5 Simple Ways to Transform Your Life – and Change the World in the Process

Happy Sunday Sistas!

Yesterday, I was catching up on emails and saw the word “transform” in the subject line and had to read this one. It’s such a wonderful reminder that I had to repost and share with you all. My life has been a whirlwind to say the least and in times like this it’s important to reconnect, refuel and use empowering resources to stay focused on our purpose. It’s easy to get derailed so I encourage you to take some time for you, your spiritual life and self development today. 

As we approach Memorial Day, let us stop and say a prayer for all the family members of those who lost their life in service to our country. May God bless them and keep them in the palm of His Hand.

Love, Tiff

 

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If you want happiness for an hour — take a nap.
If you want happiness for a day — go fishing.
If you want happiness for a year — inherit a fortune.
If you want happiness for a lifetime — help someone else.
– Chinese Proverb

Imagine a world where people were no longer ruled by their own limiting mindset and behaviors. Where everyone took 100% responsibility for their actions, persevered in the face of hardship and challenge to make their dreams a reality, and refused to fall victim to the criticism and abuse of others.

What a world that would be! 

Freed from our egos and insecurities, we would support each other to reach our fullest potential and create lives that fill us with joy, purpose and abundance. We would work together to solve society’s most pressing problems and create a brighter future for all of us.

This kind of reality is well within our reach… and it starts with you. If you want the world to change for the better, the greatest contribution you can make right now is to become the change you wish to see – and, by your example, inspire others to achieve their highest potential as well.

Here are 5 tips on how to do that:

1. Focus on yourself first

If you want to change the world, you must begin with yourself. When it comes right down to it, you have control over only THREE things in life: the thoughts you think, the images you visualize, and the actions you take. If you focus on thinking positive thoughts, visualizing more successful outcomes, and taking positive action to achieve those outcomes, you are guaranteed to experience better results in your personal and professional life. Not only that, you will impress and inspire others who want to experience better results in their own lives.

2. Commit to continuous self-improvement

Gandhi once said, “Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever.” The joy of learning lies in the process, not the end result. When you dedicate yourself to a life of continuous self-improvement and growth, you remain curious and open and in a state of constant expansion. Not only does this make your life more interesting and meaningful, it inspires others to follow in your footsteps. And the more people who choose to continuously improve rather than remain in a state of stagnation, the better it will be for the world.

3. View challenges as opportunities

People say they want to create a better life for themselves, but all too often they give up at the first sign of trouble. The road to success has obstacles and challenges – that one’s a given. But it’s in the process of overcoming those obstacles that you become the kind of person who is capable of creating the kind of life you want to life.

When you cultivate perseverance and welcome challenges as opportunities to grow and expand your learning – as oppose to excuses to give up and stay exactly where you are, you will be able to achieve so much more in life. And you will motivate others to have the confidence and perseverance to overcome their own obstacles as well.

4. Be generous with your wisdom

Imagine if everyone in your family gave up complaining, took full responsibility for their actions, and created the life of their dreams. Or if every one in your company practiced the time-honored principles of success.

What if every member of your softball team approached life this way? What if every high school student in America knew these principles and put them into practice in class, on the playing field, and in their social life, so they became confident adults who had a clear vision of what they wanted and the resources to make their vision a reality? What if every man and woman in prison learned these valuable principles before they were released back into society?

You can help create this world by actively facilitating the growth of others. As a student of success, you have so much wisdom to offer the people in your life – and the greatest gift you can give them is to share what you’ve learned and help them achieve more success in their own lives.

5. Go after your dreams – and inspire others to do the same

Each of us has the power within to create the life we want, the life we dream about, the life we were born to live. Each of us deserves to fulfill our full potential and manifest our true destiny. It is our birthright.

But many people don’t understand this. They think that they’re stuck where they are, subject to the whims of a cruel and indifferent Universe, and that they lack the ability and/or the right to break free and create a better life for themselves.

You can show them they’re wrong.

When you go after your dreams and start living life at your highest potential, you inspire others to do the same. And this will have a tremendous impact on the world around you.

As you become the person you were always meant to be, the people around you will notice your increased energy, positivity, and impact and inspired to model your actions and achieve more success in their own lives. And as they shift, you’ll find that your world will become more of the place you dream it to be – full of support, love, understanding, and empowered individuals who cheer each other on to even greater heights.

The more you help others succeed, the more YOU succeed

The people with whom you share your wisdom won’t be the only ones to benefit when you take on the role of teacher.

Passing along your wisdom forces you to clarify your ideas, confront inconsistencies in your own thinking and more closely walk your talk. But most importantly, it requires you to read, study, and speak the teachings over and over again – and reinforce your own learning in the process.

And here’s another major benefit—the more you help other people succeed in life, the more they will want to help you succeed. If you’ve ever wondered why people who teach success strategies are so successful, here’s the answer: Because they have helped so many people get what they want, those they have helped naturally want to return the favor.

The same will be true for you.

By Jack Canfield, America’s #1 Success Coach, is founder of the billion-dollar book brand Chicken Soup for the Soul®and a leading authority on Peak Performance and Life Success. If you’re ready to jump-start your life, make more money, and have more fun and joy in all that you do, get FREE success tips from Jack Canfield now at: www.FreeSuccessStrategies.com

 

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STOP FIGHTING IT! Embrace The Place You’re In {Candid Motivational Vlog}

RESISTANCE.

It causes us so much pain, frustration and even anger. In today’s candid video blog I share a realization that will forever change the way I handle growth spurts and the different phases we go through. Are you resisting the phase you’re in or have you embraced the art of surrender?

Check it out…

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Of course, when you open up to receive messages/ hints/nudges – they arrive at precisely the right time. I met with a stunning young women about mentoring and she was telling me about a powerful YouTube video from Oprah’s Master Class. I watched the video tonight and whoa– I had seen it last year and it impacted me then, but the reminder was even more powerful, RIGHT NOW. It goes to show that the concept of surrender is an ongoing practice. Sort of like the concept of forgiveness. It’s something we need to always work on. Although I live my life with God behind the wheel, my “control freak” nature creeps back in from time-to-time creating inner turmoil, resistance and sometimes depression. So….

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Check this out….

 

Share your two-cents! 

Cheers to letting go sista,

Tiff xo

Wings Or The Worm

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 Hey, Hey, Hey!

Are you conscious of your behavior after a phone call or coffee date with a certain friend who brings out your weaknesses instead of your strengths? For example, you chat with a dear friend who is always complaining and venting her drama- complete with a few curse words for punctuation- and the rest of the day you are whining, focusing on your burdens instead of your blessings and cursing like a sailor. Trust me, I am no Miss Priss and have a fiery personality so a few curse words may fly out of my mouth when I get heated. Not proud of it- just keepin’ it real. As I always say- I’m a work in progress! My point is how interesting we are as humans to emulate and model those we hang around. We may be Spiritually-conscious and awake with our shelves filled with self-help books, but it is easy to get sucked in to the chicken coop instead of rising above and soaring like the eagle that we are.  

I love listening to T.D. Jakes during my power walks and a few days ago he said one simple phrase that struck a chord in me. He said, “Are you associating with people who bring out the wings in you or the worm in you?” Obviously, he’s referring to the beautiful idea of transformation through the butterfly. I posted this on Facebook, but wanted to elaborate and start the discussion here on the blog. We are always in a state of growth and transformation- at least I hope we are! I realize you have joined this community because you place your personal growth, development and empowerment as a priority. As an ‘instigator of change and an ‘agent of transformation’, I thrive on constant growth. The minute I feel stagnant in any area of my life- I’ve got to switch things up, change the behavior and expand a bit. 

We can always be a little bit better today than we were yesterday and I will keep that philosophy until I’m 85.

A vital aspect of our growth is who we surround ourselves with.  Are you associating with those who challenge you to come up higher & encourage you to fly?  A few of my girlfriends are gifted encouragers. They have the ability to hone in on someone’s strengths and lift that person up by pointing out and vocalizing these positive traits. They bring out the wings in that person! Don’t you love being around people like that?!  Often times, we are able to reveal a strength in someone that they didn’t even realize they had. By doing so, we open that person up to their full potential which puts them in a position to fly.

On the other hand, we must be mindful of those who try to bring out the worm in us. You know that friend that likes to include you when she’s talking about her own short comings. She says things like, “We have a hard time losing weight because WE are just lazy”. Then you start questioning yourself, “Am I fat? She’s right- I am lazy”. {Record Scratch} Counteract it by kindly not accepting those negative words over your life and respond with something like, “I’m happy with my weight and work out 4-5 times a week. ‘Lazy’ is not a title I care to wear, thank you”. Of course, then there’s the family member who tries to make you feel bad that you are a ‘driven dreamer’ who appreciates nice things. Misery loves company. It takes all kinds to make the world go round and we can love them and learn from them, but we can also limit our exposure to them. When you’re around the critical ones, stand firm in your beliefs and positivity.

Make sure you are rubbing off on them and not the other way around.   

ACTION STEP: Take a look around you. Who do you spend the most time with? Wing peeps or worm peeps? Make a conscious effort to spend more time with friends who are positive and living a life of excellence & purpose! Those who speak about life with enthusiasm. We all have a Destiny to fulfill so it’s crucial to associate with those who help you come up higher and stay on your path- and vice versa. 

We become like those we hang around. Surround yourself with those who like to soar. Be the wind beneath each other’s wings! 

As always, I love to hear your thoughts.

Comment, Tweet + Share the SOS love!

Love, Tiff

 

P.S. Don’t forget about the fun Summer Kickoff Giveaway happening! Details on the 7 Summer Drugstore Steals post. Ends June 6th. Win a few products below OR a Target gift card plus the new Aaron Hendra Project CD & T-shirt. 

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FEELING STUCK? {New Candid Video}

Happy Sunday Sistas!

Transition.

New Chapter.

Change of Season.

These topics are being discussed quite a bit right now among my friends and colleagues. During a powerwalk yesterday, I was pondering why some people stay stuck and why other’s move toward change with boldness. I decided to share my thoughts in a Vlog…

  1. Make Up Your Mind: What do you really want? Make a decision and stop with the back & forth.
  2. Create A Strategy: What steps can you take every day, every week to making the change happen?
  3. Visualize The End Result: We are really searching for the “feeling” we get from attaining a goal/dream. See yourself already having made the change.

 

LET ME KNOW YOUR THOUGHTS.

Love, Tiff 

 

 

CHRYSALIS by Guest Author, Wendy Carter

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I am egg. I am goo. I am imaginal discs… the programming of spine, and masks, and wings with a dream of flying. 


Imaginal. 


Imagine.


Inside. 


I form. I hatch. I eat and shed my skin, and my masks come off, revealing the ever growing larval, child, and teenage faces.
I’m walking with wings beneath the skin of my growing body, and knowing, feeling the promise of them invisibly there, 
wondering, imagining, what will it be like to fly? 

I must try. 


The mask is tight. The skin must go. Go back to the goo.
So I coccoon. I form a chrysalis. Safe. Silken. Private. 


And I digest myself, and I rest from all of my eating, climbing, spinning and building. I liquidate into protein soup du’ imaginal discs. I am my own fuel for the rapid fire splitting and duplicating, triplicating, of cells I dream and sleep through. 


Then my antennae tingle, my legs, my eyes and genitals and wings… oh, my wings form as I dream of flying in the goo behind the mask in the glow of imagined sky in the imaginal disc of my brain.
And I dream myself together til the dreams and the wings take up too much space. The goo is gone, and I am hardening, and hungry, cramped, and bored. 


Cocooning stops here and now. It’s time. 


The chrysalis must go. This silken safe must go. There is only the memory of comfort here. 


It is time.


So I stretch, until there is hole, and the air is delicious. I stretch again. I stretch until I am baffled at my hugeness, and the beauty I have become. Wobbling and wet, clinging to the shell of my home.
My wings have eyes that see the sky. I must dry. 


I must rest. 


But there are others. I must know them. 


I must fly. 


It is time. 


So I exercise my wings, down, up down up down up… and adjust to the different lengths of my body. I remember… I remember so not being like this. I am shaped differently.

I am stronger. 


I climb. I hear and feel the call of the others. I see them on bushes beside me, and winging delightedly above. I too, am made for that impossibility.
A strong wind blows and I cling for dear life to the limb I’m considering letting go of, and feel I must be insane. Flying. I’d be oh so vulnerable. But oh so free. 

I climb.


And I reach the top, and my wobbling weight bows the upper leaves. My wings flutter a little and the leaf is relieved. My clinging feet are lifted.
When another wind blows and in a ripping screaming moment my home is gone. I am upside down and spinning, a blur of green and purple and broken home around me, flapping and flapping, and the flapping feels useless, until suddenly… 


it isn’t.


And I’m flying and the world looks different from up here and isn’t it wondrous this world? I am joy! I am lifted! I am life! I am young, and strong, and this final mask is mine, and I discover that I am beautiful.
And I am still hungry.

And I want company.

And I want love. 

And I can go anywhere. 

I am free!

Oh, God, I am light… thank you for this gift of making me 


A BUTTERFLY.

 

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CAN’T BECOME A BUTTERFLY WITHOUT THE COCOON {Sunday Affirmations}

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Where the heck did January go?  It flew by and I’m actually glad because it means we’re a bit closer to spring.  YAY!  I am sure you can tell by now I am not a fan of winter!  This got me thinking about the recent post I wrote about introspection and “checking in with ourselves”.   Because of the challenges over the past few months, I have hibernated lots in January to regroup and get it together.  I call this “cocooning”.  Do you allow yourself to “cocoon”?  Everyone loves a beautiful butterfly, but let’s take a look at what it took (hey, I made a rhyme) to emerge into this beautiful creature. 

The cocoon is a protective barrier to keep the insect safe while it goes through a transformation.  It’s a place of stillness, darkness, quiet and of course, SOLITUDE….and it can flat out suck.  When I began my Spiritual journey in my late 20’s, I didn’t understand how important these times of solitude were and neither did my friends.   They thought something was seriously wrong with me or that I was depressed and anti-social.  Normally, I was Miss Party Queen, but I was choosing to stay in on Saturday nights to read, journal or paint.  SAY WHAT?  I felt emotionally raw and weak at the time, so retreating to my sanctuary, safe haven or cocoon was the only way I could get my strength back.  Now, I have learned to embrace these beautiful times of growth and looking inward and will “come out and play” when I’m ready.  My closest peeps understand this about me now with no judgment or ridicule.  Real friends understand.  Thank God for those amazing friends who don’t put pressure on us and  just let us “be”!

We all want to stretch and spread our wings, but it’s virtually impossible to do so without first spending the necessary time we need in our cocoons.  Transformation is amazing, but it is definitely not easy.  It doesn’t happen over night either.  We need times of stretching and we need times of cocooning in order to change.  IT’S A PROCESS.  TRUST THE PROCESS.  Many fear being alone to face their issues, but what you achieve on the other side is SO worth it.  The STRUGGLE to emerge and break through the cocoon is what builds our STRENGTH.   We all know that the butterfly will die if it comes out of the cocoon too early.  That’s why it is so important to be patient with ourselves during these times of growth.  Don’t rush it!  We are different when we emerge (Hallalujah) so we have to really be in tune with ourselves and perhaps learn a new way of doing things.  You will relate to the world differently and vice-versa.  Some friends may adapt to the new you and some may not.    When you make the decision to become ALL you can be and set out on a serious self-development journey, your friends may change.  You will outgrow people and that’s ok.  Those people have the same right to stay where they are and yes, that’s ok too. 

Many mothers have expressed to me that they don’t have time to focus on their spiritual growth because they are too busy focusing on their children’s growth.  Hey– I totally get it, but I say you have to make the time!   You owe it to yourself.  Don’t stunt your growth just because you are raising your kids.  I know busy mothers do not have the luxury of taking a month to hibernate and decline social engagements, but you can take a 1/2 hour in the mornings or a few hours on the weekends.  Little moments of cocooning are better than none at all.

THIS WEEK I WILL:

  1. Let go of the fear of looking inward.
  2. Spread my wings when I’m ready to fly.
  3. Embrace my transformation and never compare it to others.
  4. Be unapologetic in my choice to grow.
  5. Not rush it.
  6. Trust the process.
  7. Respect where others are on their journey.
  8. Be happy where I am whether I’m stretching or in the cocoon.
  9. Release those friends who do not celebrate the new me.
  10. See my potential and nurture it.
  11. Stay excited with the expectation of what’s on the other side….even though I’m not sure what it is!

I celebrate you!

Remember to share, like, or tweet this post if it encouraged you.  Maybe a friend could use some encouraging as well.

Whether you are currently in the cocoon or out there flying high, I hope your week is full of amazing moments.

Love You Sister,

Tiff

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