GOALS Vs. INTENTIONS: Who’s Ready For An Outstanding October?

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HELLO OCTOBER!

September went by like a blink, right? It takes the entire month to shed the Summer, switch gears and get life back on schedule. By October, we’re getting into the new groove so it’s the perfect time to set intentions and goals for the Fall.  Starting today, we have exactly 3 months of 2015 left.  //Shake your head with me//  Does that stress you out or excite you? It’s a bit of both for me. Stressed because I feel the pressure to do more, be more and accomplish more by the end of the year.  Excited because- Well, hey…I lived through another year! I’ve grown more, learned more and surrendered more. (I hope!!) Plus, Mercury went retrograde mid-September which can make things go haywire and wonky, but it’s also a beautiful time to dust off dormant dreams and projects. Let’s focus on the latter.

As an avid goal and intention setter, I love the challenge of checking things off the list and feeling that sense of accomplishment. But, it’s also important to give ourselves some grace if everything doesn’t get checked off. If you have been part of SOS for a while, you know that I love setting goals and/or resolutions and intentions on the 1st of each month and not just at the new year. This gives me a chance to refocus every month by setting smaller monthly goals to help achieve the bigger yearly goals. Make sense? It’s like taking smaller bites you can digest instead of one big chunk that you end up spitting out because you can’t chew it.

What’s the difference between setting intentions and setting goals? 

An intention is something deeply personal for how you want to be, live, and show up in the world.  It’s a practice and a consistent aspiration to guide you toward balance in your life. To find peace in my heart.  To forgive and let love in.  To treat myself with more respect. To surrender and live fully in the present moment. To release anger instead of holding on to it.  By getting quiet and away from any distractions (kids, phone, computer, television) we are able to focus our mind on what our soul is needing most…RIGHT NOW.  You cannot do this wrong, but an intention is what comes to you in the present moment as opposed to a goal which is typically something we wish to achieve in the future. An intention could be in the form of a quote, a dedication, a prayer. I set my intentions while I’m praying because it’s important to me that I invite God into this practice and view it as being a co-creator of my plans/dreams/growth with Him. Bottom line- I need His help big time!

Also, because I am easily distracted (even if I’m sitting quietly away from distractions- because my mind is always cranking) I like to write out my monthly intentions and goals in my journal. Life is overall so distracting and as I get older and more forgetful, it’s vital for me to write things down! I keep it simple and place them in categories like personal development/spirit, helping others, career, relationships and health. To give you an idea, here’s an excerpt from my journal today:

PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT/SPIRIT:

GOAL: Keep reading “The Identity Bond: A Guide To Self-Awareness” by Dr. Melanie Mills  and attend her workshop. (I just paid for my spot at the workshop so that is one step closer to achieving that goal!)

INTENTION: To accept myself more fully. (I’ve been hard on myself lately for wanting to withdraw and cocoon. Why do we always try to change our true nature to please others and make ourself miserable? My introverted side needs this time away to refuel, but I fear disappointing others. I am learning more about this from Dr. Mel.)

Here are some thoughts to help you get started in creating an intention:

  • What matters most to you?
  • What would you like to build, create, or nurture in your life?
  • What would you like to let go of?
  • Who would you like to forgive in your life?
  • How do you feel when you are your happiest self?
  • What makes you proud?
  • What word(s) would you like to align yourself with?
  • What fears would you like to release?
  • What are you grateful for?

10 Intention Examples:

  1. Find balance
  2. Open your mind and heart
  3. Focus on peace
  4. Stay calm and steady
  5. Act with courage
  6. Embrace change
  7. Practice forgiveness
  8. Allow yourself to be vulnerable
  9. Connect with others
  10. Love Unconditionally

If you find if difficult to get started, use one of these if it resonates with you, but try to create something more personal for yourself. I would love to hear your thoughts on this! Like, comment and share if you found it inspiring.  I appreciate it!

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Thank you for joining me on this journey to become our most happy, healthy, loving and fabulous self. October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month, which is an annual campaign to increase awareness of the disease. While most people are aware of breast cancer, many forget to take the steps to have a plan to detect the disease in its early stages and encourage others to do the same. Click HERE for more info.

Love, Tiff

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YOU are a gift bearer! [July Intentions]

Happy Sunday Style + Spirit Sistas!

Today, I want to share a beautiful passage from Robert Holden’s book Shift Happens! with the hope that it will inspire you as deeply as it did me. I highly recommend this as one of your summer ‘must reads’.

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You are a gift-bearer. You are the “light of the world,” and so is the person next to you. Do not forget your purpose. Do not be distracted with “getting” and “having” and “to-ing” and “fro-ing.” Do not give in to fear, and do not let old wounds blow you off course. Your healing is a gift. Your happiness is a gift. Your loving touch is a gift. Give yourself, heart and soul, and find out who you really are.

You are gift wrapped.

Unwrap yourself now.

Let your gifts spill to the floor

and all over the world.

Watch how your kindness

transforms this cruel world.

See how your love heals fear.

Notice how your courage

inspires us all.

Let your smile release

this sad old world.

Give everyone you meet

the star in your eye.

SHINE YOUR LIGHT.

OPEN YOUR HEART.

Notice how your peace of 

mind makes any war more

meaningless and harder

to fight.

Your happiness is a gift.

It attracts angels from afar.

Your smile is like champagne.

Your laughter is like love.

Your healing ispires us.

Your presence is a miracle.

UNWRAP YOURSELF NOW.

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On this final day of June, I wrote a list of all the wonderful and miraculous things God blessed me with this month– in a brand spankin’ new journal. I felt like a giddy little kid thinking of all the cool things that have happened in June. Can I just tell you how powerful it is when you begin setting positive intentions for each month?  Have you started this practice yet?  Many of us perform this ritual at the first of January, but when we set intentions for every single month– beauty and peace begins to surround us on a daily basis and not just for Jan + Feb. Joy seems to take over and diminishes the fear.  IT’S AWESOME! I feel like jumping up and doing that cheer “A-W-E…S-O-M-E. Awesome, Awesome TO-TOTALLY!” Yes, I know…I”m goofy like that, but I’m just driving home how effective it is.  I double-dog-dare-ya to try it for July.

Another book I highly recommend is The Power of Intention by Dr. Wayne Dyer.  I read this about 12 years ago and it’s a game changer.  BUT, most importantly– when you invite God into your plans and align them with His plan for your life… WHOA BABY, hold on for a adventurous ride because God’s plans or intentions for us are even bigger than we have for ourselves.  

Are you not quite sure what an INTENTION is?  It is a course of action that one “intends” to follow. It is an aim that guides action; an objective.  I love the term “AIM” because it gives you the sense of that laser beam focus needed for hitting the bullseye.

  • Do you need to set boundaries in a toxic relationship?
  • Are you slipping and getting lazy with your health + fitness goals?
  • Have you been sacrificing your “ME” time and not feeding your spirit?

We all have certain areas in our lives that get out of balance really easily.  By setting intentions and visualizing how you want July to play out will set you up for success. Let’s join together and set the community intention of UNWRAPPING + UNLEASHING OUR GIFTS to the world!

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I would love to hear one of your intentions for next month. Please share + make a comment!

JULY IS GOING TO ROCK!

Love, Tiff

 

HOW ARE YOU LOOKING AT THINGS? {Sunday Affirmations}

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It’s Sunday so you know what that means… Yep, Sunday Affirmations!  This week was tougher than normal to decide on what to share.  So much has happened this week.  I even debated just throwing my hands up and saying-  Sorry, I got nothing sistas!  Just keeping it real.  When I started dabbling in this vast world of blogging, I really had NO IDEA what the heck I was doing.  I still don’t sometimes.  The one thing I do know is that I want to help women so if there’s one silly experience or word-of-wisdom I can share that will help just one of you… then I’m cool with that and I will keep on keepin’ on.

This past week was a hair puller, teeth grinder, shoulder tenser and eye squinter.  I’m sure we all felt the collective stress our nation was under and hopefully this pressure forces you to lean into your Faith more than ever.  I had a few days last week that had me feeling like Linda Blair.  I think my head spun a few times and I felt like puking up my problems.  As I stood over the sink– Ok, who else has epiphanies while standing at the sink?— I was complaining in my head about our finances, having to do that stupid laundry and needing to start dinner.  HOLD UP WAIT A MINUTE!!!   Did I allow my Negative Nellie to muzzle my Positive Polly?  She may have had a brief moment of victory, but not for long.   I stopped and said a prayer…then reminded myself of how I’m looking at things.

I read Dr. Wayne Dyer’s book, The Power of Intention, about 6-7 years ago.  One of the things that has resonated with me most about Dr. Dyer’s teachings is “If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change”.  So, in that moment– at the sink– I thought of my trip to Africa and how many women I saw cooking outside over an open fire on the ground.  Immediately, I had overwhelming joy that I had a great gas stovetop and an amazing husband who loves my cooking.  I remembered how much I love to cook!  It’s a form of nurturing and creativity for me not just a required chore.  Plus, I was thrilled to have a washer and dryer to do laundry with instead of schlepping clothes to the laundromat like in the early days of our marriage.  Bring on the socks and underwear- I GOT THIS!  Wow, I had such a “moment” and realized the power in how we look at situations.  We have the control.  Your own happiness and peace relies on how you view your life.  It’s as simple as that.

THIS WEEK I WILL…..

  1. Realize I have control over my happiness.
  2. Change the way I look at things.
  3. Muzzle my Negative Nellie…once + for all!
  4. Enjoy the day-to-day chores I do for my family..it’s a way to show love.
  5. Do everything from a place of love.
  6. Claim my peace.
  7. Take pride in my ability to love + give to others.
  8. Live life with intention.
  9. Choose happiness.
  10. Again, change the way I look at things.
  11. COUNT MY MANY BLESSINGS!

I would love to hear your thoughts on this.

Share, like, tweet and pin it if you think it could help another sista.

YOU ARE NOT ALONE!

Love, Tiff

Be Your Own Biggest Cheerleader- SHOW SOME SPIRIT! Woohoo!

Hey My Fab Cheerleading Squad!

Was anyone a cheerleader growing up?  I was and one of the things I loved about it the most was the camaraderie and sisterhood among the squad.  We are all building such a great community and sisterhood here and I want to thank you all for being…Give me a Y, Give me an O, Give me a U…what’s that spell? YOU!  Ok, that sounds kind of corny, but it’s the truth.   So, today I want to remind you to affirm (and give yourself a cheer while doing a toe touch- OUCH! The thought of that hurts!) yourself the way you do your BFF!  Today- it is time to stop beating yourself up.  Ya hear me!  I am so guilty of it lately and that’s why I’m sharing this message today:

I appreciate your patience and will have the new SOS dressing room up in no time!   This recent transition my hubby and I went through is a great learning lesson to “let go” and allow yourself to grow, change, embrace the new and be OK with stepping back for a second.  It may piss some people off in your life, but hey- they’ll get over it!   It will allow you to soar to new heights!  Go for it and I will see you on the next webisode very soon!

SPEAKING OF NEW HEIGHTS:  I do have a fabulous spring shoe to share with you (thanks to my gal pal Cortney) by Nine West!  Holy Super Sexy Wedge!

Sharing the love, beauty + inspiration,

Tiff   (sisk-boom-bah)