Better Than Thin Thighs

Hello Fellow Kindness + Beauty Seekers!

A few days ago I opened my new May devotional from the legendary preacher, Dr. Charles Stanley. His opening message on kindness really grabbed my heart so I wanted to blast it everywhere!

“Our culture is obsessed with external beauty, but as hard as we may try to improve our outward appearance, we all eventually experience the effects of aging. (True Dat!!) Far more important is inner character, which lasts into eternity. And one of the most attractive inward qualities is kindness. 

People characterized by kindness are considerate, loving, tenderhearted, helpful, and gentle. Those on the other end of the spectrum are quick-tempered, bitter, crude, and demanding. (Ugh- we all have crossed paths with these toxic types!) Basically, the difference has to do with whether one’s focus is on self or others. (I’ve had to deal with one too many narcissists in my day and I’m pretty much allergic to them now! You??) 

God is characterized by kindness and we should “put on” this attractive quality. Kindness is God’s fruit displayed in our worlds and actions. Authentic (let me repeat that.. authentic! Meaning not fake!) kindness does not depend on how others treat us, not is it a manipulation to get what we want.” – Dr. Charles Stanley

Let’s think about that final sentence. OUCH! Spiritual maturity truth bomb right there. When someone does you wrong– our ego and human nature wants to treat them the same way back. Taking the higher road and rising above the immaturity will reap beautiful rewards like peace. No drama. A clear conscience. Ahhhh, this rewards bring such a wonderful life that unlocks the flow for blessings, miracle and pure joy!  The stronger person is the one who has self-control and instead of lashing out when mistreated, they choose the Kindness High Road.

You know the foundation of SOS is true beauty from the inside out. It’s such a blessing to encounter someone who walks in love and kindness! Although I am a total beauty and style junkie, I would rather be known for being a kind and loving woman than for thin thighs and a great handbag. Kindness is so stylish! 

One of my favorite Audrey Hepburn quotes is in alignment with this message:

May we all “put on” more kindness today.
Please share this with your friends so we can see the ripple effect.

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P.S. Reminders for 2 amazing events I am honored to be part of!

Tomorrow at 5:30 meet + greet then a panel with other RHOD cast members at the Indie Beauty Expo.

Get tickets here! Get 20% OFF with code TIFFANY4IBE

Also, come network and celebrate with fellow Faith-filled entrepreneurial women at the 2017 Polished Fashion Show on May 18th at Belk Galleria.  I am honored and super excited to be walking in the show!

Get tickets here!

INDIE BEAUTY EXPO: Come See Me + Get 20% OFF Tickets

SAVE THE DATE, May 10th

7:30-8:15pm

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6500 Cedar Springs Road, Dallas, Texas 75235

Excited to be part of a discussion panel with RHOD girlfriends, LeeAnne Locken & Stephanie Hollman sharing our beauty routines and on-camera makeup tips. 

My friends + followers get 20% OFF general admission tickets and VIP Shop Indie with code 

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WHAT IS IBE?

What: Indie Beauty Expo is a three-day event showcasing the world’s leading independent beauty, wellness and lifestyle brands to Buyers, Press and Consumers.          

Day One – CONNECT INDIE: Reserved for indie entrepreneurs, this day is for brand owners to learn from industry experts and network with other founders.

Day Two – SHOP INDIE: Open to the public, this is an evening for beauty lovers to discover and shop the best independent beauty brands from around the world.

Day Three – TRADE INDIE: Reserved for industry professionals, this is a day for beauty professionals and buyers to source new, innovative and trendsetting brands.

Texas Ties:

Exclusive to the Dallas show, IBE will be curating a special collection of the best indie brands from Texas, including: Camille CotonBeneath Your MaskHard Night Good MorningMilk + Honey,Merlot Skin CareMy Magic MudOlive + MSkinVedaSource Vital Apothecary and more to come.

When:

Day One, CONNECT INDIE:

Tuesday, May 9, 2017, 9:00 a.m. – 7:00 p.m.

Day Two, SHOP INDIE:

Wednesday, May 10, 2017, 5:00 p.m. – 9:00 p.m.

Day Three, TRADE INDIE:

Thursday, May 11, 2017, 10:00 a.m. – 5:00 p.m.

Where:                

Day One: The Joule, 1530 Main Street, Dallas, Texas 75201

Days Two and Three: sixty five hundred, 6500 Cedar Springs Road, Dallas, Texas 75235

Why: Indie Beauty Expo (IBE) was founded to support the growth of independent beauty, wellness and lifestyle brands and the success of the entrepreneurs behind them.  IBE has rapidly grown to become the largest professionally-curated show of its kind, with events in LA, Dallas and NYC.  IBE will be showing in Dallas for the first time this year.  IBE selected Dallas, and more broadly Texas, for their strong economy, massive established consumer retail market and rapidly-growing concentration of indie brands.

To learn more, visit www.indiebeautyexpo.com and follow Indie Beauty Expo on InstagramFacebook and Twitter.

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Hope to see you there!

KNIGHTS DO EXIST

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Happy Birthday to my knight! Some say there’s no such thing as a knight in shining armor — I beg to differ! I never really thought I would get married. I was too messed up, but God sent you @aaronhendra to protect me and help me fight my battles. Exactly what a knight does! Thank you for showing up for US every single day. May God continue to direct your steps, shower you with favor and open doors of opportunity that no man can shut. You are chosen. You are destined. I love you 

[Photos clockwise: Our wedding day at the end of the Santa Monica pier, Aaron installing an LED light panel in the orphanage in S. Sudan, our first scene on RHOD and Aaron on set of his music video for “Alive”]

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Hey Love Seekers!

The above Instagram post is to honor my husband on his birthday today. As I thought about him and our life together over the past 13 years, I was overwhelmed with gratitude. Gratitude to him for seeing past my brokenness to a girl who deserved to be loved.  See, when I met Aaron I had just embarked on a spiritual journey of healing from my past.

I was an emotional roller coaster.

I felt unlovable.

I was a hot mess.

I felt shame. 

Unworthy…was the label stamped across my heart! (so I thought)

But, in the few months prior to running into Aaron on Beverly Drive on the beautiful fall day in LA I had begun praying for him even though I didn’t know “he” was the one. For many years, I didn’t believe I was worthy of love much less an amazing husband. I had already hit 30 and started facing the fact that maybe marriage wasn’t for me. Growing up a Southern girl, of course- I thought I would be married with 2 kids by the time I was 25. Hello, that’s what most good Southern girls life plan was in my generation, right? Here I was 30 with no prospects and in a city like LA where it felt like finding a good man was like finding a pair of Louboutin’s 75% off at Marshalls. Impossible!  I came close to giving up on love.

BUT GOD.

In 2002, when I hit rock bottom on that bathroom floor in West Hollywood (hear more on Access Hollywood) God heard my simple pray of “help”.  Often we think we need these long poetic wordy prayers, but the simple prayers like “thank you” and “help” are just as powerful. The beautiful thing about hitting bottom is there’s no where else to go but up! This was the beginning of my relationship with God then my relationship with myself then ultimately my relationship with my husband. I had to embark on a love affair with God and myself before I could meet Aaron and allow him to love me. Period. Most of my 20’s, I had turned my back on God and basically shot Him the middle finger. But He was always there. I really should be dead in a ditch somewhere. I should have died on that bathroom floor or in some random person’s bathroom in the Hollywood Hills. But I didn’t.  I began journaling my crazy thoughts and praying for God to bring me a strong man. I filled up several spiral notebooks describing that strong man.  I began praying for him everyday in that prayer journal. With each passing day, my hope grew. Then a year later- BAM- I ran into Aaron on that street and we were married 4 months later.

Trust me, I made the first 2-3 years of our marriage a nightmare! When the fear and old shame-based Tiff would creep up, I would push Aaron away and resist his love. He never gave up on me. He stayed consistent. Aaron saw me as a beautiful, whole, strong, intelligent woman. Not as the weak, broken, messy girl I saw myself as. God knew I needed him to hold my hand as I continued on this healing journey.  God knew Aaron needed me as well.

I felt compelled to share that beautiful glimpse of our story to encourage any of you who are seeking true, real, lasting love. Knights really do exist! Don’t give up hope. Allow the love of God to transform your life first. If you’re like I was and feel unworthy, remember God sees you as His gorgeous daughter. You are the apple of His eye. When you grasp that truth down in your spirit– it begins to heal your broken heart. It renews you. It takes away all the shameful labels you or others have placed on you. Put on God’s label and wear it proudly like the most stunning custom-made dress.

 

You are lovable.

You are worthy.

You are strong, beautiful and filled with purpose.

Allow Him to lead you to your partner. His connections are Divine.  

 

Join  me in honoring Aaron today and if you are blessed with an amazing partner- tell them how grateful you are to be able to do life with them! It’s truly a gift.

 

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Gossip VS. The Golden Rule

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Here’s your kick-in-the-bootie Monday Motivation!

After being on the hot mess express called RHOD for the past year and a half, the above quote really resonated with my soul. (Thanks for posting last week Jessica Youngblood!) One of the job requirements of this show is to do the exact opposite of this quote. You are hired to tear other women down, throw them under the bus and gossip about them with a capital G. This is the driving force of this train! For the girls girl and champion for women that I am– this was a real challenge because I prefer to ride on the Peace Train. Chooga Chooga Woot Woot! 

[Disclaimer: I am so grateful for this opportunity with a huge network like Bravo because it forced me to get out of my comfort zone and every time we do that… we grow! I view the hard things, the struggles we go through (instead of shrinking back) as the real blessings in life. We weren’t named Real Housewives until after we finished filming so it wasn’t what I originally signed up for. I get it– people say it’s just entertainment,Also, I’m grateful for the exposure it gave my man. He will have performed about 100 gigs in 2016. His goal was 50 so he doubled that! YAY! ]

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Ok, back to the topic!  How often are you sitting at dinner on girls night out and someone starts bad mouthing one of your mutual friends.. who is not present to defend herself?  Over the past few years, I realize women gossip and tear other women down as a way to bond. Many of them do it under the disguise of “we need to pray for Sally because.. did you hear?” BAM, they drop something that should have been kept in confidence! This has to be the cruelest, most insecure and ugly way to bond with someone. There are a zillion things for women to bond over other than trash talking others. Using prayer as a way to sugar coat what they’re really doing is just UGH-Ugly.

Hey– I am not without guilt here.

I have been in that situation more times than I care to remember and should have had the ladyballs to shut it down every single time. When I didn’t, I always felt like I needed to go home and take a spiritual shower!  Remember, if someone is gossiping about someone to me – well, she is gossiping about me when I’m not around.

God has really working on my heart with this matter since my experience on RHOD.  I noticed a woman (or two) who I thought were “friends” would always bad mouth certain mutual friends when they weren’t around, but made me feel as they were “concerned” with that person. Heck no! They were gossiping. Straight up gossip and slander. Then, when this gossiper betrayed me.. I couldn’t be all that surprised, right. Is that what a “frenemy” is?  I guess I’ve been educated. God showed me that I would keep getting more of what I allowed. No, thank you!  I prayed for new uplifting friends and my prayers were answered. I was also led to many scriptures on the subject and love this one:

Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. Ephesians 4:29 NIV

How brave are you to shut down a conversation that is going in the wrong direction toward tearing someone down? Even if it makes everyone at the table uncomfortable for a moment. I think women are so eager to “bond” that it takes precedence over their integrity in these situations. It’s impossible for me to discuss this topic and not mention my BFF Heidi. She deserves major props because she is the one at the table who will risk making others feel uncomfortable over giving in to the gossip. I believe that iron sharpens iron and I want to be around women who help make me a better Tiff.

Remember, both gossip and complaining can be very contagious. Be aware and pay attention to how easy it is for you to start gossiping or complaining around certain people and limit your time with them in 2017. I promise it will change your year for the better!

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If we all realized that what we put out there comes back to us 100 fold then we would keep our mouths shut when we are tempted to gossip. If you are being disloyal by telling someones secret or tearing someone down then you will get 100 times the negativity coming back to you. YIKES! No thank you!

Grandma had it right:

If you don’t have anything nice to say.. don’t say anything at all!

Also, let’s revive the Golden Rule:

Treat others as you wish to be treated! 

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The Spiritual Spitfire Keepin’ It Real [Podcast with Joel Boggess]

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Hello Gorgeous!

It was an honor to chat with podcast king Joel Boggess again on his hit show ReLaunch and share my heart about RHOD, marriage in Hollywood, our faith foundation, my purpose and more!  Grab a cup of coffee and listen tonight when the kids go to bed or when you’re on your commute to work.

The interview is on iTunes, Soundcloud, iHeartRadio>>> http://relaunchshow.com/real-housewives-tiffany-hendra/

What you will hear in our discussion with Tiffany Hendra:

  • God’s plan in show business
  • Avoid fear-based choices
  • Broken Hollywood dreams
  • Prayer in Hollywood
  • Build your Confidence
  • “I was marinating in my own BS”

 

Your Spiritual Spitfire,

Tiff

 

TUNE IN NOTICE TONIGHT: My Past For A Purpose On Access Hollywood

 

Happy Monday Sistas!

You’ve heard me say a time or two that there are “no expiration dates on our dreams”.  I just experienced this in a major way! Tonight, you will hear how I am owning my past and using it all for a purpose on ACCESS HOLLYWOOD at 6:30 CST. What a surreal moment to be interviewed in my old stomping grounds by host Kit Hoover! It was such a blessed and heartfelt conversation about the sexual abuse I have overcome. Kit has two daughters and was totally invested in the interview and how we can empower young women with my story. Amazing how God can use a drama-filled reality show for His glory.

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The day was extra special because I shared this experience with my sister, Natalie. We moved to LA together and did the hustle and struggle together for years.

Also, make sure to tune in to Real Housewives Of Dallas tonight at 9pm CST. It gets really heated and I have had enough of all the drama. You will see a side of me you have and never will see on my videos! LOL. I’m human and this is a REALity show. I didn’t hold anything back, but please give me some grace when you watch! I even scare myself a bit. Eeeek.

If you’re on Twitter, make sure to tweet me and let me know your thoughts! @TiffanyHendra

 

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I must give a huge shout out to brilliant stylist Jeanette Chivvis of Chivvis Styles. She has gone above and beyond to make sure LeeAnne Locken and I look our best for all our press and appearances. She’s a fellow #SpiritualSpitfire too!

Have a fabulous week. 

Love & Ladyballs,

Tiff 

 

CLOSET CRASH: Cary Deuber from Real Housewives of Dallas [New Video]

If you caught the latest episode of RHOD, Sanctuary Of Style got a big shout out featuring this new webisode inside Cary Deubers closet. A fun first happened when her hubby took over the shoot! He’s got some mad style skills.

Check it out:

 

She has gorgeous dresses! Which was your favorite?

Are you watching RHOD?

Make sure to tweet with us! @TiffanyHendra

 

Love, & Ladyballs,

Tiff