EMBRACE THE PLACE YOU’RE IN [Video]

Hey Hey Sista!

Every once in a while, I browse through my library of YouTube videos to see what the heck I’ve put out there over the years. The awesome thing about a blog and/or blog is that you have a log and diary of your life. It’s cathartic to go back and see your growth smack in front of your face complete with the various hair colors and makeup attempts. Thank God I found a good HD foundation!

At this point in my life, I’ve become the type that keeps my head down and does the daily work God places in front of me. It truly ROCKS to be purpose + mission driven because you get more laser-beamed focused and ignore the peripheral BS. It also keeps you out of your head, out of your own way and out from being stuck in that whiny, woe-is-me, somewhat depressed place I marinated in for so many years. Lawd help me! You’ve got a task, an assignment, a job to do here and when you get busy with that– life is such a fun  adventure. Funny, how quickly we forget how far we’ve come because we are always looking forward. This is the ONE time I give myself permission to look back in the past!

Although this video is set around Thanksgiving a few years ago, it is still an IMPORTANT message TODAY. I pray whatever place you’re in- the cocoon, the transitional middle place or if you are soaring completely in your purpose- this message encourages you!

 

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GIRL TIME vs. GYM TIME {Sunday Affirmations}

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{Spiritual Sisters Group}

{LtoR: Laurie, Laura, Julianna, Patricia, Amy, Brooke, Me, Marcy, Cortney.  Thank you for opening your hearts, ears + arms to me.  Grateful for my LA sisterhood. Love ya’ll}

Hey Gorgeous Gang!

A few days ago I received one of those mass emails that I not only stopped and read, but it made me stop and think.  Then, I sat there a moment and gave gratitude for all the amazing women who have been part of my journey in life.  Some are still on the journey and some were only there for a reason or a season, but regardless– they made an impact on my life.  I really cherish the long friendships I have. You know those girlfriends who immediately take you back to your authentic self in the first 30 seconds you see them.  They knew you before you took on the title of mom or wife and have you feeling like your free-spirited 18 year old self again.  I’m also excited to be sassy and silver-headed with these girlfriends in 20 years! 

Since childhood, I have always thrived most when I had a tight posse of girlfriends. Being in a group atmosphere was where I felt at home, whether it was on a cheerleading squad, youth group or even amongst the group of models I traveled with when I was a beer girl. (yes, I was a Tecate poster model)  I can hear you laughing!  Hey, if you’re a young eager model in Texas– you started out as a beer girl and we all have to start somewhere, right?!  I was always part of a group, but went through a period right after I got married where I felt isolated here in LA and had a difficult time reaching out. Depression hit me hard and my health suffered tremendously with everything from migraines, anxiety, acne and ulcers.  I didn’t realize it then, but my lack of connection was a big part of the problem. Plus, I was in the midst of a serious spiritual healing on top of adjusting to marriage.  I WAS ONE….BIG….HOT….MESS!

Ok, back to that email.  One of the main reasons I opened the email was because it was sent from a dear friend (love you Amy) I’ve known since I was a teenager and she never, ever forwards mass emails. You know those emails your mom  forwards that has cute pictures of dogs napping or it’s a superstition stating if you forward this email to 10 people you will have a financial breakthrough or someone will call you with good news in the next 24 hours. Yes, we have all gotten them and yes, I admit to forwarding mass emails and in fact, I forwarded a prayer recently that I will be sharing with you all next week because it’s just THAT GOOD!  Several friends replied telling me that it was exactly what they needed that day so always go with your gut and pass along the encouraging ones. You never know who needs the lift that day!

Ok, again– back to the email Amy sent me.  The subject title was “Girlfriend Time” and since that is one of my all time fave things… I opened it immediately.   Due to that period I dealt with depression as a newlywed, I am now a firm believer in the importance of women connecting and knew I had to share this email with my SOS sistas.  I researched the email chain and found out that it was a legitimate lecture given at Stanford, but there is no online source stating who the author was.

Without the unconditional love, support, laughs, prayers, pats on the back and slaps upside the head– I’m not sure where I would be without my girlfriends. Plus, the sacred space I share twice a month with my spiritual group has created the sense of belonging I was missing for years here in LA. This is a topic I discuss often and may sound like a broken record, but it’s because CONNECTION is so vital to our well being and now we have proof it helps our health as well–maybe even more than hitting the gym! Whew, this is a long post, but please read on…..

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Here’s the email….

“I just finished taking an evening class at Stanford. The last lecture was on the mind-body connection – the relationship between stress and disease. The speaker (head of psychiatry at Stanford) said, among other things, that one of the best things that a man could do for his health is to be married to a woman, whereas for a woman, one of the best things she could do for her health was to nurture her relationships with her girlfriends.

Women connect with each other differently and provide support systems that help each other to deal with stress and difficult life experiences. Physically this quality “girlfriend time” helps us to create more serotonin – a neurotransmitter that helps combat depression and can create a general feeling of well being. Women share feelings whereas men often form relationships around activities. They rarely sit down with a buddy and talk about how they feel about certain things or how their personal lives are going. Jobs? Yes. Sports? Yes. Cars? Yes. Fishing, hunting, golf? Yes. But their feelings? Rarely.

Women do it all of the time. We share from our souls with our sisters/mothers, and evidently that is very good for our health. He said that spending time with a friend is just as important to our general health as jogging or working out at a gym. (HOLLA!!!)

There’s a tendency to think that when we are “exercising” we are doing something good for our bodies, but when we are hanging out with friends, we are wasting our time and should be more productively engaged—not true. In fact, he said that failure to create and maintain quality personal relationships with other humans is as dangerous to our physical health as smoking! (SAY WHAT???)

So every time you hang out to schmooze with a gal pal, just pat yourself on the back and congratulate yourself for doing something good for your health! We are indeed very, very lucky. Sooooo let’s toast to our friendship with our girlfriends!  Evidently it’s very good for our health.

 

This week I will….

  1. Schedule girlfriend time.
  2. Give gratitude for all the amazing women in my life.
  3. Be a better friend.
  4. Open up to a trusting friend + share my soul. (It could add yrs to my life)
  5. Release any toxic friendships once and for all.
  6. Pray for my girlfriends.
  7. Nurture all the women in my life no matter their age. (even your 9 yr old niece)
  8. Listen without “one-upping” (thanks Brene Brown)
  9. Reach out the minute I feel lonely. (stop the wallowing before it starts)
  10. Not take my genuine friendships for granted.
  11. Toast to the fabulous friends in my life!

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I close my eyes, bow my head and pray for you ALL to be richly blessed in the coming week.

Love, Tiff

 

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LOVE YA LIKE A SIS: Women Need Women

Hey Sisters,

As women, we thrive and function at our best when we have a supportive sisterhood of like-minded friends.  This all began for me when I was very little.  Whether it was playing with my cousins (who were all girls except for one) or my sports teams or cheerleading squads, I was always blessed to have a great group of girlfriends.  Back then, we loved throwing slumber parties and giggling about boys and dancing around my parents living room.  Not much has really changed.  If you catch a group of my girlfriends at my BFF’s house in Dallas….before the end of the night– the furniture is moved and the living room is turned into a dance floor!   When women connect, it does something differently to our spirit than connecting with our boyfriends/husbands or children does for us.  If we go too long without “girltime” or hashing out life over a cup of coffee with a dear friend, our spirit suffers a bit.  Don’t you notice how your spirit is lifted after a good dose of fun with a great group of girlfriends?  You have a pep in your step and that warm & fuzzy feeling resonates with your for a few days after.   Encouraging and supportive female energy is a mighty force that we all need in our lives. 

When I began healing and growing in my late 20’s, I went through a dark and lonely time.  I began to “outgrow” friends and was too emotionally raw to get out there and make new ones.  Of course, I am so grateful for this period in my life because that’s when I got to know God.  He truly is the greatest Positive Force, Friend and Father.  I also starting watching “The Oprah Winfrey Show” much more and noticed it gave me that “lift” I was missing.  I felt connected and that hour episode on TV had become my “girltime”.   I kept this in mind as I began to create my talk show ideas and figuring out how I could use the power of video to help women.  I knew if I felt lonely then there had to be so many women around the world who felt disconnected like I did.  One of the best comments I receive about my webseries, this blog, and the Facebook community is how it gives you Mom’s a sense of girltime once the kids are in bed and you have some time alone on the computer.  MISSION ACCOMPLISHED!

Over time, I was blessed to connect with new, like-minded, spiritually conscious girlfriends and have created deeper friendships than I’ve ever had before. Whether it is online with social media or offline in real life, I encourage you to connect and reach out if you are in that lonely space.  Ask about groups in your community or church.  If you can’t find one, start one of your own.  My girlfriends and I here in LA did just that and it has made a huge difference in all of our lives.  LA can be a very disconnected place because there is not the same sense of community as in more family-friendly cities.  We have done a great job of creating our own surrogate LA family/sisterhood.  We can get a brief shot of connection and friendship on Facebook, but nothing can take the place of feeling a friends hug, sharing a laugh (or cry) and making eye contact.  A sisterhood gives you a sense of belonging and a knowing in your spirit that “I am not alone”.  I swear, it has to help with your immune system and overall health & wellness too!

  • CONNECT
  • REACH OUT
  • MAKE THAT CALL
  • JOIN A GROUP
  • START A GROUP
  • SCHEDULE WEEKLY COFFEE/LUNCH DATES

I’m filled with gratitude today for all the amazing women in my life including this SOS Sisterhood.

Love Ya Like A Sis,

Tiff