LIFESTYLE SERIES WEEK #4: Prayer Before Pills

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[DISCLAIMER]

Before anyone freaks out about me discussing my stint with antidepressants, I am fully aware that many people truly need them for chemical imbalances and psychological issues. I respect anyone who seeks help and receives proper  treatment. My experience was with doctors who rather just put you on a pill instead of giving you healthy lifestyle options. That is all I’m offering here. The options that have worked for me, but that doesn’t mean they work for everyone.  

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Here we go…week # 4 is the most important tip I have shared so far in the SOS journey. In the beginning, I wasn’t confident enough to share this probably for fear of being judged, but now I’m all about transparency in order to help others. What I have found on this healing journey is women who “have lost themselves” or “want something that’s all their own” or “feel unfulfilled” have disconnected from their own spirit and from God. Throughout my 20’s, this is exactly what my issue was. I was spinning my wheels trying to fulfill myself with my career, building my resume, being a size 2, dating the wrong guys and wanting more money, money, money.

After hitting rock bottom and crying out to God, I implemented this morning ritual into my life and it changed everything. Starting to learn to love myself, reconnect with God, finding peace and controlling the mind crank was so important to me that I was willing to do whatever I needed to do to achieve it– especially without RX medication.  Back at that time, Aaron was working construction and got up for work at 4:30am so it was easy to get up with him. I get it– some people just aren’t morning people, but even just devoting 10-15 minutes to getting your peace on and focusing on a prayer of gratitude will completely change your life. Again, this is what worked for me. That doesn’t mean you have to to the exact same ritual. Many women I coach have fit their “God appointment” into their routine after they have taken the kids to school and have a quieter home.

From my heart to yours…

In our generation, we have so many great resources at our fingertips. On mornings I don’t feel like reading, I may watch an empowering message on YouTube or listen to a podcast. Remember, find what works for you, what captures your attention and gets down into your spirit. Do more of that!

Thank you for allowing me to feel safe enough to be transparent here.

Share with a friend who you feel needs this message.

Holding your hand. Giving you a hug.

 

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HAPPY IS ON THE HORIZON: My 2016 Prayer For You

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Photo taken by me in Santa Monica. One of the highlights of 2015- going back to California for the first time since our move.

Sista, my prayer for you:

May every single day of 2016  be filled with the wonder of God’s special love for you.

I pray for your happiness, but also for a greater sense of fulfillment in your career and purpose, an ease of communication with those you love, and a sense of satisfaction in all that you have accomplished. Above all, may you rest secure in the knowing of God’s presence. Regardless of how lonely you feel or how difficult a situation- you are never alone. 

I pray for you to be happy and expectant about what is on the horizon in 2016.

I pray for smiles and love.

I pray for friends that are true and authentic.

I pray for kindness and compassion.

I pray for unexpected moments of joy and laughter.

I pray for you to be at peace. 

I pray you walk taller and shine brighter in the new year. I pray you shake off any self-defeating thoughts and truly own your beauty.  I pray you are healthy and whole- body, mind and spirit. I pray you stay spiritually centered.

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Sista, I am grateful you are on this journey with me and I picked up my favorite scented candle by Voluspa in honor of this final blog post of 2015. I lit it and wrote this prayer for you tonight.

May God keep you in touch with all that you are and all that you are meant to become. May you have the strength and discernment to remove any toxic person who does not celebrate and encourage the woman you are becoming. Keep believing. Keep moving forward. In His mighty name, Amen.

What are your goals and plans for 2016?

Share + Comment.

Love, 

Tiff

 

 

Cancer VS Suicide: Team Angels Won by Christine Handy

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Christine & a few of her angels, today! 

It wasn’t until I was diagnosed with breast cancer and completed my chemotherapies and surgeries before I felt full inside. I felt loved in a way I didn’t even know existed. I found the Holy Spirit through the teachings by my team of friends that we called my “team of angels!”

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The first days of my diagnosis I was set on suicide. In my mind I felt unworthy of the time and devotion I knew it would take for my family and friends to care for me. I was coming off an already brutal health problem and I felt like I had used up my “reserves” of care from my husband, parents and friends. I was ashamed to ask for more and yet I knew I couldn’t care for my 2 sons while fighting breast cancer. I believed everyone would be better off without me and without the intensity of my health pressures. I rationalized that decision and it made sense at that moment in time.

Then came my angels.

My friends rallied around me and made me believe the truth, Gods Truth. I was worthy and God loved me so much that He knew every hair on my head. The hairs before chemotherapy and each one as it grew back. I became overwhelmed with love, devotion and care by not only my family but my friends. They became my “team of angels”! And they were.

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Christine’s hair began falling out in the shape of a cross! 

I asked many of my friends why they gave up so much to help me. They gave up their time with their own families to care for mine. They gave up their lives in so many ways for my secured health and well being. And through their faith and teachings, I came to realize why.

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They did it for God, the Glory of God. Those woman didn’t want thanks, they didn’t care about the thank you cards , they taught me that the thanks went to The Lord.

I don’t know about you, but being raised a Christian doesn’t guarantee learning the principles that these woman taught me.

They taught me that my life was important and that I was worthy.

They taught me to give all my worries to The Lord .

They showed me what to serve really looks like even in a society that wants to take all the praise and the credit.

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They not only saved my life they taught me how to live. I went from giving up when I was diagnosed to fighting for my life with their help. I believe God put those woman in my life to change me, refine me and save me.

I am cancer free and love my life. I am never alone, I have the Spirit inside me. The terrors of diagnosis and the fears that come with it are devastating. But my life and my story are bigger than that day I was diagnosed, October 1 st , 2012. God has a plan for me that’s so great. There are days and nights where I feel doubt or fear but I remember my faithful angels and how they modeled the Truth for me.

My fears go away and I pray and feel comforted.

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My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends. You are my friends if you do what I command. I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master’s business. Instead, I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from my Father I have made known to you. You did not choose me, but I chose you and appointed you so that you might go and bear fruit—fruit that will last—and so that whatever you ask in my name the Father will give you.  This is my command: Love each other.

SHARE THE PRAYER!

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Our Father who art in heaven, hallowed be Thy name,

Thy kingdom come,

Thy will be done, on earth as it is in heaven,

give us this day our daily bread and forgive us our trespasses as

we forgive those who trespass against us and lead us not into temptation,

 but deliver us from evil, for Thine is the kingdom and the power

and the glory, now and forever Amen.

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Hello Fab Friends,

Today, I invite you to join me in prayer.  Regardless of your Faith– we can all join as sisters and brothers in prayer.  It is truly powerful and I had to share this email prayer I received a few weeks ago.  My heart was touched and I trust yours will be too!  I thought it was fitting to share this prayer on Memorial weekend.  Let us unite in sending love and prayers to all the families who have lost a loved one while serving our country.  We honor them all by bowing our heads in gratitude for their sacrifice.

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It shall be well with you the remainder of the year. No matter how much your enemies try this year, they will not succeed.
 You have been DESTINED to make it and you shall surely achieve all your goals this year.


Your agonies will be diverted and victory and prosperity will be incoming in abundance.  Today, God has confirmed the end of your sufferings sorrows because He will take away your hardships and give you JOY.  He will never let you down.
 Just ask, believe and receive.

Let’s pray for one another and continue to ask for Gods Will to be done here on earth.

GOD LOVES YOU!

  
He has seen you struggling with something and He says it is over. 

Blessings are coming your way!

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Love, Tiff

What do you INTEND to do? {Sunday Affirmations}

Happy Sunday Sweet Friends!

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Here’s a video message from the beach…

 

Are you wondering what it means to set an intention?  I believe it’s basically making up your mind what you want.  Yes, it sounds simple, but like I mentioned in a post last week– it’s powerful when we get clear, get focused and make up our minds.  Then, the real power is in the follow through.  I also believe we are setting intentions when we pray and share with God what we want a desired outcome to be.  Let’s look at intentions without follow through.  How often do we say things like…Oh, I intended to call youOh, it was my intention to lose 5 lbs before summer…I’m sorry I hurt your feelings it was not my intent??  It feels pretty crappy, right?  Let’s get to following through, shall we?  My hubby and I have had a somewhat challenging few months so I made up my mind that no matter what– May was going to be amazing!

I see the word intention as a fancy name for GOAL– but, with an added oomph of Spiritual Power behind it.  Without intentions for our life, we tend to wander.  If you feel like you have lost direction and are wandering through life, here are 5 steps to setting intentions.  It’s very important to put your Faith behind it and trust God for guidance.

  1. DECIDE.  What do you want the outcome to be?  It’s as simple as that.  Making the decision is a huge first step!
  2. WRITE IT OUT.  Make it official by writing your intentions in your journal or putting up sticky notes in places you can see them on a regular basis.  I have sticky notes on the sides of my computer monitor, bathroom mirror and fridge.  This is a powerful daily reminder to keep your thoughts going in the right direction.
  3. SHARE.  Find a trusting friend/mentor or group to hold your intentions with you.  By sharing your desired outcome with others, you create a “mastermind” of positive thoughts.  One of my favorite books is “Think and Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill.  His definition of a mastermind is– “Coordination of knowledge and effort, in a spirit of harmony between two or more people, for the attainment of a definite purpose.”  Make sure to share with those of a like-minded spirit and steer clear of anyone who may try to sabotage your goals or be unsupportive.  I’m grateful for my Spiritual women’s group.  We are like a power team of cheerleaders who not only encourage one another, but we also call each other out when the fear and whining takes over… we do so with unconditional love, of course.
  4. LIVE IT.  Act as if your outcome is here NOW!  Speak as if it’s here.  Your words and actions have a powerful effect so be mindful of what you are doing, thinking and saying.  Get committed!
  5. NEVER GIVE UP.  Period.

I know what you are thinking right now– Hey Tiff,  so what’s the difference between affirmations and intentions?  They are marriage partners, first cousins, Batman + Robin!  Affirmations are basically spoken intentions.  They are the daily statements we declare over our lives based on our intentions.  They help you course correct when you tend to wander.  Affirmations and intentions are the power combo to creating the life of your dreams!  Add in specific actions, prayer and a vision board then WATCH OUT– you are destined for success!

THIS WEEK I WILL….

  1. Really think about what I want.
  2. Make up my mind already.
  3. Stick to my decision.
  4. Set intentions.
  5. Share my intentions with a trusting friend.
  6. Join or create a mastermind group.
  7. Act as if my goals/intentions are here now.
  8. Say my life affirmations daily.
  9. Write them out and hang them in plain sight.
  10. Pray.
  11. Claim I am destined for… and deserve the life of my dreams!

What are your thoughts on this? I would love to hear.

Like, share, tweet, pin this post if you found it inspiring!

I INTEND ON HAVING AN AMAZING MONTH….AN AMAZING YEAR!

Join me.

Love, Tiff

P.S. Happy Cinco de Mayo!  I love Mexico and it holds a very special place in my heart.  If you are celebrating today- have fun, be safe, don’t drink and drive!

Are you a Goldfish?

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HAPPY FRIDAY GOLDFISH!

This simple yet profound photo impacted many on the Facebook Page so I had to share it here as well.  I LOVE IT!  Does it speak to you the way it did to me?  One of the primary messages of SOS is to be Bold + Confident and this photo represents just that.  Do you battle with your confidence?  Do you feel like that goldfish on the inside, but for some reason you find it difficult to truly own it?  Do you shrink back with all the other little blue fish for fear of being too different or being considered a ‘show off’ among your peers? 

From childhood, we are trying to ‘fit in’ and find our group.  I hung around the cheerleaders and jocks for a while, but I was really more eclectic and artsy.  The dark, outcast, artistic types were who I felt most comfortable with.  You know the guys in art class who wore Doc Martin’s and concert T’s with buzzed hair except for that one long bang that hung down over one eye.  They were my fave peeps, yet I dated one of the cutest, most popular basketball players in school.  I also played the piano in my youth group services at church.  Oh yea– and I was modeling quite a bit by my senior year.  Whoa, there were a few crazy years in high school and had to switch schools too.  AHHHH!  I was all over the place and always walked to the beat of my own drum.  Where was I suppose to fit in?  I never really knew and I am sure many of you felt the same way.

Finally, as we grow and learn to love ourselves– we realize what a waste of time and energy it is trying to fit in.  The most freeing thing in the world is to feel comfortable in your own skin.  That statement deserves a great big…….. HOLLA!!!

If you walk to the beat of your own drum, never ever apologize for it. 

If you love to wear giant earrings, bright shirts or funky hats, never apologize for it.

If you are more art class than sorority or drill team, never apologize for it.

Be confident in who you are and stop comparing yourself to your friends or the images you see in the media.  Yes, I know easier said than done.  I’ve worked in the media industry my entire life so I know how much it can devastate your confidence….if you let it.  Oh how I wish our teen girls and young women could understand this!  I wasted so many years battling low self-esteem– an entire decade in my 20’s– and I want to see our next generation of women self- assured during those fun years instead of either hiding behind a mask or shrinking back in fear.   I really want to see ALL women living a confident life!  Period.

Wishing you all a weekend full of your favorite things!  Make sure to take some time for YOU.

I realize we are being bombarded with the news coverage of the horrible recent events (luckily I don’t have cable), but I feel in my heart to give you all a simple reminder to pray. Pray for Boston. Pray for Texas. Pray for the World.  In these uncertain times, one thing I do know is certain… God hears our prayers.

Love, Tiff

LET GO ALREADY. GIVE IT UP! {Sunday Affirmations}

HELLO GORGEOUS!

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During my prayer and meditation yesterday, images came to mind of my former self.  It brought tears to my eyes to see how much God has transformed me.  I was one messed up chick and I still have a long way to go, but I can also acknowledge how far I’ve come!  Who relates?  This is one of the only times I believe it is healthy to look back in the past.  It builds our confidence to see how much we’ve grown and overcome.  When we embark on the path of growth and healing there are MANY things we  have to give up and let go of in order to allow the new and improved behaviors to emerge.  I truly believe this is an ongoing process until the day we die. (Who’s in for the long haul?)   There are attitudes and behaviors that seem to be like “safety mechanisms” we fall back on which really do not serve our highest good.  We outgrow them, but for some reason we tend to want to keep a hold of them.  WHY?  Because we are habitual beings?  We fear change?  Can you think of a few things you need to let go of today?  Why do we hold on to them for so long when giving them up will ultimately SET US FREE?!?! 

Over the past year or so, I have been focusing on my “love walk” and working on putting myself in the other person’s shoes.  I admit to being too prideful in the past and the letting go of the need to always be right or not being able to ask for help has gone hand-in-hand with my focus on love.  It’s nearly impossible to be a prideful person and at the same time be a person who walks in love with an open heart.  When I fully surrender….Wow, talk about freedom!  WOOHOO! CHA CHA CHA!   You know all those beautiful quotes we share on Pinterest that talk about soaring and flying?  Well, that’s what you will feel when you truly give up the things that no longer “fit” your new self.  About a thousand pounds are lifted from your shoulders and what you are left with is more peace and clarity than you ever thought possible!   So, for this week’s affirmations let’s all take a deep look within and first of all, acknowledge those things we’ve outgrown, but are still holding on to– then start working on releasing, giving them up and letting go.

THIS WEEK I WILL GIVE UP….

  1. The fear of failing OR succeeding…yes, some people fear success!
  2. Doubting + second guessing myself.
  3. PRIDE!
  4. Not being able to ask for help.
  5. Gossiping.
  6. Comparing myself to my friends.
  7. Complaining.
  8. People pleasing!!!
  9. Toxic relationships.
  10. Beating myself up + become my biggest cheerleader.
  11. Allowing people to overstep boundaries.

Those are just a few things that I think we all battle with at times, but what are a few specific things you know you need to let go of? 

Are you brave enough to share and comment? 

Sometimes vocalizing these things helps set you on the course!  Try it!

Do you have a friend who needs help in this area?

Share, tweet, pin + like this post.  Thank you!

Cheers to Freedom!

Love, Tiff

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To all my Irish Sistas…….

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It’s the perfect day to rock my emerald green scarf!