulous-ness.

Love Yourself.

xo, Tiff