HELLO SEPTEMBER: Bring On The Confidence & Walk Tall

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Join me in welcoming September! (clap clap)

Let’s focus on our spirit today…

Many of you have made it through the first week of school getting the kids back on a sleeping schedule and finding your own new groove. CONGRATS!  The transition to Fall is always a bit wonky which can take a toll on our confidence. The lazy days of Summer are over and it’s time to get focused. You spent so much time on your family and making sure their Summer was memorable and now it’s time to nurture yourself a bit.

What activities do you want to participate in? You’ve filled up your kids after school schedules, but what about YOU?

Do you want to try a new workout program? Start a side business? Join a book club? Take an online class?

My job here at SOS is to…

nudge you,

broaden your scope,

instigate change,

get you to step out of your comfort zone…

all of which will build your confidence. 

Are you the type who thinks and talks about doing something, but you never get around to it? This actually wreaks havoc on your confidence! Do you notice that sense of disappointment in yourself when you shrink back or are just plain lazy?  I challenge you TODAY — on the first of the month to step into the new season with new habits.

Here are 3 ways to bring on the confidence:

1)RECALL A TIME YOU WERE CONFIDENT & POWERFUL: Remember that time you nailed that important business presentation or told a great joke during a speech that had the room in stitches or threw a perfect dinner party from the appetizer all the way to the after dinner coffee? Recalling these moments when you were proud of yourself actually triggers you to feel that feeling of confidence again. Often, we tend to focus on our shortcomings and losses instead of our wins. Every once in a while, I take a look over my resume and credentials to remind myself that I’m not doing so bad.

ACTION STEP: Make it a regular habit of taking time to focus on your accomplishments. 

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2)TRY SOMETHING NEW (even if it scares you): We are creatures of habit and my intention with this post today is to encourage a change in the bad habits that are holding you back. I set a goal for 2014 to book a minimum of three speaking engagements. Recently, I hit my goal. Woop! I didn’t tell anyone about the first two. They were at smaller venues and I considered it practice and no one would know if I completely bombed. I’ve spoken many times in public, but it still makes me a ball of nerves. It’s something I want to get better at. I have the ability to talk into the camera all day long with no problem. That’s where I feel “at home”. Recently, I spoke at a bigger event and thought I was going to puke. I didn’t. Stepping out of my comfort zone and doing something that scared me strengthened my confidence in a major way.

ACTION STEP: Set the goal. What is that thing you’ve wanted to do even if it terrified you? Build your confidence by setting the goal and completing it.  

3)WALK TALL: If you’ve been part of SOS for the past year or so, you’ve seen me say this in many videos and on the blog. Why did I start this? I began noticing my own terrible posture when I was out and about in public. On those days I felt “schleppy”, my shoulders would round forward and my eyeline was toward the ground. As I looked around, many women were doing the same thing. Their energy was “stand offish” instead of magnetic. So was mine! What the heck? It broke my heart to see so many women with such low self-confidence. I had to have a chat with myself as well. Sometimes it’s good to take yourself to the mirror and talk to yourself as if you were your BFF. We encourage our friends all the time and I want you to do that for yourself today. Being the researcher I am, I found this to be scientifically backed in a study by Scientific America. 

ACTION STEP: Focus on your posture. Stand tall, core tight, eyeline forward and shoulders back. Standing tall actually signals the body and mind to feel more powerful. 

Like my Grandma always said, “it’s time to S*@! or get off the pot”!  Don’t you just love Southern sayings? The new season is the perfect time to try some new things.

What will you step out and walk tall doing?

Please share this post with any friends who need the nudge. Perhaps, do this with a friend and create some accountability.

If you need more in-depth assistance, I have limited space for new private clients in September. Receive a complimentary 15 minute consultation via Skype to discuss your options. Serious inquiries only. Contact me here. 

WALK TALL SISTAS.

Love, Tiff

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If you’re in the DFW area, please join us on September 12th for the ESTEEM 2105 Fashion Show benefitting The Elisa Project. I’m honored to walk in this show again and I do so proudly for the teenage girls I have mentored with eating disorders. I also battled poor body image as a teen model and want to empower the next generation with the knowledge and education that I was not given when I was young.

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WOMEN OF DALLAS EMPOWERING OUR YOUNG WOMEN: A Personal Invitation to the ESTEEM Fashion Show

 

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Remember back when you were a teenager?

What was your confidence and level of self-esteem when you were 17? 

Were you under the pressure to be a good girl and to always look good. Perhaps you didn’t feel that pressure- thank God, but the majority of teen girls feel the pressure so strongly that they commit a slow suicide by starvation and binging/purging. We all know it’s not about the food- it’s about feeling so out-of-control that the one thing they can control is their weight. There are many layers to an eating disorder. As a teen, I experimented and swung between bouts of starving myself and binging/purging. Many of the women in my family were overweight and constantly dieting so at an early age I learned what a laxative was and how to abuse it. At around 16, I had a Japanese modeling agent tell me that my legs were too big & muscular and if I wanted to have any kind of modeling career, I needed to have thinner legs. The self-loathing was amped up to a new level at this point. Even at my age and so many years passing since the go-see with that agent, I still have to keep myself ‘in check’ from disliking my legs. Luckily, around age 20- after a few years of experimenting with hard core diet pills from Mexico, starving and working out for hours, I couldn’t keep it up and decided I enjoyed good food more than I enjoyed modeling. I was never that super thin, gaunt model and was on the shorter side at 5’7″ so bikini and fitness modeling was the niche I worked best in. My curves and muscles were embraced and I could give up the diet pills! 

Now, let’s put ourselves in the shoes of this generation of teen girls and how they are bombarded with Instagram images and size zero celebrities to compare themselves to. I can’t begin to imagine the battle for perfection they are killing themselves to achieve. Because of my tumultuous teen years and knowing the pain girls suffer in silence, I began mentoring young girls who are dealing with issues from eating disorders, cancer, abuse, early pregnancy, drugs and more.  

Now that I’m in Dallas, I was introduced to The Elisa Project– founded in 1999 by Rick and Leslie McCall in memory of their daughter Elisa, who suffered from an eating disorder and ultimately took her own life. A 501(c)(3) nonprofit organization, The Elisa Project is dedicated to the prevention and effective treatment of eating disorders through support, awareness, education, and advocacy. We strive to be the premier knowledge resource on eating disorders and a proactive agent of change to ensure that all those affected by these diseases receive the treatment and support they need. via http://www.theelisaproject.org

Dallas sistas, I invite you to join us for the ESTEEM Fashion Show —now in its 5th year—is a celebration of positive body image and self-esteem. Local celebrities will join girls and women, of all ages and sizes, to embrace healthy, balanced lifestyles and self-acceptance. By helping to increase awareness about eating disorders and the importance of positive body image, ESTEEM encourages people to love themselves while striving to be healthy.

I am thrilled to be walking in the show in honor of my sweet Julie who is on the road to recovery from heart complications due to anorexia.  Hope to see you there!  Invite your friends!  

 

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EVENT INFORMATION

Saturday, September 13, 2014 

10:30am // Doors Open

Tootsies

8300 Preston Center Plaza

Dallas, TX 75225

TICKET PRICES

$75 VIP Front Row Seating

$40 Adults

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