#MondayMotivation || To Raise Brave Girls, Encourage Adventure

Gutsy girls skateboard, climb trees, clamber around, fall down, scrape their knees, get right back up — and grow up to be BRAVE WOMEN.  Learn how to spark a little productive risk-taking and raise confident girls with stories and advice from firefighter, paraglider and all-around adventurer Caroline Paul.

If you are raising daughters, mentoring young girls or need to be a braver woman… WATCH THIS: 

 

I just spent the most magical two weeks in California (another blog to come later) and my younger sister, Natalie and I sat on the beach one gorgeous evening reminiscing about our tomboy upbringing. Can I just tell you how grateful I am that our parents embraced ALL the multifaceted sides of our personalities?!? We were pretty, but brave little tomboys who had to wear shorts underneath our dresses on Sunday because we would not let a dress stop us from the chance to climb the monkey bars or race that little boy across the church parking lot.

One day we wanted to…

go muddin’ in the ditches,

learn piano the next,

climb trees after that,

race bicycles up and down the street,

play basketball,

try out for cheerleader,

perform all the songs to Grease for the family,

go on mission trips,

summer camp,

swim in the horse trough,

build a Barbie city that covered my entire bedroom floor,

my bad New Waver phase and Flock of Seagulls haircut, (Lawdy, Lawd!!)

beauty pageants, (then with my Belinda Carlisle haircut)

and on and on and on.

 

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Back then there were no screens to consume our time except for the television screen. We didn’t care much about TV except for watching reruns of Happy Days, Three’s Company, and Good Times. Oh wait, I did love American Bandstand on Saturday mornings. Anyone else?  We loved playing outside! We loved getting sweaty! We loved sports! We truly thought we could do everything the boys did. Although, I did hate it when my dad made us help with the yard work! But, even that toughen us up and taught us not be afraid to use our hands and get a bit dirty. I never realized- until I saw the above TED Talk by Caroline Paul this morning- that all of that freedom to express our “gutsiness” would make such a huge difference in our life as women.

Thank you mom and dad for allowing us to be little adventurous explorers.

Natalie went all over the world as a teenager doing mission work and almost won Survivor: Micronesia in 2008. Not as adventurous, but still gutsy- I began modeling internationally at 17. I climbed down a Bavarian alp and rode a mountain bike from Germany to Austria. (Talk about an achy bootie…think about doing spin class for 8 hours! OUCH!) Flew on an Ultralight, which is basically a go cart with flimsy canvas wings, in Mexico. Slept in a rat infested cabin in Southern Sudan. Drove a Lamborghini up the PCH and got it to 160 MPH. Yeehaw! I should have been Danica Patrick. Just sayin’. Snorkeled off the coast of Africa in the Seychelle Islands and the Great Barrier Reef off the coast of Belize. Sang karaoke in Rappongi, the nightlight district of Tokyo. Lived in Milan, Italy for a Summer and rode a 10-speed to all my castings so I could see the city instead of being underground in the subway. Flown in a helicopter over the Great Ocean Road. Heck, moving to LA where I knew no one, took guts and independence.  Seriously, driving around LA the past 2 weeks is gutsy. It’s like a bunch of ants texting while their trying to drive. Now I remember why my adrenal glands were shot from living there. Whew! #RoadRageOnCrack

Has life dulled your gutsiness? Life can make us fearful. I get it. Life can make us whimpy. I get it. Especially, the world we’re living in today, but SCREW THAT! Today, more than ever, we need to raise brave girls and be examples of brave women for them. The conversation with my sister sitting on the beach last week, then stumbling across this TED Talk was no coincidence. I’m here to encourage you to remember how brave you are. I love the ripple effect we can cause for good.

  • Take a moment to reminisce on all the gutsy things you’ve done throughout your life. This will build confidence.
  • If you chickened out on many things you wished you had done, start a list.
  • Get busy being braver than ever and get out there. Check off the list. I want to hear about it!

We become more brave by exercising our bravery. I don’t think I’ve ever made a list of all the cool and somewhat crazy things I’ve done in my life. My confidence and bravery is officially built up and sharpened. Never let anyone or anything, especially yourself, dull your gutsy, girlfriend. 

 

Love to hear your thoughts or a specific gutsy moment you had. 

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OH TO BE OR NOT TO BE HYPER? By My Sis- Aesthetician & Wellness Warrior Natalie Bolton

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Oh the perks of youth…remember the hours and hours of hyper play in the summer sun? Oh, those were the days. Then something happens when we get older. We not only reminisce of those long summer days where perfect moments seemed to drag out like glorious dreamy memories; we also long for that energy we once had. That hyper excitement that would ignite with the simplest adventure was always available in full supply. Be it a new bike trail with your best friend Shelly or walking down by the murky river with your other best friend Becky; the average Tuesday afternoon would never disappoint. What else never disappointed?

That energy.

That enthusiasm.

That hyper, ready and willing anticipation for all things play.

Notice how I keep repeating the word Hyper. Not only do we miss the energy of our childhoods, but also somehow that gift of boundless hyper energy got traded in for hyper-pigmentation.

And here begins our post:

What is hyper pigmentation you might ask? This is Wikipedia’s definition:

“In dermatology, hyper pigmentation is the darkening of an area of skin or nails caused by increased melanin.

Hyper pigmentation may be caused by sun damage, inflammation, or other skin injuries, including those related to acne vulgaris.[1] People with darker Asian, Mediterranean, or African skin tones are also more prone to hyper pigmentation, especially if they have excess sun exposure.”

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Ok, in layman’s terms hyper pigmentation is more popularly called melasma (pregnancy mask), or liver/age/sun spots, and even “discoloration” from acne scars can contribute. These examples are only a few names for discoloration yet the list goes on and on. And to us…it is simply the highly annoying, splotchy, uncoverable, every-time-we-look-in-the-mirror-this-is-all-we-see BS that has us feeling less than amazing. This is hyper pigmentation.

So, it seems to be one of the many cruel jokes Mother Nature plays on us as we go from the spry vigor of youth to the seemingly forever-fracturing de-perfectioning process of aging.

But not all hope is lost. There are options, ladies. There are options.

And lucky for you, you are reading this post NOW. For this is the season of the peel.

PEELS are nature’s little way of offering us a little help where needed. A few benefits of having a peel can be brightening, improving skin texture, wrinkle reduction, and many other juicy nuggets of wonderment.

Enter option 1. THE ACID PEEL. (Aka my trusty “3 mask-eteers” I like to call them)- The Alpha Hydroxy Acids or AHA’s for short.

These are my most commonly used agents that I enlist in my protocol.

1-Glycolic acid-derived from sugarcane

2-Lactic acid-derived from milk (watch out if you are lactose intolerant)

3-Kojic acid-derived from mushrooms

Being Native American, Asian, and Eastern European I have a mixture of skin tones that benefit GREATLY from glycolic peels. Being olive or darker than average in color it lands me at a IV rating on the Fitzpatrick scale*. This means that I do tend to easily be a victim of hyper pigmentation. Cuts tend to want to scar more easily, and I could be more prone to acne scarring as well. So, glycolic on me is MAGIC! The molecule in glycolic is the smallest out of this acid family so it penetrates the deepest. Word UP! It’s awesome and I love it on my skin. Glycolic works on fairer tones as well. Most of my clients that are in the business of wanting a peel also dig the time-tested glycolic.

Lactic acid has the same benefits that glycolic has and is also less irritating and more hydrating. But if you are allergic to milk STEER CLEAR of this treatment and opt for another AHA option. So if you feel your skin is more sensitive (and you’re ok with milk products) talk to your esthetician about Lactic acid being your option.

Then there’s Kojic acid.

Kojic is a stellar skin lightening agent. Kojic acid literally stops melanin production therefore slowing and stopping the darkening of your skin. If you’re on hydroquinone, drop that crap like a bad knock-off Prada bag and talk to your esthetician about investing in Kojic acid treatments instead. Kojic is great for people with sensitive skin and the benefits over using hydroquinone are too much to list here.

It is always great to start a series of peels in the winter months, as we tend to be out in the sun less therefore reducing the risk of excessive sun-exposure. You never want to commit to peels in the summer as you are going to the beach, going on vacation, or still mastering (after all these years) the art of laying out on your roof. SUN SUN SUN…the enemy to peels. So, ALWAYS opt for winter sessions… AND ALWAYS ALWAYS WEAR SUN PROTECTION as your skin will be more sensitive to the sun and you could potentially make worse the very issue you are trying to correct.

 Talk to your professional about your allergies, risks, and the basic pros and cons of starting these treatments. And research for yourself which options would be best for you.

As for before, when I was hating on Mother Nature…I do it in pure fun. My true belief system is that we are constantly in a miraculous state of rejuvenation and repair. Our bodies, organs, and systems are so mind-bendingly intelligent that that self-correcting intelligence is within every function of our trillions and trillions of cells. So, I encourage you to err on the side of gratitude and acknowledgment for your beautiful skin, your intelligent internal system function, and your own ability to self heal. Our cells are always begging to thrive, not the other way around. If you find yourself a little unhappy with a condition you may be facing when looking in the mirror perhaps with loving thoughts and a little direction your cells will realign and recalibrate for the most optimal reflection possible. Your cells are programmed by the very thoughts you feed them. Feed them healthy thoughts. There is enough junk food in the world.

And if you are still a little gun-shy in the peel department, stay tuned for option 2 and 3 in the very near future.

You shine brighter than you think you do. Thank you for the light you share in this world.

 *Google Fitzpatrick scale to determine your own rating.

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photo-4-1From CBS’s SURVIVOR to skincare, Natalie Bolton has landed at Tamara Dahill Salon in Los Angeles. Having the opportunity to fulfill her desire to bring beauty, healing and a sense of well being to men and women alike, Natalie has found her calling. As a state-board licensed aesthetician and certified Epicuren specialist, Natalie enhances the appearance and condition of her clients’ skin and their sense of self. Her specialties include rejuvenation and anti-aging. Natalie is also an expert in the areas of acne and problematic skin.

In Natalie’s own words she shares her personal philosophy, “The mandate for my life is not only bringing beauty to people by external means with new technologies, and cutting-edge technique, my goal is to also refresh the spirit. I pray every morning to bring beauty to the spirit of everyone I touch-so they leave feeling more beautiful and at peace after they leave me. I want to live my life like that as well. I want to leave the world more beautiful than when I found it.”

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For questions or inquiries: Tamara Dahill Salon (818) 752-6567 http://tdsalon.com or natalieboltonskinscience@gmail.com 

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Meet my drop-dead-gorgeous sister Natalie Bolton

My sister, Natalie, is a refreshing combination of tough-as-nails tomboy with the looks of a Victoria’s Secret model!   She kicked some serious butt on “Survivor” which led her on a Spiritual & Physical journey which she shares with us on the latest webisode….