As much as you may pray, meditate and seek methods to reduce your stress and stay balanced– life always has a way of knocking you on your toosh or making you feel like you’re teetering on a tightrope. Who feels me? Last week I got so sick of hearing myself whining and saying, “I’m so stressed…I’m so exhausted.” It was one of those moments when I had to pull myself over to the mirror and say to myself, “Tiff, get a grip. You control your schedule. You control how you ALLOW situations to effect you. You can control your attitude about it all. You have the power when you check all the texts and emails!” I told a friend I needed to go read my own blogs. Hmmmph. Isn’t it funny how we can easily give others advice? I also feel like I should add that stress-levels for us gals is always heightened during PMS. I’m not using it as an excuse….it’s just a biological fact. Ok, now that we are clear on all that….
There are so many factors that cause stress and it is different for everyone. Where you live, work pressures, financial difficulties, relationship pains, kids, world events and the list goes on and on. Living in LA, a city where I’m shocked anyone passed their driving tests and were allowed a license, is enough to give you an ulcer every time you get in your car! I was running a few errands the other day and this woman– who was in the wrong turning lane– had the audacity to flip me off while I was patiently allowing her to turn… even though she was in the wrong. ARE YOU KIDDING ME? My shoulders tensed and I gave her the evil eye and then decided to say a little prayer for her under my breath AFTER I visualized myself giving her back the same unladylike hand gesture she had given me. I kept my hands on the steering wheel, of course. Just normal daily interaction with people can stress you out. People seem to enjoy transferring their stress to you, but we can control what we allow to stick to us. Yes, easier said than done I know! This is why I try to remember to pray for protection and to be covered with the full armor of God plus be enveloped in white light every time I walk out the door. I don’t always remember and should put a note/affirmation by the door. (Ok, I’ll go do that as soon as I’m finished writing this blog!) I recommend you doing it too.
My point to this rant is YOU HAVE THE CONTROL. I realize we all feel powerless at times, but “feeling” powerless is even something we can control. Dig deeper. You always have the power. You always have the control. Take charge. Maybe you think you’ve lost the power and control, but you can regain it. Make the choice. You may never seem to achieve balance, but it’s about the constant effort to make the right choices for YOUR life and stop trying to keep up with your friends, neighbors and co-workers. Make the choice to step down off the tightrope. Everyone- especially women- loves to validate themselves with how “busy’ they are. Honestly- I’m beginning to hate that word and I’m trying to remove it from my vocab. Yes– life is busy and stressful, but life is also meant to be a beautiful experience.
THIS WEEK I WILL….
- Check in with myself.
- Be a warrior not a worrier.
- Put my phone on silent when I need to. Some peeps can wait!
- Stop + smell the roses.
- Not allow other people’s stress to stick to me.
- Regain control.
- Keep my plate manageable.
- Get more sleep.
- Be more assertive by saying no.
- Stop taking on too many projects.